Why is is that the ex knows to get in touch to see if you want to go for a drink as they're in town in a couple of weeks at exactly the same time as you're missing them loads for the first time in ag

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― hmmm (hmmm), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 13:04 (twenty-one years ago)

no speaka robot.

― Chris 'The Velvet Bingo' V (Chris V), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 13:06 (twenty-one years ago)

Ask Alanis Morrisette. She *knows*.

― Markelby (Mark C), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 13:06 (twenty-one years ago)

I only value the opinions of people who can parse very long and quite tedious sentences.

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I tried, she's not in.

― hmmm (hmmm), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 13:07 (twenty-one years ago)

She can parse very long and quite tedious sentences tho.

― hmmm (hmmm), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 13:07 (twenty-one years ago)

And now I can't concentrate at work for thinking about it.

― hmmm (hmmm), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 13:33 (twenty-one years ago)

It means God wants you to make a booty call.

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 13:38 (twenty-one years ago)

yup..it's been too long since you've gotten some

― Kirsty P. (Kirsty P.), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 13:40 (twenty-one years ago)

*insert comedy "God wants you to hit it!" JPEG here*

― VengaDan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 13:40 (twenty-one years ago)

i'm with huck.

(not *with* him, i mean..., oh never mind)

― colette (a2lette), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 13:40 (twenty-one years ago)

But, y'know, if you wanted...

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 13:59 (twenty-one years ago)

We broke up in exceedingly unpleasant circumstances about 8 months ago. I hate myself for still caring about her cos she managed to mess up my life quite monumentally but I can't help it. But still, there's a part of me that wants to go just to see her and to see what will happen.

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― hmmm (hmmm), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 14:00 (twenty-one years ago)

and there's a part of me that thinks that that part of me is a fucking idiot.

― hmmm (hmmm), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 14:01 (twenty-one years ago)

By managed, do you mean accidentally, or with purpose and vision?

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 14:02 (twenty-one years ago)

Focus on the fucking part.

― VengaDan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 14:06 (twenty-one years ago)

I was supposed to move to london as we had been doing the long distance thing. I quit my job, said my goodbyes and just before I was due to move, she changed her mind. She has a habit of putting difficult stuff off until the very last minute so I don't think it was done maliciously.

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which one?

― hmmm (hmmm), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 14:08 (twenty-one years ago)

Preferably hers.

― VengaDan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 14:09 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm trying not to cos her parts were quite nice.

― hmmm (hmmm), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 14:11 (twenty-one years ago)

sounds like you're not totally over stuff, so my advice (against what i would normally advice) is probably to not see her and certainly don't sleep with her.

i decided to see A Major Ex fairly recently, thinking that i was over things. and clearly wasn't. and it really messed up both of our lives.

the positive things you could take away from my experience are:
1. we could have gotten back together, i think, if i'd actually wanted it.
2. it ended up giving me that terribly american thing known as 'closure', and i'm actually really really over it now.

so, while things were a bit scary for a while, and i really regretted it when he walked into the room (and even more so regretted inviting him to my own FAP, dammit), i don't regret it anymore, and i'm glad it happened.

― colette (a2lette), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 14:13 (twenty-one years ago)

You make one point and then back it up using soemthing that is entirely contradictory. This does not help matters.

― hmmm (hmmm), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 14:16 (twenty-one years ago)

Your effort is appreciated tho.

― hmmm (hmmm), Wednesday, 5 May 2004 14:23 (twenty-one years ago)

I have come up with a most devious plan which I would appreciate your opinions on, should you have any. She's coming up at the end of the month, and will be here on the 28th. This is the day upon which Friends ends and Big Brother begins. She will *not* want to miss these. I think I may say that the only time that I can meet her is Saturday (28th) evening.....

― hmmm (hmmm), Thursday, 6 May 2004 09:49 (twenty-one years ago)

so your devious plan is to lure her to...watch TV?

um.

― colette (a2lette), Thursday, 6 May 2004 09:56 (twenty-one years ago)

Er no. She'll have to pick between meeting me and watching TV. I suspect the latter will win but I don't particularly want to meet her for a drink if she thinks that TV is more important then me.

― hmmm (hmmm), Thursday, 6 May 2004 09:58 (twenty-one years ago)

'than me'

― hmmm (hmmm), Thursday, 6 May 2004 09:59 (twenty-one years ago)

Ah, setting a test that you know will be failed. Brings back some good memories, there.

God you're creepy, Huckle-Buck.

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Thursday, 6 May 2004 10:01 (twenty-one years ago)

then it is a good test. surely she should want to set the VCR or something.

sorry my advice was contradictory. but the situation was as well. so i guess i was saying that you should probably not see her, but if you do, perhaps it won't be as bad as you think (even if it is terrible/wonderful at the moment)

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― colette (a2lette), Thursday, 6 May 2004 10:02 (twenty-one years ago)

Had it been any other 2 shows then the VCR would be a pretty safe bet. I mean, she *loves* both of them. I'll be a big deal for her to miss them going out live(ish).

The reason I like this idea is that it kind of takes the decision out of my hands and also gives me a result which I'll be happy to deal with which ever way it goes.

― hmmm (hmmm), Thursday, 6 May 2004 10:10 (twenty-one years ago)

god, typo boy today.. "It'll be a big deal..." although what I wrote kind of works.

― hmmm (hmmm), Thursday, 6 May 2004 10:11 (twenty-one years ago)

All I need now is a reasonable excuse as to why Saturday evening is the only time out of the 4 days she is here (2 preceeding, 1 following) that I can meet....

― hmmm (hmmm), Thursday, 6 May 2004 10:14 (twenty-one years ago)

day one: you need to wash your ferret. because it really smells bad.
day two: your auntie is getting out of hospital, and you have to wheel her around.
day three: you don't actually know if you want to see her and instead are giving her a test, and if she can't figure that out, is she really someone you want to like? so just tell her you're busy. you don't owe her any reasons.

or you could just buy tickets to shows or something.

― colette (a2lette), Thursday, 6 May 2004 10:34 (twenty-one years ago)

I think it will be blatantly obvious that I'm arranging things this way but I'd much rather do it in a way that looked like I wasn't and that doesn't give her any choice to arrange it for another, less devious time.

― hmmm (hmmm), Thursday, 6 May 2004 10:47 (twenty-one years ago)

Maybe if I pretend to have re-arranged a somewhat "hectic schedule" to fit in a slot on saturday night and then offer her that.

― hmmm (hmmm), Thursday, 6 May 2004 11:03 (twenty-one years ago)

so your devious plan is to lure her to...watch TV?

Hey, it's the new style apparently!

Oh, and hmmm: the Saturday plan sounds, er, sound, if a little underhand. Doesn't seem like you have a huge amount of respect for the lady if you're chucking her from pillar to post like a ragdoll plaything. And as has been pointed out, a VCR will ruin your proposition, since you still won't know whather she values you more than TV.

Daddy or chips innit?

― CharlieNo4 (Charlie), Thursday, 6 May 2004 11:04 (twenty-one years ago)

"chucking her from pillar to post like a ragdoll plaything" - I wouldn't say I was doing that. I'm just trying to clarify things a bit. Re the VCR - as I said above, she'll want to watch these as they go out for the first time. Had it been any other weekend my plan would not work. It maybe wouldn't even work if it were only one of the two shows that was on.

― hmmm (hmmm), Thursday, 6 May 2004 11:19 (twenty-one years ago)

oh and chips (btw)

― hmmm (hmmm), Thursday, 6 May 2004 11:50 (twenty-one years ago)

God you're creepy, Huckle-Buck.

Hey! What's up with that?

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Thursday, 6 May 2004 13:33 (twenty-one years ago)

I was wondering that too.

― hmmm (hmmm), Thursday, 6 May 2004 13:34 (twenty-one years ago)

Were you wondering "what's up with Huck being so creepy?" or "what's up with Tracer Hand calling Huck creepy?"?

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Thursday, 6 May 2004 13:36 (twenty-one years ago)

It just seemed somewhat unwarranted, so the latter, I guess.

― hmmm (hmmm), Thursday, 6 May 2004 13:39 (twenty-one years ago)

Ok, email sent arranging drinks for Friday 28th at 8pm.

― hmmm (hmmm), Thursday, 6 May 2004 14:24 (twenty-one years ago)

Ok, email sent arranging drinks for Friday 28th at 8pm.

*cackles*

― hmmm (hmmm), Thursday, 6 May 2004 14:24 (twenty-one years ago)

*refreshes inbox repeatedly*

― hmmm (hmmm), Thursday, 6 May 2004 14:27 (twenty-one years ago)

OMG I am bridget fucking jones.

*eats chocolate*

― hmmm (hmmm), Thursday, 6 May 2004 14:27 (twenty-one years ago)

ok, now this thread is scaring me.

― colette (a2lette), Thursday, 6 May 2004 14:31 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm only messing, cept for the inbox part, and the chocolate.

― hmmm (hmmm), Thursday, 6 May 2004 14:34 (twenty-one years ago)

you knew I was joking, right, Colette?

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Thursday, 6 May 2004 14:49 (twenty-one years ago)

Response received to my email....

After 8 on friday night is the only time she can't do cos she's arranged to meet people in the pub.

― hmmm (hmmm), Friday, 7 May 2004 12:43 (twenty-one years ago)

so, she said yes?

― colette (a2lette), Friday, 7 May 2004 13:13 (twenty-one years ago)

She said no. She has arranged to meet people other than me in the pub.

― hmmm (hmmm), Friday, 7 May 2004 13:27 (twenty-one years ago)

ah. i thought you said you wanted to meet her on saturday, and that friday is the only day she can't do, so that would mean yes.

but your plan worked, huh? happy?

― colette (a2lette), Friday, 7 May 2004 13:31 (twenty-one years ago)

I Don't know. I'm very hungover to be totally honest. Going to ponder upon it over the weekend as I don't have the internet at home. I really do want to see her which is very annoying. At the moment I'm tending towards sticking to my guns regarding the time to see what she does.

― hmmm (hmmm), Friday, 7 May 2004 13:40 (twenty-one years ago)

didn't everyone (um, you and me) decide that it was best if you didn't see her?

as long as you're going to disregard that advice, i think you should have her come to yours after she's finished at the pub. and just 'see what happens'

― colette (a2lette), Friday, 7 May 2004 13:42 (twenty-one years ago)

didn't everyone (um, you and me) decide that it was best if you didn't see her? - I think that was just you I'm afraid.

as long as you're going to disregard that advice, i think you should have her come to yours after she's finished at the pub. and just 'see what happens' - Interesting. A bit blatant I feel. I could always arrange to meet her later on on the Friday night and then talk about nothing other than how awesome BB and Friends were.

― hmmm (hmmm), Friday, 7 May 2004 13:51 (twenty-one years ago)

i think you might as well hook up with her. would that really mess things up?

― colette (a2lette), Friday, 7 May 2004 13:52 (twenty-one years ago)

Don't know. I suppose it would properly sort out how I feel about her.

― hmmm (hmmm), Friday, 7 May 2004 13:59 (twenty-one years ago)

thirteen years pass...

Ever sorted?

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