The youngest and oldest people you have ever pulled - how old were they?

When I was 21 I shagged an 18-year old ballet dancer. It was rubbish. When I was 21 I also got a blowjob off a 26-year old South African girl, who had been in the sixth form when we were in the second year, and we all fancied her on the bus.

me? NO

how many months later was it when you found out?

Oldest - 30 when I was 23.

Meanwhile she tells her friends, "24, he actually could find my clitoris and managed to last more than two minutes!"

This makes me wonder, why does it still seem to be the rule that guys don't generally date girls older than themselves? I guess in the olden days, at least among, the husband needed to be older so he could support his family, but that's hardly an explanation anymore. Has it to do with idea that girls may find guys who're the same age or older somewhat immature?

actually, that's not quite right... I went out with a 22 yo when I was 25 and a 23yo when I was 26 (xpost)

I nearly always go out with older guys. When I was younger it was the maturity thing... now, I dunno? Maybe I just am attractive to older guys? My current bf is 36 and I'm 31

I think it's more "girls don't date guys younger than themselves" as a rule.

On the age difference thing:
Oldest, well I messed around with a married woman for a while earlier this year, she was in her early 40s.
Youngest, I was 20 or 21 and she was, er "16".

My oldest girlfriend was 13 years older than me - I was 23 when we started, we went out together for about 6 years. Do I win?

xpost: I would (and have) totally date a younger guy if the opportunity arose! I had a massive crush on a male friend who was 5 years younger than me through 2005 and 2006. He only dated girls younger than him though! What a conundrum

i've mostly pulled older guys, i think the youngest has only been a year or so younger than me. oldest= i was 22, he was 39. it was pretty rubbish.

"Damn, you were pulling at 2? "

course not. merely snogged. :-)

wait - i forgot about a fling i had last year after i split with my ex: i was 27, he was 46. also pretty rubbish; he had *performance problems*

"i've mostly pulled older guys"

decided on?

what?

oldest would have been about ?45? when i was seventeen, youngest, relatively speaking would have been around 16 when i was 18. i did go out with her for six years, though. it was less of an issue by that stage.

I think it's more "girls don't date guys younger than themselves" as a rule.

Yeah, but where does this rule come from?

older guy/girls are 'cool', and girls aren't desperate.

"i've mostly pulled older guys"

decided on?

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what?

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I mean, you didn't just pull older guys by accident, anymore than I dated an above-avg amount of girls with glasses.

ahhhh - i've preferred older guys. but interestingly, jordan is almost exactly a year younger than me.

Relative to my age, 20 when I was 28 and 24 when I was 17. In absolute terms, 14 and 33.

Haha Kenan, I haven't had a single proper girlfriend who didn't need her eyesight fixed.

WHAT?

xpost lol

older guy/girls are 'cool', and girls aren't desperate.

But why are they cool? Is this "rule" just some remnant from some older era, or is there some reasonable explanation for it?

yeah they have cars.

But even among my hippie friend this rule seems to apply, even though they could care less about cars or wealth or stuff like that.

Pulled just means snogged, right?

perceptions of maturity/intelligence no?

Relative : 18 when I was 16 (sixth form temptress)and 27 when I was 34 (current mrs)

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sorry, i was choked by all the mud...

perceptions of maturity/intelligence no?

Yeah, this is the only explanation i could think of. But I still don't see why, in a relationship, it's the guy who needs to be more mature? So he can protect her?

it's the guy who "needs" to be more mature because it's the girl -- at least on relatively equal ground -- who tends to actually BE more mature.

Well, girls find "immature guys" irritating, whereas older guys don't mind the reverse as much.

Of course, generalisation city arizona!

older women are wrinkly and saggy, obviously.

j/k how do i meet cougars

Well, girls find "immature guys" irritating

oh, keep it down, Trayce is listening ;)

Well, girls find "immature guys" irritating, whereas older guys don't mind the reverse as much.

So it all boils down to what girls and guys want out of a relationship? Girls want security and stability, whereas guys want firm asses and non-saggy boobs?

i forgot how to log out.

the majority of relationships i know of are about the same age, so i don't for a minute accept that that's true tuomas.

where there is a difference in age, then it's probably more likely to be the male that's older, but this isn't like an epidemic that we can draw that kind of conclusion from, even as a straw man.

Relative to my age -
Youngest - 19, me 24
Oldest - 36, me 24
those were within weeks of each other! That's just drunken snogs though. Relationships would be younger - 21, me 24 & older - 30, me 26 (and we're now married)

it's the guy who "needs" to be more mature because it's the girl -- at least on relatively equal ground -- who tends to actually BE more mature.

This is where the rule comes from but it's ridiculous that there are women that subscribe to it without considering whether a particular younger might actually not fit the model. The idea that a woman going out with a younger guy makes her some sort of Mrs Robinson is fuckin' dum.

I'm obviously speaking from bitter personal experience here. She was 24, i was 22 - wtf?

I have to assume that Tuomas means more than he is expressing...

"So it all boils down to what girls and guys want out of a relationship?"

Um... YES! Unless you feel it's ordained by God to be something way bigger, something that most mere humans can't handle. But oh man, I hope I don't get into those kinda relationships.

I'm still kind boggling that Mark C kissed a 14-year-old! Or was it the other way around?

but presumably, when he was not much older than that?

is this pulled as in sexed or just kissed?
anyway, don't know kiss one, but here's the other.

16ish (only found out later) when i was 22 and 36 when i was 25, can't fault either of 'em.

xpost hopefully. Because if she's 14, there's no other way 'round.

"So it all boils down to what girls and guys want out of a relationship?"

Um... YES! Unless you feel it's ordained by God to be something way bigger, something that most mere humans can't handle. But oh man, I hope I don't get into those kinda relationships.

Of course, but what I meant is that, is the reason for the general age difference that guys and girls stereotypically want different things out of a relationship?

I am still working on what I personally want out of a relationship, much less what guys and girls stereotypically want. Your question is not invalid, but it's one for the ages.

Oldest was 23 when I was almost 17. Told her I was 18 but I looked more like I was 14. I think she "knew" sooner than she let on but was in denial. Never been with a girl significantly younger than me at any given time.

When I was a young buck, I always resented the fact that the girls my age I fancied were all dating older guys. They didn't seem more "mature" than me and my friends, just 30 pounds heavier, and with a lot of bad tatoos ( just my peer group I guess). I made a promise to never be that dude but it's hard sometimes.

yeah, those tattoos just sneak up on you.

Tracer I was 15!

15 when I was 16. 49 when I was 21.

Tuomas, men don't date women older than them because they start to look more and more like their mothers.