Your advice please ilxors

I mean, sure, you should be able to get your freak on with whoever you want, but life's unfair and you're only going to make this guy feel like shit and that could end in ugliness.

Actually, hey, it's your call - can you handle this guy tearing him up inside and possible ugliness?

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That's cool, Colin.

Anyway, don't let your ex decide your future. It sounds like he's gonna have issues no matter what. Do what you want, you don't owe him anything. But don't, like, rub his face in it by making out with the galpal in the club where he and his friends hang out. That stings.

YOU: I’ve been going through things, over and over. And I dissected it all, and looked at it a thousand different ways. [Same Sex Friend] - there’s friction between us for the first time in our lives. You hate me dating [EX] and you want me to sign off on this M-TV thing. [EX] - you and I hit a wall, because I don’t know how to deal with... your past, I guess.

EX: That’s a nice way of putting it. I’d have said the whole double-stuff thing...

YOU: I’m only going to say it once: shut up. Now - I know I’m to blame one way or the other on both accounts. With you, [EX] - it’s my fault because I feel inadequate. Because you’ve had so much experience, had such a big life; and my life’s been pretty small in comparison. And with you [SSF] - I know why you’re having such a hard time with [EX], and it’s something that’s been obvious forever, but I guess I just didn’t acknowledge it. You’re in love with me. You’re attracted to me. Just as, in a way, I’m attracted to you. I mean, it makes sense - we’ve been together so long, we have so much in common...

Gold-plated foxfur pussy isn't worth that.

My opinion onlee, tho.

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I don't understand this comment. It's as though you're saying it's okay to hurt someone's feelings if they've hurt yours.

That's a bit severe, surely?

*brain complodes*

Which is why I never dated any gothbois I knew. Drama? Days of Our Lives got nuttin' on that lot.

a) Dating agencies would do much better than they do
b) Many of us would not be here (or we'd be someone else, spawn of the milkman, perhaps)

B: No!

A: Seriously! But wait, it gets worse! One of those mutual friends was a former partner of the husband-to-be!

B: Well I never!

A: Of course we won't be attending the wedding. Unless there's mint cake. I love mint cake.

Some time ago, after much angst and deliberation, a friend of mine broke it off with her boyfriend of 3 years, with sadness but glad she did it as they needed to move on.

He went right out and started shagging some lil goth girly they all knew. She was LIVID. I did not understand this - she wanted to leave this guy, he was moving on, whats the problem?

If the girl had been this girls best mate it might have been weirder though. I think all in all, its context and levels of respect for various persons involved that come into play.

Also, if it's gonna put you off your game from all the angst why the hell bother.

You: Aww, our ma, look!

(Cheetah does a backflip. They both laugh. Fade)

Yeah, there's plenty of other fish in the sea, ya know. Why choose one that might cause some pain for someone who's feelings you care about (I assume you do, or other wise this wouldn't even be an issue) and massive inconvenience for you?

"testing the waters" = girl best friend (GBF) meets a bi girl (BG), as consequence of knowing a mutual bloke (MB). GBF likes BG, and thinks "if I was to have a same sex experience, I could imagine this girl would be a nice experience".

I think GBF is being disingenious offering a possible relationship at this stage.

If you (anonymous poster, are you any relation to adrienne poster?) want to GTB with this girl then hey fine. If a long term relationsip ensues, then that should be taken on on its own terms.

That's how it seems to me. I'm a bloke and reasonably honest.

That's why I said -- in the first response on the thread -- that the issue had nothing to do with whether or not the ex would be upset; it had to do with the way the situation stacks the deck against that potential relationship.

I own the copyright to this song, and to my post:

http://www.thelollies.co.uk/lyrics.htm#susan

I find it incredibly ironic that someone who is so proud of being the subject of a song as to boast so voiciferously on the "Here Is The Thread Where..." about having a song written about them, even going so far as to Googleproof the name of the author has objected to the selfsame song being posted.

I'm trying to find one single reason on the FAQ that warranted the deletion of my post.

There’s something wrong with
The kinds in my cul de sac
Their always goin to church
They dress well and they’re
Speaking articulate
They show eachother respect
They’re never late, don’t joke
Or break rules
They eat right, study hard
They like school

There’s something wrong