The "Feel Happy for Ronan" thread.

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So you may have noticed I've been going on and on about this girl in my class on every fuckin thread regardless of subject.

So rather than keep any kind of stud credibility going I'm just going to blurt it out, we got it on last night.

Now you all must be happy for me. I'd do the same for any of you. Of course if you hate me snide remarks like "she deserves it" are welcome. If you like me, nice remarks like "you deserve it" are welcome. I know you're all terribly interested in my love life.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Hip hip hooray for Ronan, on his magical getting it on night!

― james, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Does a big grin come onto your face when 'Teenage Dirtbag' plays?

― dave q, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

It's not the Wheatus girl. God no. This girl has good taste.

If you were asking in general then yeah, it's such a terrible song. We don't have a song yet. We're going to see Faithless though so if we remember any of that maybe we could start that there.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

pah teenbage dirtbag = grate >>>> she deserves you bah

― mark s, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

teenage dirbag > faithless.

congrats, my son. today you are a man.

― jess, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Faithless? Bloody students.

― Tom, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Anytime anyone of my friends does something stupid in the bar, or asks for something weird in a restaurant I say bloody students. Everyone does it now. You have to be there I think.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

i have not to be there i think

― mark s, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

You mean you found it funny or you just don't have to be in the bar with us?

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

bloody fucking happy russianfussianbrisuhin

― Geoff, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

i would like to be the first dad to say that i hope you used protection. (and no, boiled taters don't count.)

― jess, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I washed out an old one with cider. We had the best bush in the park.

No that's not an issue yet although when Mummy and Daddy Fitzgerald go away (again) on saturday it may become one. It's not really on my mind at the moment anyway, I'm too happy. I could talk all day about how it happened but I'd embarass myself further and you all don't really want to know.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

try not to burn too many spoons this time.

― jess, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I kept the same burnt ones from last time under my bed so I'll just use them again.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

ronan's johnny cash obsession is going too far.

― jess, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Wrong thread but yeah. I said Gareth could have him so it's not my obsession.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

damn...that's spooky...posted at EXACTLY THE SAME TIME, INDEPENDANTLY.

and it was supposed to go on the SUPERNATURAL THREAD too. brrrr.

― jess, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Keep the praising going, I'm off to meet her.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

here's some sage advice my father once passed on to me:

"and when in doubt of your own will and stamina boy...think of louie anderson."

godspeed, my protege. (mack daddy jr. mick daddy?)

― jess, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

give 'er one from us all, our kid

bad boy, dirty boy.

― Alan Trewartha, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

better still: louis andriessen (omar will think this funny and NO ONE ELSE!!)

― mark s, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

yay Ronan! getting it on is good.

― Samantha, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

give 'er one from us all, our kid

That's gonna be a long night! "...and THIS one is from Ned, and THIS one is from Nicole, and THIS one is from Ptee and Emma, and THIS one is from Nitsuh, and THIS one..."

― Dan Perry, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Oh god. Seeing as I am bereft of companionship, I hate Ronan and I hate you all. There. *puts on Smiths discs and cries*

― Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

"we got it on last night" - first night?

Ronan - When, Where and How do you approach this young lady?

― DJ Martian, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Blimey Martian that's a bit forward!

― Tom, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

ned: Oh god. Seeing as I am bereft of companionship, I hate Ronan and I hate you all. There. *puts on Smiths discs and cries*

djm: Ronan - When, Where and How do you approach this young lady?

girlfriend in a coma, obviously.

(is it time for my lunchbreak yet?)

― jess, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

The When and How may be up for debate, but I'd think the Where would be kind of obvious.

― Dan Perry, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Martian, your info-lust is going a bit far, methinks.
Oh yeah, Yay Ronan! However, my mateless state leads me to harbor some Ragettian envy.

― Mitch Lastnamewithheld, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I didn't shag her ok? Not quite. I meant "get it on" in the sense of getting together, hooking up whatever.

And now the bad part.

Explain this to me ladies. She told me she really likes me today but she said something to this effect and sent me the following text message to elaborate

"hey ro. I dont think i want to launch into coupledom yet. it's too soon and i'm a bloke when it comes to commitment. could we take it easy and see what happens? I'm not blowing you off by any means but I get freaked out.play it cool? Una."

Yeah so now I don't know what to think. Is she blowing me off? (bad phrase for ILE) Is "see what happens" just a nice way of blowing me off. Christ this is horrible. I didn't get particularly serious I don't think. Welcome back misery. I hardly noticed you were gone. Give me that Smiths cd.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

The sad part here is that it seems like I totally misread the situation based on my post this morning. And I fuckin didnt. I know I didnt.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

ronan this situation has been going around lately i hear.

― ethan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

If you post about your love life on ILE you jinx it.

― Tom, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

jess seems to be doing okay.

― ethan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

damn straight.

― jess, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

This is quickly becoming the "Feel Sorry for Ronan" (and yourselves) thread.

I dunno, I replied and basically just said yeah I guess you're right and told her not to be afraid to say if she actually wasn't interested. What the fuck else could I do? So she replied "yeah we should keep it kool and the gang for the mo, see you tomorrow at 9". I don't fucking know what to think. I think I sent a measured enough reply to make her think I'm not going nuts about this. Maybe I'm onto some kind of sex with no commitment thing with a girl I really like, or maybe I'm just dumped. I don't know. Go about your businesses. I'll keep you posted, bet you cant wait.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Should be noted that tomorrow at 9 refers to our lecture, us being in the same class and all. I can't stop going on about this as you can see.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Ok fuck this. I'm talking to friends from my class and they're all asking about it and all happy for me and everything is absolutely driving me insane. I guess I'm over-reacting but this is fucking driving me crazy, I swore the last time something like this happened I'd never let it happen again because it messed me up so much, and here I am. I can only take so much of this, I'm young, I should be having fun, I was just getting things together, drinking less, getting work done, being nicer in general to people and now this. And then I let myself like someone again. Why? What's the fucking point? I'm ranting now and I've noone I want to talk to about this in "real life", so excuse me for just having to say all this. I had to get it off my chest somewhere. I feel even more miserable for feeling so miserable about this whole sorry episode, if that makes any sense.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I'm making a fool of myself here, is there any way someone can delete this thread and we'll just forget the whole thing. I'm sorry if I seem like I'm self involved.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

So.. go.. be young.. have fun.. she may well just want to move slow... maybe she got burned in the past too.. whatever... it just means more freedom for you dude.

― Sterling Clover, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

[apologies for dp style posting...]

― Sterling Clover, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

could be a million things. things she's too insecure about/doesn't trust you enuf yet to go in to. or she doesn't know herself.

some of the best advice my mom ever gave me: "when it comes to affairs of the heart, don't be surprised when people act like total highschoolers"

― Tracer Hand, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Wow, Sterling.. you're into DP, huh?

― Brian MacDonald, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Dear Mr."Stud Credibility", I know you're feeling bad already but you were foolish to announce the news of your tryst on the WORLD WIDE Web as soon as you could, and telling all your buddies in class is even worse. She's not going to like being crowed about like an acquisition or some x-treme sports stunt, you cad. Be a gentleman and get this thread deleted and go talk to her like a human being. Don't wallow in self-pity either, she obviously likes you but she's just worried that you're going to be immature about it. And you have been so far. So stop it. It's not too late.

― maryjanedownthelane, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Get your facts straight before you make a dig at me please. The reason the whole class know is because they were in the club. I didnt fuck her in front of anyone, I didnt at all, and I wouldnt pressure her, or I didnt particularly care about getting my fuckin rocks off cos I actually like her, alot, contrary to whatever the jock image you have of me suggests. She never was crowed about or anything like that, how the fuck do you get all this from her saying she's afraid of commitment. It's not like that. I realise posting things on the web I'm opening myself to people completely misunderstanding them, however people here on ILE, perhaps not you, actually know me to some degree and I like to think it's pretty obvious that no matter what kind of scumbag I might be in some fields, I dont go out and fuck people and brag about it. Yes I will go and talk to her and I'm trying not to feel sorry for myself obviously but please just don't make such quick judgements.I appreciate the tough love thing, but theres a whole load of presumptions in your posting I had to deal with.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

OK, it seems I misunderstood the situation. But I don't think I was presuming anything anymore than you were when you got freaked out by her textmessage. my tough love advice stands - don't freak out about it publicly or even in the pseudo-public space here. Don't even freak out about it. Give her some time and when you talk to her make it clear that being involved with you will not be a series of freak-outs and possessiveness and presumptions and you'll be fine.

― maryjanedownthelane, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Thanks.

No really. Thanks. That is what to do. I didn't freak out with her in particular.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

No problem. I know you'll be fine if you cool your jets.

― maryjanedownthelane, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

The only thing I'm really afraid of is that this whole commitment thing is just her way of telling me to fuck off. Y'know? soften the blow or whatever.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

You're right. That could be it. Or it could just be her way of saying that she's not sure if she wants a commitment yet, ya know? relax.

and if she's not interested, it's her loss. just keep that in mind.

― maryjanedownthelane, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Could be. But Ronan I REALLY DOUBT that any of this is at all clear in her head. It's like, the day AFTER y'know? People freak. The best thing you can do is, like, NOT freak. Hard as that may be.

― Tracer Hand, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

on ILx, as in love, timing = everything :(

― Tracer Hand, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I think I've gotten alot of the freaking out of me on here, which is pretty bad for you guys I guess.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

This thread is making my guts all empathically twisty and stuff.

Take care Ronan.

― Kim, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

bah you have even made ME feel mean for riding you earlier: everyone here has been there Ronan, so don't apologise; you are ten times more sussed than i was at yr age abt yrself, and less cruel, that's for sure (of course i knew a lot more abt decent music haha). Even if it goes a bit wonky i supah- bet you don't make the fool of yrself i have before now.

Sterling: those DP dots are boiling their way into my reptile brane (the space afterwards is all that saves you from INSANE FLAMING DEATH!!)

― mark s, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I think you're overreacting slightly, Ronan. Seriously. I've said similar things before and it wasn't cos I was trying to blow off the guy, it was because that's what I actually thought, that it wasn't much of a time to be serious and I was nervous that the guy thought it was. *shrugs* Unless she gives you a harder reason than that (totally avoiding you, harsher words, whatever) then I think you should just breathe deep and be pleased that things seem to have moved onto a slightly different level, since that seems to be what you want.

Honestly, coming from a girl, I don't think that email means much of anything other than she got nervous and thought it best to clear it up before there was a "situation". Just be cool with it.

― Ally, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

You're all helping. Coming from me and unqualified that sounds sarcastic but it's not trust me. I think I totally over-reacted and am over-reacting but I still feel like shit. We'll see what happens, I mean like I say the reason I got with her in the first place was that everyone in the whole class was saying how we were perfect together and all this shit. In hindsight I reckon all of that didn't appeal to her too much. It's just the not knowing that pisses me off. I'll be sleeping like a child on christmas eve tonight. Tomorrow might be awkward, fuck it I don't know, I'm starting to think the reason I am reacting is that it seems so ridiculous IF she was telling me to fuck off. I mean we had a great night. And we do get on really well etc etc etc. I could do a thesis on this. But you guys are right. All I can do is wait and see, and I am over- reacting totally.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

also: euphoria highs are the best thing ever but the comedown can sometimes be INCREDIBLY RUBBISH and AWFUL. Which is what *some* of yr stuff today has been, just body-chemical blowback from an exciting evening w.someone you really like.

― mark s, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Yeah that's totally it aswell. Like this time last night, moderately drunken but utterly genuine happiness, and now the relationship is gone into uncertainty so quickly it's like really crushing.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Also feeling as sure of something as you have in months and then realising you may have been wrong.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Hi Ronan, I have read these posts and I do wish you all the best. I'm sure your lady just wants to be very sure of what she wants and needs. She may have had bad experiences in the past and is perhaps a little apprehensive in taking a plunge into a relationship, until she knows you better? Gale.

― Gale Deslongchamps, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Welcome to the wacky world of grown-ups: the good bit is, sometimes you ARE right hurrah; the lousy bit is, even then you brane can go squibbly and you can no longer work it out. My uncle walked out on my aunt after 35 yrs marriage, for some well-bedded slut- floozy across the village (who'd ALREADY BROKEN UP THREE MARRIAGES like HULLO Uncle N______!?¿¡), with fall-out which got into the News of the World (this is TRUE!! my middle cousin got drunk and drove her car all across the floozy's garden for an hour one evening and ended up in a cell). Anyway that was three yrs ago and now a week doesn't go past that he doesn't knock on Aunt ______'s door and ask to be let back. He's a doctor!! He has saved the lives and possibly even marriages of hundreds of people. But one afternoon he couldn't remember which way up was, and did stuff which can't be put back together.

Anyway,what I'm saying is, uncertainty is what you kinda have to get used to most, because that is surely the MOST COMMON FEELING you'll be having from now on.

But not necessarily abt *this*: this'll right itself tomorrow, five gets you ten.

― mark s, Wednesday, 7 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Re women who like to talk about 'where they stand' etc., lamentable effect of talk-show culture, seems to spreading here from N America

― dave q, Thursday, 8 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Dave, I had that exact same thought about ten minutes ago when I remembered her telling me she liked Sex in the City. I can see her sitting there with those 3 ugly sisters and being "sassy". Yeah so time to go to my lecture and face this awkward situation.

― Ronan, Thursday, 8 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Fingers crossed Ronan, some good advice here espec. from maryjanedownthelane.

― stevo, Thursday, 8 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Only lamentable if you mean it to mean that it's useless and contrived behaviour in general, because it's equally lame when guys do it, believe me. It's not that I believe that girls changing and acting just as badly as the stereotypical noncommittal guy helps anything, but double standards are total crap.

Think what you want tho dave. I'm not going to press the issue in this thread.

― Kim, Thursday, 8 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Bollocks Dave. Knowing where you stand is exactly Ronans problem here - it seems like he thought he could be happy with this girl, now he doesn't know where he stands with her. It's absolutely horrible when you have no idea what xXx person thinks of you and you feel constantly insecure. Just keep on going like you have been, Ronan. She seems to like you for it so yay! Also, liking SEX AND THE CITY is a sign of taste - you shall learn.

― Sarah, Thursday, 8 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

sex and the city = proof that straight women secretly fantasise about being gay men

― mark s, Thursday, 8 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

sex and the city=proof that rubbish gets on tv

― gareth, Thursday, 8 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

proof at last!! after all those yrs of suspecting it w/o concrete evidence!!

― mark s, Thursday, 8 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

it was a relief to have it finally confirmed, i can tell you

― gareth, Thursday, 8 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Urgh yeah it was a bit awkward. I was late for my first lecture (55 minutes late, it's an hour long) so I waited outside and who's the first person to walk out? Yeah you fuckin guessed it. So I gave it a friendly hello or whatever. Didn't see her much the rest of the day, I'm kind of walking a fine line between showing too much interest and seeming like I'm not playing it cool, and playing it way too cool and seeming totally UNinterested. Know what I mean? I guess it can only get easier.

― Ronan, Thursday, 8 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I just saw the question and all sorts of bells rang and I was going to post something along the lines of 'Don't count your chickens' but then I saw how it turned out. Oops.

― Nick, Thursday, 8 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I thought all that myself Nick but then thought "oh come on this is different Ronan, no need for worry here". I can only go on being proved wrong at stuff like this for so long. But that's a negative attitude I don't need and this isn't really over yet. We'll see what happens next week.

― Ronan, Thursday, 8 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

So go and find some other girl to hook up with. It shakes out the neurotic second-guessing very quickly, and even if you don't get it awn with someone at least you've done something besides sit around your room and wonder if she's into you or no. That's a total turn-off and will quickly sap the confidence you need to be a cool cucumber. And for Gods sake, all of these stuff gets very publickly accessible via crawler search agents so be discreet.

― Benjamin, Thursday, 8 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I'm not sitting round my room. you're right about me needing something to get me back to my usual cool as a cucumber self but it's going to have to be time. I suppose I could try score tonight, I'm going out clubbing but I'm not really arsed. I'll just get hammered instead. Woooo.

― Ronan, Thursday, 8 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I guess you really like this girl but from another perspective, unblinded by love, can I just say that her text message style is wack.

― maryann, Thursday, 8 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Same thing happened to me last week Ronan. I asked out a girl who i met in class, we had a great time, went back to her place, watched a movie and made out a bit. She lives right down the street from my work, so I was already dreaming of nights spent at her place and a short walk to work in the morning (its getting fucking cold here, so this little fantasy affected me pretty strongly) For the first time in a while I feel like there is someone in my life I could commit to. I walked home feeling totally woozy. So, after that night we have seen each other several times (the first time was very uncomfortable, as she was with several friends--not the way I pictured our second meeting). The second time I saw her we were in class. We talked a bit on the way out, but there were no hugs, no kisses exchanged. She was keeping her distance. I told her I'd like to see her again and she said, yeah, call me. As she was walking away. I should call her tonight. It's really hard to pluck up the courage to do something like this when you have no idea about the other person's feelings toward you. I can't tell if she's giving me the shoulder or just being nervous. Reverse psychology works well for me in these kinds of situations. I just let myself know that whatever happens in the sort term, my life will probably remain quite unchanged. I'll probably still spend a lot of time alone. I'll still have to deal with my own life first and foremost. That usually calms me down enough to 'play it cool.' All good things come to those who wait, right?

― turner, Thursday, 8 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Yeah text message sucked a little. Maybe easier not to fuck up what she wanted to say though or something. yeah that's how it is with me turner. I guess we'll see what happens. I had the whole reverse psychology thing going aswell, I was listening to that secret track version of Girls on The Blueprint in the car and I had a nice pensive smoke and thought things would work out fine. I guess it'll be easier on monday aswell.

― Ronan, Friday, 9 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

six years pass...

Today is the day...

I FEEL HAPPY FOR RONAN!

― Abbott, Monday, 28 July 2008 19:20 (seventeen years ago)

What a spectacular dude! I feel wicked happy for you!

(I hope this revive was not a Bad Thing...I just wanted to feel happy for you.)

― Abbott, Monday, 28 July 2008 19:21 (seventeen years ago)

haha man this thread is old....times have changed! the person above is a fool, I'm glad nothing happened!

probably would have rather it buried all the same but thanks for the good wishes dude!

― Ronan, Monday, 28 July 2008 19:22 (seventeen years ago)

Closure!

― robertwolf8080, Monday, 28 July 2008 22:06 (seventeen years ago)

I met Ronan at the weekend and dude has soul. I feel happy for him too.

― Raw Patrick, Monday, 28 July 2008 23:07 (seventeen years ago)

You should find out what happened to the Wheatus girl

― bingolola, Tuesday, 29 July 2008 16:43 (seventeen years ago)

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