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Hey Anthony,

Tried e-mailing you but your account isn't active anymore. I suppose it is pretty obvious that I havn't been returning your calls. I'm not angry with you or anything, I just don't know what to say to you anymore. So I've been choosing to say nothing at all. I haven't really known what to say since the Trappist thing. I've been reading your blog and honestly the more I read the I have no idea what to say. Schedual your party for whatever time you want. Starting around 6 or 7 would be good for me, I probably won't stay long. No worries though, I'm not angry with you, just confused.

TTFN
J
JB

― anthony, Monday, 9 August 2004 08:38 (twenty-one years ago)

Seems like the Trappist thing got him confused, but that doesn't mean he's angry with you.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 9 August 2004 08:42 (twenty-one years ago)

I always forget what TTFN means. Also is the guy's name actually JJB? Sorry I cannot be of more help...yet.

― the neurotic awakening of s (blueski), Monday, 9 August 2004 08:43 (twenty-one years ago)

ta ta for now

― MarkH (MarkH), Monday, 9 August 2004 08:44 (twenty-one years ago)

"The Trappist Thing" sounds like the best movie never made.

― Sarah Duvel, Monday, 9 August 2004 08:45 (twenty-one years ago)

Do you know this guy? Did he sent his e-mail to the wrong address?

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 9 August 2004 08:45 (twenty-one years ago)

we were close for a while,

― anthony, Monday, 9 August 2004 09:04 (twenty-one years ago)

"that's that for now".

what's the trappist thing? maybe he's persued a new career as an escapologist.

maybe talk to this dude at the party at 6? he might think of something to say then.

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 9 August 2004 09:13 (twenty-one years ago)

the trappist thing was me in kentucky.

― anthony, Monday, 9 August 2004 09:14 (twenty-one years ago)

i just looked up the dictionary. maybe he doesn't know what to say because he thought you preferred silence?

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 9 August 2004 09:17 (twenty-one years ago)

Anthony, posting personal emails from someone you apparently know in real life--personal emails including, presumably, his full real name--is not a way to solve problems at all. None of us know this person, none of us can tell you what he meant by that (indeed it seems fairly straightforward--"I am confused by this thing you did, but I am not angry and will be at the party"). And he might google himself on whim and find this and get angry with you! It just doesn't make any sense, what would this thread accomplish? Just go to the party and ask him yourself.

― Allyzay Science Explosion (allyzay), Monday, 9 August 2004 14:04 (twenty-one years ago)

Apparently it's also against ILX regulations.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 9 August 2004 14:18 (twenty-one years ago)

Yeah, I was about to say, this is going to get referred to the mods.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Monday, 9 August 2004 14:19 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm sorry that I made a joke on this, I thought it was just a random e-mail you've received from a stranger.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 9 August 2004 14:19 (twenty-one years ago)

Ally why have you knocked the jokey e-mail addresses on the head?

― the neurotic awakening of s (blueski), Monday, 9 August 2004 14:22 (twenty-one years ago)

woah, parties that start at six.

― ENRQ (Enrique), Monday, 9 August 2004 14:23 (twenty-one years ago)

I usually start my parties at seven, because then there'll be the slightest chance that people will actually arrive at nine. But good heavens if someone arrives precisely at seven o'clock, I'm probably still half-naked and baking a cake. One time me and my (female) ex-flatmate had a party which started at seven, and exactly at seven someone rang the doorbell, and we had to shout "Wait a moment, we're not dressed yet!" because we'd both just taken a shower. Once we let the guests in they made some suspecting comments about the nature of our flatmateship.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 9 August 2004 14:30 (twenty-one years ago)

crazy finns

― the neurotic awakening of s (blueski), Monday, 9 August 2004 14:34 (twenty-one years ago)

But good heavens if someone arrives precisely at seven o'clock, I'm probably still half-naked and baking a cake.

Sounds like a party right there!

― Archel (Archel), Monday, 9 August 2004 14:35 (twenty-one years ago)

don't play his game, stevem, you can't win.

― RJG (RJG), Monday, 9 August 2004 14:36 (twenty-one years ago)

Er, what? What did I say wrong this time?

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 9 August 2004 14:38 (twenty-one years ago)

And Archel, it was more of a metaphor. Usually I'm just too lazy to bake a cake.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 9 August 2004 14:39 (twenty-one years ago)

Aw. Such a nice mental image, too.

― Archel (Archel), Monday, 9 August 2004 14:40 (twenty-one years ago)

fake naked cake bakers make cake fake

― the neurotic awakening of s (blueski), Monday, 9 August 2004 14:41 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm known to make a dip sauce or clean the house half-naked, though. And dance the Dance of Seven Veils, but that's another story...

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 9 August 2004 14:44 (twenty-one years ago)

i think i started my party at 6 the last time i had a party! only martin arrived on time. and helped me cut cheese!

omg that was a good party.

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 9 August 2004 14:47 (twenty-one years ago)

and curried lamb omg. and BSE. i need another party.

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 9 August 2004 14:48 (twenty-one years ago)

Ken, I think a BSE and Scalextric party is required stat.

― robster (robster), Monday, 9 August 2004 14:55 (twenty-one years ago)

rob OTM

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 9 August 2004 14:57 (twenty-one years ago)

anthony (and steve!) I have edited out the full name you attributed the e-mail to.

there's nothing wrong with asking for help interpreting correspondence, but printing personal correspondence in it's entirety on a public forum is defintely out of order. you are not a malicious person so i'll say no more.

― Jaunty Alan (Alan), Monday, 9 August 2004 15:38 (twenty-one years ago)

four years pass...

Some researchers recommend that when it comes to feeling offended, we could benefit from becoming a little bit Buddhist. Stephanie Preston, head of the University of Michigan's Ecological Neuroscience Lab, says: "The more attached you are to your sense of self, the more you see forces trying to attack that self. If you have a more Buddhist view, and are less attached to self, you are less likely to see offense."

Buddhist teacher Pema Chodron illustrates this in her book Comfortable With Uncertainty. She retells the parable of a man in a boat enjoying the serenity of the river at dusk. He sees another boat coming his way and is glad that someone else is sharing his pleasure.Then he realizes the other boat is heading toward him. He starts yelling to the boatman to turn aside, but the vessel just keeps coming faster and faster. "By this time he's standing up in his boat, screaming and shaking his fist, and then the boat smashes right into him. He sees that it's an empty boat. This is the classic story of our whole life situation. There are a lot of empty boats out there."

― and what, Friday, 17 October 2008 19:28 (seventeen years ago)

^^^^ what the fuck does this mean

― and what, Friday, 17 October 2008 19:28 (seventeen years ago)

the boat isnt being driven by anyone, its being carried by the current

― max, Friday, 17 October 2008 19:30 (seventeen years ago)

to be way literal about it--a lot of the time we get pissed off at people who bother us because we make certain assumptions about "people" & the "self"--like that theyre independent operators in control of their actions and aware of the consequences of those actions. but for some of us this isnt really how the world works, and "we" (whatever that might mean in this case) aren't so in-control & aware & self-y as we want to believe. so being mad at a person for doing something that pisses you off is like being mad at a boat w/ no captain that crashed into you. theres no one behind the wheel.

― max, Friday, 17 October 2008 19:34 (seventeen years ago)

ok and being happy about dude enjoying the river is equally dumb

― and what, Friday, 17 October 2008 19:37 (seventeen years ago)

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