what kind of teacher says this to a 13 year old girl?

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and what should my sister do about it?

My niece is a pretty 13 year old, smart and not a ratbag or one to dress or behave like 'a 20 year old on the make'. her male PE teacher told her " y'know, for a little kiwi chick you're pretty damned hot "

??
he is an Australian, teaching at the American School she attends in Holland.

She came home and told her parents she felt very uncomfortable about it. her dad wants to cut the guys testicles off.

I think it's on the list of 'inappropriate behaviour from a teacher'
and he should be TOLD.

any thoughts?
a case of super-sleaze or is there room here for claims of misinterpretation that we, as her family as missing?

― donna (donna), Saturday, 4 September 2004 09:20 (twenty years ago)

Just report it to the principle. Let him/her take care of it.

― supercub, Saturday, 4 September 2004 09:22 (twenty years ago)

I dont think saying "youre pretty damn hot" to a 13 year old is appropriate at all! Yeah you should have someone mention it to the school.

― Trayce (trayce), Saturday, 4 September 2004 09:24 (twenty years ago)

yeah I think the school should be told.
I know its out of line, but someone I mentioned it to had a differing view.

Just wanted to double check in case it was family hysteria and we were overlooking some valid 'out' that he might have.

didnt think so.

― donna (donna), Saturday, 4 September 2004 09:28 (twenty years ago)

Totally unacceptable. I work in a similar International school and this kind of stuff happens from time to time, but is taken EXTREMELY seriously. At least two teachers at my school have been dismissed for this kind of thing in recent years.

Tell the parents to speak to the School Head or Principle/Director. They won't want a scandal to ruin the repuation of the school, and will take the allegations seriously...

― anon2, Saturday, 4 September 2004 09:29 (twenty years ago)

y'know. I dont even know why I described her the way I did.
What difference does it make even if she WAS another kind of kid.

he has still overstepped the boundaries of what's ok.

― donna (donna), Saturday, 4 September 2004 09:31 (twenty years ago)

It's possible that the comment was misinterpreted or something. In any case, the school ought to know, and he can try and explain himself.

Her parents should just report exactly what happened. 'Our daughter came home and told us the P.E. teacher said.... to our daughter, and we think you should know this.'

― supercub, Saturday, 4 September 2004 09:32 (twenty years ago)

Yep, straight to the principal.

As a teacher, y'know, we don't need these assholes mucking it up for everyone else. We've got enough to worry about.

― Mike Stuchbery, Saturday, 4 September 2004 09:50 (twenty years ago)

Supercub OTM - it *is* possible that the comment has been misinterpreted and could be innocent (no idea as to the context of the comment, for example) but the parents should certainly report it, in an entirely matter of fact way. Its possible that the teacher is a very nasty piece of work, its also possible that a guys life could be ruined over this if it isn't handled properly.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Saturday, 4 September 2004 10:57 (twenty years ago)

An acquaintance of mine is a secondary school teacher, and used to fancy one of her 15 year old pupils. She told me and another friend that she sent him a Valentine card, and I know she has followed him home from school to see where he lives, what he does after school etc. This is freaky and wrong on so many levels. I haven't seen her for about five years, but I worry that she is still teaching and I didn't report her. She may have been joking, but it still seemed creepy and wrong.

With regard to this one, Matt DC OTM. A family friend's career was ruined because someone made a false allegation against him based on (1) the fact that she didn't like him and (2) a similar storyline on Home and Away giving her the idea of a way to get back at him. All untrue, but reputations have a tendency to stick. Don't go in all guns blazing though until facts, context etc are clear.

― WTF? (ailsa), Saturday, 4 September 2004 11:25 (twenty years ago)

I guess the girl could be lying, but given the vast number of children being abused and scared to say anything because the abuser tells them no one will believe them, and the ones who do speak up and aren't believed because the person they tell doesn't want to believe it, I think I'd always be inclined to give the child coming forward a lot of trust. The advice to make a calm statement to the head is surely the right course - someone making such an appalling comment to a 13 year old pupil of his could go, or have already gone, farther, so don't let any thought of it being only a few words deter you.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Saturday, 4 September 2004 12:40 (twenty years ago)

Report him, but hopefully do everything possible to protect your niece from teasing or feeling guilty about it. If she's like I was at 13, I would absolutely not want anyone to know I had something to do with a teacher getting in trouble. Advise her not to tell her peers about the comment.

― Maria D. (Maria D.), Saturday, 4 September 2004 16:31 (twenty years ago)

Smack him, make and hand out fliers, then go to the police.

― SRH (Skrik), Saturday, 4 September 2004 16:42 (twenty years ago)

I agree with what Matt et al. are saying (don't let this go, but don't assume you know the whole story). If I were your sister, though, I'd make sure that your niece were part of the decision. She may not know what she's getting into, and the story may spread (with who knows what rumor-fed permutations) no matter how discreet she is.

― Frank Kogan (Frank Kogan), Monday, 6 September 2004 03:43 (twenty years ago)

OMG that's awful. Definitely report him to the principal.

― PinXor (Pinkpanther), Monday, 6 September 2004 06:37 (twenty years ago)

five months pass...

I wonder what happened, here.

― RJG (RJG), Thursday, 24 February 2005 16:19 (twenty years ago)

I hope her dad cut the guy's testicles off, I would have found that amusing

― TOMBOT, Thursday, 24 February 2005 18:13 (twenty years ago)

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