do you buy your friends birthday gifts?

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just wondering. i dont tend to but seeing as some friends chipped in this year for my birthday i feel guilty i didnt do the same for their birthdays.

splooge (thesplooge), Tuesday, 14 September 2004 12:47 (twenty-one years ago)

Close friends living locally: yes always.
Close friends living far away: usually just a card and a letter.
Friends I tend to only see as part of a group: card only or chipping in with others.

Archel (Archel), Tuesday, 14 September 2004 12:51 (twenty-one years ago)

Same as Archel. If I'm not sure whether someone counts as a close friend, a bottle of wine's hassle-free. A bottle of wine's frequently what my close friends get too, come to think of it.

beanz (beanz), Tuesday, 14 September 2004 12:56 (twenty-one years ago)

two friends in my immediate group didnt chip in. im not sure what to make of that.

splooge (thesplooge), Tuesday, 14 September 2004 12:56 (twenty-one years ago)

Closest friends: yes
All others: very occasionally, mainly if something jumps out at me at a convenient time saying "I am x's ideal gift!"

Markelby (Mark C), Tuesday, 14 September 2004 12:57 (twenty-one years ago)

Probably they were just short of cash at the time. Wait, did everyone give you a gift and then tell you how much of it (if any) they paid for???

Archel (Archel), Tuesday, 14 September 2004 12:58 (twenty-one years ago)

I always get something for my mum's birthday but otherwise that's it.

Whoops I forgot, I don't have any friends.

Never mind! Upwards nto the great wide open!

Donnie Smith The Quiz Kid, Tuesday, 14 September 2004 12:59 (twenty-one years ago)

I like giving gifts, so unless I'm completely destitute and out of ideas for making a gift, I do give some kind of gift.

Leon Czolgosz (Nicole), Tuesday, 14 September 2004 12:59 (twenty-one years ago)

*rubs hands together*

Markelby (Mark C), Tuesday, 14 September 2004 13:02 (twenty-one years ago)

actually, archel, it was more a case of me finding out through my GF that two didnt chip in, as she was organising it. one of them i dont really care for but the other one ive been friends with for years and am a little offended.

splooge (thesplooge), Tuesday, 14 September 2004 13:22 (twenty-one years ago)

It seems a bit bad form of your GF to reveal this information.

I follow the same rules as Archel, in general, but two close friends living far away get Christmas and birthday presents from me and I from them.

Madchen (Madchen), Tuesday, 14 September 2004 13:25 (twenty-one years ago)

*rubs hands together*

http://www.uwm.edu/People/mickels2/zorak.gif

Leon Czolgosz (Nicole), Tuesday, 14 September 2004 13:26 (twenty-one years ago)

yeah i thought it was a bit bad form for her to reveal it too. dont quite know what to make of that, actually. something about that doesnt seem right/nice/something i cant put my finger on.

splooge (thesplooge), Tuesday, 14 September 2004 13:37 (twenty-one years ago)

Not every friend, I admit, and that bugs me.

Ned Raggett (Ned), Tuesday, 14 September 2004 14:09 (twenty-one years ago)

You are Mr. Generosity, dude.

Leon Czolgosz (Nicole), Tuesday, 14 September 2004 14:13 (twenty-one years ago)

Gotten into the habit of buying for close friends, particlularly my best and the ones who invite me to their parties.

B.A.R.M.S. (Barima), Tuesday, 14 September 2004 14:16 (twenty-one years ago)

You are Mr. Generosity, dude.

*bows* Well, one tries! I just want to do more for others.

Ned Raggett (Ned), Tuesday, 14 September 2004 14:24 (twenty-one years ago)

Yeah, all my best and oldest friends, and some newer ones hereabouts, when I know their birthday far enough in advance.

Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Tuesday, 14 September 2004 15:51 (twenty-one years ago)

I think if I bought one of my friends a birthday present it'd feel kind of transgressive, and they'd be all 'dude why the fuck did you have to go and do that for?'.

Which isn't very touching.

Michael Philip Philip Philip Annoyman (Ferg), Tuesday, 14 September 2004 15:57 (twenty-one years ago)

seven years pass...

I have four friends I have always bought birthday and Xmas gifts for. I enjoy gift giving. They give me gifts as well and are the only gifts I ever get these days too.

*tera, Friday, 25 May 2012 19:58 (thirteen years ago)

I have a few friends that I buy gifts for -- I'm the same, I enjoy giving gifts. Though I have one friend who seems to keep a weird kind of 'scorecard' on what I give her in relation to what she's given me, and is always trying to give me the 'OMG YOU FOUND THAT IT'S MY FAVORITE THING EVER' present, which becomes exhausting. I put thought into my gifts, they're never half-assed, but I don't like feeling like I haven't gone to the ends of the earth enough, you know?

Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 25 May 2012 20:22 (thirteen years ago)

I do know and I am the friend who always brings that special "OMG! GIFT" but I don't keep score, I just like surprising my friends. Although this year was the first year I was not the "OMG! " gift giver and found out that one friend was relieved because she felt obliged to give me something super fantastic every year to the point of anxiety. UHG! Told her seriously, love making her happy but if it made her feel better I could hold back because the point is not to make anyone feel bad. So she decided to get over it, teehee... This one friend use to give me some of the most thoughtful and awesome gifts I had ever received but they were always stolen. He would steal rare books from libraries and a book store in town for his friends and had a job at a museum of sorts. People would donate really cool, rare items to this place and they were never cataloged. They would end up in a huge walk-in closet. He had access to that closet and would raid it for birthday's and Christmas. He never got caught. Though I have a huge loyalty to libraries and museums, I have to say that the small risk that went into these gifts made them pretty special. I didn't know they were even stolen for some time. He never answered when I'd ask where or how did you get/find this.

*tera, Friday, 25 May 2012 21:06 (thirteen years ago)

wow...okay that's a whole other level of gift giving. LOL

Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 25 May 2012 21:29 (thirteen years ago)

Haha! Well once I realized they were stolen I started noticing him stealing from parties and garage sales which was disappointing, though funny sometimes, but still, wrong. He has a good heart though. He was giving those things away as gifts! I didn't know if he enjoyed stealing or gift giving or both. He never had money but a ton of friends so I could see a reason there.

*tera, Friday, 25 May 2012 21:46 (thirteen years ago)


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