Friends you are not sure if you like anymore not calling you, classic or dud

You can never go home again. Let'em go. Move on. Make better friends.

I have better friends I think, as bad as I feel saying that, it's just they live further away!

Are you annoyed, Ronan, that you call to intitiate a visit to the pub but they never do? If neither are calling each other and you feel bad about it for them, I wouldn't even bother. If you call them and they're not calling back, leave'em be for a while.

If I called they'd probably call back I think. Mainly I feel they are sort of stuck in a rut, they go out locally and never anywhere else, they (we) go to someones house before the pub every friday and drink cans , it's a routine I've participated in for 3 or 4 years.

I am annoyed that I end up having to initiate things, when I am actually around most fridays and it's not as though they wouldn't know that. I suspect, and this is to do with my first paragraph, that maybe it wouldn't matter a toss who was out because already I feel perhaps their lives are settling into a groove of sorts. Most of the time when I go out with them I feel self conscious, which is unusual for me and probably the first time in my life I've felt that way so strongly.

Last week, for example, I had a long and seemingly jokey conversation with one of their girlfriends about a t-shirt I had on (not even an odd t-shirt, it was turquoise) after which I just thought what was I doing even being out in the first place. I feel the same anytime any suggestion of going to the local nightclub is made and when I point blank refuse sometimes people are like "why???" in a "nice" way but ultimately a way which makes me exasperated.

At the same time I feel snobby for thinking in this manner, maybe I should just get over myself.

As advice I don't follow enough myself, I'd probably keep 'getting over yourself' as an option. People, however, do change, move on, etc... I can remember just no longer wanting to hang out with friends because they were growing in a different direction than I was, perceiving things (esp. humor) differently than I was, and all that, and feeling like I was somehow betraying them. One obviously has to be there for one's friends or one doesn't deserve any, but ultimately one needs to be faithful to oneself.

It's interesting yeah, how humour becomes such a stumbling block. I often feel maybe as I get older I just can't let things slide anymore.

this is a weird feeling. you're annoyed and feel vaguely dejected that they're not calling you, but you don't even like them that much. so either they call you and you hang out and are bored or you swallow your pride for no apparent purpose, call them, and then go and are bored. i had a whole year like this, until i met some new people and a few old friends moved back into town.