Approaching someone in a tricky situation.

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I already posted this on TITTWIS, but I decided to start new thread about it too, for those who don't participate there. So here goes...

I have this kinda superficial crush on an Icelandic exchange student who's taking the same "Feminist history" course as I am. I haven't even spoken to her, but she's very cute in an original way. Last week I tried to make an eye contact with her, and I'm pretty sure she responded to it. The problem is that a friend of mine is on the same course, and I'm pretty sure everyone suspects we're a couple, because we always come to the class together, sit next to each other, and leave for home together (we live in the same direction). I'm having the course tomorrow, and my friend is absent then, so this would be a good moment to try to do something... But how the hell do you approach someone in an university seminar? Any advice or experiences on the same sort of situations would be welcome.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 18 October 2004 15:55 (twenty-one years ago)

when the seminar ends and everyone gets up to leave, then is your moment

― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Monday, 18 October 2004 15:59 (twenty-one years ago)

Could you not catch her on the way out of the class? Chat about the class and then maybe ask her if she wanted to have a coffee or something like that (obv, in as non-cheesy way as possible).

― jel -- (jel), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:01 (twenty-one years ago)

x-post, btw.

― jel -- (jel), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:02 (twenty-one years ago)

The problem is I know nothing about her, I don't even remember her name, and after the seminar, when everyone's leaving for home, isn't really the most natural time to start a conversation. I wish I had some other way of contacting her...

(x-post)

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:04 (twenty-one years ago)

If there's the impression this friend of yours is a girlfriend - this girl you fancy might think that you're chasing tail when as soon as the g/f is out of sight. You should remember to make it clear that this girl is just a friend (when you speak to her after class).

xpost

― Thermo Thinwall (Thermo Thinwall), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:05 (twenty-one years ago)

and after the seminar, when everyone's leaving for home, isn't really the most natural time to start a conversation

what? AMERICAN TV HAS LIED TO ME!

― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:07 (twenty-one years ago)

Yeah, Jel, that'd probably be the best solution, but even though I'm quite a social person in general, I'm terrible at those situations where it's kinda obvious I'm not chatting with someone for the sake of mere conversation. As for asking someone out - my hands start to shake at the mere thought.

(x-post)

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:08 (twenty-one years ago)

Dude, couldn't you just introduce yourself? I mean, there could never be a good time to start up a conversation, but after class is probably best...A "hey! you're in my feminist history class aren't you?..I'm Tuomas", I dunno it might work, just think of it as making a new friend rather than anything more for the time being?

― jel -- (jel), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:09 (twenty-one years ago)

As for the after class conversation... just think of something, anything to approach her about - maybe there was something in the seminar you didn't understand or get down. Maybe just go straight to asking her out for a coffee. Tell her you like her pants!
Be brave, Tuomas!

xpost - if you get that nervous asking someone out you're pretty screwed!

― Thermo Thinwall (Thermo Thinwall), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:10 (twenty-one years ago)

I know! I guess this is why I only get involved with girls I already know from before. Breaking the ice is the most difficult part for me, after that I'm quite a smooth-talker.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:13 (twenty-one years ago)

and after the seminar, when everyone's leaving for home, isn't really the most natural time to start a conversation

what? AMERICAN TV HAS LIED TO ME!

And maybe, they don't all go to the Mall after school?

Good luck Tuomas, btw!

― jel -- (jel), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:14 (twenty-one years ago)

you could invite her for a drink with both you and your other female friend and that might make things easier?

― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:15 (twenty-one years ago)

After class, say "So, how do you like the class?"

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:19 (twenty-one years ago)

(ideally while walking - don't ask me why, I've no idea).

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:20 (twenty-one years ago)

I love that this is all happening in a feminist history class.

― Alba (Alba), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:22 (twenty-one years ago)

do they haev boomboxes and vitalic in finland?

― :|, Monday, 18 October 2004 16:26 (twenty-one years ago)

you could invite her for a drink with both you and your other female friend and that might make things easier?

Hmm, that could perhaps work, I'm sure my friend would go for it (I've already talked to her about the girl), though the girl might find all this a bit weird. And I'd still have to come up with some sort of an explanation why we want to invite her for a drink.

After class, say "So, how do you like the class?"

Hmm, maybe I should illuminate you on the Finnish conversation culture: Finns don't do much small talk, especially not with strangers. After class, people generally don't talk to each other, unless they already know from somewhere; this is why I said it wouldn't sound natural. I'm not sure how this is in Iceland though.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:27 (twenty-one years ago)

dude wingwoman dude.

― hstencil (hstencil), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:28 (twenty-one years ago)

I am/was exactly the same as what you describe, Tuomas. The thought of asking someone out was so terrifying, my hands would shake, and I'd get dry-mouthed. Terrible. Is there no way you could meet this person in a "normal" social situation? Like, is there some point where your circle of friends and hers interact? This is how I met my wife, and I would never have had the courage to ask her out if we hadn't already got to know each other quite well. Good luck anyway. I've been in this situation, and I know it's a bit argh.

― Pashmina (Pashmina), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:30 (twenty-one years ago)

Pretend you know her already?

― jel -- (jel), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:30 (twenty-one years ago)

I did this a couple of times at university, and after the class seemed to me to be the best time. You can introduce yourself and walk with her for a little while. The second time I did this was much worse though, because she was always with a large group of friends, but I caught her eye and she seperated herself from the rest to talk to me. No success with her though, but we did chat now and then, so I made a vague friend. She was, in all honesty, the most beautiful person I had ever met, so I was kidding myself somewhat. The first time I tried to speak to a girl after class however, we ended up going out a couple of times. I don't regret either occasion though, and if I hadn't talked to them I would probably still kick myself about it. The hard part is to squeeze the universe into a ball and resign yourself to talking, regardless of ho you may feel. Otherwise you never quite get the moment of will that is necessary, and you decision oscillates between commitment and cowardice. In a minute there is time for decisions and revision which a minute will reverse. Or something. Cultural differences might make this more difficult.

― Kevin Gilchrist (Mr Fusion), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:32 (twenty-one years ago)

do they haev boomboxes and vitalic in finland?

Add a dog mask and "Da Funk" and you're set.

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:32 (twenty-one years ago)

I love that this is all happening in a feminist history class.

Haha, actually I was on a semi-date a week ago with someone I originally met while we were doing a small-group project as a part of an feminist studies course. I'm not sure if it's two-timing to be interested in two girls at the same time, if things haven't led anywhere yet.

As I said, this is how I've usually met my romantic interests, but in this case it's quite improbable we'd know anyone in common, her being an exchange student.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:34 (twenty-one years ago)

When someone asks something like this (well, when I ask something like this) what they really want is a line and a rough timescale in which to deliver the line. Well, the rough timescale has been given by Stevem, and I suggest the line you use is something like;

"Hi, I'm afraid I have no idea of your name, but I'd really like to find out if you'd let me buy you a coffee?" delivered with a cheeky smile.

― Sick Mouthy (Nick Southall), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:39 (twenty-one years ago)

Anyway, I guess I'm making too big a number out of all this. I don't really know her, and I almost always fall for the person, not for the looks. Also, it's not like I'm particularly handsome, so the only way I can make an impression on people is through my personality, which I kinda hard in a situation like this. But we'll see...

Anyway, thanks for all the advice and encouragement, I'll promise to report to ILE if anything happens.

(x-post)

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:40 (twenty-one years ago)

Tuomas, since you are trying to do what I am literally incapable of doing, I just want to let you know that I'm going to live this experience vicariously through you. Do not let me (us) down.

― Je4nne ƒury (Jeanne Fury), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:41 (twenty-one years ago)

Oh dear, please don't put any more weight on my shoulders than I already have.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:44 (twenty-one years ago)

Oh well, if I fail tomorrow, I still have until mid-December to act... Though this is probably the kind of thinking Kevin was describing upthread. Loved your post Kevin, by the way.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:47 (twenty-one years ago)

Everyone is missing the key point: it's a feminist history class, so the perfect approach is "Hey, what's a hot babe with great tits doing in an intellectual class like this?"

More seriously, you aren't with your friend so don't have to sit in the same place. Sit near enough to her (not right next to her) so that she is a natural person to talk to as you gather your stuff and start to leave. Yes, "what do you think of the class?" is fine, as is any comment or question about the class, especially one that can turn into a discussion, and can offer an opportunity for something like "I'd like to continue this conversation - do you fancy a coffee?" or some such.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Monday, 18 October 2004 16:59 (twenty-one years ago)

"Hey, fancy being objectified?"

― Alba (Alba), Monday, 18 October 2004 17:08 (twenty-one years ago)

"Hey gurly gurl, I'd love to give you a good face fuckin' if you fancy some Tuomas lovin'."

― Sick Mouthy (Nick Southall), Monday, 18 October 2004 17:12 (twenty-one years ago)

That was "going too far" wasn't it?

― Sick Mouthy (Nick Southall), Monday, 18 October 2004 17:12 (twenty-one years ago)

'you want equality? it's your round' (sorry Tuomas, good luck with it all)

― Freelance Hiveminder (blueski), Monday, 18 October 2004 17:13 (twenty-one years ago)

"Would you like to take a non-sexual coed sauna with me? And then maybe afterwards we could put all of our clothes back on and get sexual?"

― The Ghost of Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 18 October 2004 17:38 (twenty-one years ago)

Said in your best Hugh Grant stammer.

― nickn (nickn), Monday, 18 October 2004 17:45 (twenty-one years ago)

Lure her into your van with some candy. That works everytime.

― Thermo Thinwall (Thermo Thinwall), Monday, 18 October 2004 17:51 (twenty-one years ago)

drop your pants

― kephm (kephm), Monday, 18 October 2004 17:52 (twenty-one years ago)

"Would you like to take a non-sexual coed sauna with me? And then maybe afterwards we could put all of our clothes back on and get sexual?"

Haha, actually the coed sauna *is* pretty nonsexual in Finland, most of the people are so used to it. And you really can't have sex there, it's too hot.

Did I already mention that the girl also speaks English with a super-cute Icelandic accent, I can't imagine anything cuter than that. (I'm beginning to sound quite superficial, am I not?)

I just called the other girl I've met at a feminist studies course, I'm going to see her next week to find out whether there's anything between us (it's kinda unclear). I already feel like a cheater, even though I haven't really done anything with her either...

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 18 October 2004 17:52 (twenty-one years ago)

All Icelandic women are super hot, to non-Icelandic people anyway. It's kind of annoying, as it makes one doubt one's own attraction.

― Alba (Alba), Monday, 18 October 2004 18:00 (twenty-one years ago)

It should be noted that the Finns, as a peoples, are pretty hot themselves!

― Thermo Thinwall (Thermo Thinwall), Monday, 18 October 2004 18:04 (twenty-one years ago)

Tuomas, there is NOTHING wrong with being superficial when it comes to finding people attractive.

― Sick Mouthy (Nick Southall), Monday, 18 October 2004 18:07 (twenty-one years ago)

I guess so, but it is unlike me. I can't remember when was the last time I've had a crush - even a superficial one - on someone I didn't know.

Besides, since I'm no looker myself, I'd like to think looks don't really matter, even if they certainly seem to do so.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 18 October 2004 18:11 (twenty-one years ago)

But but but you're very good-looking?!

― Sick Mouthy (Nick Southall), Monday, 18 October 2004 18:14 (twenty-one years ago)

Knock off the bashfulness - you are adorable, Tuomas!

― Thermo Thinwall (Thermo Thinwall), Monday, 18 October 2004 18:16 (twenty-one years ago)

http://freespace.virgin.net/bharath.pillai/gifs/tricky.jpg

― The Ghost of Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 18 October 2004 18:18 (twenty-one years ago)

Oh, I just haven't posted any of the less flattering pics of me here.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 18 October 2004 18:20 (twenty-one years ago)

See this pic, for example. Do I look like Mr. Gorgeous?

http://www.mv.helsinki.fi/aqkorhon/meilahti4.jpg

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 18 October 2004 18:22 (twenty-one years ago)

Your long blonde hair = ROWR!

(You're in the middle, right?)

― The Ghost of Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 18 October 2004 18:25 (twenty-one years ago)

No, but WHO'S THAT HOT FRIEND OF YOURS IN THE MIDDLE?

x-post

― Alba (Alba), Monday, 18 October 2004 18:26 (twenty-one years ago)

Skipping 310 messages at this point... Click here if you want to load them all.

Well, I do now.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 1 November 2004 20:11 (twenty-one years ago)

It's a picture of a man showing off his remarkably-dilated anal sphincter, to the point where you can see the cilia in his rectum. Also he is apparently wearing a wedding ring but I've never looked at the pic long enough to go beyond the "OH NO OH NO SCREAMING HORROR!" stage.

― The Ghost of Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 1 November 2004 20:15 (twenty-one years ago)

Okay, that's not the picture I sent.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 1 November 2004 20:20 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm seeing her again today, at our feminist history class. At least now I have a good enough reason to sit next to her... I can't believe it's only two weeks since I started this thread, my first post feels like ancient history now.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Tuesday, 2 November 2004 06:57 (twenty-one years ago)

How does your story end, LeCoq, if I may ask?

-- Tuomas (tuomas.alh...), October 22nd, 2004.

Awkwardly. We still talk, making plans to hang (she goes to a different Uni) but our schedules never really sync up since summer as we're both insanely busy. A really good, purehearted, *beautiful* person that I really skecthed out by simply not being my normal RADITUDE self. Despite everything, I hope she's really happy and she thinks of me kindly. That's just how it goes.

― LeCoq (LeCoq), Tuesday, 2 November 2004 09:38 (twenty-one years ago)

i want to see the picture as well! if you change it to @gmail.com, this is my real address.

way to go, tuomas. sounds like a good crush!

― colette (a2lette), Tuesday, 2 November 2004 11:46 (twenty-one years ago)

I don't need to see the picture, as I've had negative experiences before with this sort of thing. (Posting pictures of your crush to ILX to have it come back to you. negatively.)

But just relax, Tuomas, and it sounds like things will be OK if you can relax and be yourself, instead of stressing.

― Two-Headed Zombie With No Face (kate), Tuesday, 2 November 2004 12:28 (twenty-one years ago)

Oh. Dear. GOD.

(And now Kate is the most rational poster!)

― B.A.R.M.S. (Barima), Tuesday, 2 November 2004 12:30 (twenty-one years ago)

I'd love to see the pic, but Tuomas whatever you do, DO NOT email it or post it here! kthxbye!

― PinXorchiXoR (Pinkpanther), Tuesday, 2 November 2004 12:45 (twenty-one years ago)

I'd rather T starts dating her (or screws it up, hopefully not tho') before sending out photos willynilly.

― B.A.R.M.S. (Barima), Tuesday, 2 November 2004 12:46 (twenty-one years ago)

I get scared when I'm the most sensible person on ILX.

― Two-Headed Zombie With No Face (kate), Tuesday, 2 November 2004 12:48 (twenty-one years ago)

Okay, this thread has become a bit of a spectacle, I guess I shouldn't have talked about such issues so openly in a public forum, even in a fairly trustworthy one like ILX. I feel a bit ashamed of even starting the whole thread, but I guess in the beginning I didn't even think anything could actually come about this long-distance crush. I'm definitely not gonna post any pictures here, nor am I gonna update the thread unless something truly substantial happens. Let's just let this thread slowly fade away from sight, so I don't have to be constantly reminded of my unashamedness, okay?

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Tuesday, 2 November 2004 13:09 (twenty-one years ago)

Define "truly substantial" plsthx

― beanz (beanz), Tuesday, 2 November 2004 13:51 (twenty-one years ago)

I presume he's not planning to come back in a couple of weeks and go "hey ILE! I finally fucked her!" if that's what you mean.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Tuesday, 2 November 2004 13:59 (twenty-one years ago)

You have shattered my palace of dreams.

― The Ghost of Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Tuesday, 2 November 2004 14:00 (twenty-one years ago)

Like there aren't other ILXors you'd rather read about getting their swerve on.

― B.A.R.M.S. (Barima), Tuesday, 2 November 2004 14:04 (twenty-one years ago)

Tuomas, I think it's wise on you to keep it on the DL. Good luck broham.

― LeCoq (LeCoq), Tuesday, 2 November 2004 17:47 (twenty-one years ago)

eleven months pass...

Revive.

I think I'm in a similar situation than when I started this thread, though this time it's a Third World studies course. Also, the girl I'm talking about is Finnish and I know her name, but not much else. Anyway, it's a short course and it'll be over next week - we have only one lecture and the final exam left. What to do?

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Thursday, 13 October 2005 13:12 (twenty years ago)

Be quick!

― Mädchen (Madchen), Thursday, 13 October 2005 13:21 (twenty years ago)

Dude, no way around it, you have to talk to her asap. If the window of opportunity is rapidly closing, you'll only regret not talking to her, and should it not go to plan, at least you won't have to see each other again...

― tissp! (the impossible shortest specia), Thursday, 13 October 2005 13:26 (twenty years ago)

what happened to the icelandic girl in the end???

― ken c (ken c), Thursday, 13 October 2005 13:39 (twenty years ago)

Yeah, I know should to talk her, but again I face the same problem: what do you say to someone who you only know from school without sounding awkward? She was on another course with me last winter, but I didn't really talk with her then either. Once I had Margaret Atwood's "Handmaid's Tale" with me in class; she noticed it and said that she was reading it too right then, and we exchanged a few words about the book. Then a couple of months later I spotted her at this goth club, but she was in full goth attire and I felt a bit shy, so I didn't go and talk to her. It doesn't matter if she's a goth though, she seems nice. But yeah, that and the course we're having now is the totality of my interaction with her. She often seems to smile at me, and last week when she came into the classroom, she sat next to me even though there were other free chairs in there too; of course this could all be just my imagination.

Today I toyed on the idea of slipping her a note when I leave the exam, but that'd be a bit creepy, right?

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Thursday, 13 October 2005 15:09 (twenty years ago)

Just ask her out. You don't need a good reason to ask someone out!

Frankly there's a shallow part of me that prefers the idea of someone randomly coming up to me and asking me out because they think I'm teh hottness, rather than I have a "great personality".

― tissp! (the impossible shortest specia), Thursday, 13 October 2005 15:13 (twenty years ago)

tuomas, you're adorable. you're thoughtful. be upfront. meeting someone in a class is pretty low key. you can easily talk about the class, ask her out for coffee or whatever. if you feel more bold, then ask her out for dinner. just be you!

― kelsey (kelstarry), Thursday, 13 October 2005 15:16 (twenty years ago)

don't slip her that underwear photo.

(yet)

― ken c (ken c), Thursday, 13 October 2005 15:35 (twenty years ago)

All of this is sound advice, but the problem is that I'm rather shy when approaching (relative) strangers... I don't think I've ever asked someone out unless I've already talked with him before that. That's why I thought about slipping a note.

Maybe I should got to that goth night again sometime, so I could run into her "accidentally". I know a couple of my friends go there (I was with them the last time), and it's only once a month. On the other hand, that'd be rather pathetic. At least with the Icelandic girl I really run into her by accident at that club.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Thursday, 13 October 2005 15:44 (twenty years ago)

It doesn't matter if she's a goth

It bloody does

― Markelby (Mark C), Thursday, 13 October 2005 15:46 (twenty years ago)

Hey, I've known some really nice goths in my lifetime! Maybe Finnish goths are a bit nice than the ones you have.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Thursday, 13 October 2005 15:52 (twenty years ago)

This is kind of like that Graham thread, but with a happier ending.

― Allyzay knows a little German (allyzay), Thursday, 13 October 2005 16:23 (twenty years ago)

B-b-but I ain't happy!

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Thursday, 13 October 2005 16:25 (twenty years ago)

Another approach?: A university classmate of mine - shy but cute girl - once told me that her friend had just called her to say she wouldn't be able to go with her to a play that she had tickets for, so would I like to join her? This invitation was very much out of the blue, as we hadn't been sending "signals" to each other previously (I was still getting over a breakup), but it was a charming ruse (entirely fictional premise, of course), and it worked.

― Collardio Gelatinous (collardio), Thursday, 13 October 2005 16:48 (twenty years ago)

As for the Icelandic girl, it just didn't work out - in the end we were a bit too different. We did continue to see each other occasionally, and then after Christmas she left for home, and that was that. Sorry to have ruined such a romantic premise.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Thursday, 13 October 2005 18:02 (twenty years ago)

Does this really qualify as a "tricky situation"?

― Confounded (Confounded), Thursday, 13 October 2005 19:05 (twenty years ago)

Five easy steps:

1. I've forgotten my pen, do you have a spare one?
2. By the way, what did you think of that book we were both reading?
3. Keep conversation going for approximately three minutes
4. I have a free period next. I'm meant to be going to the library but I can't be arsed. Want to go to the pub?
5. Would you like to come back to my place and look at my record collection?

― Mädchen (Madchen), Friday, 14 October 2005 08:08 (twenty years ago)

Documented evidence plz of step 5 ever having worked for ANYONE.

― Marcello Carlin (nostudium), Friday, 14 October 2005 08:10 (twenty years ago)

http://www.cbc.ca/arts/images/pics/highfidel02.jpg

― Sterling Clover (s_clover), Friday, 14 October 2005 08:44 (twenty years ago)

NB: if you do not look like john cusack your results may vary wildly.

― Sterling Clover (s_clover), Friday, 14 October 2005 08:45 (twenty years ago)

"It's not going to suck itself" is always a winner

― Markelby (Mark C), Friday, 14 October 2005 09:11 (twenty years ago)

again, the john cusack rule may apply with regard to that.

― Marcello Carlin (nostudium), Friday, 14 October 2005 09:18 (twenty years ago)

Documented evidence plz of step 5 ever having worked for ANYONE.

It worked on me! Worse still, he combined it with "I am friends with Graham Coxon".

― Mädchen (Madchen), Friday, 14 October 2005 09:28 (twenty years ago)

It was probably the latter that actually got me to do the deed with him. I was much younger and very impressionable.

― Mädchen (Madchen), Friday, 14 October 2005 09:28 (twenty years ago)

6. "would you like to come back to mine to look at my source code?"

actually worked. once.

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 14 October 2005 09:30 (twenty years ago)

mmm. geek sex

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 14 October 2005 09:31 (twenty years ago)

The only "line" that's ever really worked on me was "come back to my studio and look at my etchings."

― Paranoid Spice (kate), Friday, 14 October 2005 09:31 (twenty years ago)

Start talking to her during the exam! They'll think you're both cheating and throw you out, then you'll have an excellent excuse to talk to her properly!

(spot the flaws in this plan)

― jel -- (jel), Friday, 14 October 2005 09:34 (twenty years ago)

I want you all to know that I have spent my night copying and pasteing these posts into an at and t voice speaking proram and enjoying the results. My hart is christ-like with victory at the heartwormin gtale of the lovers. Now then!

― Mike Hanle y 3000 (hanle y 3000), Friday, 14 October 2005 09:38 (twenty years ago)

tuomas, i think in tricky situations like this, what you really need to do actaually is to rock her a rhyme, that's right. on time. it's tricky. it's tricky tricky tricky ugh but well worth it if you can pull it off.

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 14 October 2005 09:43 (twenty years ago)

I still dont know what eventually happene dwith the iceland maiden. did things not work out? that is the sad!

― Mike Hanle y 3000 (hanle y 3000), Friday, 14 October 2005 09:47 (twenty years ago)

I think Tuomas needs to suck it up or learn the lesson I learned here:

WOMEN OF ILX: If some random sketchy dude handed you a note that said "HI UR CUET PLZ CALL ME"...

― Jonothong Williamsmang (ex machina), Friday, 14 October 2005 13:26 (twenty years ago)

That thread is too long, I can't be arsed to read it. What was the lesson? And what's your opinion in general in handing notes? I'd be flattered to get one, but it might be different with girls... Note that I'm not just a random sketchy dude, but someone she's at least spoken to.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Friday, 14 October 2005 13:48 (twenty years ago)

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