Do you hate shopping for clothes?

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Today I was shopping for clothes, and I realized I hate it! Even finding a simple thing, like a T-shirt I'd like to wear, can take me ages. Being 25, I don't want to go after the latest youth fashion anymore, but neither do I want to like an "adult", someone who's finally given up and started to dress like his dad does. I feel like I'm in some sort of an age gap when it comes to clothing. Also, I'm so thin that even if I find, say, a nice shirt, many times they've already ran out of my size or don't carry it all, and I hate wearing shirts that are too large.

This is where you can share your thoughts on the difficulties of clothes shopping.

Tuomas (Tuomas), Wednesday, 3 November 2004 21:59 (twenty years ago)

I love clothes shopping, but only if it's successful. Wandering around for hours seeing nothing you like is a taxing experience.

Core of Sphagnum (Autumn Almanac), Wednesday, 3 November 2004 22:47 (twenty years ago)

I don't have a problem with it, but like Tuomas I do have a lot of trouble finding things that I like that fit. I'm somewhere between a child and adult in terms of size.

Peanuts (Peanuts), Wednesday, 3 November 2004 22:50 (twenty years ago)

I've grown to like it because I have a pretty small wardrobe and any addition makes a difference, but I have difficulties as well. I'm great at finding jeans and t-shirts, but have a hell of a time finding cool slackish pants and button-down shirts that have a taper (i.e. aren't huge and baggy when untucked).

Jordan (Jordan), Wednesday, 3 November 2004 22:52 (twenty years ago)

I'm very lucky in that everything fits straight off the rack.

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Core of Sphagnum (Autumn Almanac), Wednesday, 3 November 2004 22:53 (twenty years ago)

because I R shy, I hate all shopping, as it involves having to interact with other human beings.

DV (dirtyvicar), Wednesday, 3 November 2004 22:53 (twenty years ago)

Nothing fits anybody anymore! Everything is made to be so baggy. Some places I can wear a small shirt, and I am by no means a small person.

This is only for guys.

Also, this is why American Apparel is the shit.

Even though they only have 4 items for guys.

Magic City (ano ano), Wednesday, 3 November 2004 22:55 (twenty years ago)

The other day I bought jeans that aren't baggy or too tight. So they do exist, you just have to keey an eye out.

Have you looked at Levi's 520s?

Core of Sphagnum (Autumn Almanac), Wednesday, 3 November 2004 22:59 (twenty years ago)

"Nothing fits anybody anymore! Everything is made to be so baggy. Some places I can wear a small shirt, and I am by no means a small person.
This is only for guys"

In fact, the reverse is true for women. I hate shopping for clothes.


isadora (isadora), Wednesday, 3 November 2004 23:01 (twenty years ago)

i demur. i am small, but in a lot of places even the smalls don't fit me. this is expecially true when it comes to pants.

Peanuts (Peanuts), Wednesday, 3 November 2004 23:13 (twenty years ago)

Ugh yes. I can recall that at one point I liked it. Now I do the same thing that I do when I go grocery shopping. Namely say "ewww, this all looks terrible" and go home empty-handed. Only it's worse because clothes don't ever fit anyone properly. Can we bring back tailors please?

mouse (mouse), Wednesday, 3 November 2004 23:34 (twenty years ago)

buying clothes when you're skinny...

A Nairn (moretap), Thursday, 4 November 2004 00:55 (twenty years ago)

Tailors never went away...

Core of Sphagnum (Autumn Almanac), Thursday, 4 November 2004 01:00 (twenty years ago)

I don't want to go after the latest youth fashion anymore, but neither do I want to like an "adult", someone who's finally given up and started to dress like his dad does

So OTM!

I bought a jacket yesterday that looked okay at the store, and now I have it home and I look like a goddamned golfer in winter. Now I have to take it back.

Riot Gear! (Gear!), Thursday, 4 November 2004 01:05 (twenty years ago)

Yes.

Rockist_Scientist (rockist_scientist), Thursday, 4 November 2004 01:07 (twenty years ago)

i have tried and failed to find something to wear to my brother's garden wedding which is now 8 short days away, in which time i also have to do two exams, do my normal jobs and get to my parent's house in the country. shopping for clothes sucks arse *cries*

gem (trisk), Thursday, 4 November 2004 01:12 (twenty years ago)

I'll give you my elderly golf chap coat

Riot Gear! (Gear!), Thursday, 4 November 2004 01:12 (twenty years ago)

great thanks heaps! i'm sure mum will be thrilled. the photos will look tops.

gem (trisk), Thursday, 4 November 2004 01:14 (twenty years ago)

you'll look lovely in it I'm sure!

Riot Gear! (Gear!), Thursday, 4 November 2004 01:16 (twenty years ago)

I dont mind shopping for clothes but I hate having to try the damn things on in shops. It's so awkward.

Also, why in gods name is everything pink and pastel blue and brown? And the worst of 80s throwbacks (frills in unflattering places, bagginess, ridiculous looking off the shoulder garbage... HUGE ROLLED UP CUFFS ON JEANS WTF?!).

I know what I like and what looks good on me, so I tend only to buy when and if that comes round into fashion. I wish I knew how to sew, then I'd be set.

Trayce (trayce), Thursday, 4 November 2004 01:24 (twenty years ago)

I like shopping for clothes even though sometimes it's been hard to find cute things in my size. Today I bought some underwear on clearance to cheer myself up.

tokyo rosemary (rosemary), Thursday, 4 November 2004 01:29 (twenty years ago)

I HATE g-strings. Just thought I'd say that.

Core of Sphagnum (Autumn Almanac), Thursday, 4 November 2004 01:30 (twenty years ago)

i actually generally quite like shopping for clothes to be honest, i love going into shops that have tonnes of different odds and ends though rather than chain style stores, so exciting when you find a gem in a cluttered rack.

the thing i don't like is shopping for an outfit to wear to one particular event.... such as my bro's wedding, mum has made a sort of a request that i don't wear my usual 'wacky' attire, now i am in a quandary and also completely out of time....

also i think gstrings are heaps more comfy than any other type of undy

gem (trisk), Thursday, 4 November 2004 01:32 (twenty years ago)

I can't find a happy place between shopping at Urban Outfitters/Pacific Sunwear/youth fashion whatever and Banana Republic/Express For Men. It's all ugly or too dressy/old manish. The only good thing I've found in ages were American Eagle Outfitters jeans, soft and kind of cheap.

I can't even find a good t-shirt anymore. The few times I find one with an inoffensive/understated design and color, it's some awful thick, scratchy material. Which sucks because I wear a t-shirt most of the time during the warm months (all ten of them).

milozauckerman (miloaukerman), Thursday, 4 November 2004 01:36 (twenty years ago)

I do not feel qualified to address the g-string issue.

But this: "the worst of 80s throwbacks (frills in unflattering places, bagginess, ridiculous looking off the shoulder garbage..." is so true.

It is a fashion designed to be unflattering so only very beautiful people with all the right curves and flat bits can carry it off. Everyone else just looks illfitted.

isadora (isadora), Thursday, 4 November 2004 01:38 (twenty years ago)

i disagree that the opposite of the baggy/large-masquerading-as-small is true for women's clothing! have you been to old navy recently??? i swim in their clothes :(

Allyzay Science Explosion (allyzay), Thursday, 4 November 2004 01:44 (twenty years ago)

I also loath the buying of cloths.
Also like Tuomas I am skinny and have a hard time finding decent looking cloths that will actually fit.

Thermo Thinwall (Thermo Thinwall), Thursday, 4 November 2004 01:48 (twenty years ago)

G-strings are evil. How can they be comfy? Its a permanent wedgie :(

Speaking of cluttered racks gem, there's a cool little shop in the arcade where my local shops are that has loads of obscure nifty stuff just jammed onto racks. Ive found a few great skirts and tops and everything's real cheap. Plus it's called Han Ar Rum Fashion and Socks, which makes me giggle for some reason.

Trayce (trayce), Thursday, 4 November 2004 02:20 (twenty years ago)

they are totally comfy! you never get hungry bum syndrome because they're already up there! although there is a disclaimer: you can't buy those dodgy lace ones, you have to go the cotton numbers.

sounds tops trayce! there are millions of cool shops like that in melbs, heaps more than here. although there is one here that is also in melbourne, called kinky gerlinky, it's on brunswick st there and in freo here.

gem (trisk), Thursday, 4 November 2004 02:24 (twenty years ago)

I hate clothes shopping cuz all the clothes I like get taken away from me.

Nowell (Nowell), Thursday, 4 November 2004 03:08 (twenty years ago)

also i think gstrings are heaps more comfy than any other type of undy

If you're a girl. When you're a bloke with an ENORMOUS MEMBER it gets a bit claustrophobic.

Not to mention the wacky ribbon that goes up your arse.

Core of Sphagnum (Autumn Almanac), Thursday, 4 November 2004 04:21 (twenty years ago)

Milo, try Duofold t-shirts. Very comfy. And cheap.

oops (Oops), Thursday, 4 November 2004 04:36 (twenty years ago)

I would love shopping for clothes if I were the only person in the shop, but as it is I feel like the clerks or other customers are watching me, judging what I look at, judging me, thinking I'm not cool enough or good looking enough to be in the store much less wearing any of the clothes there (I think this even in stores that don't have any coolness cachet). I know it's stupid, but it's how I've always felt.

Dan I. (Dan I.), Thursday, 4 November 2004 04:37 (twenty years ago)

I like ebay, but about 3/4 of the things I get there don't fit or aren't quite what I thought they were.

Dan I. (Dan I.), Thursday, 4 November 2004 04:38 (twenty years ago)

i work part time in a clothes shop on the weekends, i would never ever think that about a customer dan! maybe you are going into the wrong kind of stores if the staff are giving you that vibe?

gem (trisk), Thursday, 4 November 2004 04:39 (twenty years ago)

No, I'm just like the most neurotic person on earth.

Dan I. (Dan I.), Thursday, 4 November 2004 04:43 (twenty years ago)

i work in a women's clothing shop and our target clientele is people who are a looking for something a bit different but not toooooo wacky, so we get a few who are a bit neurotic i guess. i especially like it when quite self-conscious people come in and i can send them out again feeling like they are looking really great.

gem (trisk), Thursday, 4 November 2004 04:45 (twenty years ago)

If you're a girl. When you're a bloke with an ENORMOUS MEMBER it gets a bit claustrophobic.

Nice subtle bit of salesmanship, there.

Trayce (trayce), Thursday, 4 November 2004 04:47 (twenty years ago)

I don't mind shopping for clothes, but I *do* mind everybody else shopping for clothes and the same time and getting in my bloody way.

caitlin (caitlin), Thursday, 4 November 2004 08:17 (twenty years ago)

"a bloke with an enormous member trying on a g-string ain't a bloke at all"

- wise man

Riot Gear! (Gear!), Thursday, 4 November 2004 08:42 (twenty years ago)

I'm OK with it, but get frustrated large when I can't find anything. I also have fitting issues, even since losing weight.

B.A.R.M.S. (Barima), Thursday, 4 November 2004 10:01 (twenty years ago)

it's difficult for me to find jeans (or any other trousers) that fit right--women's jeans are mostly too low-rise for me, so I tend to wear old levi's mostly, which gap at the waistband. I also have the problem of being tall and having dresses or some kinds of tops being too short-waisted, sleeves not being long enough, etc. But this is alright, I can find certain brands or 'tall' sections in stores mostly. Shoe shopping is the worst--it's harder and harder to find shoes that come in my size at all. Other people are preening in front of shoestore mirrors wondering if the shoes look good, while I have to worry first about if they're too short or not. Surprisingly, it's often hard to tell in the store if the shoe'll be too short once I'm actually wearing them out.

sgs (sgs), Thursday, 4 November 2004 10:18 (twenty years ago)

haha I didn't answer the actual question. I hate shopping in boutique stores because of a neurosis like Dan's. I hate shopping in large chain stores because they're usually mobbed. I love shopping in thrift or vintage stores though, and finding that unique thing on the rack like gem and trayce mentioned.

sgs (sgs), Thursday, 4 November 2004 10:20 (twenty years ago)

sgs - if you're ever in Edinburgh you should visit Armstrong's. It sounds like you'd love it.

caitlin (caitlin), Thursday, 4 November 2004 10:27 (twenty years ago)

Thrifting is the best, but it's like some sort of underground experience in London - there just aren't (m)any.

B.A.R.M.S. (Barima), Thursday, 4 November 2004 10:35 (twenty years ago)

I do right now! Because I just sat down on my office chair and discovered that the cashier left the fucking alarm on my new skirt that I'm wearing today! So now I have to go back to the store, endure the shame of having the alarm go off when I enter, and then try to explain to them that I DID NOT STEAL THIS SKIRT OK. Also I will have to walk around all day with the alarm still on my skirt because I can't very well go to H&M and take off the skirt and stand there in my pantyhose waiting for them to remove the alarm! I AM ANNOYED!!!

Hanna (Hanna), Thursday, 4 November 2004 10:42 (twenty years ago)

I don't know what pants to buy!!!

Jarlr'mai (jarlrmai), Thursday, 4 November 2004 10:51 (twenty years ago)

Yikes Hanna, that's annoying! how big (and...where) is the alarm?
BARMS, it's hard to find consistently good thrift stores in London but they're out there. The Notting Hill housing trust ones tend to get good stuff, in my experience. There are vintage stores around of varying quality, but my favorite is Blackout 2 on Endell St. Can't speak for the menswear though.

sgs (sgs), Thursday, 4 November 2004 11:12 (twenty years ago)

More than just about anything, except going to the dentist...

No, wait, that can't be true. I spend ages doing it. Except nothing fits me at the moment, which just makes me feel fat and incapable. And it costs so much money. Why did they have to clean up Camden Market so you can't get a bag of #5 clothes any more?

Two-Headed Zombie With No Face (kate), Thursday, 4 November 2004 11:41 (twenty years ago)

Thx, sgs, I'll look for more info when the time draws near.

B.A.R.M.S. (Barima), Thursday, 4 November 2004 11:57 (twenty years ago)

There are about 5 or 6 thrift shops along Streatham High Road. I've no idea what they're like for clothes (though others tell me they can be quite good) but they're ace for books.

Two-Headed Zombie With No Face (kate), Thursday, 4 November 2004 11:59 (twenty years ago)

The alarm is big, but it's on the lining (if that's the correct word??), so I guess I could just cut it off with scissors but it'd leave a big hole and even if it wouldn't be visible it kind of sucks to cut a hole in new clothes just because the cashier made a mistake.

Hanna (Hanna), Thursday, 4 November 2004 13:29 (twenty years ago)

But then you could hide the alarm in people's bags so they set the bells off when they walk out and distract the security guards. Meanwhile, you nick other unalarmed stuff!

Madchen (Madchen), Thursday, 4 November 2004 13:49 (twenty years ago)

"Even finding a simple thing, like a T-shirt I'd like to wear, can take me ages. Being 25, I don't want to go after the latest youth fashion anymore, but neither do I want to like an "adult", someone who's finally given up and started to dress like his dad does."

OTM

The styles I find I like best are actually closer to what my grandfather would have worn, ironically (knit crew neck sweaters, dark cords, brown comfort shoes, etc.) I can never find shoes because I have wide feet, and shirts are always either way too big or too tight (I have a very slight gut). Pants are also usually too big, even the so-called "straight leg" styles.

Hurting (Hurting), Thursday, 4 November 2004 14:15 (twenty years ago)

i love clothes shopping

i used to hate nothing more though.

i used to have lots of trouble finding things i liked, but then i realised i was just in the wrong stores. the right stores are more expensive, but the experience is so much more enjoyable that i really dont mind spending a little extra for something that makes me feel good.

todd swiss (eliti), Thursday, 4 November 2004 22:20 (twenty years ago)

DOn't those alarms spew ink all over the clothing if you try and remove them?

Trayce (trayce), Thursday, 4 November 2004 22:53 (twenty years ago)

I've found stores like Old Navy or Target have very inconsistent sizes, like if I try on several size L's in the same shirt, some will be big, and some will be tiny. So I guess that's what you get for the price. Shitty clothes.

I have a problem with shirts not being long enough for me. I also have a problem with a lot of coats/tops/etc. accomodating my chest. Oh and jeans accomodating my ass. I guess I'm just fat, nevermind.

planescapin' 'til dawn (Homosexual II), Thursday, 4 November 2004 23:07 (twenty years ago)

Alarm removed successfully in the store - I found the receipt eventually so it was painless!

To answer the original question, I love shopping for tops, skirts, sweaters. I hate shopping for jeans or other trousers - my legs are very short and my hips are very un-boyish. I have never, not once, tried on a pair of trousers that fit!

Hanna (Hanna), Thursday, 4 November 2004 23:15 (twenty years ago)

All clothes are shit. Fun barriers.

I hate shopping. I hate the big wopping store fronts with names like Paz and Wenk, the un-naturally straight hair of the pile of foundation that make up half the staff, the blobs of hair gel and squinty piggish eyes that make up the other . . . oh whoops a-fucking daisy forgot about the shrivelled old pruneish fifty something women who broadcast exactly the same feeling as when you were little and your mother used to slobber all over a handkerchief and then wipe your face with it.

I hate ALL t-shirts with anything written on them, shit and useless "coats", the fuckadaisical "Muzak" that seems to come from deep within the core of planet bland, that bizarre sensation when you find yourself looking at 60 pairs of old women's underwear AT THE SAME TIME, the vague and almost stealth placement of the tills, fat security guards, screaming hateful babies, teenage girls, teenage girls on phones, teenage girls talking, the ubiquity of the pre-packed sandwich, mirrors, the whole shop vibrating when a train goes past seventy feet below you . . . .

City centre shopping, especially for clothes is everything I hate. Which wierdly means that I'd find true happiness stealing things from fields.

Bernard the Butler (Lynskey), Thursday, 4 November 2004 23:27 (twenty years ago)

Oh yeah, forgot the terror of worrying that the clerks are making fun of you. Or worse yet, being pounced on the minute you walk in the door. Though I've found wearing great big huge fuck-you-leav-me-alone headphones takes care of the latter.

mouse (mouse), Friday, 5 November 2004 00:15 (twenty years ago)

Yeah, I really hate it. I have no natural interest in clothes. All of my friends are like "yeah, the clothes from such-and -such a label are really cool" and I just don't have a fucking clue what they're on about. It's nice to see that some other people are at least vaguely like-minded.

Wooden (Wooden), Friday, 5 November 2004 00:40 (twenty years ago)

I hate clothes shopping too. I'm 6'4" and although my waistline has been burgeoning slightly since I got married (not sure if it's related) I still have major problems finding clothes (mainly shirts/tops) that fit properly. I think it's because I have fairly thin shoulders. Large shirts are way too big but the sleeves aren't long enough on medium shirts. It sucks.

Also there is always a shortage of jeans in my size (W 32" L 34"). A lot of shops don't even have long leg jeans at all! The bastards.

Colonel Poo (Colonel Poo), Friday, 5 November 2004 10:48 (twenty years ago)

I generally like clothes shopping, but I can get disheartened really quickly. If I try something on & it doesn't fit it can be quite a knock back. When you have money to spend you can never find anything! I am trying to find a particular style of jeans at the moment & all I can find are bootcut! argh!
I don't like going into expensive boutiiquey style shops for the reasons mentioned above. If I do, I always try to remember that the assistants are earning about £8K & are in no way better than me, but it doesn't always help.

PinXorchiXoR (Pinkpanther), Friday, 5 November 2004 11:01 (twenty years ago)

I hate clothes shopping - I think I was traumatised as a boy. I remember my mum would sometimes take me to shops with no changing rooms but still insist I tried on clothes. I found this intensely embarassing (this was pre-adolescence, but you're awkward about you appearance at that age too. Teenagers don't have a monopoly on angst).

Also, I hate how hip people are in clothes shops. I want to yell "stop judging me!" at them. These days I wear my Dad's hand me downs and my brother's hand-me-ups.

Kevin Gilchrist (Mr Fusion), Friday, 5 November 2004 11:06 (twenty years ago)


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