I do.
― adam... (nordicskilla), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:12 (twenty years ago)
― adam... (nordicskilla), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:13 (twenty years ago)
It was still pretty interesting, though!
― adam... (nordicskilla), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:14 (twenty years ago)
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:15 (twenty years ago)
― n/a (Nick A.), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:15 (twenty years ago)
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:16 (twenty years ago)
― Wooden (Wooden), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:16 (twenty years ago)
― Jordan (Jordan), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:17 (twenty years ago)
xpost!
― Tep (ktepi), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:17 (twenty years ago)
― Jordan (Jordan), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:18 (twenty years ago)
― Cathy (Cathy), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:19 (twenty years ago)
however if they're not (a big music dork) then they will think you are weird and possibly rude
― amateur!!st, Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:20 (twenty years ago)
1. Buy a new CD (or several).2. Place purchase(s) on shelf at home.3. Look away, and then assume the mindset of a casually browsing houseguest.4. Look back at shelf.5. Make assumption about your own personality/taste based on what you now see.
― adam... (nordicskilla), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:21 (twenty years ago)
― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:22 (twenty years ago)
― kyle (akmonday), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:22 (twenty years ago)
― bulbs (bulbs), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:23 (twenty years ago)
― adam... (nordicskilla), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:23 (twenty years ago)
― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:24 (twenty years ago)
― bulbs (bulbs), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:25 (twenty years ago)
I've never done this with music (because I know I'm a music dork and I have what I have), but I do it with books, & comics.
― Jordan (Jordan), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:25 (twenty years ago)
i'd rather somebody looked through my ipod.
― Hari Ashurst (Toaster), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:27 (twenty years ago)
― n/a (Nick A.), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:27 (twenty years ago)
― adam... (nordicskilla), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:27 (twenty years ago)
― Ian John50n (orion), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:27 (twenty years ago)
― adam... (nordicskilla), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:28 (twenty years ago)
― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:29 (twenty years ago)
― n/a (Nick A.), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:29 (twenty years ago)
― jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:30 (twenty years ago)
(I don't think I've ever done that, as such. Definitely not with music. I remember saying something along those lines to my ex when we were moving and our books were all mixed in together and seemed mismatched, but that's only sort of similar, I think.)
xpost; I encourage people to look in my fridge!
― Tep (ktepi), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:30 (twenty years ago)
― Tep (ktepi), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:31 (twenty years ago)
― adam... (nordicskilla), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:31 (twenty years ago)
― adam... (nordicskilla), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:32 (twenty years ago)
― the surface noise (slight return) (electricsound), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:33 (twenty years ago)
― bob the plumber, Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:33 (twenty years ago)
― Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:34 (twenty years ago)
― bulbs (bulbs), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:34 (twenty years ago)
― the surface noise (slight return) (electricsound), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:34 (twenty years ago)
― bulbs (bulbs), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:35 (twenty years ago)
I do this all the time btw.
― Alex in SF (Alex in SF), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:36 (twenty years ago)
― the surface noise (slight return) (electricsound), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:36 (twenty years ago)
I have almost 100gb of MP3s though!
― adam... (nordicskilla), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:38 (twenty years ago)
― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:39 (twenty years ago)
― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:42 (twenty years ago)
― Alex in SF (Alex in SF), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:43 (twenty years ago)
― choo choo the herky jerky dancer (papa november), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:43 (twenty years ago)
― RJG (RJG), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:44 (twenty years ago)
― adam... (nordicskilla), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:47 (twenty years ago)
― bulbs (bulbs), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:48 (twenty years ago)
It's good to peruse, I think.
― Cathy (Cathy), Tuesday, 9 November 2004 22:49 (twenty years ago)
I relish the idea of anyone doing it to me.
Because my record collection is fantastically impressing!
― Dan Selzer (Dan Selzer), Wednesday, 10 November 2004 16:55 (twenty years ago)
― cutty (mcutt), Wednesday, 10 November 2004 16:56 (twenty years ago)
Martin in owning-no-Beach-Boys-or-Beatles SHOCKA!
― JimD (JimD), Wednesday, 10 November 2004 17:11 (twenty years ago)
i don't let my friend joe borrow books or CDs anymore. he loses them or damages them or both. fucker. (seriously he's lost three books and two CDs in the past year. he is CUT OFF.)
― Ian John50n (orion), Wednesday, 10 November 2004 17:12 (twenty years ago)
But yeah, I don't see a problem with this. It's all about discovering if you have common tastes or common interests. Which isn't necessarily an indication of whether your relationship will be a success or not, but it's sure a good starting ground.
one thing I've discovered is that if I walk into a person's home and they don't have any books on display, I should walk right back out again, very quickly.
― Masonic Laundry Boom (kate), Wednesday, 10 November 2004 17:17 (twenty years ago)
My first thought on reading it was "Martin doesn't have any Beck" - this is a thing I always do when browsing alphabetically ordered collections, look for what *isn't* there as well as what is.
― Onimo (GerryNemo), Wednesday, 10 November 2004 17:25 (twenty years ago)
― JimD (JimD), Wednesday, 10 November 2004 17:37 (twenty years ago)
― The Grain of Sand in Lambeth That Satan Cannot Find (kate), Wednesday, 10 November 2004 17:38 (twenty years ago)
― 57 7th (calstars), Wednesday, 10 November 2004 20:05 (twenty years ago)
I own lots of Beach Boys on vinyl and cassette, in fact, but indeed no Beatles at all. Nor Beck, come to that.
― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Wednesday, 10 November 2004 20:12 (twenty years ago)
― Ian John50n (orion), Wednesday, 10 November 2004 22:44 (twenty years ago)
But nobody ever comes round to my apartment so I suppose it's all academic :-(
― Marcello Carlin, Thursday, 11 November 2004 08:38 (twenty years ago)
― Forksclovetofu (Forksclovetofu), Thursday, 11 November 2004 08:39 (twenty years ago)
bookcase isn't really indicative either as it mostly contains things i haven't read (yet) whereas everything i've read in the last 2 years is piled up in the bedroom.
part of me hates the 'you are what you buy' aspect to all this and i'm sure a lot of the people who'd rather spend money on travelling or drinking or crazy parties have more 'fun'. but i hate 'fun'. but i do it myself, looking through people's bookshelves. it's nice to have shared interests with people you like but it's not necessary.
― koogs (koogs), Thursday, 11 November 2004 09:23 (twenty years ago)
I'd rather be judged by my bookshelves and my record collection than by my clothes or the car I would hypothetically drive or some such nonsense like that.
― The Grain of Sand in Lambeth That Satan Cannot Find (kate), Thursday, 11 November 2004 11:10 (twenty years ago)
Ah, I suspected this might be the case. :)
but indeed no Beatles at all.
Me neither, as it happens.
― JimD (JimD), Thursday, 11 November 2004 14:43 (twenty years ago)
― Marcello Carlin, Thursday, 11 November 2004 14:56 (twenty years ago)
Still do it all the time, tho. Especially in lieu of conversation, because I have NO SOCIAL SKILLS WHATSOEVER. & it's just nosiness, I find it v. hard to draw any conclusions about anyone from their music taste (beyond eg 'he is kind of emo').
Scrolling through other people's itunes lists is somehow different: the whole downloading-or-ripping-only-certain-songs thing means it's much more specialised but oddly less satisfying.
― cis (cis), Thursday, 11 November 2004 15:08 (twenty years ago)
― JimD (JimD), Thursday, 11 November 2004 15:21 (twenty years ago)
― Maria (Maria), Thursday, 11 November 2004 16:54 (twenty years ago)
― Pleasant Plains (Pleasant Plains), Friday, 12 November 2004 05:08 (twenty years ago)
― oops (Oops), Friday, 12 November 2004 05:25 (twenty years ago)
― xx, Friday, 12 November 2004 05:50 (twenty years ago)
― xx, Friday, 12 November 2004 05:51 (twenty years ago)
She also used to like to unsolicitedly lean over in restaurants and cut my food. Suffice to say, I was glad to be rid of her.
― Alex in NYC (vassifer), Friday, 12 November 2004 06:53 (twenty years ago)
Guess before I do all that, I need to find some potential guests first.
― Pleasant Plains (Pleasant Plains), Friday, 12 November 2004 21:01 (twenty years ago)
― jay blanchard (jay blanchard), Friday, 12 November 2004 21:37 (twenty years ago)
This is worse than taking offense at Celtic Frost, I think.
― Ian John50n (orion), Friday, 12 November 2004 21:40 (twenty years ago)
― Ian John50n (orion), Friday, 12 November 2004 21:41 (twenty years ago)
OTM
― Formerly Lee G (Formerly Lee G), Friday, 12 November 2004 23:03 (twenty years ago)
― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Friday, 12 November 2004 23:49 (twenty years ago)
― Pleasant Plains (Pleasant Plains), Saturday, 13 November 2004 00:02 (twenty years ago)
No, there certainly isn't, but I agree with what I took to be the good Ms. Boom's basic point--you might be nice and decent person, but if you're not a reader at some level, we're probably not going to have much to talk about, and not just because that rules out talking about books.
― Formerly Lee G (Formerly Lee G), Saturday, 13 November 2004 00:20 (twenty years ago)
Yes there is. And what's wrong with them is that they have such a fundamentally different view on life and what is important in it that anything more than a casual pub conversation friendship with them is practically impossible for me.
OK, that doesn't necessarily mean that there is something *wrong* with them. It just means, from repeating past experience, that I'm not likely to have much in common with them.
― The Grain of Sand in Lambeth That Satan Cannot Find (kate), Saturday, 13 November 2004 11:44 (twenty years ago)
My CD's are stored in haphazard fashion, piled up on the floor, some in a shelf unit, some piled up in my wardrobe, some in storage boxes. I have entirely too many.
My book shelf is half comics.
― jel -- (jel), Saturday, 13 November 2004 14:25 (twenty years ago)
― youn, Saturday, 13 November 2004 14:27 (twenty years ago)
do you also have christian death's sex and drugs and jesus christ? and how much more repulsed would she have been from THAT album cover?
― Eisbär (llamasfur), Sunday, 14 November 2004 00:04 (twenty years ago)
WTF?!!? You dated someone who actually did this, Alex?!?!
― Alex in SF (Alex in SF), Sunday, 14 November 2004 00:13 (twenty years ago)
― Michael White (Hereward), Sunday, 14 November 2004 00:16 (twenty years ago)
― Alex in SF (Alex in SF), Sunday, 14 November 2004 00:18 (twenty years ago)
books/CDs are (to me)the most telling thing abt someone and can affect our relationship. If i hate stuff, it would not really have a serious impact if I liked the person/s but when you find stuff you like - like recently a whole Tintin collection next to cool lit. crit. stuff next to fun biographys and more and i've already been borrowing bollywood dvds and mohammed rafi cds and i just feel, gawd ilove you ppl
― H (Heruy), Sunday, 14 November 2004 00:19 (twenty years ago)
Strange but true, yes I did. I can remember the evening it happened. We were at some restaurant on the Upper East Side, and she was actually talking to someone else at the table at the time and -- apparently concerned that I wasn't eating fast enough or that I was having some difficulty navigating through my pepper steak (or whatever it was), she leaned over and started sawing away at it. At first I thought, "ah, she wants a bit of my food." This was not the case. She leaned back up and continued talking to whomever. I was instantly infantilized by this woman. Being that I don't harbour any Oedipal fetish, I was instantly repulsed and bewildered by this act. Still, she was rather "aggressive" in other departments, so I stuck with it for a little while. By the time of the Celtic Frost incident (cheers to you, Tom Gabriel Warrior - wherever you may be today), the writing was really already on the wall. It took the `Frost and Herr Giger to seal the deal, bless'em.
― Alex in NYC (vassifer), Sunday, 14 November 2004 00:34 (twenty years ago)
Visit any time, H. ;-)
Still, she was rather "aggressive" in other departments, so I stuck with it for a little while
So that explains the bleary-eyed look. And I thought it was just the baby.
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Sunday, 14 November 2004 00:36 (twenty years ago)
― Alex in NYC (vassifer), Sunday, 14 November 2004 00:36 (twenty years ago)
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Sunday, 14 November 2004 00:37 (twenty years ago)
― constance, Friday, 13 May 2005 16:31 (twenty years ago)
― constance, Friday, 13 May 2005 16:46 (twenty years ago)
― constance, Friday, 13 May 2005 16:50 (twenty years ago)
Because if they don't look at my books, then they might not realize that I am rilly rilly smart and all cultured 'n' shit.
― The Mad Puffin, Friday, 13 May 2005 16:53 (twenty years ago)