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Does this happen to you? Like, one-off things that fill you with a yick so intense you can never look at them that way again?

It has twice, to me. Once two years ago, when my "lost fourth member of atomic kitten" scallicrush came into my room really drunk after a ball and just sort of mumbled at my friend Dave and I as we were playing videogames. (We still refer to this in horror as "THE RED DRESS"). Also today, eating lunch, fire alarm goes off, indie fresher with silly hair jumps up and is all "ohmygod ohmygod", it was totally ghastly and sloanish :(. It wasn't that bad or anything, just this sudden revelation that she wasn't the person I'd projected onto her.

― Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Thursday, 13 January 2005 14:16 (twenty years ago)

With me it usually happens on the bus or on the tube; gorgeous, intelligent-looking woman gets on...then pulls out a copy of the Daily Mail and all is lost.

― Marcello Carlin, Thursday, 13 January 2005 14:24 (twenty years ago)

maybe she is reading it for the irony marcello

― ken c (ken c), Thursday, 13 January 2005 14:29 (twenty years ago)

my flatmate does this. he reads them and takes the piss out of each article. ok actually that's really annoying you've got a point.

― ken c (ken c), Thursday, 13 January 2005 14:29 (twenty years ago)

If she'd been reading the Daily Mau Mau that would have been a different matter

― Dadaismus (Dada), Thursday, 13 January 2005 14:30 (twenty years ago)

I hate it when girls I have a crush on turn up at my house drunk too

― Andrew Blood Thames (Andrew Thames), Thursday, 13 January 2005 14:34 (twenty years ago)

If she'd been reading my blog that would have been an extremely different manner!

(curiously I have occasionally seen people on public transport reading CoM/Maja/Koons printouts but they've all been blokes bleurgh...)

― Marcello Carlin, Thursday, 13 January 2005 14:36 (twenty years ago)

NICE GIRLS DON'T DRINK

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Thursday, 13 January 2005 14:36 (twenty years ago)

"extremely different matter" perhaps

― Marcello Carlin, Thursday, 13 January 2005 14:36 (twenty years ago)

In the morning when i wake up and the beer's worn off.

― lucifer, Thursday, 13 January 2005 14:37 (twenty years ago)

this often happens to me after i make out with them.

― mark p (Mark P), Thursday, 13 January 2005 15:07 (twenty years ago)

I hate it when girls I have a crush on turn up at my house drunk too

~~perfect scenario surelyyyyy wahey hubba hubba woooo+~~ yeah. a turn off really when they're real drunk and you're not.

― ken c (ken c), Thursday, 13 January 2005 15:11 (twenty years ago)

I get the Daily Mail thing too. I go from fancying someone to being profoundly depressed by their very existence within seconds.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Thursday, 13 January 2005 15:15 (twenty years ago)

but you guys can turn them with your look and charm, into non-daily mail reading citizens.

― ken c (ken c), Thursday, 13 January 2005 15:23 (twenty years ago)

finding out they're a scientologist works well for this

― lolita corpus (lolitacorpus), Thursday, 13 January 2005 19:38 (twenty years ago)

this used to happen to me constantly. i would have a giant crush on someone, start dating them, like them for 15 minutes, then PURE FIERY HATRED!

― Emilymv (Emilymv), Thursday, 13 January 2005 19:51 (twenty years ago)

i find it disturbing and sad, that humanity can be so cruelly unforgiving as you lot

― John (jdahlem), Thursday, 13 January 2005 19:54 (twenty years ago)

I was once making out with this girl on her couch when her roommate's cat jumped and batted the window blinds. I sat up, going "What was that?" She said, "my roommate's cat," before settling back down and saying "Sometimes I feel like I'm living in a black person's house."

The cat's name being "Dixie" should've tipped me off.

― Pleasant Plains /// (Pleasant Plains ///), Thursday, 13 January 2005 19:55 (twenty years ago)

wait, clue in this american: what's the diff between the Mail, the Mirror, and the Telegraph again?

― kingfish (Kingfish), Thursday, 13 January 2005 20:05 (twenty years ago)

once for me it was a sweater. i really liked this guy, then he picked me up to go out and was wearing the ugliest sweater ever. and not in an ironic way. it had 3 giant golf-men in mid swing appliqued on the front. vomitous!

― Emilymv (Emilymv), Thursday, 13 January 2005 20:10 (twenty years ago)

OK see that is ok PP but a fucking SWEATER??

― John (jdahlem), Thursday, 13 January 2005 20:14 (twenty years ago)

i mean that's seinfeld fodder.

― John (jdahlem), Thursday, 13 January 2005 20:14 (twenty years ago)

Mail: "SKIVING IMMIGRANTS RAPE PILLAGE AND DRIVE UP HOUSE PRICES"
Mirror: "EFFICIENT LABOUR POLICY CUTS IMMIGRATION FRAUD"
Telegraph: "MMPFFHH HMMF CRICKET WHERE ARE MY TEETH"

― Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Thursday, 13 January 2005 20:16 (twenty years ago)

well after seeing that sweater i knew our relationship could go nowhere. clearly we had nothing in common. he may as well have bitten the head off of a puppy in front of my face or bludgeoned a kitten.

― Emilymv (Emilymv), Thursday, 13 January 2005 20:18 (twenty years ago)

the teenage girls of every bus stop and shopping centa' in the land are experiencing this over Harry as we speak

― lukey (Lukey G), Friday, 14 January 2005 10:46 (twenty years ago)

Probably not, though.

― Matt (Matt), Friday, 14 January 2005 11:44 (twenty years ago)

I mean, it didn't work for Busted turning out to be Tories, did it?

― Masonic Boom-Boom (kate), Friday, 14 January 2005 11:45 (twenty years ago)

Right Wing is where it's at

― Dadaismus (Dada), Friday, 14 January 2005 11:47 (twenty years ago)

Mmm, but Matt retracted the Tory comment as a joke almost immediately after.

I wish my instantly-stopping-fancying-people senses worked better. :(

― cis (cis), Friday, 14 January 2005 11:49 (twenty years ago)

the right wing thing certainly didn't work for the spice girls.

― Marcello Carlin, Friday, 14 January 2005 11:54 (twenty years ago)

I think this happened to someone I know earlier this year.

― papa november (papa november), Friday, 14 January 2005 12:10 (twenty years ago)

this often happens to me after i make out with them.
-- mark p (mark.p****...), January 13th, 2005.

mark otm, as ever.

At Christmas my sister was talking to me about a big crush I've had lately and she said "well the main thing is, aswell as really liking her of course, that you just think she's such a nice and wonderful person"

These words have HAUNTED me since.

― Ronan (Ronan), Friday, 14 January 2005 12:55 (twenty years ago)

It's only happened to me once. When I was living in Manchester I used to go to the Star & Garter every Saturday night and crush across the room at a lovely looking chap with floppy hair and big brown eyes, codenamed BEB (Brown Eyed Boy). One night, I was at the bar and !!!!! he came over to talk to me !!!!! and the second he opened his mouth I saw the state of his teeth, which were of the v.v.crooked variety and then his voice came out and it was dreary and monotonous and then I heard the words which proved he was k-thick. A few months later, I was flicking through the pages of Select and there was BEB staring out at me. His indie band were fairly well known in an indie kind of way, but not that big really. And that is the story of the one time this has happened to me.

― Madchen (Madchen), Friday, 14 January 2005 13:46 (twenty years ago)

Hahaha. You fancied someone in Northern Uproar, didn't you?

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Friday, 14 January 2005 14:24 (twenty years ago)

Fall of 2003.

Call it off with long-time on-again, off-again girlfriend. Have a fling with new girl that lasts about 4 months. New girl breaks up with me by phone with the worst sort of art-student platitudes, i.e. the kind guys usually use on girls. This gets drawn out and morphs into an email flame war, at which point I realize that she's:

a) not one-tenth as nice as I thought
and
b) a bit of a self-serving asshole, really,

ergo,

REPULSION SQUARED.

― Tantrum The Cat (Tantrum The Cat), Friday, 14 January 2005 16:03 (twenty years ago)

This happens to me all the freakin' time. Usually only with people I diddn't really know well at all (I think if you knew someone the projected fantasy of what they are wouldn't be so easily dismissed by one little incident). There was this boy I had a horrendous crush on (to the point that I was stalking him in a frightening way) and then I made a literary joke to him and he didn't get it. Ergo, he doesn't read books. :( Etc.

― mouse (mouse), Friday, 14 January 2005 16:32 (twenty years ago)

ronan, i'm confused, did you make out with your crushee?

― mark p (Mark P), Friday, 14 January 2005 16:33 (twenty years ago)

has anyone been on the other end of this argument? I know I have.

You are aware that someone holds a torch for you, you like them too, dates are arranged, anticipation is mounting, the date happens, it's over, they never call you ever again.

(sorry bout the commas)

― Ste (Fuzzy), Friday, 14 January 2005 16:38 (twenty years ago)

This used to happen to me a lot. I would idealise my crushes to such an extent that even when they did something even slightly wrong I just couldn't go on liking them.

― Leon the Fatboy (Ex Leon), Friday, 14 January 2005 16:44 (twenty years ago)

You are aware that someone holds a torch for you, you like them too, dates are arranged, anticipation is mounting, the date happens, it's over, they never call you ever again.

The variation on this is that you have a mutual crush with the hottie that works at your local pub / coffee house / lunch spot / whatver. You find all kinds of stuff to talk / flirt about during the business transaction, but when he/she finally meets up with you at some other spot you can't find ANYTHING to say to each other. Ack.

― Tantrum The Cat (Tantrum The Cat), Friday, 14 January 2005 16:45 (twenty years ago)

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