I am SO SICK of my job. Should I become a waiter?

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Right now I'm driving a truck that delivers food to prisons. The novelty of this job has effectively worn off in a big way, so much so that I now dread waking up for work in the mornings. My wife works at a chain restaraunt (doesn't matter which one) and she makes more money than I do. I've always been against 'work friends,' but everyone at her job is some combination of really cool and really nice. Because I have to pick her up from work all the time, I usally end up having some drinks there. I mentioned casually to some of her co-workers that maybe I oughta work there. A few of them really encouraged me, swore they'd help me learn the menu, etc etc etc. Plus, I'd be working similar hours as my wife and we'd be able to spend more time together. The money will almost definitely be better, and so will the hours. And I won't have to work with passive aggressive assholes.

Here's the problem. I'm not, nor have I ever been, a 'people person.' I've never waited tables and haven't even worked in any kind of 'service' capacity since I was 14 and fired from Taco Bell. My reasoning for not becoming a waiter before was always "because I'll end up in jail before the night is over." I don't much enjoy the classism of such a job - the feeling that you owe somebody something because you're wearing an apron and taking their food order. I don't wanna commit to it and then punk out, you know? Or, worse, knock out some smug father of three because he snapped his fingers at me and wind up arrested. Ya know?

Roger Fidelity (Roger Fidelity), Saturday, 12 February 2005 18:59 (twenty years ago)

Er. No. If you can't get over the fact that you are being hired to be a servant for the hours you work, then you probably shouldn't even bother.

And working at the same place as your missus, baaad idea.

Kevan (Kevan), Saturday, 12 February 2005 19:10 (twenty years ago)

I'd agree with Kevan. Change jobs, but not to be a waiter. Can you cook?

paulhw (paulhw), Saturday, 12 February 2005 20:13 (twenty years ago)

get a job you want, not one you don't not want, yeah?

caitlin oh no (caitxa1), Saturday, 12 February 2005 20:14 (twenty years ago)

Most people I worked with waiting tables weren't people-persons. No one likes the customers, everyone goes in the back cursing them out. It all depends on how nice you can act in front of them. Smile, nod and hate them in your head. You don't need to be their friend to make decent money - get the order out correctly, keep drinks refilled and cruise on your 15%.

I'd say go for it and if things don't work out they don't work out - except that it could reflect badly on your wife and screw with her shifts.

milozauckerman (miloaukerman), Saturday, 12 February 2005 20:21 (twenty years ago)

I worked in the same office as my wife for seven years and we're still together. But it wasn't easy AT ALL.

The Obligatory Sourpuss (Begs2Differ), Saturday, 12 February 2005 20:27 (twenty years ago)

Yeah, since posting this, actually, Wifey has stated under no uncertain terms that she doesn't want me working there. "You'll kill somebody" was her initial reason, then "you may even kill me." I'm mulling it over...it's this or finally start the distro...

Roger Fidelity (Roger Fidelity), Saturday, 12 February 2005 20:46 (twenty years ago)

I worked in the same office as my wife for seven years and we're still together. But it wasn't easy AT ALL.

Especially every time the wacky officemate came through with his catchphrase and followed by disembodied looped laughter.

Ned Raggett (Ned), Saturday, 12 February 2005 20:47 (twenty years ago)

hey rog, what's really wrong with the truck driving job? sounds good to me.

hstencil (hstencil), Saturday, 12 February 2005 20:52 (twenty years ago)

It WAS good, for a while. It was different, interesting, etc. But lately, the people I work with are really getting on my nerves. It's actually a long story. Let me reply to Kevan and then post the current job situation, if yr interested...

Kevan - I certainly don't think of the waiter / waitress as a 'servant' when I go out to eat, not at all. I sorta think of it as, 'well, right now, you're on THAT side of the table, but next time we meet, I may very well be bringing YOU the chips and salsa.' Besides, having a waitress wife makes you appreciate the, er, profession. I'm never mean to waiters or waitresses.

Roger Fidelity (Roger Fidelity), Saturday, 12 February 2005 20:56 (twenty years ago)

OK - so there are four of us at my job. Usually we each work alone, but sometimes, for big jobs, we work in pairs, sometimes even in fours.

My boss is legally blind and cannot drive but still insists on working despite owning the compamny (he's also in a Christian rock band but that's a whole other thread). Anyway, I usually get paired up with my boss and have to drive him around, which I don't mind TOO much, because he's a really nice guy, and we can talk music. But the dude works notoriously S L O W. So slow that he literally slows you down. Like, if we encounter five vending machines at the prison, chances are good I'll fill four and then STILL have to wait around for him to finish. I just generally resign myself to the fact that I'll be pulling all teh weight when I work with Floyd. This, naturally, cuts down on our, er, productivity. So the work falls on the other two guys.

Now, one thing I don't do at work is slack. I figure time goes faster when you're working then when you're shuffling your feet, trying to kill time, clockwatching. But this other team - who I've always gotten along famously with - have started to resent my boss. So, in spite, they've been working in granny gear all fucking week. They told me as much. "We're gonna take Friday off and leave you and Floyd with all the work at Brushy Mountain," they'll say, or "See this? (imitates man walking through quicksand) - that's the speed I'm working at today." Now, don't get the wrong idea - these are hardworking people. Whenever I've worked with them, we split the work evenly, they never leave me with more than my share. But they're taking out their gripes againts my boss on me.

So, Friday, I got fed up. We were all at one prison, and I ended up doing the lion's share of the work. They left work unfinished for me to do, skipped out early, and generally wasted time. I've always hated passive aggressive behavior, so rather than smile and seethe, I confronted them. "This is fucked up, fellas," i said, "and you have some balls complaining about how much work you do when I get stuck with Floyd every day." I didn't expect them to take such exception to this, but the guys who formerly have always bveen sweet as pie to me were suddenly telling me to go fuck myself and hanging it over my head that I was out for four days with the flu. To be honest, I really didn't expect that kind of anger from them. They denied working slower than usual, and even claimed that they worked 'circles' around me. More words were exchanged before dismissive, disgusted waves of the hand effectively ended the argument and we each drove off in different directions.

Now, things are VERY awkward. This was our last contact, and I'm working with both of them Monday. That's the story.

Roger Fidelity (Roger Fidelity), Saturday, 12 February 2005 21:09 (twenty years ago)

roger you are liek the fat guy in the king of queens

self-obsessedmofo, Saturday, 12 February 2005 23:31 (twenty years ago)

hahahah. yeah. working class fat dude with a hot ass wife. I'll buy that.

Roger Fidelity (Roger Fidelity), Sunday, 13 February 2005 01:26 (twenty years ago)

there are lots of Chili's, no?

Who did release magic family out from the base of $499 (deangulberry), Sunday, 13 February 2005 01:56 (twenty years ago)

Vending machines in prisons? You should slip in razorblades and porn, I think.

Remy (x Jeremy), Sunday, 13 February 2005 01:58 (twenty years ago)

Who did - How'd you know it was Chilis?? But anyway...I'd wanna work at THAT one, because a) it's close to home, and b) it'd be an easy in since I already know everyone there

Remy - you'd be amazed how well these prisoners live. Anyway, I gotta pass through a metal detector and get patted down every time I enter.

Roger Fidelity (Roger Fidelity), Sunday, 13 February 2005 02:07 (twenty years ago)

Wild guess. Anyhow, why don't you become a bartender? You don't have to be terribly nice if the place is decent.

Who did release magic family out from the base of $499 (deangulberry), Sunday, 13 February 2005 02:28 (twenty years ago)

The only time I've tended bar is for family parties. I'm not officially 'qualified' and dudes at Chilis have been working there for over a year before they let them even train behind the bar

Truthfully, I'd rather not work at all. Seriously considering starting a distro. I really hate leaving the house.

Roger Fidelity (Roger Fidelity), Sunday, 13 February 2005 02:52 (twenty years ago)

can you talk with the other guys about how taking out their gripes on the boss, also makes things worse for you?

Stringent Stepper (Stringent), Sunday, 13 February 2005 09:17 (twenty years ago)

"Plus, I'd be working similar hours as my wife and we'd be able to spend more time together. "

This could be a good thing but for most it's VERY difficult. My parents do it and I also have my husband with me (7 days a week). Trust me, it's something you have to learn. Especially when you're both in a bad mood. :-)

stevie nixed (stevie nixed), Sunday, 13 February 2005 10:13 (twenty years ago)

You should slip in razorblades and porn, I think.

Or razorblade porn

caitlin (caitlin), Sunday, 13 February 2005 15:00 (twenty years ago)

I say that if your boss isn't pulling his own weight, however unintentional it may be, and your co-workers aren't up to speed, however nefarious their reasons are, it's not up to you to bust your ass and work twice as hard. Don't try to be the hero in a freakin' prison vending machine operation.

I try to put forth an above-average work ethic as well, but only when the benefactors are deserving of it and have earned it.

Pleasant Plains /// (Pleasant Plains ///), Sunday, 13 February 2005 18:56 (twenty years ago)

Good advice Pleasant Plains - but what are my options, really? Slow down? Do my 25% and then wait around for the others to finish? We'd NEVER get done and the waiting would be tedious.

Roger Fidelity (Roger Fidelity), Sunday, 13 February 2005 19:16 (twenty years ago)

certainly don't think of the waiter / waitress as a 'servant' when I go out to eat, not at all.

That's exactly what will make it so galling when you realize that your perspective is not widely shared by your customers.

What would starting a distro involve?

Paul Eater (eater), Monday, 14 February 2005 02:14 (twenty years ago)

not too much - just a big chunk of capital to get started. But I'm really good about mailing stuff out with the label and eBay (8 years, 100% positive fb) - plus, I understand how 'wholesale=profit' works, having been a buyer at a record store. I just have a few reservations. Still, with my job the way it is, and looming band / tour activity, I'm gonna need to find an 'alternative' method of paying the rent, but like anything that's not hourly pay or salary, it's risky, ya know?

Roger Fidelity (Roger Fidelity), Monday, 14 February 2005 02:20 (twenty years ago)


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