Advice on what to do about someone from your real life who is now stalking you on ilx?

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Hi gang,

Someone from my real life has turned up on ilx, reading all my old threads and basically harassing me using "juicy" nuggests they dug up on here.

Any advice from people who have dealt with this before?

― logged out, Monday, 7 March 2005 03:24 (twenty-one years ago)

don't post any more juicy nuggets?

― jbr (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 7 March 2005 03:27 (twenty-one years ago)

i want you to know about all the crazy shit i do :(

― green uno skip card (ex machina), Monday, 7 March 2005 03:30 (twenty-one years ago)

http://www.backyardburgers.com/currentnews/images/chkntendertext1.gif

― green uno skip card (ex machina), Monday, 7 March 2005 03:32 (twenty-one years ago)

Ideally, I'd like to convince them not to care.

― green uno skip card (ex machina), Monday, 7 March 2005 03:41 (twenty-one years ago)

a) do you know who this person is?

b) how embarrassing is the juicy stuff?

if you play your cards right, in the end they'll come out looking like the stalker loser they are.

― Gear! (can Jung shill it, Mu?) (Gear!), Monday, 7 March 2005 03:44 (twenty-one years ago)

I went through the same thing when i was at school except i started martial arts at the age of 4 but hated to fight. I got picked on everyday because i was chunky until i just couldnt take it anymore. I agree you should try and find a peaceful way out but if you cant (and sometimes you cant) fight him dirty! Dont let him land the first punch, use the element of surprise and hit him first, kick through his knee. If that fails atack vital areas liek eyes, ears, throat and groin. No boxer no matter how tough they are can handle you sticking your finger in his eye or tearing off his ear! The last thing a buly thinks you will do is hit him first. Dont rely on technique in this situation, he already trains and even if you start now he already has more experience, if you rely on technique his might be better so rely on your instinct. If you cant avoid it, hurt him so he wets his pants for the rest of his life when he thinks of you! Give him one from me too! haha

― f--gg (gcannon), Monday, 7 March 2005 03:52 (twenty-one years ago)

a) yes

b) just mild confessional stories posted to ilx about stupid college shit, possibly involving people she knows

― green uno skip card (ex machina), Monday, 7 March 2005 03:55 (twenty-one years ago)

seriously tho, it may be a little embarrassing but but if you shrug that off and say, "you are a creepy fucking loser" real dismissively when other people are around, it'd do the trick.

― f--gg (gcannon), Monday, 7 March 2005 03:56 (twenty-one years ago)

I am human, and I need to be loved.

― "STALKER", Monday, 7 March 2005 04:06 (twenty-one years ago)

GASP

― djdee (djdee2005), Monday, 7 March 2005 04:08 (twenty-one years ago)

haha whoa

― f--gg (gcannon), Monday, 7 March 2005 04:11 (twenty-one years ago)

Get a puppy.

― Remy (null) (x Jeremy), Monday, 7 March 2005 04:12 (twenty-one years ago)

should i just post a link to her livejournal?

― green uno skip card (ex machina), Monday, 7 March 2005 04:18 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm not your stalker whoever you are. Just funnin'. Didn't think anyone would take it seriously.

― "STALKER", Monday, 7 March 2005 04:19 (twenty-one years ago)

LIVE JRNL JUSTICE. Go for it.

― Matt Chesnut, Monday, 7 March 2005 04:20 (twenty-one years ago)

Get one puppy.

― Aaron A., Monday, 7 March 2005 04:22 (twenty-one years ago)

GET ONE CHICKS ON SPEED ALBUM

You could send her a mix with EVERY version of "Mind Your Own Business" on it. Delta 5, Chicks on Speed X2, Le Shok, Pigface, etc. Also see Hank Williams, Sr. "Mind Your Own Business," cause if you mind your own business, then you won't be minding mine.

Alternately, just tell her, MIND YR OWN BUSINESS! Seriously. People should just learn to mind their own business.

― daria g (daria g), Monday, 7 March 2005 04:32 (twenty-one years ago)

http://www.livejournal.com/users/newmaryjane/

― green uno skip card (ex machina), Monday, 7 March 2005 04:49 (twenty-one years ago)

TS: wizardishungry vs. and it's all in the delivery

― Remy (null) (x Jeremy), Monday, 7 March 2005 04:58 (twenty-one years ago)

Hm is this really wise and/or fair Jon? I mean I know LJ is public anyway but ...meehh... this seems weird.

― Trayce (trayce), Monday, 7 March 2005 05:09 (twenty-one years ago)

Goddamn, am I glad that when I was that age we didn't have the option of making our journals "live." See, Wizard Is Hungry is cool, whereas in a few years Ms. Livejournal will be busy trying to pretend her secret ~~goth~~ emo shame never existed.

― daria g (daria g), Monday, 7 March 2005 05:26 (twenty-one years ago)

well, i think its not quite kosher to try to purposefully unearth old shit on people via googlism

― green uno skip card (ex machina), Monday, 7 March 2005 05:29 (twenty-one years ago)

Well yeah thats true too.

I am glad LJ wasnt around when I was a teen too daria! I cringe enough reading my written journals/terrible slashfic (it wasnt even called that, once of a time). In fact its a good thing the internet wasnt commercial then at all - I would never have passed high school.

― Trayce (trayce), Monday, 7 March 2005 05:32 (twenty-one years ago)

I should point out i meant journals/slash I wrote as a TEEN... I dont write crap like that now for the love of jeebus.

― Trayce (trayce), Monday, 7 March 2005 05:33 (twenty-one years ago)

oh, c'mon fessup. we know you still do!

― latebloomer: my cats are wobderful (latebloomer), Monday, 7 March 2005 05:52 (twenty-one years ago)

Don't get hung up on it, don't make a fuss, on ILX or elsewhere. Just back away slowly from the person trying not to make any sudden moves, and do the best that you can to ignore them.

I speak from experience, trust me...

― Masonic Cathedral (kate), Monday, 7 March 2005 16:51 (twenty-one years ago)

There's nothing you can do. Tough shit. If you don't want real life people finding shit out then not posting it on a website read by hundreds if not thousands of people seems like a good start.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Monday, 7 March 2005 16:56 (twenty-one years ago)

post a picture of her tits.jpg here

― ken c (ken c), Monday, 7 March 2005 17:04 (twenty-one years ago)

Is it the girl whose boobs you had on the desktop that you posted here and told everyone that owner of said tits posted here? You reap waht you sow, dude.

― Markelby (Mark C), Monday, 7 March 2005 17:22 (twenty-one years ago)

Shut up, faggot.

― Just pre-empting Jon's reaction (Mark C), Monday, 7 March 2005 17:23 (twenty-one years ago)

In defense of livejournal, it is a good means to keep in contact with people without having to call them or send them a letter or something.

In defense of sane reality however, livejournal is a big weepy circle jerk.

― David Allen (David Allen), Monday, 7 March 2005 17:29 (twenty-one years ago)

and not in a cool, tear filled circle jerk way

― David Allen (David Allen), Monday, 7 March 2005 17:29 (twenty-one years ago)

Kate, this is Jon we are talking about. He will make a fuss and get all Callumy on us.

― Mr Noodles (Mr Noodles), Monday, 7 March 2005 17:34 (twenty-one years ago)

Time: 12:55 am

NO ONE CAN OUT-STALK ME

i'm fucking serious; i'm a total creep.
comments: Leave a comment

Gotta respect honesty.

― Jordan (Jordan), Monday, 7 March 2005 17:38 (twenty-one years ago)

You know you could just rent a billboard next to the nearest freeway detailing your juiciest of nuggets. Thus rendering any cyber-stalking efforts fruitless.

― Thermo Thinwall (Thermo Thinwall), Monday, 7 March 2005 17:39 (twenty-one years ago)

Ted Hitler

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Monday, 7 March 2005 19:13 (twenty-one years ago)

daria g is about as right as right gets, here.

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Monday, 7 March 2005 19:13 (twenty-one years ago)

this is just some person from my real life who feels entitled to stalk me on the internet

― green uno skip card (ex machina), Monday, 7 March 2005 20:46 (twenty-one years ago)

Taking Sides: real-life friends following you around the internet, or internet friends stalking you in real life?

― caitlin (caitlin), Monday, 7 March 2005 22:50 (twenty-one years ago)

stalk the stalker!

― eman (eman), Monday, 7 March 2005 23:20 (twenty-one years ago)

"We called all the hospitals, you weren't in any of them!"

― Don't Ever Antagonize The Horny (AaronHz), Monday, 7 March 2005 23:25 (twenty-one years ago)

omg that girl is friends with one of my friends. craaaaazy coincidence.

― Maria (Maria), Tuesday, 8 March 2005 00:36 (twenty-one years ago)

this is the kind of thing that makes me think i should stop saying shit about people here just in case.

― Maria (Maria), Tuesday, 8 March 2005 00:40 (twenty-one years ago)

deltete thread

― green uno skip card (ex machina), Tuesday, 8 March 2005 07:37 (twenty-one years ago)

jon, seriously this happened to me, it started with some friend of my ex's googling me and then emailing him every. single. post. i've ever made on ilx (like this was three years ago though). then it went to the ex (who was not ex at that point) obsessively reading ilx and bringing up shit (??? not even like juicy stories i posted, we're talking like him sinisterly asking me about why i posted i liked xyz song or some shit), and kind of culminated with a series of weird anonymous harrassments on here and via email (the emails were easy to trace back to his school so it wasn't hard to figure out the sources), like rape porn and hentai in my email constantly and a couple weird ass posts on ilx about forced blow jobs with my emails in the post that i had to bother poor sean c to delete. anyway after that they seemed to get bored of it, because i was just ignoring them and not replying at all so i'd say there's nothing you can really do besides just ignore it and maybe cut off contact with the person if they keep up with it (i'd say posting a lj or a thread about it doesn't qualify as ignoring so maybe ignore it from this point forward)

― Allyzay Dallas Multi-Pass (allyzay), Tuesday, 8 March 2005 16:26 (twenty-one years ago)

two years pass...

I never learn

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 22 March 2007 22:12 (nineteen years ago)

I want you,
with you clothes OFF.
I will stalk you down, till I get every ounce of clothes off of your body.

You know you want me...and these juicy morsels were not as juicy as what you will be like soon, after you give in to my wishes and desires...
Gosh, I can't wait...you will soon be jello in my arms....melting by the heat of our passion.

― marissa, Thursday, 22 March 2007 22:41 (nineteen years ago)

yOu mr. poet will give in to me soon...
acquiese to my wishes....

take off every ounce of your clothing....

come to my home ....
give up your defenses....

I loved your poems...your phone calls in the middle of the evening..
your voice..your poetry.....

I want you soon...

I long for you..................

I love you!

― marissa, Thursday, 22 March 2007 22:43 (nineteen years ago)

you soon him

― estela, Thursday, 22 March 2007 22:44 (nineteen years ago)

oh dear

― Shakey Mo Collier, Thursday, 22 March 2007 22:44 (nineteen years ago)

i am going to do more then soon him, that is why he is upset....
because he is so madly in love with me....and he is hopefully frustrated....

but he will give in soon...the ten million is waiting for him in my bed....

― marissa, Thursday, 22 March 2007 22:45 (nineteen years ago)

hi marissa, call me :D

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 22 March 2007 22:47 (nineteen years ago)

http://img368.imageshack.us/img368/7048/13oo4.gif

― Pleasant Plains, Thursday, 22 March 2007 22:48 (nineteen years ago)

Joachim baby, don't get mad...you know you want me..don't be coy...
don't pretend that you think this is harassment...

Give in....

take off all your clothes...and do it off the net in the real world....

soon!!!!!!!!!!!!

― marissa, Thursday, 22 March 2007 22:48 (nineteen years ago)

forks said he called he drunk last night.

― chaki, Thursday, 22 March 2007 22:50 (nineteen years ago)

My advice to you Joachim,

TAKE ALL YOUR CLOTHES OFF FOR ME SOON IN MY HOME.....

― marissa, Thursday, 22 March 2007 22:51 (nineteen years ago)

Can we definitely agree this is fake Marissa now?

Although: the ten million is waiting for ~~him~~hoos in my ~~bed~~steen

DAMN YOU LACK-OF-DISPLAY-NAME

― BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Thursday, 22 March 2007 22:52 (nineteen years ago)

you are luscious Joachim.

Thankyou for that luscious poetry...it was so juicy...but not as juicy as I will be in your arms .....
soon...

― marissa, Thursday, 22 March 2007 22:52 (nineteen years ago)

forks obv left her a poem on her machine last night.

― chaki, Thursday, 22 March 2007 22:53 (nineteen years ago)

Joachim knows it is me.....

I am hot for him......he was such a luscious man..and his poetry is such a turn on....

He will be here soon...more then scantily clad in my bedroom.

― marissa, Thursday, 22 March 2007 22:53 (nineteen years ago)

No ...this is Joachim who left the poetry on IXl

and he wants me....

he will surrender his will soon....

he will be totally unclothed in my bed soon enough.

― marissa, Thursday, 22 March 2007 22:55 (nineteen years ago)

this is the same man that called me 2 in the morning...telling me that he loved my voice....in a sexy tone....

wrote the poetry .....
got angry with me....

Joachim,
you are hot....

you are very hot...

― marissa, Thursday, 22 March 2007 22:58 (nineteen years ago)

I WANT TO BELIEVE

― forksclovetofu, Monday, 26 March 2007 04:48 (nineteen years ago)

this is the same man that called me 2 in the morning...telling me that he loved my voice....in a sexy tone....

drunk, obv.

― Drooone, Monday, 26 March 2007 04:50 (nineteen years ago)

OMGWTF
http://www.ilxor.com/ILX/ThreadSelectedControllerServlet?boardid=41&threadid=56836#unread

― Hurting 2, Monday, 26 March 2007 04:52 (nineteen years ago)

Forks, you're fake Marissa aren't you.

― Hurting 2, Monday, 26 March 2007 04:53 (nineteen years ago)

Joachim,
you are hot....

you are very hot...

http://static.flickr.com/44/142116969_466e40c109_o.jpg

― Curt1s Stephens, Monday, 26 March 2007 04:53 (nineteen years ago)

tracy's stages of grief: fear, denial, horniness, wisdom, sleepiness, depression.

― marmotwolof, Monday, 26 March 2007 04:57 (nineteen years ago)

It's like she's reverse stalking me. I see a good thriller plot in this.

― Hurting 2, Monday, 26 March 2007 05:37 (nineteen years ago)

stop posting replies to her every 10 minutes. just stop.

― chaki, Monday, 26 March 2007 05:40 (nineteen years ago)

yeah

― Hurting 2, Monday, 26 March 2007 05:41 (nineteen years ago)

I still say 50% chance it's a fake Marissa.

― Hurting 2, Monday, 26 March 2007 05:45 (nineteen years ago)

for all this time?

― marmotwolof, Monday, 26 March 2007 05:47 (nineteen years ago)

Just the "You're Joachim" stuff.

I dunno though, it's a pretty obsessive prank if it's a prank.

― Hurting 2, Monday, 26 March 2007 05:48 (nineteen years ago)

Apparently the proof I'm him has something to do with me "knowing" that Joachim's "real" name is Joachin.

― Hurting 2, Monday, 26 March 2007 05:50 (nineteen years ago)

exactly. if someone's doing all this for laffs they're more fucked up than marissa ever was.

― marmotwolof, Monday, 26 March 2007 05:51 (nineteen years ago)

(x-post)

― marmotwolof, Monday, 26 March 2007 05:51 (nineteen years ago)

This:

i am not going there...because you are a liar...there is no proof anything...except I caught you in a lie...you are the guy who wrote the poetry ......and you are Joachin......

not Joachim....

Joachin was his real name..and only you would know this...

is bizarre though. I completely pulled the "Joachin" thing out of my ass.

― Hurting 2, Monday, 26 March 2007 05:55 (nineteen years ago)

dude in all likelihood that was something her schizo mind made up

― Curt1s Stephens, Monday, 26 March 2007 05:57 (nineteen years ago)

Yeah, that was my best guess.

― Hurting 2, Monday, 26 March 2007 06:05 (nineteen years ago)

haha "you soon him", fuunny

― nickalicious, Monday, 26 March 2007 15:57 (nineteen years ago)

three weeks pass...

The other day my girlfriend and I were discussing the various Ians in music and she asked me, "Wasn't there some Ian who had sex with his mom?"

― Curt1s Stephens, Monday, 16 April 2007 15:19 (nineteen years ago)

i got distracted after the mention of southern style chicken tenderloins.

― chicago kevin, Monday, 16 April 2007 15:23 (nineteen years ago)

My advice to you Joachim,

TAKE ALL YOUR CLOTHES OFF FOR ME SOON IN MY HOME.....

― Tracer Hand, Monday, 16 April 2007 15:30 (nineteen years ago)

in a used cd shop with a friend, browsing albums, pulling out one with an interesting cover, realizing it was momus and unintentionally registering disappointment on my face, friend asking what's the matter... not sure how to respond.

― modestmickey, Monday, 16 April 2007 15:33 (nineteen years ago)

Your friend was probably surprised that you didn't steal it.
Which would have been a worthy goal.

― aimurchie, Monday, 16 April 2007 16:37 (nineteen years ago)

stealing physical products is such a small penalty, tho. only a misdemeanor, ykno? no thrill.

― modestmickey, Monday, 16 April 2007 17:36 (nineteen years ago)

what about hacking imomus.com

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Monday, 16 April 2007 18:08 (nineteen years ago)

honestly the best thing to avoid stalkers ever is appearing in national press like mickey, dude is ungoogleable

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Monday, 16 April 2007 18:42 (nineteen years ago)

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