Sad dreams c/d

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I sometimes get this thing, where I dream about something from the past - something that has been lost in some way - a place I used to live or work, that isn't there anymore, our old car that got stolen, school days, the old shop we had in an area that got redeveloped, times I've fucked things up beyond redemption etc etc etc. The dream usually follows a kind of downwards spiral, until I wake up, feeling incredibly sad! Usually it takes ages to get back to sleep... Last night I deamed about our old shop, except in my dream it was in a different location, and we made boats instead of bicycles (!) the place was looking awfully run down, and stuff wasn't working, and so on, 'till I woke up, feeling terrible. The brain is a pretty fucked up organ sometimes...

Does anyone else get this, or similar?

Dud, obv, because it sucks to be awake and feeling like that at 4am, and I can't help but think such thoughs and feelings don't really lead anywhere useful.

― Pashmina (Pashmina), Wednesday, 9 March 2005 09:58 (twenty years ago)

Practically every night. Usually I dream I'm back in Oxford, with Laura, and everything is as it used to be. Sometimes I dream of Laura still being alive but having moved on, living somewhere else and with someone else. Quite often in dreams my dad appears and then it's back to the '70s.

I similarly tend to awaken from such dreams at 4 am or thereabouts and feel utterly dejected, in extremis imagining the dream to be my preferred reality and my waking life the nightmare because the former is so much preferable to the latter.

Clearly such morbid thoughts aren't doing me any good, but I don't really know what to do about them except to plough on as best I can because good and interesting things are about to happen which WILL change life for the better, so all I have to do at the moment is simply be patient - the wheels are in motion.

The 1974 blog thing I'm finding good and useful in therapeutic terms in helping me to deal with at least some of the above.

― Marcello Carlin (nostudium), Wednesday, 9 March 2005 10:08 (twenty years ago)

I hate sad dreams, I've had dreams where I'm crying my heart out, huge hiccuping teary sobs and I feel so bereft. The emotion in dreams can be really strong and scary.

My last crying dream woke me up and stayed with me all day. Hard to shake off.

― Rumpsy Pumpsy (Rumpie), Wednesday, 9 March 2005 10:21 (twenty years ago)

I have dreams sometimes in which i mess up things. One recurrent one is me being still at University and had to take this really easy exam, but I turn up too late for it, and thus failing it and messes up my degree. Then I wake up realising that school is over and i did ok afterall.

― ken c (ken c), Wednesday, 9 March 2005 10:40 (twenty years ago)

I dream I got together with my long-standing crush of 2 years ago. Then I wake up.

― BARMS, Wednesday, 9 March 2005 10:42 (twenty years ago)

aw but we got together in January barms?

― ken c (ken c), Wednesday, 9 March 2005 10:55 (twenty years ago)

I have this one (or something similar) every few weeks. In mine, usually I have days till my exam, five essays to write and no revision done. It's a bloody relief to wake up.

― Paul Kelly (kelly), Wednesday, 9 March 2005 11:04 (twenty years ago)

when i awoke in bed yesterday morning my mind 'implanted' a memory of something that was horrific and indeed never happened. For the duration of walking to work I still wasn't sure whether the memory was true or false.

― Ste (Fuzzy), Wednesday, 9 March 2005 11:07 (twenty years ago)

aw but we got together in January barms?

How about those photos of me flashing you, then, you scaly horn monster?

― BARMS, Wednesday, 9 March 2005 11:24 (twenty years ago)

I dream sometimes about my dead dog Gus. Those are almost more depressing to me than the dreams involving people and relationships etc. I have other sad dreams where I'm sobbing about something or other, and hate when I wake up and feel just as rotten and sobby and drained as during the dream, as if I've actually been crying or whatever.

― sgs (sgs), Wednesday, 9 March 2005 11:28 (twenty years ago)

oh yes I'm always dreaming about my dead cat, at least a few times a week.

― Ste (Fuzzy), Wednesday, 9 March 2005 11:31 (twenty years ago)

I had a 'falling' dream a few nights ago. I was on scaffolding trying to watch a football game but I started wobbling. A guy in a black shirt blowing a whistle climbed the scaffolding and tried to help me balance but I fell. Before I fell I heard someone shout "What's Willy Young doing up there?"

When I woke up I asked Kev if there was a referee called Willy Young, he said there was. Strange, because the guy hasn't been in the papers or the telly recently so why he should crop up in my dream is baffling.

― Rumpsy Pumpsy (Rumpie), Wednesday, 9 March 2005 11:51 (twenty years ago)

maybe he can't get OUT of yr dream to safe back be in the papers or on the telly

FREE WILLY YOUNG rumpsy pumpsy!!

― mark s (mark s), Wednesday, 9 March 2005 11:52 (twenty years ago)

I keep having dreams in which someone I have never met dies, and I have to console their loved ones (also who I have never met). Its a strange one.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Wednesday, 9 March 2005 11:54 (twenty years ago)

No Mark, I kinda like him. He's good to have around.

― Rumpsy Pumpsy (Rumpie), Wednesday, 9 March 2005 11:58 (twenty years ago)

bizarre, rumpy

― Ste (Fuzzy), Wednesday, 9 March 2005 12:01 (twenty years ago)

Last night I dreamt I'd been sentenced to death. I had escaped to a big garden, where I was trying to find somewhere to hide, but I had this feeling that being caught was inevitable. It's now several hours later, but I still feel all knotted up inside.

― Madchen (Madchen), Wednesday, 9 March 2005 13:36 (twenty years ago)

Oh god Madchen I get chase dreams all the time.. I'm always either like a secret agent or running away from loan sharks. And I'm forever stupidly going into this building trying to find somewhere to hide, but can't, and end up in this room with people breaking down my door and I either make it or not make it out the window (i normally wake up after that)

the dream in which i infiltrated the MI5/6/something building was pretty cool though..

― ken c (ken c), Wednesday, 9 March 2005 13:39 (twenty years ago)

i keep having dreams about being in school (high school or college), which is odd because school isn't something that's been on my mind in waking life.

― lychee mello (Jody Beth Rosen), Wednesday, 9 March 2005 15:34 (twenty years ago)

...or running away from loan sharks.

Too much poker?

― Ste (Fuzzy), Wednesday, 9 March 2005 15:38 (twenty years ago)

The bit about the fruit trees in Akira Kurosawa's "Dreams" nails the feeling of this sort of dream COMPLETELY.

― Yoyo, Wednesday, 9 March 2005 15:41 (twenty years ago)

hahaha ste, maybe!!!

― ken c (ken c), Wednesday, 9 March 2005 15:49 (twenty years ago)

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