Sexual Harassment

So, can you give more details about the case? Are you male or female? What's the nature of the complaint?

Something like that happened to me, too. I think the worst part about it is the anger that someone could even think you possible of something like that--the righteous fury someone spouts at you based on their delusions, vindictiveness, and lies.

Advice, well, you should really document EVERYTHING, be straightforward and forthcoming to your employers, but don't just roll over if they give you really egregious shit about it--stand up and tell them that you think they're doing the wrong thing.

As for legal redress, I don't know the UK, but you can't really do much in the US. I got a lawyer anyway, but that was mostly to scare the people judging my guilt or innocence, since they were getting all fascist about it. If you can afford it, it’s a good thing to do. Kept everything kosher.

I also tried to make sure that anyone who might hear about it would hear about it from me first, or at least hear my side of the story. Since it was so clear that the accusations against me were absurd (as seems to be true in your post), all but one or to people were really supportive. And since everyone felt like they knew what was up, I didn’t really have to deal with too much in the way of career and personal life after all the bureaucratic shit was over. Other, of course, than anger and paranoia, but you get through that after a while.

And, I mean, weather the storm. It’s really hard, I know, but you can get through it.

After a very messy break-up, my ex-girlfriend accused me of rape. First she sent a letter to my parents to that effect, and then went to a solicitor, who passed the matter on to the police. It was, by a very long margin, the most traumatic thing that has ever happened to me. I was interviewed by the police, but ultimately the solicitor persuaded her not to pursue the matter. The thing is, she was in such a terrible emotional state that she no doubt believed her own accusation. It's something that's very hard to prove but equally hard to disprove so it sort of hangs over you forever. Actually the interview with the police wasn't that bad, it was my parents knowing about it that was the worst. I spent a long time so angry that someone could fuck me up so badly by just making an accusation, although I think I'm over it now.

Sorry, that's not much help - except to say that you do get through it all eventually.

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