How to operate without thinking about your ex numerous times a day a year after the fact

Message Bookmarked

Bookmark Removed

Um, help? I've been thoroughly sick of thinking about her for months and months now, but I don't know how to alleviate this in the slightest sense as this has never happened before.

― Ian Riese-Moraine. To Hell with you and your gradual evolution! (Eastern Mantra), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 12:43 (twenty years ago)

the only solution is to find someone else to obsess about

― ken c (ken c), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 12:46 (twenty years ago)

Stop yourself thinking things might change; stop comparing people to her; find other things/people to occupy your mind. It wasn't right - it had to end.

― Markelby (Mark C), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 12:51 (twenty years ago)

basically what i said but with more words ;)

― ken c (ken c), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 12:54 (twenty years ago)

Stop yourself thinking things might change; stop comparing people to her; find other things/people to occupy your mind. It wasn't right - it had to end.
I've done that for months and months now. I know very well things won't change, I don't compare anyone to her, and I've tried finding people to occupy my mind.

― Ian Riese-Moraine. To Hell with you and your gradual evolution! (Eastern Mantra), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 12:58 (twenty years ago)

the only solution is to find someone else to obsess about
I figured as much but I haven't found anyone as such. That's probably the problem.

― Ian Riese-Moraine. To Hell with you and your gradual evolution! (Eastern Mantra), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 12:59 (twenty years ago)

use whatever resources are available to try and meet new people with shared interests. this includes friends and yes, teh intenweb

take up a sport - something that requires physical action as much if not more than thinking.

visit new places.

― $V£N! (blueski), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 13:02 (twenty years ago)

No starting threads about her!

― I DESIRE...MACARONI NECKLACES AND SOAP SCULPTURES (Matt Chesnut), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 13:04 (twenty years ago)

The basis here is that you still think there is a somewhat possible future for the two of you, however you may want it to happen.

But ITS A LIE! Once you realise this and make an effort to move on, you are free.

(um okay it's probably not that easy)

― Ste (Fuzzy), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 13:06 (twenty years ago)

The basis here is that you still think there is a somewhat possible future for the two of you, however you may want it to happen.
But I don't!

visit new places.
Broke.

― Ian Riese-Moraine. To Hell with you and your gradual evolution! (Eastern Mantra), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 13:15 (twenty years ago)

I wish I had specified this upthread. I've no interest in even thinking about her, much less getting back with her (as if there were any potential to do so!).

take up a sport - something that requires physical action as much if not more than thinking.
This part of Florida needs more Jai Alai.

― Ian Riese-Moraine. To Hell with you and your gradual evolution! (Eastern Mantra), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 13:18 (twenty years ago)

I've no interest in even thinking about her,

so what's the problem then?

― Ste (Fuzzy), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 13:19 (twenty years ago)

the only solution is to find someone else to obsess about
I figured as much but I haven't found anyone as such. That's probably the problem.

It is. This has happened to me too ... you get a reprieve from thinking about the ex while you date/crush on somebody else, but when that subsides you go back to thinking about the ex and feel worse about it, because it feels like you're stuck in a major rut. You're not.

― MindInRewind (Barry Bruner), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 13:22 (twenty years ago)

I'm happily in a relationship but can't stop the constant thoughts about an ex from 5 years ago. Lately I've started pinching myself whenever the thoughts come into my head, and making a mental note of the times when they do (driving past someplace we were together, etc.). I think the thoughts of him live with me now, and I have kind of given up on ever expelling them.

― logged out, Wednesday, 13 April 2005 13:28 (twenty years ago)

so what's the problem then?
The problem is that she comes up in mind several times a day and I don't want her to. I want her out of my head...or to at least not to think of her EVERY BLOODY DAY, and several times at that.

― Ian Riese-Moraine. To Hell with you and your gradual evolution! (Eastern Mantra), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 13:30 (twenty years ago)

Precisely! Except I haven't found anyone to crush on. Oh Florida, so much to answer for...it's no wonder I haven't dated anyone from this state in almost three years.

― Ian Riese-Moraine. To Hell with you and your gradual evolution! (Eastern Mantra), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 13:32 (twenty years ago)

There's nothing you can do about it. You can't control other people, and you shouldn't let them control you.

― Dan M. (OutDatWay), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 13:36 (twenty years ago)

Of course, not that I'm willingly being controlled, but...

― Ian Riese-Moraine. To Hell with you and your gradual evolution! (Eastern Mantra), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 13:43 (twenty years ago)

oh I think I see what you mean now...

― Ste (Fuzzy), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 13:44 (twenty years ago)

wait.. but when i see florida on TV there's always just nothing but cute girls

― ken c (ken c), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 13:46 (twenty years ago)

often wearing very little clothes.

― ken c (ken c), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 13:46 (twenty years ago)

This is what I do:

http://www.lifeprint.com/asl101/images-signs/drink.gif

Granted, I actually WOULD like her back.

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 13:47 (twenty years ago)

wait.. but when i see florida on TV there's always just nothing but cute girls
-- ken c (pykachu10...), April 13th, 2005.
often wearing very little clothes.

-- ken c (pykachu10...), April 13th, 2005.

True, but they're on TV, and they're taken anyway, a select handful of them are guarded my jealous boyfriends, and most of them have personalities that would grate on any healthy man's nerves.

― Ian Riese-Moraine. To Hell with you and your gradual evolution! (Eastern Mantra), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 14:24 (twenty years ago)

This is what I do

Do you have an Airplane!-style drinking problem?

― caitlin (caitlin), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 14:40 (twenty years ago)

You must be logged in to post. Please either login here, or if you are not registered, you may register here.