Heteros: same-sex crushes. Homos: opposite-sex crushes. Bis: crushes on plants/animals.

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― Remy (x Jeremy), Friday, 15 April 2005 03:59 (twenty years ago)

There's this guy I know... well, I don't really *know* him... his name's Jeremy...

― happy fun ball (kenan), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:04 (twenty years ago)

Sweet! I'd say yes, but my homo-quota's filled.

― Remy (x Jeremy), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:05 (twenty years ago)

More pressing question...

Do you take it as a compliment if someone who claims to be predominately unattracted to members of your sex says that you are an exception? (I do, but I'll take 'em where I can get 'em.)

― Eric von H. (Eric H.), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:06 (twenty years ago)

For some reason, it seems like the ultimate back-handed compliment, unless you're super-militant into the androgynization of the human race, et al.

― Eric von H. (Eric H.), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:07 (twenty years ago)

Because it's implying that you're a girlyman?

― Casuistry (Chris P), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:08 (twenty years ago)

Remy, I'm not usually attracted to humans, but I'll make an exception for you.

― Casuistry (Chris P), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:08 (twenty years ago)

Yeah, the logic is along those lines a little bit, sure, but not quite so streamlined.

― Eric von H. (Eric H.), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:09 (twenty years ago)

Do you take it as a compliment if someone who claims to be predominately unattracted to members of your sex says that you are an exception? (I do, but I'll take 'em where I can get 'em.)

Oh god, this happened to me three weeks ago, where a good friend of mine ACTUALLY said: "I've never felt any homosexual urges before, but right now, I'm really sexually attracted to you.".

Rather than being flattered, I became a complete emotional basket case for two weeks and am now unbelievably awkward around him. Well done, me.

― edward o (edwardo), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:10 (twenty years ago)

Chris, I'm attracted to piquenchagne.

― Remy (x Jeremy), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:11 (twenty years ago)

xpost

You should have let him blow you, and then you'd both feel awkward.

― happy fun ball (kenan), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:12 (twenty years ago)

Several people I told the story too (including one nameless ILXor), suggested that verily, I should have shagged him. That would have been a very bad idea.

― edward o (edwardo), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:13 (twenty years ago)

I don't think it implies that you're androgynous. I'm hetero and when I get crushes on women, it's not because they're manly. It's just because they have a unique sexiness. (Or they're really hot.) Example #1: my friend R., can't explain what it is but she is sexy. Example #2: my friend L., hot in an Eastern-European-gone-artsy-but-not-caring-too-much way.

― Maria (Maria), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:13 (twenty years ago)

Feeling sexually attracted to someone != wanting to actually have sex with them.

― Casuistry (Chris P), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:15 (twenty years ago)

Tru dat.

― Hurting (Hurting), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:16 (twenty years ago)

OTM. At the time, the feeling was, in all honesty, mutual. I actually went and laid down next to him. But I didn't do anything because I knew it wasn't what either of us wanted.

― edward o (edwardo), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:17 (twenty years ago)

Do you (everyone) think that attraction has to equal physical arousal? Occasionally I have felt some sort of tingly feeling toward same-sex people, but it never culminates if you will, in a "salute".

― Hurting (Hurting), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:18 (twenty years ago)

I think you can be attracted to someone in a milder form than "take me now!" Either that, or I'm asexual.

― Maria (Maria), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:25 (twenty years ago)

I've even *tried* to push my attraction past that first stage, and it never gets anywhere.

― Hurting (Hurting), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:26 (twenty years ago)

For the record: I get crushes on everything shy of australopithecus man. I'm just curious to see what traditionally-conceived heterosexual wo/men find attractive in other wo/men, and what traditionally-conceived homosexual wo/men find attractive in their opposite-sex counterparts.

― Remy (x Jeremy), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:49 (twenty years ago)

Rather predictably, I tend to prefer androgynous, boyish women. The sort that you're not entirely sure which gender to place them in at first (rather than, say, the clearly "female transgressing boundaries" type, where you immediately register them as a "nontraditional" woman).

― Casuistry (Chris P), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:52 (twenty years ago)

I perv on women, I love women's bodies. I like to think about women I dont know sexually but weirdly, I cannot then do the same with women I'm friends with. If I'm having a girl on girl daydream, and then I mentally put a female friend's face to it, I get a total soft-on!

Hows that work?

― Trayce (trayce), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:53 (twenty years ago)

& how does this relate to my nascent man-love for Pharrell?

― Remy (x Jeremy), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:55 (twenty years ago)

(I kid, I kid. I also procrastinate, procastinate).

― Remy (x Jeremy), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:56 (twenty years ago)

heh.

See it seems easier when its a celeb or something, I dunno.

I guess in my case it shows I'm not even bi, like I say I think I am, cos while I like a perv, I cant see myself ever getting EMOTIONALLY involved with a girly. God the idea makes me feel odd actually, but thats another long story.

― Trayce (trayce), Friday, 15 April 2005 04:57 (twenty years ago)

i can "appreciate" celebrities (for instance i find clive owen to be quite "compelling") but on the actual physical presence of man has never done that for some reason. im sure there are interesting and complicated reasons for that.

― ryan (ryan), Friday, 15 April 2005 05:02 (twenty years ago)

Remy, you're the king of starting threads that eventually become ABC After School Specials circa 84-87.

― charleston charge (chaki), Friday, 15 April 2005 05:02 (twenty years ago)

i hump the bed occasionally, with blatant disregard for it's gender.

― Amon (eman), Friday, 15 April 2005 05:08 (twenty years ago)

Bis: crushes on plants/animals.

for a second i thought you were talking about THIS bis:

http://www.bisnation.com/images/random/4.jpg

― jody the country girl doll (Jody Beth Rosen), Friday, 15 April 2005 05:10 (twenty years ago)

shes so damn cute

― charleston charge (chaki), Friday, 15 April 2005 05:16 (twenty years ago)

for a second i thought you were talking about THIS bis

I'm glad I wasn't the only person who thought that.

― caitlin (caitlin), Friday, 15 April 2005 06:41 (twenty years ago)

Me three!

― Trayce (trayce), Friday, 15 April 2005 06:46 (twenty years ago)

I had a weird decision in starting the thread. I didn't want to write "Homos...Heteros...BIs" because that sounded like BOWEL IMPACTION or something, and I didn't want to write Bi's, because that would be just plain wrong. I considered "Bisexuals" but in the interest of parallel construction I would've had to go and hit the left arrow a whole bunch of times and put 'sexual' to both homo- and -hetero in the beginning of the title. Furthermore 'homo' and 'hetero' and 'bi' have nice informal rings to them. Much less intimidating to discuss homos than homosexuals.

― Remy (x Jeremy), Friday, 15 April 2005 06:50 (twenty years ago)

And a confession: I just typed out the above post to be silly, but as I typed it I realized that I really did, honest to god, totally conduct the identical process detailed above, over the course of typing the title.

― Remy (x Jeremy), Friday, 15 April 2005 06:51 (twenty years ago)

It's too bad there isn't some place somewhere where you can try this sort of thing out in a low key way, like some grove called The Kissing Forest where you can smooch with someone of the gender you don't normally fancy just to check it out and everybody would understand that it's only The Kissing Forest so it doesn't count and no one's going to try to push things "further" etc. Oh well. I mean sometimes I notice a woman's sexiness and think I wouldn't mind making out with her but I wouldn't want her to get the wrong idea as I'm generally a homo.

― Drew Daniel (Drew Daniel), Friday, 15 April 2005 07:35 (twenty years ago)

Except now that I think about it The Kissing Forest sounds like a wretched wannabe 4AD band. Oh well . . .

― Drew Daniel (Drew Daniel), Friday, 15 April 2005 07:40 (twenty years ago)

ARE GIRLS FROM OTHER CONTINETS SAME SEX CRUSHES?

I think not.

But aside from that, I have a crush on DREW DANIEL.

but we went to the same HIGH SCHOOL so whatever, fags.

― hstencil (hstencil), Friday, 15 April 2005 07:43 (twenty years ago)

Wyvern-on-Wyvern action!

ha ha Stencil, good suggestion- maybe we should consider "European" a third sex? God knows, my gaydar doesn't work on them.

― Drew Daniel (Drew Daniel), Friday, 15 April 2005 07:46 (twenty years ago)

DREW seriously, i've had a crush on you since CEREBELLUM.

― hstencil (hstencil), Friday, 15 April 2005 07:52 (twenty years ago)

wyverns, ha.

― hstencil (hstencil), Friday, 15 April 2005 07:53 (twenty years ago)

I thought this was about Bis the band and some odd thread until I eventually clicked on it out of boredom.

― Ronan (Ronan), Friday, 15 April 2005 07:57 (twenty years ago)

I mean sometimes I notice a woman's sexiness and think I wouldn't mind making out with her but I wouldn't want her to get the wrong idea as I'm generally a homo.

Pigeon holes are a Bad Thing. Especially if you're pigeon-holing yourself. I wish more people would just feel free to fancy who they fancy without thinking "OMG but i can't fancy them, I'm gay/straight!" (delete as applicable)

― caitlin (caitlin), Friday, 15 April 2005 08:00 (twenty years ago)

What you're really saying: "Why won't any faggots sleep with me?"

― Eric von H. (Eric H.), Friday, 15 April 2005 08:23 (twenty years ago)

Eric, *nobody* will sleep with me. But I've spread my angst across enough threads lately.

― caitlin (caitlin), Friday, 15 April 2005 08:26 (twenty years ago)

This happens to me much more seldom than most people might think :)

(the non-speccy one from Kings of Convenience is an example, but that was 6 years ago)

― Markelby (Mark C), Friday, 15 April 2005 08:56 (twenty years ago)

The Kissing Forest

THE KISSING TIME! OMG!

― Johnney B (Johnney B), Friday, 15 April 2005 10:22 (twenty years ago)

i do not believe in homosexals or heterosexuals or bisexuals, i belive in homosexual bisexual or heterosexual actions

right n ow im all about josh duhamel. gong li and squids--but not at the same time, seperetly

― anthony, Friday, 15 April 2005 10:28 (twenty years ago)

SQUIDSEX!!!

― caitlin (caitlin), Friday, 15 April 2005 10:29 (twenty years ago)

http://magma.nationalgeographic.com/ngm/0408/feature2/images/zm_zoomin.2.4.jpg

Blind mate: giant squid leaves sex to chance

The giant squid is not especially choosy when it comes to sex and will mate blind without checking if the object of its affections is male or female, a German researcher said Tuesday. Volker Miske, of the Stralsund maritime museum in northeast Germany, said a male specimen being prepared for conservation had sperm underneath its skin. The giant squid reproduces by the male injecting sperm under the skin of its female partner. “The theory about two male giant squid mating is not new, but for the first time we have something that seriously supports that theory,” he told AFP. “It’s the first time that (sperm) traces have been discovered in a part of the body so far from the sexual organ. “Until now, it was thought males injected themselves with sperm by accident during mating. But that is definitely not the case here: the sperm was clearly injected by another giant squid.” There is another possibility that cannot be totally excluded, Miske added, which is that the infusion of sperm happened during group sex. However, that is unlikely given that chance encounters between giant squid, rare, multi-tentacled creatures which live at depths of between 300 and 1,000 metres (985 to 3,280 feet) below sea level, are few and far between. The six-metre-long specimen being prepared at Stralsund was discovered by a team led by the New Zealand researcher Steve O’Shea. —AFP

― jody the country girl doll (Jody Beth Rosen), Friday, 15 April 2005 10:48 (twenty years ago)

clearly, my point above is that WE SHOULD ALL BE SQUID

― caitlin (caitlin), Friday, 15 April 2005 10:51 (twenty years ago)

every time i see her i get a hopeless girlcrush on emm@ p0ll0ck from out of the delgados.

― emsk, Friday, 15 April 2005 11:33 (twenty years ago)

Thierry Henry is presumably a given for any British males, right?

― Markelby (Mark C), Friday, 15 April 2005 11:36 (twenty years ago)

I think everyone has the potential to be bisexual. There are ends of the spectrum, with extremely heterosexual and extremely homosexual people on either end. I would argue that most of us fall somewhere in the middle.

I'm most attracted to men with some girly traits and women with some boyish traits (not manly women but boyish women).

I'm definitely predominantly hetero. The only time that I had a full-on relationship with another woman I found myself thinking I wouldn't find a boyfriend if she and I kept dating. That's when I knew I wasn't being fair to her.

When I was younger and sort of wondering about my sexuality, my mother, who is a lesbian, told me that if I were gay I wouldn't have any question about it and would just find a way to make it happen.

There are times that I've felt I was in love with a female friend but was too scared to try to initiate anything physical. The times I have been physical with women, it was all about physicality and sexual attraction and not so much about love or emotions.

― Maria :D (Maria D.), Friday, 15 April 2005 11:46 (twenty years ago)

I get crushes on girls but i don't think I could have sex with one or have a relationship. I just appreciate from afar.

― jill schoelen is the queen of my dreams! (Homosexual II), Friday, 15 April 2005 11:58 (twenty years ago)

The Kissing Forest = college, frankly

what about non-sexual girls crushes?

― tokyo nursery school: afternoon session (rosemary), Friday, 15 April 2005 12:20 (twenty years ago)

I nearly went to bed with a female acquaintance once. It went so far and then "oh God, you have breasts, yes I have those too, turn off." For both of us, so no hard feelings.

At the moment though I have a crush on a lovely dark haired girl wearing a bright blue beret who smiled at me at Finsbury Park tube station last night. She looked a little like Liv Tyler. My thought process actually went: "yes, if I were to have an affiar with a woman it would be someone like you."

― Anna (Anna), Friday, 15 April 2005 12:26 (twenty years ago)

Yes, I do get occasional crushes on women... but they stop about 200 metres short of my actually wanting to place any of my man bits on/in/around any of their lady bits. I just want to sort of sit next to them and bask in their glow and pay homage to their general goddess-ness.

― mike t-diva (mike t-diva), Friday, 15 April 2005 12:48 (twenty years ago)

Bis: crushes on plants/animals.
for a second i thought you were talking about THIS bis:
-- jody the country girl doll (theundergroundhom...), April 15th, 2005 6:10 AM. (Jody Beth Rosen) (later)

haha ditto with jody, caitlin and ronan.

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 15 April 2005 13:09 (twenty years ago)

http://www.gawker.com/news/MichaelIanBlack.jpg

― Ian Riese-Moraine. To Hell with you and your gradual evolution! (Eastern Mantra), Friday, 15 April 2005 13:17 (twenty years ago)

heavens.

― Volker Schlöndorff (Jody Beth Rosen), Friday, 15 April 2005 13:38 (twenty years ago)

I wasn't sure about posting here, til I remembered:

Mother-in-law's tongue

DESCRIPTION:

Upright, rigid, sword-like leaves are mottled green with cream colored marginal stripe.

FOLIAGE COLORS:

Dark Green, Light Green, Yellow

FERTILIZER:

Every six months

SELECTION GUIDE:

Select sturdy, shapely, healthy plant free from insect and disease damage.

CARE:

Easy. Tolerates wide range of conditions. Good for beginners.

Mmmm, yeah, I'd like to pot that plant.

― Plus-Tech Whiz Kid (Disco) (Barima), Friday, 15 April 2005 13:39 (twenty years ago)

From time to time I'll see a man I think quite attractive and want to meet him (though partly that's just because he's likely to have attractive female friends) but I don't like kissing stubble or facial hair and frankly can't really get it up with a guy. It's not an emotional thing 'cause I can conceive of falling in love with a guy, we just wouldn't have much of a sex life.

― M. White (Miguelito), Friday, 15 April 2005 14:51 (twenty years ago)

but I don't like kissing stubble or facial hair

well, neither do I, but that hasn't stopped me being a straight girl

― tokyo nursery school: afternoon session (rosemary), Friday, 15 April 2005 14:57 (twenty years ago)

Hasn't stopped me being a straight man, either.

― Plus-Tech Whiz Kid (Disco) (Barima), Friday, 15 April 2005 15:01 (twenty years ago)

I feel like I should say something on this thread.

I'm most attracted to men with some girly traits and women with some boyish traits (not manly women but boyish women).

yes.

― jaymc (jaymc), Friday, 15 April 2005 15:45 (twenty years ago)

No.

― Plus-Tech Whiz Kid (Disco) (Barima), Friday, 15 April 2005 16:00 (twenty years ago)

what does that even mean, exactly?

― Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Friday, 15 April 2005 16:19 (twenty years ago)

i do get attracted to guys sometimes, but somehow this thread has convinced me that i am very, very far to the hetero side of things.

― Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Friday, 15 April 2005 16:21 (twenty years ago)

"I like Martin Short and Brigitte Nielsen. Together. But not necessarily at the same time, like."

― Plus-Tech Whiz Kid (Disco) (Barima), Friday, 15 April 2005 16:21 (twenty years ago)

http://i.a.cnn.net/cnn/2004/SHOWBIZ/Movies/08/16/zach.braff/storyvert.braff.jpg

― happy fun ball (kenan), Friday, 15 April 2005 16:22 (twenty years ago)

actually guys kind of annoy me. well, a lot more often than girls. i have more girls-that-are-friends than guys-that-are-friends, in addition to being attracted to way more girls t han guys.

― Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Friday, 15 April 2005 16:24 (twenty years ago)

(the non-speccy one from Kings of Convenience is an example, but that was 6 years ago)

i just barely missed hanging out with him in underwear. so so disappointed.

― philtwo not at home, Friday, 15 April 2005 16:37 (twenty years ago)

i just barely missed hanging out with him in underwear.

Ordinarily a statement like that would surprise me, but not coming from Phil.

― jaymc (jaymc), Friday, 15 April 2005 16:39 (twenty years ago)

but I don't like kissing stubble or facial hair

You get used to it, but stubble/facial hair is indeed no damn good.

― Casuistry (Chris P), Friday, 15 April 2005 16:48 (twenty years ago)

i have total non-sexual crushes on guys all the time.

― latebloomer: strawman knockdowner (latebloomer), Friday, 15 April 2005 16:51 (twenty years ago)

what does that even mean, exactly?

-- Amateur(ist) (amateurist@gmail.com), April 15th, 2005. (later)

I mean I'm put off by guys who are extremely macho and gals who are extremely feminine. I like men who giggle and who are occasionally mistaken for gay and women who saunter and get dirty.

― Maria :D (Maria D.), Friday, 15 April 2005 16:53 (twenty years ago)

http://www.rebelwaltz.com/images/nessbiopic.jpg

Oh sweet mercy.

― Je4nne ƒury (Jeanne Fury), Friday, 15 April 2005 16:54 (twenty years ago)

maria, i am like that, too.. i tend to get crushes on those who are a bit more andrygenous.

(I just misspelled that, didn't I)

― jill schoelen is the queen of my dreams! (Homosexual II), Friday, 15 April 2005 16:54 (twenty years ago)

i think i scared off drew.

― hstencil (hstencil), Friday, 15 April 2005 16:57 (twenty years ago)

Totally, I want a Kissing Forest!

I guess I don't put too much stock in orientation, even though I think I'm straight, because in the last two weeks, three people who have insisted for years on their straightness have suddenly announced they were bi (in one instance, not as a general revelation, just as "oh I started dating a girl so....").

― Maria (Maria), Friday, 15 April 2005 17:27 (twenty years ago)

so, so OTM.

my own answer: as of last night, annie.

― joseph (joseph), Friday, 15 April 2005 17:41 (twenty years ago)

me too, except oh i was so let down by annie. and what she was wearing. i think i'll just go back to trish from broadcast.

― philtwo not at home, Friday, 15 April 2005 17:47 (twenty years ago)

from where i was standing i could see underneath her shirt omg omg omg

(ugly boots, tho)

― joseph (joseph), Friday, 15 April 2005 18:35 (twenty years ago)

because in the last two weeks, three people who have insisted for years on their straightness have suddenly announced they were bi

well, you are in college

― jaymc (jaymc), Friday, 15 April 2005 18:45 (twenty years ago)

can i defend the equiite agony of beard on beard kissing, the feathery flowing thogether of hair,and then all of a sudden, the knottings, and its all such a ready metaphor, and its all so close and wonderul

and stubble is this pain/pleasure thing that sends me to the moon and back

― anthony, Friday, 15 April 2005 18:51 (twenty years ago)

ok so once a friend of mine was really depressed for legit reasons and i looked at him and said -- i don't mean anything sexual by this, but if i was a hot girl i would totally make out with you right now to cheer you up.

he was a bit weirded out. i think i was a bit weirded out that i said it, too.

― Sterling Clover (s_clover), Saturday, 16 April 2005 00:57 (twenty years ago)

I can't think of a same-sex "crush" I've had that hasn't been narcissistic and non-sexual in nature; either I think the person in question looks like me (Jesse L. Martin) or I desperately want to look like that person (insert random WWF wrestler except for George "The Animal" Steele, The Big Show and Mick Foley here).

― The Ghost of Where Are My Bulging Muscles With No Effort, Dammit (Dan Perry), Saturday, 16 April 2005 01:00 (twenty years ago)

Do we suddenly have a bunch of new gay boys on the board?

― Casuistry (Chris P), Saturday, 16 April 2005 03:28 (twenty years ago)

xpost

stence you didn't scare me away, I'm just at the EMP conference so I'm running around and just dropping in and disappearing again and stuff.

I once got really bad stubble burn on my face from making out with a guy who had superabrasive sandpaper stubble- seriously, it looked like I had wiped out on a skateboard or something, it was bad news.

― Drew Daniel (Drew Daniel), Saturday, 16 April 2005 05:02 (twenty years ago)

i am impervious to stubble because i have a nice, soft beard.

― jaymc (jaymc), Saturday, 16 April 2005 05:04 (twenty years ago)

ihttp://users2.ev1.net/~jemhadar/images/maelstroms_eye/me153-ashley_judd_001.jpg

― luna's e, Saturday, 16 April 2005 05:11 (twenty years ago)

Um... I don't know if I can name any examples because I'm, um, TOO "hetero" (if there is such a thing) or if I'm just not letting myself feel those emotions. Or... maybe I look at attractive females IRL and see not attraction but competition. Yeah. I see their trim figures and beautiful faces and feel envy and jealousy, not anything that would draw me to them. Not even on a purely platonic, friendship-based level. With celebrity females, I can rationalize that they have and can afford personal trainers, chefs, etc., a whole support system of people who can make them look the way they look. With models, I can rationalize that their fast-paced lifestyles make them burn off calories a lot more than "regular people", and that there's a lot of airbrushing that's done to the photos in fashion mags. But when I'm faced with a beautiful woman IRL -- I can't make any of those rationalizations. They're living in the sphere of life I'm living in. So... I delve into nothing but self-hatred, feelings of dumpiness, like I'm a horrid ogre, a Shrek-type figure. And that's probably why I don't have crushes on any female, not even fleeting.

― The Spirit of Sam Endicott (Dee the Lurker), Saturday, 16 April 2005 06:39 (twenty years ago)

Yeah but why don't you feel competition with hot guys?

― Casuistry (Chris P), Saturday, 16 April 2005 17:52 (twenty years ago)

Yeah but why don't you feel competition with hot guys?

Because they're not what I consider to be my competition. A person in search of a male for companionship wouldn't find anything like that in me. It'd be biologically impossible, I'd think. Physically attractive females, OTOH....

― The Spirit of Sam Endicott (Dee the Lurker), Saturday, 16 April 2005 20:12 (twenty years ago)

But what about bisexuals?

― Casuistry (Chris P), Saturday, 16 April 2005 20:20 (twenty years ago)

i am a boyish girl and i like girlish boys. i've often thought i might be bi, but girls just don't do it for me. i feel like if i were to go for a girl, i'd be trying too hard. that's not to say i don't get homo crushes, but they just aren't the same. someday i will probably do a girl, though.

also, xxxpost, what about females that aren't attractive in the conventional, celebrity way? i never find myself attracted to any of those people, male or female. i like a little bit of ugliness.

― caitlin oh no (caitxa1), Saturday, 16 April 2005 20:26 (twenty years ago)

to add to the college tally: another guy i know just came out last night. or rather was accidentally outed by a drunk person, which was pretty mortifying, but i think it ended up all right.

― Maria (Maria), Saturday, 16 April 2005 21:40 (twenty years ago)

But what about bisexuals?

I don't know -- what about them? Honestly, though, I wouldn't know how that would work. Do bisexuals take note of gender differences? Or are bisexuals gender-blind? If the former -- the answer I gave earlier would apply to bisexuals as well. But if the latter -- you'd provide me with a point to ponder.

― The Spirit of Sam Endicott (Dee the Lurker), Sunday, 17 April 2005 06:12 (twenty years ago)

Well, everyone is different. I suspect there are some people who are "gender-blind". But at the very least, if it's a competition, for some people they would be deciding between you and some guy.

― Casuistry (Chris P), Sunday, 17 April 2005 06:41 (twenty years ago)

I often have non-sexual crushes on girls (all my female friends basically) and find girls stunningly attractive all the time, but not sure if I ever feel that strongly sexually attracted to any of them.

At uni one gets the impression that straight guys are more likely to jump the fence once or twice than gay guys. A lot of straight guys I know have experimented but almost none of the gay guys.

― Tim Finney (Tim Finney), Sunday, 17 April 2005 11:55 (twenty years ago)

If making out with a lez counts, I'll offer my services to you. ;)

― Je4nne ƒury (Jeanne Fury), Sunday, 17 April 2005 12:12 (twenty years ago)

Oh I've made out with a girl (a lesbian too) but we weren't actually sexually attracted to eachother, i don't think.

Thanks for the offer though Jeanne!

― Tim Finney (Tim Finney), Sunday, 17 April 2005 12:24 (twenty years ago)

i am one of the thousands who wish and hope at night for Tim Finney 2 B single!! :(

Even though it doesnt even apply on here, that is my only contribution to this thread =)

― Vic in Alderaan (Vic), Sunday, 17 April 2005 15:09 (twenty years ago)

When I was in library school I told my supervisor (female, incidentally) that I was bisexual, and I've always been a little puzzled by that, since I just remember flirting with the idea (but not the practice) a lot at the time. (Library school was pretty much a continuation or even more extreme version of being in college for me, since I was living away from home for the first time too, and I just thought, well, this is my last chance to fuck off; which turned out to be a pretty stupid attitude to take toward what was intended as a career move, even if I desperately wanted to drop out.) I consider myself heterosexual, I'm just not convinced you can absolutely say never, but I think that's a bit different from being bisexual.

― RS_LaRue (RSLaRue), Sunday, 17 April 2005 15:21 (twenty years ago)

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