where does this idea that you'll never want to have sex or be in a relationship or be randomly fancied again come from?

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seriously, i am over it. i'm not depressed, and i haven't had a bad breakup or anything, i just don't seem to care. i can't seem to get anyone i know to understand this.

― tehresa (tehresa), Saturday, 16 April 2005 03:36 (twenty years ago)

I can empathise totally. And I am in a stable relationship currently, so my total disinterest in sex is actually distressing me a lot (I love my partner v much, its not a symptom of my feelings whatsoever, so I dunno what to do).

― Trayce (trayce), Saturday, 16 April 2005 03:43 (twenty years ago)

AUDITIONS!

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Saturday, 16 April 2005 03:45 (twenty years ago)

oops that didn't work well, but you know what i meant?

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Saturday, 16 April 2005 03:46 (twenty years ago)

my total disinterest in sex is actually distressing me a lot

the thing is that it's not distressing me at all.

is that weird?

― tehresa (tehresa), Saturday, 16 April 2005 03:50 (twenty years ago)

also maybe you are just bored and should try new things?

― tehresa (tehresa), Saturday, 16 April 2005 03:51 (twenty years ago)

it's not weird, but it might be worth addressing

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Saturday, 16 April 2005 03:52 (twenty years ago)

does posting it on ilx count as addressing it?!

― tehresa (tehresa), Saturday, 16 April 2005 03:55 (twenty years ago)

Yeah its not weird tehresa, if you're happy having no urges, then thats great! No one says you have to pursue sex and/or involvement, being happy being unattached sounds ideal.

As for me, I dunno abt boredom, but comfort/complacency has somethin to do with it I suspect.

― Trayce (trayce), Saturday, 16 April 2005 03:59 (twenty years ago)

i always get scared when i start to get comfortable with things, so i know where you are coming from.

i think i just bore easily and unless something totally amazing comes along i don't feel like dealing with it at all.

― tehresa (tehresa), Saturday, 16 April 2005 04:02 (twenty years ago)

I tend to feel this most of the time. I can take care of my business myself, and I don't like the thought of sex outside a relationship.

― Remy (x Jeremy), Saturday, 16 April 2005 04:23 (twenty years ago)

I don't understand this feeling at all.

― hstencil (hstencil), Monday, 18 April 2005 03:25 (twenty years ago)

you've lost that loving feeling, whoa, that loving feeling.
you've lost that loving feeling now it's GONE, GONE, GONE,
woahoaohaohaohaohooooo.

― tehresa (tehresa), Monday, 18 April 2005 03:32 (twenty years ago)

that's different.

― hstencil (hstencil), Monday, 18 April 2005 03:51 (twenty years ago)

The other day I decided that celibacy wasn't actually such a bad thing if you chose it yourself. It wasn't even accompanied by any moping or depression, just this sense of "oh well, so much for all that."

― Adherents of the Repeated Kate (kate), Monday, 18 April 2005 11:40 (twenty years ago)

But "oh well, so much for that" != "chose it yourself"

I would know.

― Johnney B (Johnney B), Monday, 18 April 2005 11:55 (twenty years ago)

five years pass...

it comes from the heart/soul/mind/booze habit

― I see what this is (Local Garda), Tuesday, 6 July 2010 22:29 (fifteen years ago)

it's useless to offer something as trite as 'someone will change this for you' but ime it's actually true.

― ,,,,,,eeeeleon (darraghmac), Tuesday, 6 July 2010 22:31 (fifteen years ago)

it's not a big deal but i actually think it's up to me to change it. even tho tbh i feel like as a person i do fairly interesting stuff for a living and am in a good place for a relationship...but yeah fuck it...have like ZERO faith at the moment to the point of when stuff doesn't work out just thinking it's because stuff working out wouldn't be who i am.

― I see what this is (Local Garda), Tuesday, 6 July 2010 22:33 (fifteen years ago)

ha historically i empathise, and possibly in future i'll do so again.

― ,,,,,,eeeeleon (darraghmac), Tuesday, 6 July 2010 22:39 (fifteen years ago)

good to hear! again to be honest i speak to ex gfs who are friends and with at least one we still know each other so well i start thinking going backwards is a more realistic option than forwards...what's also annoying is i don't feel necessarily dull or negative about myself cos it seems like i can make almost everyone i know lol and have such amazing friendships, in work and where i live etc....all sort of weird. just makes it sort of inexplicable. even really good female friends and stuff are like "so why no gf..." and i am like "yeah i know..."

― I see what this is (Local Garda), Tuesday, 6 July 2010 22:43 (fifteen years ago)

backwards/forwards i don't know about, relationships are non-fixed non-linear kinda things.

i've put the last post through an internet deduction engine, and it's suggesting halitosis. tough break, but something to work on.

― ,,,,,,eeeeleon (darraghmac), Tuesday, 6 July 2010 22:47 (fifteen years ago)

i don't feel necessarily dull or negative about myself

no in fairness that's never a vibe i've picked up off you in posting about this type of stuff

― ,,,,,,eeeeleon (darraghmac), Tuesday, 6 July 2010 22:47 (fifteen years ago)

x-post haha....nah man my breath smells great, it's just the fact it reduces women to a charred corpse i've got to work on. still, at least i can fly away afterwards.

― I see what this is (Local Garda), Tuesday, 6 July 2010 22:48 (fifteen years ago)

sin e an scale

― ,,,,,,eeeeleon (darraghmac), Tuesday, 6 July 2010 22:50 (fifteen years ago)

shit gotta run or i'm in gf trouble myself tbh

― ,,,,,,eeeeleon (darraghmac), Tuesday, 6 July 2010 22:54 (fifteen years ago)

where's sally o'brien when you need an evocative look at ye

― I see what this is (Local Garda), Tuesday, 6 July 2010 22:54 (fifteen years ago)

post less scary WDYLL photos!

― Bob Six, Tuesday, 6 July 2010 23:15 (fifteen years ago)

haha

― I see what this is (Local Garda), Tuesday, 6 July 2010 23:23 (fifteen years ago)

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