My parents recently visited the state where my aunt & uncle (who have been divorced for some time) live. The uncle (my dad's brother) knows we've all kept in touch with his ex . . . she is still my aunt even if they're not married! Besides, they had kids together. Cousins I am close to & two of them live with their mom.The plan was that for this one weekend that my parents were going to be there, I would drive out & visit. My parents & I would end up at my aunt's house for Friday night & we'd end up all leaving by Saturday afternoon.I find out the night before I leave that my uncle has called my dad, he's hurt & pissed off because they're staying with my aunt. I should mention that both the uncle & the aunt knew of my parents plans to visit for some time & the ONLY person to offer their house as a place to stay was my aunt. Also, the uncle knew for WEEKS that my parents were staying with her.So my parents apologize to uncle, they're so sorry they hurt him, it wasn't their intention, etc. They stay in a hotel instead of at her house. Uncle refuses to see either of them.Since then, the uncle has refused to speak to my family because of this incident. There have been many apologies from my parents, but he's having none of it. He has a track record of being a self-pitying asshole but everyone is too decent to mention this.It's just so frustrating that there's this issue now. On top of this, I think my uncle's new wife has been talking to his (& my dad's) sister & now she (the sister) thinks my dad has been taking money from my grandpa. my dad has been the one designated as having power of attorney & has been handling grandpa's finances, but he turned it over to a third party just to avoid these sorts of messes. clearly, that doesn't matter. it's just so sad.last night i had a dream that i wrote my uncle a letter about all this. in the dream the letter was very gentle, quiet. buddhist-like, in many ways. i must say, it is tempting. i know it's not my place but i find his behavior toward my family so selfish & awful. i don't understand holding onto that kind of pain. it's like he needs it to satisfy something very empty within him.anyway, thanks for letting me vent.
― kelsey (kelstarry), Wednesday, 27 April 2005 16:58 (twenty years ago)
― The Ghost of Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 27 April 2005 17:00 (twenty years ago)
― kelsey (kelstarry), Wednesday, 27 April 2005 17:00 (twenty years ago)
― daria g (daria g), Wednesday, 27 April 2005 17:04 (twenty years ago)
― happy fun ball (kenan), Wednesday, 27 April 2005 17:09 (twenty years ago)
― The Ghost of Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 27 April 2005 17:12 (twenty years ago)
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― happy fun ball (kenan), Wednesday, 27 April 2005 17:14 (twenty years ago)
The best thing to do with people like this is to ignore them completely, they want any kind of attention they can get so that they get another chance to play the victim card. That said, I don't think it would hurt too much to send him a letter.
― Leon Jones Reynolds (Ex Leon), Wednesday, 27 April 2005 17:15 (twenty years ago)
― kelsey (kelstarry), Wednesday, 27 April 2005 18:19 (twenty years ago)
― All of the time, and none of the art (dymaxia), Wednesday, 27 April 2005 20:40 (twenty years ago)
"You should see if FEMA will pay for your tree, because they're giving double food stamps to all the blacks and they're emptying out the stores."
Aaargh! I finally lost it with her, but the only part I'll repeat is "You need to quit watching Fox News, because that shit is POISONING YOUR MIND."
― Rock Hardy (Rock Hardy), Wednesday, 7 September 2005 23:41 (twenty years ago)
Several decades of research into the function of the frontal lobes in brain-damaged patients, and more recently in intact individuals using function brain imaging, has delineated the complex executive functions of the frontal cortex. And yet, the mechanisms by which the brain achieves these functions remain poorly understood. Here, we present a computational model of the role of the prefrontal cortex (PFC) in controlled memory use that may help to shed light on the mechanisms underlying one aspect of frontal control: the development and deployment of recall strategies. The model accounts for interactions between the PFC and medial temporal lobe in strategic memory use. The PFC self-organizes its own mnemonic codes using internally derived performance measures. These mnemonic codes serve as retrieval cues by biasing retrieval in the medial temporal lobe memory system. We present data from three simulation experiments that demonstrate strategic encoding and retrieval in the free recall of categorized lists of words. Experiment 1 compares the performance of the model with two control networks to evaluate the contribution of various components of the model. Experiment 2 compares the performance of normal and frontally lesioned models to data from several studies using frontally intact and frontally lesioned individuals, as well as normal, healthy individuals under conditions of divided attention. Experiment 3 compares the model's performance on the recall of blocked and unblocked categorized lists of words to data from Stuss et al. (1994) for individuals with control and frontal lobe lesions. Overall, our model captures a number of aspects of human performance on free recall tasks: an increase in total words recalled and in semantic clustering scores across trials, superiority on blocked lists of related items compared to unblocked lists of related items, and similar patterns of performance across trials in the normal and frontally lesioned models, with poorer overall performance of the lesioned models on all measures. The model also has a number of shortcomings, in light of which we suggest extensions to the model that would enable more sophisticated forms of strategic control."
PURPLE MONKEY DISHWASHER
― LeCoq (LeCoq), Thursday, 8 September 2005 00:21 (twenty years ago)
― LeCoq (LeCoq), Thursday, 8 September 2005 00:22 (twenty years ago)
― milozauckerman (miloaukerman), Thursday, 8 September 2005 01:15 (twenty years ago)
I go through the same thing with my grandmother in Memphis. We were watching protests one night and she gave me "the only reason those people have the right to protest is because of the army men fighting those terrorists over there." It took everything for me not to throw a cylinder.
But I don't hate her and she isn't rotten. I just know that the world must look very strange to her these days, and she isn't quite too sure just how to react to it.
― Pleasant Plains /// (Pleasant Plains ///), Thursday, 8 September 2005 02:47 (twenty years ago)
― LeCoq (LeCoq), Thursday, 8 September 2005 02:59 (twenty years ago)
― LeCoq (LeCoq), Thursday, 8 September 2005 03:04 (twenty years ago)
― LeCoq (LeCoq), Thursday, 8 September 2005 03:05 (twenty years ago)
― Allyzay knows a little German (allyzay), Thursday, 8 September 2005 15:30 (twenty years ago)
― Archel (Archel), Thursday, 8 September 2005 15:36 (twenty years ago)
― kelsey (kelstarry), Thursday, 8 September 2005 15:38 (twenty years ago)
― kelsey (kelstarry), Thursday, 8 September 2005 15:39 (twenty years ago)