Do you talk to your parents?

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I haven't for awhile--my dad for 7 years my mom for 17 years. It seems like people around here talk to their parents. Why? Has anyone sustained themselves without having a relationship with their parents?

― lll, Thursday, 5 May 2005 20:58 (twenty-one years ago)

is there any glory in cutting yourself off from your parents?

― lllll, Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:01 (twenty-one years ago)

Why?

because they're my parents?

― Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:01 (twenty-one years ago)

yes i do, i spoke to my mum about 2 hours ago - why don't you?

no. unless they are/were abusive i can't see why anyone would do this.

― jed_ (jed), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:02 (twenty-one years ago)

I talk to them as little as possible. It's tricky, because I live with them.

― caitlin (caitlin), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:03 (twenty-one years ago)

I don't call my dad or stepmom just to talk. It just doesn't occur to me. I like them fine, and don't mind talking to them though.

I hate talking to my mom, but I do call her a few times a week because she freaks out if I don't.

― Jordan (Jordan), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:04 (twenty-one years ago)

because they're my parents?

Word.

― giboyeux (skowly), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:06 (twenty-one years ago)

why don't you?

Well, I'm American and they're divorced. They're unusual people. They don't really 'love' me I guess.

― lllll, Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:07 (twenty-one years ago)

Every couple of weeks I call or vice versa, chat with both of them a bit on the phone. In depth talk we usually save for whenever I go home for a visit.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:08 (twenty-one years ago)

i probably talk to my mom about once every day or two. (only because we live in the same town, really. when i was across the country it was once a week or two. i don't quite know why the difference is, really.)

i haven't spoken to my dad in about 10 years.

― strng hlkngtn, Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:08 (twenty-one years ago)

yes I talk to my mother a couple of times a week. I haven't spoken to my father in more than ten years and have no plans to do so ever again.

― Miss Misery (thatgirl), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:09 (twenty-one years ago)

for some people it's a very good idea not to talk to their parents. I'm glad that I'm very close to mine but that's because they're great people. Some people are just absolutely toxic though. I think people in general feel more of an obligation to remain in contact with their folks than they would with other people; that's just biology + whatever familial guilt/obligation was programmed into you. That can be good or bad or both.

― teeny (teeny), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:18 (twenty-one years ago)

Sometimes I feel like I'm shirking them out of foolish pride. Like just endlessly trying to prove "see, I don't need you anyway". (And in turn living a shitty, maybe desperate life? that's the question)

But I also don't feel weighed down by their judgments or criticisms since I don't let myself be contingent on them at all.

― lllll, Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:30 (twenty-one years ago)

mom/step-father: maybe fortnightly. real father: maybe yearly.

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:31 (twenty-one years ago)

i love my mom, but i love her especially when i'm at least a few hours away. but even then i probably talk to her once a week (once a month if i'm abroad).

― Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:32 (twenty-one years ago)

lll, are you a music blogger?

― jaymc (jaymc), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:33 (twenty-one years ago)

I see my parents about once every six weeks or so, I guess. I'll otherwise talk to them two or three times a month.

― jaymc (jaymc), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:35 (twenty-one years ago)

I talk to my mom nearly every day, my dad once a week.

― luna (luna.c), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:36 (twenty-one years ago)

no but I'm still special
xxpost

― lllll, Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:37 (twenty-one years ago)

i talk to my mum just about every day. i dont always have stuff to say though.

― jed_ (jed), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:38 (twenty-one years ago)

lll, sorry that was inside joke re: the blogging panel at emp pop music conference (three of the four panelists were estranged from their fathers).

― jaymc (jaymc), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:41 (twenty-one years ago)

I talk to my mom about twice a week. I haven't spoken to my father for about two years. Not playing to rectify that any time soon, and I'd imagine it's mutual.

― Alex in NYC (vassifer), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:41 (twenty-one years ago)

I do stay in touch with my ex-step-father, who I'm pretty close to.

― Alex in NYC (vassifer), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:42 (twenty-one years ago)

hmm. I don't know anyone who is estranged from their parents.

Are you all proud of your parents?

― lllll, Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:43 (twenty-one years ago)

i am.

― jaymc (jaymc), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:53 (twenty-one years ago)

me too.

― giboyeux (skowly), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:53 (twenty-one years ago)

Incredibly so.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:54 (twenty-one years ago)

I hope my father dies a horrible, painful and humilating death. My mother I love and respect.

― Miss Misery (thatgirl), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:55 (twenty-one years ago)

Meh.

― Jordan (Jordan), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:55 (twenty-one years ago)

I've never met anyone, male or female, who didn't think their mom was a little "nutty"/crazy/neurotic/strange, etc. But I talk to each of my parents once every few weeks on the phone. More frequent via e-mail w/my mom.

― Shakey Mo Collier, Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:58 (twenty-one years ago)

i talk to my parents probably every other day and I see them probably every other week. they're lovely.

― jill schoelen is the queen of my dreams! (Homosexual II), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:58 (twenty-one years ago)

I am getting drunk with mine now. We are watching the election and shouting at the telly. It's great.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Thursday, 5 May 2005 21:59 (twenty-one years ago)

I talk to my parents every other week or so, but I get along really well with them--they just came to stay with us for 2 weeks or so (to help out with the new baby) and it was great.

― Douglas (Douglas), Thursday, 5 May 2005 22:02 (twenty-one years ago)

I would like to become close to my step-father as I would like to consider him my father. But he is remarkably like Hank Hill and enjoys Nascar. Not sure where to start.

― Miss Misery (thatgirl), Thursday, 5 May 2005 22:13 (twenty-one years ago)

propane?

― Shakey Mo Collier, Thursday, 5 May 2005 22:14 (twenty-one years ago)

and propane related accessories?

(not to derail this thread too much, but I am genuinely curious of people's estimations of their respective mothers' sanity)

― Shakey Mo Collier, Thursday, 5 May 2005 22:15 (twenty-one years ago)

I talk to my parents almost daily. Course, I am in college so there's not that whole "I have a life entirely separate from yours now, including ca$h" element, but we are all on amiable terms, to say the least.

― The Father of Honky-Crunk (Matt Chesnut), Thursday, 5 May 2005 22:19 (twenty-one years ago)

My mother is not sane. Clinically speaking.

― Jordan (Jordan), Thursday, 5 May 2005 22:20 (twenty-one years ago)

I suppose mine isn't either though she's more med-compliant than I am. She does get on my nerves and chatting with her can be a chore. But she nearly died a couple of months ago so I realize being able to keep up with her is a blessing. Because of various health problems she never leaves the house except to visit the doctor's and my brother and I rightly imagine all the rest of her time is spent wondering what we are doing. her annoyingness is confused.

― Miss Misery (thatgirl), Thursday, 5 May 2005 22:22 (twenty-one years ago)

My mother is not exactly sane. My father is a wonderful father. All in all good parents. Yet… I've been out of the house since I turned 17 and went abroad and to uni… and I haven't ever called regularly. Hell, I don't call at all. The most that I seem to manage is an email every two weeks or so. Am I a horrible son? Sometimes I think that I am, and then the rest of the time I just seem to forget, just like I forget to call. Out of sight out of mind? I am doing my own thing, I guess. Though to be honest, if I have kids, I hope to g-d that they pay more attention. :[

― you better believe it (you better believe it), Thursday, 5 May 2005 22:34 (twenty-one years ago)

i still live at home...so i hate my parents, man!

they don't understand me! i didn't ask to be born!

― latebloomer: But when the monkey die, people gonna cry. (latebloomer), Thursday, 5 May 2005 22:36 (twenty-one years ago)

i get along with 'em ok mostly, though my dad and i have moments where "we don't see eye to eye".

― latebloomer: But when the monkey die, people gonna cry. (latebloomer), Thursday, 5 May 2005 22:38 (twenty-one years ago)

i talk to them about once a week, my mom usually moreso than my dad. not because i don't like him as much, they're both wonderful parents and we never fight ever, but i generally have a better rapport with mom, i guess.

i haven't seen either of them since easter, though.

― joseph (joseph), Thursday, 5 May 2005 22:44 (twenty-one years ago)

I talk to my parents a couple of times a week, sometimes more. I'm on really good terms with my mom, but just cordial with my father, who was a total asshole when my brother and I were growing up. Basically I hope my dad passes quickly and inexpensively, and my mom stays healthy as long as my grandmother.

― Curious George (Bat Chain Puller) (Rock Hardy), Thursday, 5 May 2005 23:07 (twenty-one years ago)

I talk to my mom pretty much every day. I talk to my dad when I call him (he doesn't call me) about once a month or so. I haven't seen either of them in eons though (not since october for mom, over two years for dad). Sometimes it's a lot of effort to stay in contact, ya know?

― mouse (mouse), Thursday, 5 May 2005 23:10 (twenty-one years ago)

i talked with my mom today about what a fuckup i am. i talked with my dad yesterday about how awesome life is. i think those two approaches basically sum it up.

― hstencil (hstencil), Thursday, 5 May 2005 23:17 (twenty-one years ago)

more about Jed's question above. I don't talk to my dad because of unfair criticisms he's made of me and implications that the things he is critical of bear witness to a moral core that is flawed in the way my mother's (to him) is. Is this a product of all divorced families or just my immature parents?

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― lllll, Thursday, 5 May 2005 23:25 (twenty-one years ago)

In a pretty uninteresting coincidence, I found an answerphone message from my mother just before loading ILX. I've not talked to her for months, and I've seen her once in over four years (my dad died long ago). She was never physically abusive, but certainly mentally so from my earliest childhood, and since I suffer from depression, I can't cope with it nowadays, so keep contact to a minimum. I'll ring tomorrow, assuming I don't feel too bad, as she'll make me suffer for it if I don't ring her very soon.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Friday, 6 May 2005 00:17 (twenty-one years ago)

My parent's marriage went supernova a few years ago, and there was a period where they were downright nasty to each other, but they've mellowed a bit since then. I still talk to both of them fairly regularly, but they each infuriate me in their own way, so as I've gotten older, I've started to keep them a little more at arms length.

― Tantrum The Cat (Tantrum The Cat), Friday, 6 May 2005 00:29 (twenty-one years ago)

"Merman, Dad...Merman."

― irrigation can save your people (irrigation can save your peopl), Friday, 6 May 2005 00:30 (twenty-one years ago)

i talk to my mom once or twice a month, never for more than 15 minutes at a time. i talk to my dad even less so, maybe once every six months since they separated.

― mark p (Mark P), Friday, 6 May 2005 00:35 (twenty-one years ago)

I haven't spoken to my father or seen him in nearly four years. I don't want to hear about him until I know I can literally dance on his grave.

As for my mother, I live with her and love her very much. She's been wonderful.

― Ian Riese-Moraine has a grenade, that pineapple's not just a toy! (Eastern Mantr, Friday, 6 May 2005 00:37 (twenty-one years ago)

why is there so many shitty fathers in the world than mothers? is this just biology? am i right about this.

― Star Cauliflower (Star Cauliflower), Friday, 6 May 2005 00:48 (twenty-one years ago)

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― Star Cauliflower (Star Cauliflower), Friday, 6 May 2005 00:49 (twenty-one years ago)

My father passed away -- oh dear Lord, is it almost 22 months already? Dear Lord, time flies by. Anyway, when he was alive, I talked to him daily. My mom -- well, I'm her caretaker, so I'm kinda in constant contact with her. I love(d) both of them -- in fact, when I go visit my dad's gravesite about once every other month or so, I do feel like I'm connected to him to the point where I *can* "talk with him".

(I will provide Miss Misery with an airtight alibi should she decide to do her biological father some serious harm.)

― Goodbye Indian Summer (Dee the Lurker), Friday, 6 May 2005 01:13 (twenty-one years ago)

Oh! And in most Latino families, you rarely see much of a disconnect between parent and child. In fact, there'd have to be some REALLY incredibly horrible shit that happened between the two parties that would cause ANY sort of distancing. (See also: George Lopez's comedy routine, where he accurately describes how most Latino parents DON'T encourage their children to even move away.)

― Goodbye Indian Summer (Dee the Lurker), Friday, 6 May 2005 01:16 (twenty-one years ago)

they're both dead, so i don't

― shine headlights on me (electricsound), Friday, 6 May 2005 01:34 (twenty-one years ago)

I like to talk to my mom once a week, but sometimes 3 weeks or a month will pass between calls. Calls usually last pretty long, and although they're usually interesting and stimulating conversations, I don't always have the energy for them. I sometimes go a couple of months without talking to my dad and kind of have to work up my spirit to call him.

― Maria :D (Maria D.), Friday, 6 May 2005 01:51 (twenty-one years ago)

my mom and dad are both solid as a rock, two of the sanest people I know. Very reasonable and capable, and good senses of humor too. Oh, and to answer the original question, I chat online with my mom a couple of times a week, email her nearly daily, probably manage a phone call to both every month, although my dad is not as chatty, and often he's away taking care of his own parents. My mom and I spoke on the phone every week before we both had a computer.

― teeny (teeny), Friday, 6 May 2005 01:55 (twenty-one years ago)

Parents are divorced, and divorce wasn't so nice but they never got along anyway! I talk to my father every month or so. We talk more when I'm home but that's not so often, but we get along well enough.

My mother I talk to I guess every other week, but it's difficult as she is moody, critical, and controlling, and has suffered for many years from major depression but refuses to get treatment. Furthermore she believes life is hopeless, hates people, her job, and where she lives, is always pulling guilt trips on me for trying to keep some distance, and is sure we are living in the end times. Some Catholic prophecy! I try not to let all that get me down. It's not easy.

― daria g (daria g), Friday, 6 May 2005 01:57 (twenty-one years ago)

my moms cool but she crazy. a goddamned nightmare to live with, but not too bad a few hours at a time.

― Dan I. (Dan I.), Friday, 6 May 2005 01:57 (twenty-one years ago)

my mother is becoming increasingly corny, obsessive about horribly mundane details ('it took me an hour to get home from work, and i went this way and that way but there was construction, etc'), and messy and pack-rattish to a disturbing degree (last time i went home i had to sleep on the floor because the hide-a-bed and surrounding floor were covered with papers and magazines and junk). but yeah, she's still sane. she might be moving into that uncomfortable 'older woman w/too much costume jewelry' phase, though.

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Friday, 6 May 2005 02:04 (twenty-one years ago)

I usually talk to mum on the phone once a week, on the weekends (my family live interstate, about 900kms away from me). I'll chat to dad if he happens to answer the phone, but he usually nags me about work or finance stuff, hes quite the businessman like that. Mum I ramble to about whatever, and she rambles on even worse, we're as bad as each other. I love both my parents very much, but I'm happy they're in anothr state, as I totally can't handle life in their pockets - my way of life is quite opposed to theirs, and while they dont disapprove of me at all (in fact theyre very supportive), I just find the neat freakness and conservative attitudes frustrating.

― Trayce (trayce), Friday, 6 May 2005 02:26 (twenty-one years ago)

I havent seen my family since last year at xmas. For practical and cost reasons I tend to only get up to see them maybe twice or 3 times a year, and maybe once a year one or both of them might pop down to visit me.

My brother has never come down here to visit me :(

― Trayce (trayce), Friday, 6 May 2005 02:27 (twenty-one years ago)

my brother has never visited me either, tho i helped him move to portland and have been there several times at his invitation.

― hstencil (hstencil), Friday, 6 May 2005 02:29 (twenty-one years ago)

Yeah my other brother came to stay with me once years back, as an excuse to get to check melbourne out.. but the other bro has a wife and 2 kids and a busy job so I supose he cant just pop down whenever. Oh well.

― Trayce (trayce), Friday, 6 May 2005 02:35 (twenty-one years ago)

i see my mum and dad 3 or 4 times a year (they live in the country) and my brother about once every two years (he lives in another state). i love my family but this is definitely all we can see each other without murders occurring. we are a bit different though as both my brother and i went off to boarding school quite young so our family isn't really all that close.

― gem (trisk), Friday, 6 May 2005 02:57 (twenty-one years ago)

I usually see my parents at least once a week, I talk to my mom on the phone probably a couple of times a week.

― Leon Federline (Ex Leon), Friday, 6 May 2005 03:23 (twenty-one years ago)

I cut off my parents just recently. It's not a happy subject but I'm glad it was brought up. It wasn't nice at all but I think it was necessary. Their presence was just distressing. They're not insane or intentionally evil, but very emotionally dysfunctional and controlling. Toxic, I guess. I could complain on and on about personal attacks, neglecting my boundaries and needs, unhappy childhood full of fights and cops, and a few isolated times of physical abuse I could bring up if the rest doesn't count. I feel a bit shitty about feeling bitter, because they helped send me to college. They constantly reminded me of what great parents that makes them, and how guilty I should be. But that's also a way of smothering. There's just no connection or reciprocation, when I want to be treated like a normal individual. So, it can be a good idea to cut off parents if that's what it takes.

― -rainbow bum- (-rainbow bum-), Friday, 6 May 2005 06:25 (twenty-one years ago)

My relationship with my folks is similar to Rainbow Bum's. It's not an ideal situation but it's necessary if I'm going to live any kind of independent life. This may change in the future when I come to terms with my upbringing and no longer feel so angry towards my mother in particular. But for now, it's vital to keep my distance.
Although, it's often awkward and extended family members give me such a fucking hard time about it.

― Penelope_111 (Penelope_111), Friday, 6 May 2005 06:38 (twenty-one years ago)

why is there so many shitty fathers in the world than mothers? is this just biology? am i right about this.

Evolutionary psychologists would say yes. If you can agree that a human's underlying (albeit subconscious) objective behind every action and interaction is to facilitate, maximize and fortify procreation (which, ultimately, is just the perpetuation of genes), then it makes sense that males would be more likely to be absent.

Consider each gender's contribution to a pregnancy: the female, once she's impregnated, carries the offspring with her for nine months before she gives birth; the male's contribution can (literally) last twenty seconds. After he impregnates her, there's little reason (except for protecting the child in utero, ensuring its health and providing for it once it's born) for him to stay-- he could impregnate hundreds of other women before the initial female gave birth. She can only have @ one child per year, so it's beneficial for her to stay with that one child, nurture it, and make sure it grows into a creature than procreate effectively.

There's also another suggestion that since males (excluding DNA tests) can never truly trust that they are the father of their offspring, there might not be as strong of a connection between father and offspring as there is between mother and offspring (mothers, of course, are certain that their offspring came from them, regardless of the father). This might explain why males are inherently more jealous than females..

― poortheatre (poortheatre), Friday, 6 May 2005 06:56 (twenty-one years ago)

i hope that made some sense. it's four in the morning and i've been up for two days NOT writing one of my final papers.. heaven help us all...

and i talk to my parents on the phone every three weeks or so. almost always to my mom. she'll put my dad on the phone and he'll ask about money questions and logistics, etc. i talk to them much more on e-mail.

― poortheatre (poortheatre), Friday, 6 May 2005 06:58 (twenty-one years ago)

day by day i see myself becoming my father, we live under the same roof and yet have communicated for 23 years purely on one word answers i have tried for years to establish a relationship with him to no avail, so now i come in eat ignore him wash up go out. thats our communication.

but now to my horror i see myslef picking up little bits of his personality traits, getting angry over nothing, hiding my feelings till they boil over into a huge row, and keeping people at arms length cause i dont trust anyone.

i hate it, but i cant seem to stop it, only keep apologising for it.

my mother is totally nurotic and has obsessive compulsive disorder and needs me to call her twice a day to tell her where i am and how im doing.

― md2020 (pixie), Friday, 6 May 2005 10:05 (twenty-one years ago)

I talk to my mum at least once a week at the moment. We've been through bad patches where we didn't talk for up to a year. But we've both changed immensely and grown up a lot over the years, and our relationship is a pretty good one now. But it's taken a lot of work to get that way. She can still be a bit non-understanding, but at least now we're better able to handle that - I can say "Please back off and don't pressure me" rather than exploding into shouting matches. I don't think she's "mad" (or any madder than anyone else in a family who has been mad since the 18h Century) but I do think that she's had a pretty extraordinary life and has had some sane reactions to insane situations.

My father - since my parents split up (and even before then, really) - he calls me maybe twice a year, birthdays and christmas (when he can remember when my birthday is.) Communication has got better with the use of email. We probably write about once a month (In fact, I should email him to let him know his consituencey has gone Tory again.) more for just sort of informational exchanges rather than any kind of contact.

― Lapdog Shoesnog (kate), Friday, 6 May 2005 11:06 (twenty-one years ago)

I didn't talk to my father for a long time. We started talking again at my wedding and now things seem ok. My mother i talk to almost daily. She likes to call me and complain that she lost her green card. What am I supposed to do about it?

― Chris 'The Nuts' V (Chris V), Friday, 6 May 2005 11:16 (twenty-one years ago)

I talk to my Mum and Dad once or twice a week. I think they'd like it to be more often, but it just doesn't occur to me, unless I've got something particular to tell them, so they call me more often than I call them and I start feeling guilty, then annoyed that they've 'made' me feel guilty.

Recently, they've started calling me at work because they're often out on the evenings when I'm in (and vice versa), and I really, really wish they wouldn't do it because all ears prick up when somebody has a long personal phone call and it's hard to get rid without causing offence. Generally, I get on with them OK as long as I don't have to spend too much time in their company. If I do, their bickering winds me up and we have fights.

― Madchen (Madchen), Friday, 6 May 2005 11:41 (twenty-one years ago)

my parents are cool. we talk a couple of times a week and i see them every month or two. on sunday we're all going to see the arcade fire together. just found out yesterday they're leaving the country! they're doing some vso teaching stuff, dunno where yet but hopefully somewhere in asia. this = excellent holidays for me.

― emsk, Friday, 6 May 2005 12:39 (twenty-one years ago)

I usually talk to my dad about Burton Albion and Fred Dibnah.

― PJ Miller (PJ Miller), Friday, 6 May 2005 12:45 (twenty-one years ago)

I talk to my dad about fred dibnah, too.

― RJG (RJG), Friday, 6 May 2005 12:49 (twenty-one years ago)

I talk to my mom once or twice a week. She's super-cool in a nerdy way. Like many ILxors, I haven't seen or spoken to my father in years.

― adam (adam), Friday, 6 May 2005 13:02 (twenty-one years ago)

My mom is totally sane. It's my dad that's kinda nuts, in a way that's alternately irritating and entertaining. But I talk to both of them just about every week, always on Sunday afternoon/evening. We are a family of routines.

― n/a (Nick A.), Friday, 6 May 2005 13:09 (twenty-one years ago)

Once a week or so, interspersed with incomprehensible text messages from my Mum. They live 30 miles away so I can see them fortnightly and just for an afternoon or so, which suits me just fine. I love them to bits.

― Tag (Tag), Friday, 6 May 2005 13:23 (twenty-one years ago)

My dad calls me all the time asking for technical advice, I swear I run 2 IT Depts one by proxy.

― Jarlr'mai (jarlrmai), Friday, 6 May 2005 13:27 (twenty-one years ago)

I phone my folks once or twice a week. Usually I end up speaking to my mam. My dad seems to spend a lot of time gardening, either that or he's just ignoring me, though knowing him it is the garden. I send her dirty jokes/family pics/stupid internet crap by email once or twice a month.

― Billy Dods (Billy Dods), Friday, 6 May 2005 13:39 (twenty-one years ago)

Dad died in a plane crash, mother has been in a vegetative site since animal attack, but I still talk to her.

― Kid with the long hair that walks dogs/dogs, Friday, 6 May 2005 14:11 (twenty-one years ago)

I talk to my mom everyday or every other day. I talk to my dad when I go home to visit them. I prefer my parents' company more than the majority of life forms on this planet.

― Je4nne ƒury (Jeanne Fury), Friday, 6 May 2005 14:15 (twenty-one years ago)

I speak to my mother about two to three times a week.

My dad I speak to less often, probably one or two times every two months. I know he loves me, he can just be rather wrapped up in his own life (as can I, I'm very much my father's daughter in some respects). It did hurt when he forgot to send me a birthday card last year. And, lovely as my step-mum is, I'd prefer it if holiday postcards came in his writing rather than hers.

― Anna (Anna), Friday, 6 May 2005 14:16 (twenty-one years ago)

I talk to them at length about nothing in particular every few months and send the occasional text, email or letter. I haven't seen or spoken to my brother for over a year. We're not a very talkative family, but's its ok.

― Alix with an i? (alix), Friday, 6 May 2005 14:20 (twenty-one years ago)

I email my mom at least once a day during the week and try to talk to her at least once on the phone during the weekend. My dad doesn't do email or snail mail or the phone, so I only talk to him when I see him, which is now about twice a year for a couple of days.

It's hard to talk to my mom though on the phone or in person because she never seems to want to hear me talk, she wants to do all the talking. And she complains - A LOT - about her job and life and basically everything. She gets really depressed. But sometimes she's incredibly cheerful and comforting and mom-like. It depends on the day.

When/if I do talk to my dad on the phone, he keeps it VERY short and sweet. He'll ask me how Nick is, how my job is going, and, somewhat jokingly, how my cats are doing. Then he say he loves me and goodbye.

I never talk to my step-mom. If I do see her in person, which is usually only because it's Christmas and all the relatives are there, she MIGHT say hello to me, but only if I initiate it.

― Sarah McLusky (coco), Friday, 6 May 2005 14:22 (twenty-one years ago)

Opposite Day:
Do you talk to your children?

I call my youngest son every week much to his disgust. He's actually sort of fun to talk to or hang out with. We usually just talk about cupons I've cut out recently or the Dilbert desk calender cartoon for that day. Sometimes it becomes annoying to hear him talk about all his weird music (what in the world is a Deerhoof?) and his liberal biases when talking about news and we argue quite a bit. Even still, he's a pretty "cool dude," as the kids would say. I've stopped calling my oldest two, a daughter and a son, all together though. In fact I haven't spoken to them in six years and frankly I don't plan on calling either one. They teamed up on me long ago in a fit of defiance so I guess I just don't feel the love from them anymore.

― earinfections (Nick Twisp), Saturday, 7 May 2005 07:27 (twenty-one years ago)

I hope my father dies a horrible, painful and humilating death

My father *did* die a horrible, painful and humiliating death which is why I don't talk to him. I spoke to my mother a few minutes ago and arranged to go visit her next weekend. I speak to her every three or four weeks and probably visit her about six times a year. I always spend Christmas with her.

― MarkH (MarkH), Saturday, 7 May 2005 09:31 (twenty-one years ago)

I talk to my parents on the phone every few days. I love them both, and I don't see them for months at a time, so I miss them. If I talk to them about what I'm reading, things on TV and where I'm going that night, conversations are easy and really enjoyable. If I try to talk to them about anything too personal or things that are upsetting me it gets very difficult and I immediately regret burdening them.
My Mum writes me very sweet letters and sends me things she think I will like through the post, mostly newspaper articles and pictures of puffins.

― Cathy (Cathy), Saturday, 7 May 2005 10:15 (twenty-one years ago)

I talk to them about once a week, sometimes just out of habit rather than actually having anything much to say. I last saw them on election night when we drank wine and shouted at the TV and argued amongst ourselves. It was fun.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Saturday, 7 May 2005 10:28 (twenty-one years ago)

i generally phoned mum every saturday, round about now

― mark s (mark s), Saturday, 7 May 2005 11:30 (twenty-one years ago)

:-(((((

― nathalie in a bar under the sea (stevie nixed), Saturday, 7 May 2005 11:39 (twenty-one years ago)

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