Romantic Personality Deformations

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Single posters! How would your personality alter if you weren't?

Non-single posters! How would your persoanlity alter if you were?

This question troubles me often.

― Tom, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I don't think my personality would alter so much as my behavior. I'm much, much better behaved when dating someone, and probably a nicer person as well.

― Sean, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Your personality would not alter its spelling. Ugh.

― Tom, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I am irritated by friends who drop you once they get boyfriends (this hasn't happened to any of my single male geek friends, of course) so I've sort of gone out of my way to avoid a crush in their favor. Doesn't help my romantic chances, of course, but at least I don't feel like I'm not being annoying.

I don't know how else my personality would alter.

― Maria, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Like Sean I'm much better behaved when attached. I'm nicer and more fun to be around as well.

― Samantha, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

When hitched I'm kinder, saner, less drunk & harder working. I fear I am also a little complacent and dull.

― fritz, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I go to many, many more parties when I'm single, and I have tart potential. Though I imagine that I'd have forgotten what to do by now.

Oh, and I'd eat less. Every girl I've ever been out with has shared my love of food, and it's absolutely guaranteed that both of us will put on 15 or so punds during the first two years of the relationship. So I'd lose weight too.

Oh, you were asking about personality. I'd probably be a lot more fragile, as I wouldn't have Vicky's unconditional love to lean on.

― Mark C, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

If I wasn't single right now, how would my personality alter? I might be a little happier...but I may actually get less done (complaicancy of not being lonely). Maybe I wouldn't spend evenings watching old Sub Pop video's...

Er, I don't know.

― james, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

(sunny day real estate rule!)

― james, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Sorry for the predictable answer, but.... it depends.

Most people change at least a little when they become non-single.. and they change again if/when they become single again. Some folks who've achieved full confidence probably change less so, while others are so codependent that they're practically personality doppelgangers.

― Brian MacDonald, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

it depends on the other person's/people's hygiene standards.

― hamish, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

has my posting style altered recently?

― Ed, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I'd almost certainly drink less and smile more. Plus my dress sense would make another quantum leap up the ladder.

― Al, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I think I'd gain the confidence and evidence/backup (and lovestruck stupidity) to sneer at ~~my housemates~~ the people I live with openly, instead of doing it behind their backs on interweb forums.

― Graham, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

SHUT UP GRAHAM

― SHERIDAN, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

WTF?

― Graham, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Please be quiet, I'm tying to sing.

― Graham E-B, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I (possibly) wouldn't be such a miserable fucking bitch, and I (probably) wouldn't hate _everybody_ quite so much.

― emil.y, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Why is everyone so angry? If I were say with my X husband, I would NOT have a computer since he wouldn't allow one in the house. I would not care to be in that situation again.

― Gale Deslongchamps, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I'd be a chronic skirt chaser. Never fails. Probably my worst habit when I'm single.

― electric sound of jim, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Um...it alters?

― Ned Raggett, Tuesday, 11 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Sienfeld's hypothesis that, for men, lack of regular sex translates to increased mental activity is OTM for me. When I'm hitched my brain atrophies and I degenerate into a neanderthal.

― turner, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

People who know me find my "singleness" to be some infallible force from above or something. If I had a girlfriend, I suppose everybody would say "Who are you anyways? I don't know you anymore" and shun me.

― Honda, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I think if I were single I'd be more communicative about my personal life because I'd be obsessing over the fact that nothing was happening and I'd need someone to complain to - for example, the decline in personal stuff I wrote for my blog coincided perfectly with entering into a relationship.

Related to this is the fact that when I'm single I'm more needy towards my friends, whereas at the moment the opposite occurs, and I find the seemingly endless requests for my company or advice half-bothersome (really arrogant, but sadly true).

― Tim, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I get way more outside action when I'm 'with' someone

― dave q, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I think everyone on this board remembers how freaking psychotic and crazy and nuts I was when I was involved in a relationship, and I hope everyone has noticed how much calmer and happier and more together I am now that I'm out of it... :-)

― kate, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I'm not contributing to the "cheating" or any of the "sex life" threads, put it one way, where previously I might have done! At least to a non whatdoyoudoinbedlittleGURL thread, hmmm. This is not because I have a problem with the way I feel about it, but that I know how things go and it would probably be gossiped about down the booZoR as loads of you here know me and my other half hur hur personally and if things were going to come up like that, I'd rather bring them up myself in conversation, rather than other people speculating about us behind either of our bacZoRs. I think, when it regards these boards, I'd hold back some information I would previously haf volunteered. But then again, this isn't really a big deal.

I've had to stop going to that singles bar and drinking my shots of bourbon, though. I'm barred. It's all DINNER PARTIES NOW DAVE!!!!! YOU ARE MY WIFE NOW DAVE!!!!

― Sarah, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

NB my last paragraph is not referring to me and marital relations with Dave Q.

― Sarah, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I am much nicer to my colleagues when I'm getting some however I quite enjoy bitching at them so relationships are a two edged sword in that respect. I think I am insufferably smug when coupled up so better to be YF&S.

― Emma, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Personality changes? Nooo... Behavior changes? Yes! If I were single I would eat less (out of sheer laziness and unwillingness to go shopping for food). I would get bored and spend more time posting on ILE and ILM. Then I'd get even more bored and go to a party. I would make an effort to make new friends and I would move back to Boston and start doing radio again.

― marianna, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Single: Affable, carefree chap with time for everyone
Taken: mean, possessive envymeister with hairy knees.

― Will, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

when i find my neil i will be the next christine hamilton

― mark s, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

There is no way of saying cause it depends on who my partner would be. One thing that would definitely change is my speech pattern: I have this (horrible) tendency to adapt to the way someone talks. It annoys me but I can't help it. Personality wise I can't say cause like I said before it depends on the other.

― helen fordsdale, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

cantankerous, independant old hag either way

― Menelaus Darcy, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

When the relationship's going well I'm far less prone to bouts of moodiness. I find myself less affected by life's calamaties, because I can turn around and say to myself, well, at least I've got _____ in my life.

Of course, when the relationship's not going well then the opposite is true. Either way, being one half of a couple tends to enhance my emotional state, for better or for worse. I suppose that means I'm more stable when I'm single.

― Trevor, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

hmmm, tricky. i have only ever been single so i can't say for sure but i would hope i would be less lazy and less self absorbed should my circumstances change. i'm not sure how anyone can not be different when their marital status changes, it seems to have such a large bearing on your life.

ed, i can't say about your posting but regarding some areas of home life you have of late become insufferably smug. i do not begrudge you this however, merely finding myself getting green eyes.

― another james, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I think you are confusing smugness with happiness. You haven't een me this happy in a very long time, perhaps you forgot what it was like.

― Ed, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

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