TS: personality VS being nice - can't these two things co-exist in one person? how can someone actually have 'no personality?

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yeah, its a spin off of the other threads, which most likely, have been done to death before, but i dont like this idea that some people just have no personality. i mean, thats not only mean, but its actually likely to not be too correct. maybe i just dont like thinking of certain people who are/were special in my life as being devoid of personality, but maybe they DO have personality, its just not one that screams out loud in some way or another. doesnt mean they dont have a personality though. maybe nice people are just those so aware of their predicament, that their niceness is compensation. which is really not a nice way to look at things. not sure which i would rather choose, i do like nice people. but i dont like boring people either. it seems the most interesting people all too often just arent that nice, which is why i dont like them, and yet i dont wanna be bored. sorry about this rambling thread, im slightly drunk, posting under a new alias, and my mind is stressed and frazzled.

― oneortheother, Sunday, 5 June 2005 22:20 (twenty years ago)

you're asking if there really are people who have no personality...hmm. how many people have you talked to outside of the internet

― Vichitravirya XI, Sunday, 5 June 2005 22:31 (twenty years ago)

Vic I only talked to you through the internet first. YOU ARE A FIGMENT OF MY IMAGINATION. This means I have no personality. Er, wait.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Sunday, 5 June 2005 22:32 (twenty years ago)

"how many people have you talked to outside of the internet "

what dyou mean? ppl on the net have more personality than those in/on it? uhhhhhh

― oneortheother, Sunday, 5 June 2005 22:34 (twenty years ago)

maybe i just dont like thinking of certain people who are/were special in my life as being devoid of personality, but maybe they DO have personality, its just not one that screams out loud in some way or another. doesnt mean they dont have a personality though.

Exactly. When people say that someone has no personality, they really mean that someone's personality is not apparent. At least not blatantly, like you said. Those people just don't know how to phrase it/don't realise that said person's personality isn't imposing upon anyone.

― Ian Riese-Moraine forever! (Eastern Mantra), Sunday, 5 June 2005 22:35 (twenty years ago)

When I say a person has no personality it means that I have yet to hear them say anything interesting, see them show interest in something with genuine passion, or give any feeling of human warmth in general.

― Orbit (Orbit), Sunday, 5 June 2005 22:38 (twenty years ago)

it's easier to discern _something_ about one's personality through the internet (not always accurately, of course), based on the fact that they must write/communicate/express themselves on here without body language. off the internet, there are many either very _shy_ or _dull_ ppl who don't communicate much. you have to do what you can to figure out if they're either one or the other... usually, if you spend enough time w/ them, you can tell whether they either have something to say but are just a bit bashful, or perhaps don't have much to contribute at all

Orbit is getting at what i mean. of course there are lots of fascinating, very introverted people. but it's still possible to make a connection with them. otherwise yes i do think it's possible for some to to actually have "no personality" - it's still okay if they have abs tho

― Vichitravirya XI, Sunday, 5 June 2005 22:40 (twenty years ago)

"human warmth"

hmmmmmmm

i suppose ultra mild mannered can sometimes = no personality. i think laid back ppl often get misconstrued as having no personality.

― oneortheother, Sunday, 5 June 2005 22:43 (twenty years ago)

As I said, that person's personality isn't imposing upon anyone. It may not be apparent, but it does exist. xpost

What is the difference between character and personality?

― Ian Riese-Moraine forever! (Eastern Mantra), Sunday, 5 June 2005 22:43 (twenty years ago)

I meant xxpost.

― Ian Riese-Moraine forever! (Eastern Mantra), Sunday, 5 June 2005 22:43 (twenty years ago)

Personality is the reflection of what you are under general circumstances; character is a reflection of what you do in morally trying situations.

― Orbit (Orbit), Sunday, 5 June 2005 22:45 (twenty years ago)

okay look, let me try to make this ez for u to understand. see this picture of the muppet babies? see the female baby w/ red hair and glasses in the middle that no one thought much of and made little impact on the lives of the other babies?

she is a good example of someone without PERSONALITY. understand?

http://dangernet.blig.ig.com.br/imagens/babys.jpg

― Vichitravirya XI, Sunday, 5 June 2005 22:48 (twenty years ago)

HA.

― oneortheother, Sunday, 5 June 2005 22:52 (twenty years ago)

people with no personality type LOL and HA in place of actual comments, dont they?!

― oneortheother, Sunday, 5 June 2005 22:52 (twenty years ago)

Well, if your nature is not to react to anything in general circumstances or make much of an impression, how is the tendency to seem unassuming not part of your personality? (Yeesh, is there a way to word this correctly?)

― Ian Riese-Moraine forever! (Eastern Mantra), Sunday, 5 June 2005 22:54 (twenty years ago)

one: in america online instant message sessions, yes. here it's okay, (since you can get away with anything here as being "ironic.")

any more questions?

ian: yes some have a "quiet nature" and thus personality, but as far as i'm concerned "having personality" is used to mean one is vivacious, interesting, engaging. a specific sort of temperament

― Vichitravirya XI, Sunday, 5 June 2005 22:56 (twenty years ago)

Well, then the concept of "having personality" essentially betrays and deceives the actual personalities of those who are considered to have no personality. The concept of "having personality" is just ~~a perception~~ ~~a point-of-view~~ ~~a state of mind~~ an unwitting/unconscious tool of segregation (to be a bit po-mo in the usage of that term) against those whose personalities don't impose upon anyone. The notion seems misguided, and yet we esteem it with such overbearing and unnecessary importance and demand that our potential friends and romantic interests have one when everyone really does possess a personality. To literally not have a personality means that one is literally pronounced dead, correct? We probably should abolish the concept of "having personalities" -- well, without having to appeal to law to do that, of course; in essence, cancel out the idea, erase it.

― Ian Riese-Moraine forever! (Eastern Mantra), Sunday, 5 June 2005 23:27 (twenty years ago)

In cancelling out the idea, I mean that we accept the fact that everyone does have a personality as long as they're alive, and so it's senseless to say that one person has a personality (when it's only apparent) and the other doesn't (just because it's not apparent).

― Ian Riese-Moraine forever! (Eastern Mantra), Sunday, 5 June 2005 23:29 (twenty years ago)

but as far as i'm concerned "having personality" is used to mean one is vivacious, interesting, engaging. a specific sort of temperament

Thats having personality, but thats not having A personality.

― Trayce (trayce), Monday, 6 June 2005 01:35 (twenty years ago)

yeah so there are two different ways this adjective is used. shouldnt be a conflict, right

― Vichitravirya XI, Monday, 6 June 2005 02:03 (twenty years ago)

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