"Can You Fall In Love In A Dream?"

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K-Reg asks a good question there!

Tom, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I'm franticly trying to make it up my girlfriend, even though she doesn't know. So the answer, in my case, is yes, only I wouldn't have thought it possible before the other night.

K-reg, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I ONLY LOVE BUBBLE, GIVE ME BUBBLE! HELL TO YOU IF NO SATISY!

Mike Hanle y, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

There is an anonymous faceless "love-interest" that frequents my dreams. Sometimes when I meet people i fancy, this person assumes their identity and so the affection becomes directed. Sometimes she plays a wicked trick and turns into people I would never ever want to be in love with. Her first appearance was last summer when she appeared as a mysterious stranger. I recall we were an item in the dream and she was introducing me to her protective father. Hours after I woke up it hit me pretty hard that she didn't exist. Now after I've met a certain somebody, she has returned inhabiting this person's body. I do not know where she shall go next...

Honda, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

The most intense love exists in dreams, I think.

Ally C, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I've never loved anyone in a dream. I really only have dreams about helicopters. Perhaps I am a cyborg. Maybe I should marry a computer.

rainy, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I would like to say that love in a dream is unrequited, which is always intense. But that's not right, it just seems like now, from an external perspective, a couple of days down the line. What happened the other night wasn't unrequited, or particularly intense for that matter, I felt like I was falling about laughing all the time, so happy I was experiencing 'that' feeling all over again. Whatever, it's all good news. Of course I want to go back, but isn't that's where the problems start...

K-reg, Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

there used to be a boy in my dreams, consistently. he was tall and lanky and goofy. and he didn't talk. though he would do puppet shows for me, sometimes. he was very sweet for a non-existent boy. i was consistently in love with him, for about three years. i say 'in love' because i responded to him, the same way i do, in love. i would wake from these completely non-sexual dreams, all flustery, with my heart beating two times too fast. my cheeks would even be pink. and i would hop around in the morning, goofy and giggly.

but i haven't seen him for years. he disappeared without a trace.

jerkwad.

nancy b., Wednesday, 12 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I don't often fall in love in dreams but it has happened. God it was grim when I woke up.

N., Thursday, 13 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I have dreamt that I was happily together with the girl I fancied from afar in 'the real world'. Like N. says, it was not good to wake up.

Will, Thursday, 13 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

The most intense sex happens in dreams. If you're lucky. There are at least a couple of people I work with who I wasn't able to look in the eye for weeks afterwards.

Mark C, Thursday, 13 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I generally die violently in all my dreams, it would make a refreshing change to fall in love though it would be much less exciting

Menelaus Darcy, Thursday, 13 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Only in dreams.

Mitch Lastnamewithheld, Thursday, 13 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I don't see why not. Emotions are sporratic and if she/he keeps reappearing, there's no good reason why you two can't have a good relationship. Though it is like deceiving yourself, if it makes you happy, go for it. Falling in love...it's all controversial. It doesn't seem (to me at least) that "true love" exists. How do you know when it's the ONE? How will one ever know. Fall in love in a dream, yes, but I'm not saying that it's true l

kimera, Friday, 14 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I'll ask her if she's real next time we see each other. I presume she'll say 'yes'. I think I know her well enough to say that.

K-reg, Friday, 14 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)

ten months pass...
I have had some very intense "falling in love" dreams. When I was little (about 8?) I had a series of dreams in which I would hang out with my fake boyfriend in dreamland. Lots of hand-holding and hanging out in pretty weather together. Sometimes we would go to children's museums even. I looked forward to falling asleep so I could hang out with him. Another dream guy (about 11 at the time?) I thought I would die for, but alas the night came that he said goodbye to me in my dream and then never showed up again. It made me rather depressed.

Sarah McLusky (coco), Friday, 18 October 2002 12:41 (twenty-three years ago)

"Much of Jung's work revolved around the deciphering the meaning of dreams. According to Jung, certain items or people (objects, in general) in a dream represented something else. In other words, as we dream in our unconscious mind, what we are dreaming has some type of ramifications in our conscious mind. Jung's theories on the Animus and Anima are a few examples of this.

Anima - This word comes from the Latin feminine word for "soul." Only men experience the Anima. It appears in dreams and is the feminine side of a man. In dreams, it is represented by either a womanly spiritual guide, a seductress, a young, spontaneous girl, or as a witch. When a man becomes aware of his anima, he usually becomes moody. The man will usually end up excepting the anima. When this happens, he will be open to deep emotions and he will be able to fall in love. The development of a man's anima has to do with how well he gets along and interacts with others around him. The better he is able to interact, the more his anima has developed.

Animus - This word comes from the Latin masculine world for "soul." It is basically the opposite of the anima. It only resides in woman; and it is the woman's unconscious masculine side. It usually is appears in dreams. The animus is the principal masculine spirit in women. It can be represented by muscular men, wise poetic men, or as a
sorcerer. He tends to be logical, rational, and sometimes argumentative. When a woman realizes her animus, she tends to get opinionated and argumentative. A woman's development of the animus depends on her ability to relate to men. The better she is able to relate to men, the more her animus has developed.

The anima and the animus have been said to be the principal factors in determining a person's sexuality. If a person is well in touch with their other side (a man's anima or a woman's animus) he or she is likely to be able to relate well with the opposite sex and will usually have good relationships. In a way, it will fill the other half that we do not have. The theories of anima and animus are very central in Jung's findings."

[Source: http://web.bentley.edu/students/g/grdina_jack/animus.html]

You can find more precise information on Jungian concepts such as the anima and animus at The Jung Lexicon.

ragnfild (ragnfild), Friday, 18 October 2002 13:04 (twenty-three years ago)

Who is this K-reg character?

nick.K (nick.K), Friday, 18 October 2002 13:06 (twenty-three years ago)

That makes no sense. I'm argumentative and opinionated and always have been - which implies thatn I came across my animus a long time a go - and I certainly relate to men better than women, but I'm not about to have "good relationships" with men. Eeuck. I'll wait until one of the buxom "Twins of Evil" is ready for me. Yummo.

toraneko (toraneko), Friday, 18 October 2002 13:48 (twenty-three years ago)

I dreamt that I married this girl I had a high school crush on and we lived in a garden shed. It turned out she was married to someone else much better looking than me all along.

jel -- (jel), Friday, 18 October 2002 13:55 (twenty-three years ago)

I certainly relate to men better than women

Isn't this evidence of a "good relationship"? In saying as much, I assume that "relationship" is defined as the way we relate to others. Since you relate better to men, perhaps you do have "good relationships" with them after all -- even if they're not romantically based.

Meanwhile, I certainly don't believe Jung is above reproach; only that he has some interesting insights which may or may not apply to individual circumstance.

ragnfild (ragnfild), Friday, 18 October 2002 13:57 (twenty-three years ago)

I've had love dreams before, when i was young, and, no, that isn't a euphemism.

Last night I dreamt I kissed Penny Smith and it was much like the first kiss of some serious relationships I've had, alas she was married. Oddly she was 25. Oops that was all out loud

Sofa King Alternative (Sofa King Alternative), Friday, 18 October 2002 14:11 (twenty-three years ago)

yes dreams are much better for all sorts of idealistic things

Maria (Maria), Friday, 18 October 2002 20:01 (twenty-three years ago)

i dreamed i was 'married' to a woman once, we were on a small yacht with some other people and i was sooooooooo happy to be there with her. i can recall her face and body-language so easily to my mind, we were so in love in this dream, i felt i had 'come home'.
had another, in which a man was in my dining room and i felt when i saw him that we were destined to be together, that he loved me completely, but i didnt feel the same way about him as i did with my 'wife' dream.
i am aware of jungs anima and animus theories, but dont accept that method of 'dream-interpretation' ie: such and such = this etc.

donna (donna), Friday, 18 October 2002 20:44 (twenty-three years ago)

a few nights ago i dreamed i was emily bronte and i had 2 days to write a novel but then i met the love of my life and was too busy rooting to get anything done.

di smith (lucylurex), Saturday, 19 October 2002 23:40 (twenty-three years ago)


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