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Two couples I know got married this weekend. Not close friends, but people I hung out with in college! Now they're married! They just suddenly grew up, it seems like. How'd that happen so fast? It blows my mind!

Is there a switch that goes off from "I'm a teenager, or at least I feel like one" to "Let's spend our lives together and take responsibility for the rest of our lives?"

― Maria (Maria), Monday, 27 June 2005 01:37 (twenty years ago)

now i can't get that "people are still having sex" song out of my head.

― monsanto and yanni (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 27 June 2005 01:40 (twenty years ago)

my friend is getting married. i think getting married is kind of stupid. i'm going to have children out of wedlock to make the president ANGRY

― caitlin oh no (caitxa1), Monday, 27 June 2005 01:41 (twenty years ago)

my first girlfreind is getting married this fall, and one of the first girls i ever fucked around with just gave birth to her second child (neither of them are mine, thank god)

yeah, it makes me feel profoundly old. and really immature at the same time, how at 22 im unable to make a connection that even resembles a relationship

― JD from CDepot, Monday, 27 June 2005 01:43 (twenty years ago)

i feel so so old because my parents got married like a week after they both turned 22, and i'm almost 21, with no marriages in sight. i still like it that way, though.

― caitlin oh no (caitxa1), Monday, 27 June 2005 01:45 (twenty years ago)

the first time i felt old wasn't when friends of mine started getting married -- it was actually in high school when a girl who was a year younger than i was got pregnant.

― monsanto and yanni (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 27 June 2005 01:46 (twenty years ago)

I know this may sound horribly sarcastic or pessimistic, but its not a switch that we hit, but a fear that we comprimise with. there is still a small part of me that desperately hopes otherwise, but so many of the people i know in long relationships are there because they are afraid of being alone. and why shouldnt they be? i cant shake the feeling that i dumped the girl i was meant to be with when i was 17 for no greater reason than boredom. surely that boredom is better than...well, this...

― JD from CDepot, Monday, 27 June 2005 01:57 (twenty years ago)

My freshman year roommate just had a baby. People I know have been having babies since I was about 17 or so, actually. When my mom was my age now, I was 4. There's more than a handful of people I knew in high school and college are married now.

yeah, it makes me feel profoundly old. and really immature at the same time, how at 22 im unable to make a connection that even resembles a relationship

That's totally OTM. But then again, I don't feel so bad because most of my friends are in the same boat as I am and I'm the one with the most active dating life. Besides, I know I'm an immature spazz and that if I got married tomorrow it would be a disaster.

― Candicissima (candicissima), Monday, 27 June 2005 01:58 (twenty years ago)

Bunches of my friends are married, many have kids, a large number of my friends are younger than me, but I don't feel old. Other feelings, sure, they occur...but I'm just enjoying life as is without letting mortality linger over my head. :-)

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:02 (twenty years ago)

i thought you wrote "morality"!!

― Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:04 (twenty years ago)

"if I got married tomorrow it would be a disaster"

oh, i know this, but somehow its not comforting at all, maybe cos im certain that if i get married in 10 years it will be a complete disaster.

but then, youre lucky, you have a dating life. mine died on many a dinner table, so to speak.

― JD from CDepot, Monday, 27 June 2005 02:04 (twenty years ago)

my younger bro gets married right after Thanksgiving, and my ex-gf called me two weeks ago to let me know she was engaged.

― kingfish (Kingfish), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:05 (twenty years ago)

i got married

― a real live British pub hooligan (nordicskilla), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:06 (twenty years ago)

maybe there is hope for us all, then

― caitlin oh no (caitxa1), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:08 (twenty years ago)

i doubt it

― JD from CDepot, Monday, 27 June 2005 02:09 (twenty years ago)

I'm happy with where I am -- i.e., without any intention to get married anytime soon -- but I do have to admit that as I see many of my friends tie the knot, especially within the last year or so, I've often thought, "Hey, I thought we were all in this young, carefree, urban, unmarried world together! What gives?" Same goes with people buying houses/condos and having real jobs and shit. I'd like to feel like I'm not the only one who's immature and irresponsible!

Then again, it's also occurred to me lately that people I know end up getting married if they are a) between the age of 25-30, and b) have dated someone for over a year. I'm sure they're in love and all of that, but it all seems so happenstance, too -- like they just came together at the appropriate time. This kind of bothers me for some reason.

― jaymc (jaymc), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:11 (twenty years ago)

i kind of want to get married, only to have someone to bake pies for, and to coddle

― caitlin oh no (caitxa1), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:13 (twenty years ago)

"I thought we were all in this young, carefree, urban, unmarried world together"

i come from the absolute antithesis of this situation. many of my high school freinds had no illusions of going to college, and are working construction or manual labor of some sort, some are in iraq. those that went to college for the most part came back to the same home town, and are the ones that are rushing to the altar. if they arent, they are drunk and stoned and miserable and bored. (there are execptions, i dont mean to generalize)

― JD from CDepot, Monday, 27 June 2005 02:18 (twenty years ago)

That's exactly the idea that I've been mulling over lately - the randomness of relationships (xpost to jaymc). Somehow it's both depressing and really a cause for optimism - because, seriously, who bluddy knows what's going to happen and when, just that's something *will* happen sometime. What it's really made me realize though is that I won't stay in a relationship that bores me, makes me sad/angry/depressed, something other than supported and inspired, I guess.

― rrrobyn (rrrobyn), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:20 (twenty years ago)

Same goes with people buying houses/condos and having real jobs and shit. I'd like to feel like I'm not the only one who's immature and irresponsible!

What on EARTH gives you the idea that I'm mature or responsible?

― a real live British pub hooligan (nordicskilla), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:22 (twenty years ago)

You'll have a condo before me, buddy boy!

― a real live British pub hooligan (nordicskilla), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:23 (twenty years ago)

I doubt it!

― jaymc (jaymc), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:23 (twenty years ago)

WANNA BET?

― a real live British pub hooligan (nordicskilla), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:23 (twenty years ago)

Yes.

― jaymc (jaymc), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:25 (twenty years ago)

You're on!

― I'm bad and dirty and going to hell (nordicskilla), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:26 (twenty years ago)

"get out of the gene pool, im trying to swim"

― JD from CDepot, Monday, 27 June 2005 02:26 (twenty years ago)

I shall adjudicate this jaymc/adamrl bet and collect the winnings.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:27 (twenty years ago)

you mean the whinings, surely

― I'm bad and dirty and going to hell (nordicskilla), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:28 (twenty years ago)

We must let fate decide that.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:29 (twenty years ago)

You have to remember that I don't own a single credit card and whenever I start a job and hear about the 401K program, I say to myself, "Oh yeah, I should probably do that ... sometime ... I guess" and then never actually enroll, because money is confusing.

― jaymc (jaymc), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:29 (twenty years ago)

Same goes with people buying houses/condos and having real jobs and shit. I'd like to feel like I'm not the only one who's immature and irresponsible!

I came late to music obsessiveness -- while I was in the middle of buying a condo. Ever since I have regarded it as a reaction to owning property and having more or less "real" jobs. But then I haven't had a serious relationship in longer than I care to think about.

― j.lu (j.lu), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:31 (twenty years ago)

I have three credit cards! On two continents! All MAXED! Beat that.

― I'm bad and dirty and going to hell (nordicskilla), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:32 (twenty years ago)

That'll be the last time YOU tar a married with the "dull and responsible" brush!

― I'm bad and dirty and going to hell (nordicskilla), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:33 (twenty years ago)

We're like Bonnie And Clyde, bitches!

― I'm bad and dirty and going to hell (nordicskilla), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:33 (twenty years ago)

credit card debt = death by hail of gunfire

― JD from CDepot, Monday, 27 June 2005 02:36 (twenty years ago)

everyone i went to college with is married or engaged, and one of my old roommates just had a baby! sophomore year it was trendy to get engaged or something. the only way i can see myself getting married in the near future would be if i got trashed and eloped.

whenever I start a job and hear about the 401K program, I say to myself, "Oh yeah, I should probably do that ... sometime ... I guess" and then never actually enroll, because money is confusing.

i say this every time. also, i say "i am too young to worry about that now" or "i don't make enough to take any more out than taxes and insurance already do!" and thus continue the denial that i'm not getting any younger. however, when i talk to my parents i insist that i'm the most grown up person on the face of the earth!

― tehresa (tehresa), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:40 (twenty years ago)

none of my friends are married, but a lot of them are in LTRs that look like they may turn out that way, and I'm already feeling pre-lousy about it.

it seems all the people i went to highschool with are married now, and a lot have kids.

it kind of scares me that I came pretty close to getting married, as I am pretty much a mess, emotionally, financially and like, all-around.

― Homosexual II (Homosexual II), Monday, 27 June 2005 02:41 (twenty years ago)

When I was younger, in my early 20s, most of my friends were about 10 years older than me, and I can remember them all getting married in their early 30s, long after many of them had "given up hope" of ever Meeting Someone. That gave me hope.

OK, so now I'm actually older than any of them when they got married. I think I'm the oldest unmarried (or similarly partnered) person in my immediate/loose group of friends.

And the realisation has finally penetrated my head that it ~~might~~ probably will never happen. That made me depressed as fuck. But then I realised that now I could just stop trying (and hopefully caring) and stop apologising and just get on with my cantankerous spinsterhood.

― MIS Information (kate), Monday, 27 June 2005 06:54 (twenty years ago)

Why did I post that? In fact, why did I read this thread? I've made myself all bloody depressed now. :-(

― MIS Information (kate), Monday, 27 June 2005 07:06 (twenty years ago)

I saw yesterday in the newspaper that an old schoolmate of mine who was in the class above me is getting married. I'm not entirely surprised by this (as I actually ran into her a few months back and she discussed how enamoured she was with her boyfriend and whanot), but it's still weird -- though not as weird as how a younger acquaintance of mine last year purposefully got herself pregnant (and no, I don't condone it, it was very misguided and, erm, irresponsible of her -- for lack of a less authoritarian term).

― Ian Riese-Moraine eats nation-states for breakfast! (Eastern Mantra), Monday, 27 June 2005 10:20 (twenty years ago)

I'm going to a lesbian wedding next weekend! And they are OUTLAWED here!

Has anyone noticed an upswing in the sheer VOLUME of marriages per capita going on in 2005?

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Monday, 27 June 2005 13:13 (twenty years ago)

Volume per capita? You mean people are getting married more than once? Bastards! No wonder I can't get a marriage...

― MIS Information (kate), Monday, 27 June 2005 13:14 (twenty years ago)

my first good friend is getting married next week, which is kinda freaking me out. good thing there's going to be an open bar!

― Zack Richardson (teenagequiet), Monday, 27 June 2005 13:16 (twenty years ago)

Has anyone noticed an upswing in the sheer VOLUME of marriages per capita going on in 2005?

Is this true? I would've thought it's in mild decline generally, correlating with supposed lower birth-rate in many parts of the world (inc. Russia, as reported last week).

― Sociah T Azzahole (blueski), Monday, 27 June 2005 13:17 (twenty years ago)

Echo boomers are getting older. See: real estate bubble, consumer debt time bomb.

― TOMBOT, Monday, 27 June 2005 13:57 (twenty years ago)

All my close friends, as well as the wifes are already married except one. He was engaged but broke it off cuz his fiance was a drunk. He now bangs my sister.

― Lupton Pitman (Chris V), Monday, 27 June 2005 14:00 (twenty years ago)

I'm going to a lesbian wedding next weekend!

I once drove five hours for the opportunity to end a Jewish lesbian wedding (in a synagogue and everything). I mean, there's a chance I would've gone even if my friend Becky had been marrying a dude, but you also don't pass things like that up.

― jaymc (jaymc), Monday, 27 June 2005 14:11 (twenty years ago)

to end it? like in the graduate?

― lauren (laurenp), Monday, 27 June 2005 14:13 (twenty years ago)

All my close friends, as well as the wifes are already married except one.

Aren't wifes married by default?

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 27 June 2005 14:14 (twenty years ago)

"end"! Haha, no. "Attend." Weird.

― jaymc (jaymc), Monday, 27 June 2005 14:15 (twenty years ago)

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congrats zach

i think we are the same age and weve been with our girlfriends about the same amount of time

so thanks

― max, Monday, 19 July 2010 15:39 (fifteen years ago)

Z S is that young? blow me down

― RIP la petite mort (acoleuthic), Monday, 19 July 2010 15:39 (fifteen years ago)

congrats dude! v exciting 4 u

― HI DERE, Monday, 19 July 2010 15:42 (fifteen years ago)

You should make a little animated gif bride & groom, and load it on someone's iphone, and then put that on top of your cake.

― could be a bad day for (Abbott), Sunday, July 18, 2010 8:19 PM

Abbott, this idea is incredible. cosign

― markers, Monday, 19 July 2010 02:46 (13 hours ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

^^^^

CONGRATS ME GOOD MAN. If I remember wdylls then you have snared a beaut. I'm also assuming she has other qualities. :)

― one man meme-denier - jol in? (a hoy hoy), Monday, 19 July 2010 15:43 (fifteen years ago)

she's the one who does all his gifs, he's just a front

― RIP la petite mort (acoleuthic), Monday, 19 July 2010 15:44 (fifteen years ago)

she is the hottest wolfhead he has ever seen iirc?

― Everytime I hit 'submit post' the internet gets dumber (darraghmac), Monday, 19 July 2010 15:47 (fifteen years ago)

congratulations, Z S!

― horseshoe, Monday, 19 July 2010 16:48 (fifteen years ago)

congratulations!

― oligopoly golightly (c sharp major), Monday, 19 July 2010 16:51 (fifteen years ago)

congrats zach

i think we are the same age and weve been with our girlfriends about the same amount of time

so thanks

I'm 27, and we've been together since my 21st b-day.

Getting tired of coworkers and family asking about when you're gonna get married yet?

― 1967 Dragnet episode (Z S), Monday, 19 July 2010 17:15 (fifteen years ago)

I guess you have an answer to that now. "Sometime."

― could be a bad day for (Abbott), Monday, 19 July 2010 17:16 (fifteen years ago)

We got married like two years after we got engaged. One winter I was like, "Hey, maybe we should have the wedding this summer."

― could be a bad day for (Abbott), Monday, 19 July 2010 17:16 (fifteen years ago)

Z S!!!!!!!!!!! Congratulations!!!

― goth (crüt), Monday, 19 July 2010 17:18 (fifteen years ago)

Congrats - instead of confetti people should throw animated GIFs...

― ninjas and lasers and gold and (snoball), Monday, 19 July 2010 17:19 (fifteen years ago)

I hope this leads to the development of animated GIF wedding albums!
Congratulations! Being married is great!

― The swan at dawn is now gone (doo dah), Monday, 19 July 2010 17:38 (fifteen years ago)

congrats!

― hot dub grime machine (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Monday, 19 July 2010 17:42 (fifteen years ago)

three years pass...

sean gramophone!

― REDACTED got your back (flamboyant goon tie included), Sunday, 6 October 2013 15:42 (twelve years ago)

I am gifting him the largest container filled with the finest olive oil I can find in the city. a vat of oil. happy wedding!

― REDACTED got your back (flamboyant goon tie included), Sunday, 6 October 2013 15:43 (twelve years ago)

one year passes...

i couldn't find the right thread for it, but i have some news

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sPM3xKKGHUc

― ♪♫_\o/_♫♪ (Karl Malone), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 01:48 (eleven years ago)

Congratulations I sez I sez!

― Ned Raggett, Tuesday, 13 January 2015 01:55 (eleven years ago)

that video is awesome and congrats

― $80 is absurd and very ridiculous! (Sufjan Grafton), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 01:56 (eleven years ago)

dude congrats!

― tender is the late-night daypart (schlump), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 02:04 (eleven years ago)

thanks!

haha, and wow, i just realized that's me posting the same thing 4 years ago. well that's kind of fucked up isn't it?

knew i shouldn't have revived a random marriage thread while walking home!

― ♪♫_\o/_♫♪ (Karl Malone), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 05:15 (eleven years ago)

Whoa...yeah that must seem...well, ILX, been around that long.

― Ned Raggett, Tuesday, 13 January 2015 05:21 (eleven years ago)

Congrats! That's great news.

― Wristy Hurlington (ShariVari), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 08:32 (eleven years ago)

loooool

also your dog will have no truck with your craven pomplamoosing

haha i kid! u2 r adorbz & there is nothing wrong with charting the heart's restarts - this is hopefully much more harmonious than what came before! best with it all dude

― rae sredrum (imago), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 08:47 (eleven years ago)

congratulations karl!

― how's life, Tuesday, 13 January 2015 09:37 (eleven years ago)

wtf zs

― local eire man (darraghmac), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 09:49 (eleven years ago)

fuckin autocorrect I swear

wtg zs

― local eire man (darraghmac), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 09:50 (eleven years ago)

Congratulations Karl!

― ljubljana, Tuesday, 13 January 2015 12:41 (eleven years ago)

Congrats dude! <3

― a pleasant little psychedelic detour in the elevator (Amory Blaine), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 13:13 (eleven years ago)

aw cutest video

also congrats and lol at darragh's autocorrect

― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 13:17 (eleven years ago)

lolll dmac

congrats zs!!

― gr8080, Tuesday, 13 January 2015 13:21 (eleven years ago)

CONGRATULATIONS!

http://i.imgur.com/tEtKnnM.gif

― pplains, Tuesday, 13 January 2015 15:11 (eleven years ago)

lol

i'm always reminded of the curb your enthusiasm episode where larry balks at the word "eternity"

Cheryl [reading her draft wedding vows]: "We'll love each other throughout this lifetime, but after death through all eternity."
Larry: You mean this is... this is continuing into the afterlife?
Cheryl: Yeah, that's the idea. Do you have a problem with that?
Larry: Well, I... I thought this was over at death. I didn't know we went into eternity together. Isn't that what it said in... "'til death do us part, " I thought it was...
Cheryl: Do you have a problem with eternity?
Larry: Well...
Cheryl: We finally found each other, Larry, and we're celebrating this for all eternity.
Larry: I guess I had a different plan for eternity. I thought... I thought I'd be single again.

― ♪♫_\o/_♫♪ (Karl Malone), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 15:15 (eleven years ago)

u peeps fouling a creepy TV theme with your sweetness and restless dog, damn you

― touch of a love-starved cobra (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 15:23 (eleven years ago)

my only regret is that we didn't perform it on ukulele

― ♪♫_\o/_♫♪ (Karl Malone), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 15:27 (eleven years ago)

Congratulations! :)
Best youtoobs announcement!

― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 15:56 (eleven years ago)

My best friend used the TP theme as the first song at their reception btw. Of course it was 1991...

w/ ukelele you coulda tried this one

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wyinJyWUhas

― touch of a love-starved cobra (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 18:47 (eleven years ago)

Awww congratulations! Super adorable video <3

― carl agatha, Tuesday, 13 January 2015 18:53 (eleven years ago)

yay ZS!!

― example (crüt), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 19:31 (eleven years ago)

:) thanks you guys. we're a good match for each other. we can laugh really hard together but also be totally silent. i need both of those things sometimes.

it feels kind of weird to just now announce it. i actually proposed back in august when we were on the island of heimaey off of iceland. we wanted to hold off on saying anything until we had an answer for the inevitable "where? when?" questions. but after a few months passed without coming up with an answer we thought we should just go ahead and announce it so we could stop living with our terrible secrets

― ♪♫_\o/_♫♪ (Karl Malone), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 19:34 (eleven years ago)

Fire Walk With Me (Down the Aisle)

― pplains, Tuesday, 13 January 2015 20:15 (eleven years ago)

Jesus Christ ZS, you looking at yer missus at 0.24 in that video and her not *seeing* you look but *sensing* it and smiling back: that's true love man. Well done kind sir, well done :)

― a pleasant little psychedelic detour in the elevator (Amory Blaine), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 20:17 (eleven years ago)

congrats dude!

― some kind of terrible IDM with guitars (sleeve), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 20:18 (eleven years ago)

Karl: Will you marry me?
*Karl's fiancee sets glass bottle on tree stump, picks up rock, and walks 20 paces*
Karl's fiancee: Ask me again.

― $80 is absurd and very ridiculous! (Sufjan Grafton), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 20:18 (eleven years ago)

Let's be honest, both of you smiled because of the dog. Z, I got a sense watching that video of how truly wonderful you two are together and it made me feel incredibly mushy and happy in ways I didn't feel comfortable expressing on your Facebook post since I don't know her at all. But she seems really well suited for you, and that's fantastic.

― she started dancing to that (Finefinemusic), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 20:33 (eleven years ago)

[eyes bleeding cartoon hearts emoticon]

congrats zatch!

― ENERGY FOOD (en i see kay), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 21:05 (eleven years ago)

You twee fucker <3

― I checked Snoops , and it is for real (Trayce), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 21:46 (eleven years ago)

i'm not actually that twee, i promise

but yes, that was pretty damn twee. i might overdub ukulele and a flugelhorn 8-bar solo in the middle

― ♪♫_\o/_♫♪ (Karl Malone), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 22:02 (eleven years ago)

you got engaged to a diff one this time, right, because if this is the same duo looking for congrats every few years I'm not havin' it

(congratulations!)

― valleys of your mind (mh), Tuesday, 13 January 2015 22:25 (eleven years ago)

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