Am I A Sex Addict?

Are you an exhibitionist?

Do you have sex with friends and acquaintances?

Gear!

Are you getting more of a buzz from the danger aspect of all this, rather than from the actual sex part?

Sounds like they're getting off on the "wrong feeling" of it to me. Taboo is a real kick for a lot of people, it isnt uncommon. No ones suggesting otherwise - just acknowledging the OP feels it as a taboo, and isnt sure if wanting a kick that was is a good thing.

But I understand that that is an assumption based on sexist stereotypes.

Anyway, to answer the question - it may be a "phase" that you are going through (especially in relation to not wanting to get hurt again after a failed relationship). Many people of both genders seem to go through a "slut" period as part of the healing process before settling down to a more conventional pairbond.

However, I would worry if this persisted for a "long" time (I don't know what the definition of "long" is, that varies) - or if it escalated into thrill-seeking behaviour and situations which could cause harm (physical or emotional) to you and/or your partners.

Perhaps you might do best to find another outlet for your thrill-seeking adventures if this is indeed troubling you.

do you go bars on your own? is craigs list proving quite handy? recommendable?
I did go to bars on my own. And CL was handy, but that's because the odds are in my favor at both.

I guess my thinking is always "exploration/boundary-pushing is a good thing". I could well be wrong. But don't rush to assume that something disturbing is there to be counselled away.

So go back to it with no intention of ever telling a soul. Don't keep it in the back of your mind that you've been doing it since November because it won't matter. Do it forever. It doesn't fucking matter. It's no big accomplishment. Hopefully you won't get a disease or hacked up by some freak, but besides that, it's just simple everyday, ordinary sexual practice in 2005. Nobody cares. Anonymous sex is supposed to be anonymous. Nobody feels very cool saying they just paid a hooker to suck their dick. This isn't that much different.

But, sometimes I'd like to talk to my friends about it, just because they're my friends and it's something I do. I think I feel bad because they have me feeling like a freak. To them, I've always been a little out there. I was like them at one point, but I always hated it and felt like I had desires just not being met. Having to be secretive about it is what's making me feel guilty I think. Why do I have be friends with such prudes?

But on the off-chance that he/she isn't, I confess to an abiding interest in having anonymous sex with good-looking women in their twenties. Perhaps we could arrange something?

Usually the thrill-seeking quotient of "sleeping around" will wear off. At which case, you will either A) stop or B) escalate to more dangerous thrill-seeking behaviour. Which might pose problems.

If you enjoy sex w/ strangers & you're always (ALWAYS ALWAYS) protectlng yourself & them, and it's not disrupting your life or doing damage to anyone else otherwise, then you can do it as much as you like and it doesn't count as a problem. If you're bored and annoyed with it but can't stop doing it, or if it's messing up your life otherwise, _then_ it's a problem.

This is key. And I kind of have a feeling that the anon poster is feeling that it's making her unhappy. So, you have two choices: keep doing it and come to terms with yourself, or stop doing it and come to terms with not doing something you want to do. Only you (maybe with the help of a professional, but ultimately it's up to you) know what's right fo ryou.

Had I found myself thinking "man! this is so disgusting and wrong, and that makes me feel all kinky, ooh I think I'll pick up that guy at the tram stop oooh I'm BAD" - then I'd be worried something was the matter with me!

I feel like I am on the verge of one! Hooray!

Poor turkey.

WHY DO YOU PEOPLE HAVE TO REMIND ME?!

Reason #361 why Trayce has got to stop looking like a goth. DO YOU SEE? DO YOU SEE WHAT YOU ATTRACT?

It's hard for me not to feel some bit of jealousy, and I'm sure that's certainly the case for a lot of your "prudish" friends. Not everyone would have any easy time doing what you're doing even if they wanted to, or at least they FEEL like they couldn't, and it's easy to resent the sexual power that some people have available to them. Lord knows I certainly can't imagine even having the *option* to do this sort of thing. Or if I did, I don't know if I'd know how to go about it, practically, or emotionally.

Update: I eventually got bored with the random sex, so it was just a phase. I even met someone and was all normally coupled and off the market for a min and that felt nice. And now I'm back to single and I browse CL, but it just doesn't inspire what it used to, so I'm making due with old fuck buddies. And yeah, I'm totally a slut, but it's not like that's a bad thing. It's a dirty job and someone's gotta do it and have the fun!