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i really need a hug, a cuddle, some one to listen to me, it seems that every one in my life is on a downer at the moment and i was fine untill i woke up this morning it just occured to me that everything is changing and falling apart and i think i'm just standing still.

sorry guys.

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 11:54 (twenty years ago)

I'm sorry. I have days like this most of the time lately it seems. I go home and hug my pillow.

― MIS Information (kate), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 11:56 (twenty years ago)

Climb a hill and shout at the sky. Or at least mumble.

― Raston Warrior Robot (alix), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 11:56 (twenty years ago)

I empathise.

― Ian Riese-Moraine has been xeroxed into a conduit! (Eastern Mantra), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 11:57 (twenty years ago)

at least its not just me, i guess everything mentally- the picture i had in my head of everything and everyone, was different to how i am finally seeing, i guess the truth hurts and this one is outing. i feel let down, by myself and life in general i was expecting it to be much much better than this, i was meant to be worth more than this, have a job i love, etc.

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 11:59 (twenty years ago)

may i add i'm not normally an insecure, clingy or needy person and sometimes i find it hard when i'm normally the level headed, sensible one to let go and say yes, i am actually losing the plot of life itself....

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 12:01 (twenty years ago)

I know exactly how you feel. Hang in there, it will go away.

― tissp! (the impossible shortest specia), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 12:03 (twenty years ago)

It can be quite healthy to lose the plot sometimes. The strain of being sensible can get to a person.

Why do you feel that your current position/perception is the final stop on the road though? If things are changing so much then there's every chance they will change again tomorrow, for the better.

I've stood still at points in my life too and it does suck at the time. But it won't be this way forever!

Are there any practical things you do? Look for other jobs?

― The Future Mrs Archel, Wednesday, 29 June 2005 12:04 (twenty years ago)

The strain of being sensible can get to a person.

The only way I get through life is by staying near people who act very silly on a regular basis. This does make me look like a bit of a twat, but it keeps me from feeling slightly suicidal.

― Tech Support Droid (ForestPines), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 12:08 (twenty years ago)

i've been through worse only last year when i had to leave my whole life behind, i'm just wondering when it's gonna get good, when is the good stuff gonna happen to me? when will the big bloke in the sky give me a break? when is someone in my life gonna ask me how i'm doing and honestly give a shit? sorry i am just truly frustrated at the moment, and yeah i have vented on the intended people but they are all having there own revelations and unhappy events, just seems that when they need an ear, and a shoulder to cry on i'm always around, but when i need it no one is here, and talking to yourself isnt always that helpful... plus at the bus stop people look at you like you are mad

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 12:08 (twenty years ago)

i've been through worse only last year when i had to leave my whole life behind

Yes, I had to do this about a year ago too. My life's still slowly changing. I have no idea whether it is changing for the better or for the worse, but it certainly isn't going in the direction I thought it would be maybe 18 months or 2 years ago.

I'm not convinced anything good *is* going to happen to me. I'm never going to get that big career break, or find another relationship. Somehow, though, I manage to stay alive regardless.

― Tech Support Droid (ForestPines), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 12:15 (twenty years ago)

i can't do nothin' for you man. mr carlin's got problems of his own...

― Marcello Carlin (nostudium), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 12:17 (twenty years ago)

Think of what you know now that you didn't know last month. What you couldn't have predicted happening. Think then about how you truly have no idea what's going to happen next month, next week, or even tomorrow. Things will start looking up, honestly.

xpost

― tissp! (the impossible shortest specia), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 12:19 (twenty years ago)

i never normally have a problem with this tommorow i'll probably feel much better, i think maybe its everyone elses downers rubbing off on me, maybe i'm just ;looking too far to the future and should just deal with now...

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 12:29 (twenty years ago)

What normally cheers you up?

― tissp! (the impossible shortest specia), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 12:30 (twenty years ago)

listening to music but i do that all the time any way, that and drawing and writing- also exersize but i've been doing that so much lately im afraid i'll get skinny

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 12:32 (twenty years ago)

Well treat yourself to a nice meal and exercise, that way you don't have to worry! :)

Also, think of a record that really puts a smile on your face--call up some friends you haven't seen in a while, have a nice chat.

All this seems stupid and corny I know but it can help. From my experience it only takes one silly, inconsequential thing to bring you out of the worry and stress.

― tissp! (the impossible shortest specia), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 12:35 (twenty years ago)

this morning it just occured to me that everything is changing

That's because everything does change, all the time. There'll be an upswing again soon, I'm sure, and maybe you can do something to help it along.

If the things which are making you unhappy are things which you have some degree of control over, then start making plans to change them. If you hate your job, start revising your resume and take steps to look for another one. If you don't like where you live, move. If you need a break, take a holiday. Be self-indulgent for a while - it's very therapeutic.

And here's a (((hug))), because you'd like one :)

― C J (C J), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 12:36 (twenty years ago)

Don't forget that you can always just waste the day on ILX too, obviously...

― tissp! (the impossible shortest specia), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 12:40 (twenty years ago)

all of these things are great ideas and things that i have conmsidered over and over, new job i have sent out 6 apllications and heard nothing, cant move as i'm astronomically in debt and so am living rent free at my parents on the agreement i pay off my debts by january, i went to a friends last night, to try and cheer myself up to no avail as she was on a real downer, my BF was also on a serious downer and has been for some time, but i cant help him, as he wont tell me whats wrong, i cant go on a vacation because i vcant afford one, and i cant even afford to go out for a drink, but thank you for all your suggestions really, i just need to rant and get out of this hole i have fallen down. hopefully i'll hear something about the jobs i applied for and maybe i will win the lottery.....

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 12:48 (twenty years ago)

((((((((((((((((((((((hug)))))))))))))))))))))))))))

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 12:49 (twenty years ago)

my BF was also on a serious downer and has been for some time, but i cant help him, as he wont tell me whats wrong

Maybe he feels down because you do, and he feels like he can't help? This has happened to me more times than I can imagine.

― tissp! (the impossible shortest specia), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 12:50 (twenty years ago)

No i only felt downers this morning i awoke and it was like an awful sh*tty hangover of downers..... My Bf though haS been really really emotional and downers for some time, to the point even his obnoxious house mate has said that he is not himself at the moment.

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 12:56 (twenty years ago)

This may sound stupid, but is it anything to do with the weather? The crazy heat/rain combinations have been making my emotions go up and down recently.

― tissp! (the impossible shortest specia), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 12:58 (twenty years ago)

maybe? or maybe it's a moon cycle thing?

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 12:59 (twenty years ago)

Well I wouldn't go that far. I was being serious.

― tissp! (the impossible shortest specia), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 13:03 (twenty years ago)

The elctricity generated by shifting heat waves and cold fronts (same as the electricity deployed during thunderstorms) can also f*ck with/frazzle your neuroceptors, of course!

Hence why many people feel edgy or restless before a thunderstorm.

― MIS Information (kate), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 13:05 (twenty years ago)

I think i will go to the gym tonight, go home eat dinner go to bed wake up feeling better.

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 13:06 (twenty years ago)

or write a song about it.....

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 13:06 (twenty years ago)

or happy hug strangers on the bus, and just tell them i'm care in the community or on very strong medication

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 13:14 (twenty years ago)

Yeah, once you've realised you can go mental once it's really easy to do it time after time. If there's one thing I've learnt recently, it's that I can act pretty much how I want and people just say, "yeah, he's had a hard time lately". Grebt.

― tissp! (the impossible shortest specia), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 13:17 (twenty years ago)

when i grow up i'll be stable when i grow up i'll turn the tables#

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 13:19 (twenty years ago)

hehehehe just had this old guy steve in the office tell me i look like a filum star (que p*rn music) surely thats a come on? any way it felt creepy and yet strangely uplifting in a way..

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 13:59 (twenty years ago)

How old? And did he actually say porn film star?

― tissp! (the impossible shortest specia), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 14:03 (twenty years ago)

partake in some public transporting. a good reminder of why many shun human contact

― dahlin (dahlin), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 14:05 (twenty years ago)

i can understand your frustration. sometimes things keep getting shitty in various ways, and yes they keep changing but it seems like never in a good way. and you get so fucking sick of hoping, and being disappointed. over and over and over again. people are caught up in their own worries, and you end up feeling very alone. (xp)

― fj, Wednesday, 29 June 2005 14:11 (twenty years ago)

((((hug))))

― dog latin (dog latin), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 14:13 (twenty years ago)

Aw :)

Hang in there both of you.

― The Future Mrs Archel, Wednesday, 29 June 2005 14:17 (twenty years ago)

FJ you are so right

tissp, i am 21 no he didn't say p*rn star exactly but he was staring at my chest the whole time and told me i should go to Holywood....well he said LA......

Doglatin i will c u later 4 a hug..

sorry that was all quick its cause i'm at work and i'm going home soon, well teh gym 1st...

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 14:41 (twenty years ago)

just because I am
feeling wonderful these days
doesn't mean that I
forget all those times
staring up at sky from the
bottom of the well

be brave, it will change.
you can help it all along.
dance, the world is huge.

― Haikunym (Haikunym), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 14:44 (twenty years ago)

I meant the old guy...

― tissp! (the impossible shortest specia), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 14:45 (twenty years ago)

the guy well he looks about 55/60 you cant really tell with jamaican people cause they have good wrinkle free skin thanks to the high melatonin content, but he has talked about retirement a lot, and he has greying hair. He also has a daughter quite a bit older than me.

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 14:50 (twenty years ago)

Maybe you should get off the internet.

― Ian John50n (orion), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 19:58 (twenty years ago)

I kind of feel like I time travelled some, had a gender/race switch, came forwards in time and started this thread.

― Negativa, True Believer (Sheryl Crow in a Britney costume) (Barima), Wednesday, 29 June 2005 20:46 (twenty years ago)

GET ONE NEEDIES.

― StanM (StanM), Thursday, 30 June 2005 08:44 (twenty years ago)

http://www.needies.com/needies_kelly2.jpg

I'd like the one in the centre, please.

― Negativa, True Believer (Sheryl Crow in a Britney costume) (Barima), Thursday, 30 June 2005 08:56 (twenty years ago)

If you and your bloke are both down, you should come home and cuddle him fiercely! And say "we're both in crap right now, doesnt it suck? I want a hug" and just hug him.

I do that to my guy when one or both of us feels poo and it seems to help.

― Trayce (trayce), Thursday, 30 June 2005 11:11 (twenty years ago)

I think youre right anway today is a whole new month....let the cuddling commence

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Friday, 1 July 2005 07:54 (twenty years ago)

I'm gonna go hug the IT guys. Yeah, I'm *sure* they'd appreciate that. [/sarcasm]

― MIS Information (kate), Friday, 1 July 2005 08:26 (twenty years ago)

Of course they would!

I need human contact today. How do I apply?

― Ian Riese-Moraine has been xeroxed into a conduit! (Eastern Mantra), Friday, 1 July 2005 09:50 (twenty years ago)

Do I have to appeal to law to do it? Because if that's what it takes, then I'm not interested!

― Ian Riese-Moraine has been xeroxed into a conduit! (Eastern Mantra), Friday, 1 July 2005 09:50 (twenty years ago)

Hey, *I* appreciate being hugged and I'm an IT droid.

(as long it is by someone I like, and not someone who is putting on an annoying jokey flirtiness.)

(I was working on someone's machine earlier and they started tickling my back. Now *that* really pissed me off)

― Tech Support Droid (ForestPines), Friday, 1 July 2005 09:53 (twenty years ago)

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