a friend of mine always talks nastily about other friends of ours to me and i now know she talks about me to other mutual friends - should i part ways?

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just wondering - obv everyone talks about their friends to other friends, and about others in peer groups, but this time of thing, where its kinda moaning, but kinda spiteful really, and a bit mean, isnt really on. or is it? this friend who says the not nice things has a habit of kinda being really chummy with someone for a certain period of time then suddenly kinda 'dropping' them - not totally stopping contact but suddenly keeping contact really really minimal, which is kinda weird itself. i know shes a nice person underneath, but im not sure i wanna be friends with someone who i know has said cruel things about to me to others. and i dont know why another friend of mine, who she has said these things to, still wants to be friends with her. hope this isnt too confusing.

sexless, Sunday, 3 July 2005 18:49 (nineteen years ago)

yes

dahlin (dahlin), Sunday, 3 July 2005 18:51 (nineteen years ago)

Seconded.

C J (C J), Sunday, 3 July 2005 18:52 (nineteen years ago)

don't ever try living in ireland

fcuss3n, Sunday, 3 July 2005 19:05 (nineteen years ago)

no. stay friends, just beware of how they are, and dont expect too much

its ok to have friends of differing levels

charltonlido (gareth), Sunday, 3 July 2005 19:38 (nineteen years ago)

this friend who says the not nice things has a habit of kinda being really chummy with someone for a certain period of time then suddenly kinda 'dropping' them

very very red flag

rogermexico (rogermexico), Sunday, 3 July 2005 19:42 (nineteen years ago)

does she also dip dirty tampons in your mayonnaise?
crimson flag, that

dahlin (dahlin), Sunday, 3 July 2005 19:59 (nineteen years ago)

Keep her and continue being cordial with them, then spread all of her business in the street like unwanted laundry.

The Ghost of Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Sunday, 3 July 2005 20:27 (nineteen years ago)

There are a few people like this at work that I stay "friendly" with, so that when I want to tell other people stuff without saying it to their face, I can just tell someone "confidentially", knowing that they'll pass it on within minutes.

Morally, this is probably a bit dubious. I figure I'm not getting into heaven anyway.

Tech Support Droid (ForestPines), Sunday, 3 July 2005 20:35 (nineteen years ago)

i know shes a nice person underneath

No, she's not.

Rock Hardy (Rock Hardy), Sunday, 3 July 2005 21:07 (nineteen years ago)

A) Grow some nads.
B) Tell her to choke on 'em.

Je4nne ƒur¥ (Je4nne Fury), Sunday, 3 July 2005 21:11 (nineteen years ago)

This is why I want to buy Je4nne a drink someday.

Rock Hardy (Rock Hardy), Sunday, 3 July 2005 21:14 (nineteen years ago)


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