Having sex with co-workers -- C or D?

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If nobody at work knows -- super classic. If they find out, a huge fucking dud.

― Who? What?, Thursday, 7 July 2005 05:17 (twenty years ago)

the person you're having sex with is likely to find out.

― Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Thursday, 7 July 2005 05:23 (twenty years ago)

not if you slip them the right drugs

― sunny successor (i dont get dirty with the bodies once i kill 'em) (katharine), Thursday, 7 July 2005 05:24 (twenty years ago)

the person you're having sex with is likely to find out.

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― giboyeux (skowly), Thursday, 7 July 2005 05:24 (twenty years ago)

thats co-workers right? like - more than one co-worker?

― mullygrubbr (bulbs), Thursday, 7 July 2005 05:26 (twenty years ago)

office orgy!

― mullygrubbr (bulbs), Thursday, 7 July 2005 05:27 (twenty years ago)

your co-workers or my co-workers?

― Huk-L (Huk-L), Thursday, 7 July 2005 05:27 (twenty years ago)

not in my office (please)

xpost

― shine headlights on me (electricsound), Thursday, 7 July 2005 05:27 (twenty years ago)

Yeah. Co-workers. Not simultaneously! Jesus! But they did work with eachother frequently after both affairs were broken off. The rumors (true enough) leaked out and I had to find another job. This job was a shit job though.

― Who? What?, Thursday, 7 July 2005 05:33 (twenty years ago)

let's dissect this:

having sex = classic
coworkers = dud

so it's a toss-up, really.

― matlewis, Thursday, 7 July 2005 05:50 (twenty years ago)

there was at least two different coworkers today that i encountered for the first time who would need a good servicin' from the Kingfish

― kingfish (Kingfish), Thursday, 7 July 2005 05:54 (twenty years ago)

I had a short, sweet fling with a married woman at one place I worked. Her marriage was shit, mine had recently ended. It went on for a few months before I got involved with someone else and had to quit it (there was no question then of her leaving her husband, although she did that some years later). It was exciting, seeing her in the office every day and just chatting like we were still just good work friends. Lots of furtive kissing and groping in parking lots. I eventually told one of my close friends there, but no one else. I think a few people suspected, but everyone was sympathetic about her shitty marriage, so it's not like anyone would have said anything. It was frustrating in a lot of ways -- we'd be out for drinks after work with the rest of the crew, and have to try to not interact anymore than we normally would. But it was fun too. I mostly have fond memories of it, and we're still good friends.

― also logd owt, Thursday, 7 July 2005 06:04 (twenty years ago)

having sex = classic
coworkers = dud

so it's a toss-up, really.

Whilst thinking about co-workers?

― Hotman Paris Almanac (Autumn Almanac), Thursday, 7 July 2005 06:06 (twenty years ago)

also logd out, good one. Cool that you're still friends.

― Who? What?, Thursday, 7 July 2005 06:22 (twenty years ago)

There are a good few ladies that I wouldn't mind getting friendly with at my place. I tell myself that the reason I don't make advances is because I don't want to get involved with work people, but in real life it's just that I'm chicken shit.

― Come Back Johnny B (Johnney B), Thursday, 7 July 2005 06:24 (twenty years ago)

well also if they reject your advances that's opening up a bad can of worms, potentially

― Gear! (Ill Cajun Gunsmith) (Gear!), Thursday, 7 July 2005 06:31 (twenty years ago)

Steady Mike and I find it an excellent way to relieve tension.

― Peter Stringbender (PJ Miller), Thursday, 7 July 2005 06:46 (twenty years ago)

Hell, I worked on a helpdesk full of cute young single geeks a few years back. I was single as well and one of the only girls in the team.

You work out how much fun *I* had. ;)

― Trayce (trayce), Thursday, 7 July 2005 06:57 (twenty years ago)

I'm a cute young single geek! Damn, how come I wasn't at this helpdesk?

― Ian Riese-Moraine has been xeroxed into a conduit! (Eastern Mantra), Thursday, 7 July 2005 11:35 (twenty years ago)

the lady in front of me has the biggest ass i have ever seen in my life. it looks like a giant tub of cottage cheese.

― Lupton Pitman (Chris V), Thursday, 7 July 2005 11:36 (twenty years ago)

You work out how much fun *I* had. ;)

Actually having sex, or just winding up all the desperate geeks? ;-)

― Forest Pines (ForestPines), Thursday, 7 July 2005 11:37 (twenty years ago)

this is an exceptionally bad idea. especially if the person is dating or married. in six months i will blame whatever horrible end comes on the drinking.

― strng hlkngtn, Thursday, 7 July 2005 11:44 (twenty years ago)

Forest: oh, both maybe ;)

― Trayce (trayce), Thursday, 7 July 2005 11:59 (twenty years ago)

This might be a good day for burying bad thread responses.

― Peter Stringbender (PJ Miller), Thursday, 7 July 2005 12:03 (twenty years ago)

didn't we do this thread a month ago?

as a temp worker, this is very classic.

― oops (Oops), Thursday, 7 July 2005 12:08 (twenty years ago)

Strongo, can you confirm the impression that if it wasn't for bad lovin', you'd get no lovin' at all?

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Thursday, 7 July 2005 12:09 (twenty years ago)

also logd owt you might want to actually log out...

― Onimo (GerryNemo), Thursday, 7 July 2005 12:11 (twenty years ago)

Co-worker boffing seems like the most exquisite hell possible. Leaving work at work is U&K. Bringing work to bed is ungh.

― David R. (popshots75`), Thursday, 7 July 2005 13:53 (twenty years ago)

DON'T SHIT WHERE Y'EAT

― TOMBOT, Thursday, 7 July 2005 14:07 (twenty years ago)

I have sex (and live) with one of my co-workers regularly.

― Jordan (Jordan), Thursday, 7 July 2005 14:09 (twenty years ago)

(although to be fair, we work in different buildings, for the same company)

― Jordan (Jordan), Thursday, 7 July 2005 14:10 (twenty years ago)

i have a terrible habit of doing this.

― mark p (Mark P), Thursday, 7 July 2005 14:36 (twenty years ago)

I'm more for years-long unrequited pining. Makes the workday more fun.

― Tigerstyle Shamanic Vision Quester (sexyDancer), Thursday, 7 July 2005 14:53 (twenty years ago)

Having sex with ILE posters – C or D?

― Alfred Soto (Alfred Soto), Thursday, 7 July 2005 15:15 (twenty years ago)

I read the title as "Having sex with sex-workers -- C or D?"

― Hurting (Hurting), Thursday, 7 July 2005 15:18 (twenty years ago)

xpost now we definitely have done that one before...

― mark grout (mark grout), Thursday, 7 July 2005 15:32 (twenty years ago)

There's really not one of my co-workers I'd consider making the sex with.

― luna (luna.c), Thursday, 7 July 2005 15:35 (twenty years ago)

I once worked at a place where everyone did this. Some even got married to each other.

― Jay Vee (Manon_70), Thursday, 7 July 2005 15:59 (twenty years ago)

This really isn't the worst thing in the world depending on a lot of circumstances, like anything else. I mean one (married) dude I knew at mmy old workplace seemed to be just trying to work his way through fucking the workplace ladies, that's kind of creepy and weird. OTOH I know several people who got married to people they met at work. Can you (and the other person) behave in a reasonable fashion if/when you break up? Can you be discreet and not like be hanging all over each other at work events? Those are the main questions.

― Allyzay knows a little German (allyzay), Thursday, 7 July 2005 16:17 (twenty years ago)

One manager at my work got a job from someone she married.

(she is married to a rather senior manager, too, and regularly relies on the "well it doesn't matter, I'll get my own way because I'll just ask my husband" argument when in disputes with other departments)

― Forest Pines (ForestPines), Thursday, 7 July 2005 16:20 (twenty years ago)

THAT is really icky.

― Allyzay knows a little German (allyzay), Thursday, 7 July 2005 16:27 (twenty years ago)

I don't mind flirting with my co-workers but I can't imagine working with people I sleep with.

― M. White (Miguelito), Thursday, 7 July 2005 16:28 (twenty years ago)

I get the feeling this really really depends on the kind of place you work.

― nabisco (nabisco), Thursday, 7 July 2005 16:29 (twenty years ago)

OTM.

Coffee shop: classic.
Law office: maybe less classic, but you can still sneak around.
Sex educator for Planned Parenthood: dud.

― Paunchy Stratego (kenan), Thursday, 7 July 2005 16:31 (twenty years ago)

With corporate work, for instance, most places are going to be big enough that you can date outside of your department, including people you never actually encounter on a "work" level.

The thing I can't imagine about this has less to do with eating/shitting geography and more to do with how in the world you could start a relationship when the other person knows exactly what you're doing every day.

― nabisco (nabisco), Thursday, 7 July 2005 16:31 (twenty years ago)

I work at a newspaper and everyone's either fucking each other or fantasizing about fucking each other or getting drunk so they can fantasize about fucking each other, or getting drunk so they can fuck each other.

― Alfred Soto (Alfred Soto), Thursday, 7 July 2005 16:33 (twenty years ago)

Is the whole taboo about this really just to do with the fact that there is a chance, with workplace relationships, that the power dynamics might shift? Ie someone in the relationship gets promoted above the other person (or was a supervisor to begin with)? Because I'm trying to think of other reasons why this is so "bad" (I mean, did you all date people who went to other high schools or colleges than you did because it'd be "icky" to see them in your class or something?), and can't come up with anything besides this potential that exists. I mean it seems wrong for a supervisor to date his secretary or some underling, it seems like a weird dynamic, same thing as if in college someone started dating a young professor or a TA in their course, accusations abound of favoritism and if it goes bad, the underling is put in a bad position potentially...So is that all there is to it or is there some other societal reason here?

haha xpost the married dude I was talking about spent his entire workday surfing porn. How he got any chicks is kind of mysterious to me, cos I mean everyone knew about all this.

― Allyzay knows a little German (allyzay), Thursday, 7 July 2005 16:33 (twenty years ago)

how in the world you could start a relationship when the other person knows exactly what you're doing every day

But suppose what you're doing every day is fucking them?

― Paunchy Stratego (kenan), Thursday, 7 July 2005 16:34 (twenty years ago)

i feel like the best place to do this would be a mall. the singer for my old band talked about his days back when he worked at the gap, going to the bath and bodyworks across the way and going at it with all the girls that worked there. i didn't believe him at all, but if anyone were to actually pull this off it'd probably be a pretty sweet deal.

― matlewis, Thursday, 7 July 2005 16:34 (twenty years ago)

Fall into the Gap.

― Paunchy Stratego (kenan), Thursday, 7 July 2005 16:37 (twenty years ago)

seeing as i work with men and men only, i say dud.

― yeahyeahyeah (yeahyeahyeah), Thursday, 7 July 2005 19:36 (twenty years ago)

I met my last serious girlfriend at work, and we're still friends, so I guess classic. Then again, a woman I'd been dating got a job at my place of business and the relationship went pear-shaped (note: this is entirely my doing, not the business's), so maybe dud. (Then again, note caveat. And there were LOTS of couples in that business, a nightclub, who are still together.)

― Matos-Webster Dictionary (M Matos), Thursday, 7 July 2005 19:51 (twenty years ago)

There is a thread in the archives addressing this very same topic that probably needs not to be revived (for my state of distraction's sake).

― gygax! (gygax!), Thursday, 7 July 2005 19:55 (twenty years ago)

"a" thread

― TOMBOT, Thursday, 7 July 2005 20:25 (twenty years ago)

My relationship with my wife's been MUCH BETTER now that we don't work together anymore.

― Haikunym (Haikunym), Thursday, 7 July 2005 20:27 (twenty years ago)

andrew it's long been scientifically determined that i can only get laid if there's a distinct possibility someone will get hurt within a month

― strng hlkngtn, Thursday, 7 July 2005 20:29 (twenty years ago)

what a weird question, classic of course. even if it goes bad it goes classicly bad. and obviously work is where many grown-ups are going to meet and get to know a person.

― shookout (shookout), Friday, 8 July 2005 02:13 (twenty years ago)

FOOKIN CLASSIC IF YA GRAN WALKS IN AND THEN YA GET YER BIG B;LAKC NOB OUT AND SPREY ALL YA WHITE JUICE IN HER FLANGE THEN AFTRE TJHAT YOU DO A PPOO IN HER FANNY AND THEN YOU LET IT DRIP FOR A WIHLE AND SEE IF SHE LIKS IT OR NOT

― GARU G, Friday, 8 July 2005 02:19 (twenty years ago)

YERV ALL DONE IT

― GARU G, Friday, 8 July 2005 02:22 (twenty years ago)

― larry bundgee (bundgee), Friday, 8 July 2005 02:25 (twenty years ago)

I FOOKIN TELL YA ONE THHING THOUGH COCK,ONCE ME GRAN TRIED TO HEAT A KETTLE WITH JUST HER FOOKIN PURE HEAT FROM HER FLANGE DIDNT WROK MIND YUO,SHE ALWAYS NEEDS A BIT OF POO UP HER FANNY GARU G STYLE BEFORE SHE GETS PROPRE HEATED UP LIK HJ

― GARU G, Friday, 8 July 2005 02:38 (twenty years ago)

it is fuckin' cool

― sandra simpson, Friday, 8 July 2005 04:47 (twenty years ago)

C or D: Having co-workers come over to your monitor and seeing you browsing ILE's new answers with this thread already highlighted.

― Michael F Gill (Michael F Gill), Friday, 8 July 2005 06:47 (twenty years ago)

classic if you then elbow them, raise your eyebrows repeatedly, and go "eh eh eh?"

― oops (Oops), Friday, 8 July 2005 06:57 (twenty years ago)

Boyfriend was my boss and we had to keep it quiet. One girl twigged, we knew she'd twigged (and was blabbing to the whole office), she went crying to our big boss saying that boyf and I were ganging up on her and then fucked off on holiday leaving us to deal with the fallout. So we had sex on her chair. And then on the desk of someone else we didn't like for good measure.

When the other new people there got a raise after three months I didn't, cos boyf had to not show favouritism. Thus I would ask the question - does sleeping with your boss ever actually get you anywhere?

― mzbz (Mz Bz), Friday, 8 July 2005 17:31 (twenty years ago)

six months pass...

so i was talking to this woman i work with and she was going on about a documentary that she's making and asked if i might want to help out. the idea sounded interesting so i told her to drop me an email about it.

anyway, i gave her my yahoo email address and thought nothing more of it. a couple of nights later i was on yahoo messenger when she IMed me and we started chatting. after briefly talking about the project, she started going on about how great everyone in the office was and so on and so forth. after a bit of this, i told her i needed to go to bed but if she wanted to get together and discuss the whole documentary thing we could grab "a coffee or tea after work". she then replied, "do you want to do coffee? or tea? or ME?" i replied, "..." and then "well that was unexpected". she then said, "i bet you look ripped NAKED" and i replied, "lol okay well gotta sleep, see you monday!" and signed off. this is unusual because I'd never really talked to her before other than some pleasantries exchanged in passing! this is also unusual for other, more obvious reasons. i have heard that she's a little "weird", though.

i haven't seen her in the office since because, well, that was Friday night and i'm home sick today.

― gear (gear), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:14 (nineteen years ago)

sex has no occurred and it probably won't, but this thread seemed somehow appropriate

― gear (gear), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:23 (nineteen years ago)

not occurred

― gear (gear), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:23 (nineteen years ago)

sounds like she was making fun of you

― RJG (RJG), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:29 (nineteen years ago)

It's best that you came to us with this.

― Pleasant Plains /// (Pleasant Plains ///), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:31 (nineteen years ago)

Is she hot.

― Pleasant Plains /// (Pleasant Plains ///), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:31 (nineteen years ago)

she looks like an ex-porn actress. i think she told me she was 26, but she's probably 38.

― gear (gear), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:33 (nineteen years ago)

but a real new-agey ex-porn actress. all peace and happiness and "everyone's awesome!", that sort of crap.

― gear (gear), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:34 (nineteen years ago)

what was that 80s movie? you know the one, with the dead bunny...

― m coleman (lovebug starski), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:35 (nineteen years ago)

"a documentary that she's making"

― Pleasant Plains /// (Pleasant Plains ///), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:35 (nineteen years ago)

i have a week left on the job and i think if i play my cards right i won't see her before i leave

― gear (gear), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:38 (nineteen years ago)

right?

― hstencil (hstencil), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:40 (nineteen years ago)

BANG THAT SHIT

― howell huser (chaki), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:46 (nineteen years ago)

but she's sort of insane i think!

― gear (gear), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:47 (nineteen years ago)

and technically she's under me which is dicey

― gear (gear), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:48 (nineteen years ago)

HIT IT N QUIT IT

― kingfish pibb Xtra (kingfish 2.0), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:48 (nineteen years ago)

stand up, be a MAN, gear.

― hstencil (hstencil), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:50 (nineteen years ago)

dammit you're right

― gear (gear), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:51 (nineteen years ago)

no-strings sex and you never have to see her again. go for it! unless you think she'd get all fatal attraction on you...

― miss michel legrand (Jody Beth Rosen), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:52 (nineteen years ago)

but she's sort of insane i think!
-- gear (speed.to.roa...), January 9th, 2006.

and technically she's under me which is dicey
-- gear (speed.to.roa...), January 9th, 2006.

what a wonderful combination of posts

― Matos-Webster Dictionary (M Matos), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:53 (nineteen years ago)

i think the fatal attraction possibility exists, plus the possibility that i would work with her again. freelancing and all that.

― gear (gear), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:57 (nineteen years ago)

She sounds like the ex-porn queen from A Mighty Wind.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 00:59 (nineteen years ago)

so, um, *do* you look RIPPED naked???

― oops (Oops), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 01:06 (nineteen years ago)

Sheesh. That's like asking Earth Wind and Fire - Classic or Dud?

― Pleasant Plains /// (Pleasant Plains ///), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 01:23 (nineteen years ago)

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