If you are religious, how did you get that way and why did you stay that way?

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(preemptory note: If you hate Christianity, please don't post anything on this thread. I don't want this to end up being a nonstop series of posts about why those of us who are Christian are stupid for believing what we believe in. I personally respect the rights of those of you who are atheist/agnostic to believe what you believe, so I expect the same in return.)

I'm a devout Catholic. Why do I count myself among the devout? I go to Mass every Sunday and feel like if I don't go to that weekly Mass I won't have a good week. I believe in the Catholic idea of God, the Triune God -- God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. I believe that Jesus the Lord saved me when he was crucified and resurrected from the dead, I believe that I am continually saved via God's good graces, and I believe that I will be saved when judgement day comes. I don't really feel that the Communion host I receive on a weekly basis is the actual body of Christ, but I treat the host with the same reverence I would accord it. I go to Confession twice a year. I derive a great deal of spiritual nourishment from Mass and from my daily prayer.

I was raised in the Catholic church. I attended Catholic school from pre-k to 12th grade and am the second generation in my family to be educated in Catholic schools. My parents were both raised in the Catholic faith -- my maternal grandmother even converted from Presbyterianism to Catholicism when she was getting ready to marry my maternal grandfather, who was Catholic and very devoutly so. My father was even more religious than I was, devoting at least one hour a night to reading a section of the Bible for as long as I can remember and going through several Bibles that way. I have fond memories of my first Holy Communion and my confirmation. Naturally you would think that I would want to push away from that -- right?

Well, I certainly had the opportunity to stray from the faith in high school, where a great deal of emphasis was placed on questioning and one of my religion teachers even told us students that it was okay for us to stray from the Catholic faith because, and I quote what she told us, "almost everyone ends up doing that". But I didn't, precisely because I knew I could stray and question away without worry and because I was able to see that I truly didn't have that inclination to do so at the time. The permission to question sorta took away any sort of anti-authoritarian motivation I might have had at the time. Besides, I was also learning how to fully appreciate a Catholic Mass service at the time and I was feeling quite ecstatic about that.

My second opportunity to stray happened, of course, in 2003, when a cousin of mine who was only slightly older than I was was murdered by her estranged husband in February, then my father passed away in July, and two close uncles and a really close aunt of mine passed away from August to October, one a month. 2003 was the worst year of my entire life, and I certainly despaired over life and felt that so many things about it were unfair, pointless, useless. But my faith never left me. In fact, sometimes I felt like my faith was STRENGTHENED by what was going on, because I felt like I was drawing strength from it. I certainly raised a few questions about God and about faith, but those were short-lived and I came back to my faith.

I feel like my faith is an inherent part of who I am, as vital to me as my nerves and my joints are. I don't know if I could ever divorce myself from my belief in the Christian God, at least, and I think it would take a heck of a lot for me to deviate from the Catholic branch of Christianity. I currently plan on dying a Catholic and am already expecting a full Catholic funeral when that time comes, including being buried in the same Catholic cemetery my maternal grandparents and my father are buried in.

And that's my story. What's yours?

The Kind and Benevolent Oracle of Dee (Dee the Lurker), Wednesday, 13 July 2005 04:43 (twenty years ago)

Does this only include xianity? :/

Trayce (trayce), Wednesday, 13 July 2005 04:44 (twenty years ago)

no. i want all sorts of answers

anthony easton (anthony), Wednesday, 13 July 2005 04:45 (twenty years ago)

Ha. Anthony!

Actually, he's right -- any faith is welcome, so long as you don't post on about how Christianity Is The Most Evil of All Religions. So go ahead, Trayce -- post away!

The Kind and Benevolent Oracle of Dee (Dee the Lurker), Wednesday, 13 July 2005 04:46 (twenty years ago)

I have a very different story, Dee. (And all my condolences over the tragic deaths in your family).

Without apologizing for the fundamentalist extremists who annoy me as much as they annoy everyone else, and without criticizing different demonimations or doctrines, I'll just focus on my personal experience.

I was raised Presbyterian, which is very different from your experience, Dee. My particular brand of Presbyterianism is very Calvinistic, meaning there is no priest to intervene, forgive you, or make you feel better. You are on your own and what you do is between you and God. What other people do is also between them and God, and it's not for me to judge it.

As I got older, I became interested in comparative religion, history, anthropology, and mysticism. I learned a lot about how rich the Old and New Testament are in terms of historical, cultural, and mystic--I was going to say "lore" here but that sounds a little too Tolkein--I'll say data instead.

I was also interested in the history of the development of the philosophy and organization of various branches of Judaism and Christianity, and in the "heretics", and what made them so. I have quite an intellectual interest in all of it, and it led to me to Anthropology major as an undergrad at UCLA. Why Anthropology? Because UCLA Comparative Religion major only dealth with Western religions and cultural anthropology was an opportunity to study *all* religions.

In terms of my personal faith, belief in God helped the Jews through the Holocaust, and it helped me though any number of personal tragedies and events over which I had no control. I have also had a direct mystic experience with the divine, where I felt God's love for all creatures, felt his perspective, and will never forget that. That's why I stay that way.

Socially, I think that religion affects your morals--if you aren't raised with the Golden Rule (Do unto others as you would have them do unto you) where do you pick this up? Sadly, I have found out in life that many people don't pick it up at all, and everyone suffers. Life is more unpleasant where people don't care what happens to others.

That is my story in a nutshell.

Orbit (Orbit), Wednesday, 13 July 2005 04:57 (twenty years ago)

I would like to edit the line about the priests because it didn't come out like I meant it--I meant that having a priest WOULD make me feel better, but Protestants don't have that.

Orbit (Orbit), Wednesday, 13 July 2005 05:00 (twenty years ago)

born & raised in the Presbyterian church. Went to sunday school until about the summer before my freshman year of university. Went thru the catechism class when i was 13, but decided not to join since i figured my folks would use that as an excuse to make me come to more church social functions, and i REALLY did not want to leave the house(and my computer games) to go play indoor volleyball on another wednesday night. Fuck, man, looking back, i was far more socially awkward & underdeveloped than i ever remember.

fun fact: when i was in jr high, the youth group went to a STRYPER concert. The band thru out felt-covered Bibles from stage! i was too young to go, tho.

always preferred sunday school to the sermons, since our pastor got increasingly conservative over the years(tho this was before my political awakening of sorts), and i preferred the more academic aspect of it. the guy who taught sunday school for high schoolers was an auto engineer for GM, and had the knowin' of a lot of things, to quote from Max.

Went to youth group stuff occasionally in jr high & high school.

Discovering Joseph Campbell & his ideas about comparative religion when i was 17-18 evolved my beliefs a bit(and firmed them up, too, as Bill Moyers once noted in his conversations on "the Power of Myth"). Thanks to George Lucas for popularizing Campbell again.

with that background, it made me understand Nietzsche a lot more when i finally encountered him in my first existentialism class when i was 20.

kingfish (Kingfish), Wednesday, 13 July 2005 05:02 (twenty years ago)

My story's a bit of an odd one. I was raised christian I suppose, but only very casually speaking - ny dad's not spiritual at all really, whereas my mum and her side of the family (her sister and my cousins in that family esp) are very religious. Grandad's a lay minister, my cousin Andrew has become a minister in recent years. I didnt think in religious terms in day to day life though, but when I was about 15 or 16 I went through an odd phase where I became quite involved with an ecumenical (is that the word for mixed-church stuff?) youth group thing, where bunches of Uniting Church, Anglicans and Baptist kids would have parties, outings and camps and the like. At the time I had a few occasions where I was quite sure I felt the holy spirit and such. I realise now that was actually just group euphoria from fun singing and dancing and stuff though.

I very quickly pulled away from organised christian religion not long after that for various reasons (which are a long story for another time), but I guess I wanted somethign, because I was reading up on wicca, buddhism etc, wondering what fit. I didnt want to "worship" a god or have a faith but I did, and still do, want some kind of way of explaining or understanding the immense complexity and chaos of the universe.

Quakers have interested me with their approach, as have the Unitarians a socialist friend of mine is involved with (a sort of non-faith church?). But it was Taoism that I found most appealing and, well... COMFORTING. And I realise thats what it is all about in the end, to find your own way, your own bit of peace with your short time on this earth, and to try and do good.

If for some that works being christian, thats cool with me. I am saddened that for some, their religion is totally not about comfort and peace and good works but about fear and misery and persecution. Thats a real shame.

My b/f is completely logic-scientific pure "there is no spirit" sort of person. And thats cool as well, even though I am way too much in awe of how baffling the universe is to ever think there is a completely clinical and explainable solution to it all. I like to think of the movie "Pi" - understanding the number, and thus the whole universe, would kill you to know it. We're just not meant to really.

Trayce (trayce), Wednesday, 13 July 2005 05:07 (twenty years ago)

I should also add I dont see taoism as "a religion" per se, rather a spiritual philosophy and journey.

Trayce (trayce), Wednesday, 13 July 2005 05:09 (twenty years ago)

Trayce, not to split hairs, but I'd characterize that as spiritual, not so much religious....

Jon, remind me again why you haven't drowned in your own vomit (ex machina), Wednesday, 13 July 2005 05:20 (twenty years ago)

Well, I was taught in high school that Taoism was one of the seven major world religions that was automatically accepted by everyone, so I view it as a religion. I suppose it is in that it meets all the defined requirements of what a "religion" is supposed to be, but you could totally view it as being "a spiritual philosophy and journey" -- it's probably the most devout way of being a Taoist, too.

I am saddened that for some, their religion is totally not about comfort and peace and good works but about fear and misery and persecution. Thats a real shame.

You are totally OTM there. I too am dismayed with the rampant fundamentalism of certain individuals, whose thoughts and actions shine a harsh and unelarged light on the rest of the adherents of the faith systems these zealots claim to believe in.

The Kind and Benevolent Oracle of Dee (Dee the Lurker), Wednesday, 13 July 2005 05:21 (twenty years ago)

(that was an xpost, obv)

The Kind and Benevolent Oracle of Dee (Dee the Lurker), Wednesday, 13 July 2005 05:21 (twenty years ago)

Religion IS spiritual, though. For example, even though I was raised Presbyterian, I am more spiritual than religious in the sense that I don't attend services in a building or formally belong to an organized body, though I do attend church from time to time.

I don't think that religion requires belonging to an organization. Buddhism is a religion but the majority of adherents don't belong to an organization. Same with Taoism.

xpost to jon

Orbit (Orbit), Wednesday, 13 July 2005 05:24 (twenty years ago)

Trayce, not to split hairs, but I'd characterize that as spiritual, not so much religious....

Hence my disclaimer :) But there is also a religious branch of taoism that has ritual and structure - it was banned for a long time by the government/emperor in China, I believe.

Trayce (trayce), Wednesday, 13 July 2005 05:26 (twenty years ago)

Dee, I knew this was your thread. :-)

I'll have a think and answer in a bit.

MIS Information (kate), Wednesday, 13 July 2005 06:54 (twenty years ago)

Aw c'mon, is that going to be it? Or is this forum every bit as anti-religion or atheistic as I suspected it is?

The Kind and Benevolent Oracle of Dee (Dee the Lurker), Thursday, 14 July 2005 06:31 (twenty years ago)

yes

huell howser (chaki), Thursday, 14 July 2005 06:48 (twenty years ago)

No, sorry, I am going to reply. I just feel a bit... shattered right now. Religion exists to help you cope with the Big Questions, disasters, grief, death. And those Big Questions are going through my head right now, so I'll still trying to figure it all out.

I've been moving back towards Faith Of My Fathers from gentle agnosticism for some time. I'm just trying to figure out which bits are relevant right now.

MIS Information (kate), Thursday, 14 July 2005 06:57 (twenty years ago)

Aw c'mon, is that going to be it? Or is this forum every bit as anti-religion or atheistic as I suspected it is?

-- The Kind and Benevolent Oracle of Dee (newromanti...), July 14th, 2005.

yes

-- huell howser (chaki.tim...), July 14th, 2005.

Apparently Not, Thursday, 14 July 2005 07:11 (twenty years ago)

Which part of

(preemptory note: If you hate Christianity, please don't post anything on this thread. I don't want this to end up being a nonstop series of posts about why those of us who are Christian are stupid for believing what we believe in. I personally respect the rights of those of you who are atheist/agnostic to believe what you believe, so I expect the same in return.)

did you not understand?

MIS Information (kate), Thursday, 14 July 2005 07:13 (twenty years ago)

I come from a long line of atheists and freethinkers. I think it was perhaps a Scottish intellectual thing - with a strong streak of "you got rid of our king and our religion in 1745, so we'd rather have no religion than an English one."

Both my parents were raised as atheists, but rationalist scientist grandparents.

My mother had never even seen a bible, let alone read one. When she moved to a new house in Hertfordshire, the people who lived there before her had left a bible in the house. She picked it up, thinking nothing of it, and read it like a novel. It completely blew her mind, concepts she'd never even thought of before. So she looked up the local church in the phone book, demanded "Send someone round to explain this now!" and they sent the curate. Who happened to be one of those rare priests (a monk now, and my godfather) who is both incredibly caring and compassionate, and rigourously intellectual.

The whole household converted, except my father. (Who went to bible studies along with my mum, and reported afterwards "well, now I know *exactly* what I don't believe.) I was very very devout at first - I loved the community (you cannot underestimate the power of this for a family who have moved so much) and especially the singing and music.

Must do some work now, my reports have finished compiling. More in a bit.

MIS Information (kate), Thursday, 14 July 2005 07:23 (twenty years ago)

I'm sad too that this thread is so short. I can't really answer though because I don't think I'm religious in any sense, even in the sense that atheists and agnostics are "religious" (i.e., in the sense that a concept of a god or a lack thereof is a big part of their lives). I think maybe I'm areligious, like some people are asexual. I'm interested in religion, was a religion major in college. I have less respect in general for atheists than I do for people who believe in something. But to me, I just don't think that much about god and whether god exists, I'm not sure it's relevant or worth thinking about, given that I don't think I could believe in a god that man could come close to comprehending. However, I haven't really thought out my philosophy that closely. I guess others would probably define me as agnostic, but I don't care for that term, it has too much baggage.

n/a (Nick A.), Thursday, 14 July 2005 13:54 (twenty years ago)

I'm sorry, I started writing a second half of this post, but it's been so busy at work today (thankfully) that I haven't really been able to finish it. Maybe after hours...

MIS Information (kate), Thursday, 14 July 2005 13:55 (twenty years ago)

n/a why do you have less respect for atheists than believers, out of curiosity?

caitlin oh no (caitxa1), Thursday, 14 July 2005 14:23 (twenty years ago)

Realistically, probably because I considered myself an atheist in my younger years and so to me it seems kind of "immature," like a phase one should grow out of. I realize this is condescending, but deep down I'm sure that's the reason I feel that way. Also I find it more redeemable to believe in something than to simply negate others beliefs.

n/a (Nick A.), Thursday, 14 July 2005 14:31 (twenty years ago)

Also I find certainty in religion annoying, and ironically atheists tend to be more "certain" about their beliefs than religious people. I.e., "There is definitely no god" vs. "There is a god, but we are incapable of fully understanding what he does." But there are certainly religious people who are completely rigid and sure in their beliefs, and they can be annoying too.

n/a (Nick A.), Thursday, 14 July 2005 14:36 (twenty years ago)

i see what you mean. i was once an immature atheist, but now i've thought about it and i think i'm a mature atheist. i don't mind negating others beliefs though, if they didn't have them i'd believe the same thing and not be negating them. not sure that makes sense. i know i'm not supposed to be talking about how religion is bad, but i don't personally agree that it's more 'mature' to believe in a god than not to believe. (didn't mean to get so off topic)

xpost...i don't claim to be certain. i just have faith that there isn't one. i believe that god doesn't exist. i don't know that this is true, same as real religion.

caitlin oh no (caitxa1), Thursday, 14 July 2005 14:39 (twenty years ago)

but i also understand where you're coming from as there are tons of 16-year-old reactionary atheists going around making fun of believers and being real assholes about it

caitlin oh no (caitxa1), Thursday, 14 July 2005 14:41 (twenty years ago)

Move this to another thread.

Alex in SF (Alex in SF), Thursday, 14 July 2005 14:52 (twenty years ago)

sorry i really didn't mean to, i just wanted to know what n/a meant. i got it now.

caitlin oh no (caitxa1), Thursday, 14 July 2005 14:53 (twenty years ago)

I dunno... I was speaking to a Pakistani lass about a year ago, and we got talking about Catholicism and Islam... and we sort of both came to the conclusion that the reason we clung onto our faiths more than our fathers did (mothers are always more religious, no?) is because it was a way feeling some kind of connection back to the old country, rather than anything actually "religious"

Dom Passantino (Dom Passantino), Thursday, 14 July 2005 14:57 (twenty years ago)

Aw c'mon, is that going to be it? Or is this forum every bit as anti-religion or atheistic as I suspected it is?

My Christianity is an incredibly private issue for me. I take very much to heart what Jesus said about closing the door of your room when you pray, that standing in the street striking your breast in front of everyone is a little bit less-than-sincere.

I went to most Christian churches while growing up, attending Baptist vacation bible schools and Pentecostal revivals. However, I was baptized and raised as a Roman Catholic, which in rural Arkansas is considered a bit "ethnic", if you can believe it.

I had a really great priest at my parish, Father Davis. He took a lot of time to have one-on-one talks with me about my parents' divorce. He had a great sense of humor. And I happily served as an altar boy with him.

Both of my parents remarried Catholics. My step-mother came from a large Irish Catholic family, and on Sundays, I'd watch her kneel silently while everyone else took Communion. She finally admitted to me that she couldn't take it because in the Eyes of God, she was an adultress for divorcing her first husband and marrying my father.

This, among many other things (most recently the Nazi Pope), has led me to abandon the Church. However, in the same way that I love my country and hate my government, I still retain my faith in God and that Christ is His Son. My reasons for doing so are very strong and very personal.

Pleasant Plains /// (Pleasant Plains ///), Thursday, 14 July 2005 15:18 (twenty years ago)

I was brought up Christian; in fact, I was brought up Anglican, but the denominational aspect was so vague that I didn't actually realise we were Anglican for a long time. As a child I was very devout and something of a biblical literalist. When I passed puberty, though, my faith slipped through my fingers. I can't describe a particular moment which made me lose it, but I know that by the time I was 18 it had thoroughly gone.

I was never given any religious education other than bible stories; nothing on what these stories actually *meant* other than a vague idea that God loves us and Jesus died for us. Some of my mother's congregation thought that she should push me to become a priest and a bishop, purely because I was clever and went to church every week.

Since then I have mostly been something of a fundamentalist agnostic, feeling wary of anybody who claims they *know* what happens after death, or what God is thinking right now. I know my spiritual side has gone missing somewhere, but I don't have an outlet for it at the moment. Something like Quakerism or fluffy Wicca seems attractive, but the big stumbling-block is having to have belief first. I don't think I could just join an attractive-sounding religion because of its sound.

Forest Pines (ForestPines), Thursday, 14 July 2005 17:17 (twenty years ago)

If you are religious, how did you get that way...

LSD.

...and why did you stay that way?

Because I'm lazy.

nickalicious (nickalicious), Thursday, 14 July 2005 17:46 (twenty years ago)

my family is full of christian ministers and missionaries. my father was a pentecostal minister. so are several uncles. so was my grandfather. so were multiple great and great great grandfathers, etc etc. my parents were gospel singers. put out a record. we toured. a lot. so naturually i was just brought up in that. took it seriously. was baptized. got disenchanted several times. always felt like a black sheep. really turned off at an early age from the growing fundamentalism in evangelical stuff. burning records and books was wrong. luckily, my parents began thinking the same and moved from pentecostal evangelical to methodist. in college i strayed from organized christianity. i needed a break. i read a lot. spent a lot of time outside. learned a lot from secular university courses on the new testament and judaism, etc. at some point i started attending again because i wanted a community experience. fellowship doesn't have to suck. anyway, i go to a church of christ now because that's the tradition my wife grew up in and is comfortable with. i consider myself nondenominational tho because during the touring, we attended every stripe of church i can imagine and i have a really hard time feeling very secure in any one brand of doctrine. our particular church has it's traditions, but underneath is quite open. there's quite a crowd of liberals and rocker types too. so i have people i can honestly relate with. people i can get a beer with. yet the church is also full of a lot of thinkers, which is enlightening. i'm grateful for that.

lately i've taken to the idea of christianity influenced by post-modernism. brian maclaren's got several good books on this. i think some of the ideas in the "Emergent Community" allow me to remain liberal... remain open... yet still retain a strong connection to christian ideals.

what kept me from fading away from christianity after reading a buttload of philosophy? the grace of God? stubbornness? the peace and joy i felt trying to live as much like jesus as possible? for rhetoric's sake, i wish there was some good logical moment to provide proof, something concrete and persuasive i could say here that could shed some kind of light on why that evades cynicism and doubt, but in my view of things, there's no easy proof. no blue or red pill whatever that was in the matrix that reveals the deal. and that's okay.

i'm come to terms with the idea that i may be wrong and maybe that's okay. if i've spent my life trying my hardest to further love, mercy, peace, justice... even if i fail constantly at it, that's gotta be better than nothing. and i realize you can be for those things and not believe. in that sense, my faith being a sort of useless organ like an appendix to my moral life from their pov... but my place at the anatomy table sees it closer to the center, the gut intuition. perhaps that makes me seem like a mystic primitive who thinks the brain is a useless organ and that all thought and heart is in my tummy.

i dunno. a guy can go on and on about this sort of thing. people much wiser and smarter than i have tried very hard to make a good case and obviously failed.
m.

msp (mspa), Thursday, 14 July 2005 19:07 (twenty years ago)


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