Would you consider going out with someone who was quite a bit fatter than you are?

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You're single, you meet someone who is sweet and charming and who has a lovely face, but he/she is considerably more hefty than you are. Would this be a dealbreaker? Be honest now!

― the visitor, Friday, 15 July 2005 10:40 (twenty years ago)

This has been done. Prepare for lockage.

― Sociah T Azzahole (blueski), Friday, 15 July 2005 10:42 (twenty years ago)

hi calum!! :D xoxo

― fe zaffe (fezaffe), Friday, 15 July 2005 10:42 (twenty years ago)

Oh this is Calum? Why lock it, Stevem, because it's been done already?

― nathalie's body's designed for two (stevie nixed), Friday, 15 July 2005 10:43 (twenty years ago)

it was done yesterday. and the day before. and the day before...

― Sociah T Azzahole (blueski), Friday, 15 July 2005 10:43 (twenty years ago)

Oh, okay. Sorry, usually I just don't notice threads like these.

― nathalie's body's designed for two (stevie nixed), Friday, 15 July 2005 10:45 (twenty years ago)

Doesn't show up on the Admin Log.

Though that doesn't seem to show locks any more at all.

― MIS Information (kate), Friday, 15 July 2005 10:45 (twenty years ago)

Is this Jack Black or Jack Sprat talking?

― Dadaismus (Dada), Friday, 15 July 2005 10:46 (twenty years ago)

This again! Yeeeeeaaah! 600,000 irrelevant replies by tomorrow! Woohoo!

― dog latin (dog latin), Friday, 15 July 2005 10:47 (twenty years ago)

Not Calum, remarkably.

― Tom (Groke), Friday, 15 July 2005 10:47 (twenty years ago)

you should go for it, visitor. bone her

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 15 July 2005 10:55 (twenty years ago)

* insert euphemisms for sex with big women here *

― Dadaismus (Dada), Friday, 15 July 2005 10:56 (twenty years ago)

*more cushy for the pushin'*

― battlingspacemonkey (battlingspacemonkey), Friday, 15 July 2005 10:57 (twenty years ago)

all anon people who ask questions like this are Calum, even when they're not.

― Sociah T Azzahole (blueski), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:02 (twenty years ago)

Sure, but then I'm whiplash thin, so quite a bit fatter than me really isn't saying much at all.

― Aramyr, Friday, 15 July 2005 11:05 (twenty years ago)

In my new Calum remorse mode, I welcome our Troll overlords.

The answer, btw, is that attractiveness is only tangentially related to size and some of the men I know who regard anybody beyond anorexic as fat make me grind my teeth to powder with anger/despair.

― Scrovula Has Risen From The Grave (noodle vague), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:05 (twenty years ago)

some of the men I know who regard anybody beyond anorexic as fat make me grind my teeth to powder with anger/despair.

This sounds more like women than men

― Dadaismus (Dada), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:06 (twenty years ago)

Generally speaking, I fancy girls who are "heftier" than me - skinny girls are less likely to catch my attention. Some people have foot fetishes, but I think I may have a tummy fetish.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:08 (twenty years ago)

Well I know it works both ways Dada, but when women do it it makes me wince instead, then do that comedy cat sound.

― Scrovula Has Risen From The Grave (noodle vague), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:08 (twenty years ago)

baka.

― g-kit (g-kit), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:09 (twenty years ago)

the barmaid in my local pub has recently taken a fancy to me. She is very attractive and nice in manner, but she is a little too big for me. It’s a shame really, because she actually seems nice.

Oh well, single forever.

Oh yeah, I guess that’s a no.

― not-goodwin (not-goodwin), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:27 (twenty years ago)

I don't really know any guys who would. Admittedly all my male friends are like 12.

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:27 (twenty years ago)

My flatmate to thread!

― dog latin (dog latin), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:28 (twenty years ago)

i would. i do.

― g-kit (g-kit), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:30 (twenty years ago)

I presume if I wanted to go out with them I would.

― Ronan (Ronan), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:31 (twenty years ago)

i assumed everyone would give the Ronan answer. quite surprised at the OMGWTF NO answers, tbh.

― g-kit (g-kit), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:32 (twenty years ago)

I have a male friend who once described this local team of belly dancers as "fat girls" to me and I balked. I was like "Uh--, then he presumably realized I was fatter than them and retracted his statement with lots of gesticulation and "NONONONONO".

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:33 (twenty years ago)

Almost every girl I know would. Perhaps a better question for the ladies, which we've also done before, would be "would you date someone considerably skinnier than you?"

(Kate [and me] bait. Haw!)

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:34 (twenty years ago)

I don't like skinny.

― Dadaismus (Dada), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:37 (twenty years ago)

I was pretty horrified by this question and its shallowness, even though I know that there are plenty of guys who *do* think that way.

But then I thought "what if the genders were reversed?"

And the truth is that most of the time it's not really an issue for me, that I actually like blokes with a bit of a belly on them. I'm hardly a skinny malinky myself, so whatever.

But then I realised that if a bloke were so overweight (to the point of obese) that it made me concerned for their general health, I probably *would* be given a bit of pause about dating them. Or at least try to encourage them towards a more healthy lifestyle.

x-post HA HA, Emily OTM!

― MIS Information (kate), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:37 (twenty years ago)

that's johnny vegas ruled out then.

― Marcello Carlin (nostudium), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:39 (twenty years ago)

Johnny Vegas: Heart Attack or Cirrhosis?

― Scrovula Has Risen From The Grave (noodle vague), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:40 (twenty years ago)

And Johnny Marr

― Dadaismus (Dada), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:40 (twenty years ago)

Not-Goodwin, if she's attractive and nice, why not go out with her? Judging by your post, you sound quite shallow.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:40 (twenty years ago)

She's better off without him then

― Dadaismus (Dada), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:41 (twenty years ago)

I like skinny girls...But I'm a skinny boy.

I've noticed that the ladies usually like their men with a bit more meat on them than I carry about with me; so it is possible to be on the other wrong side of the weight/heftiness divide.

ps Tuomas I work with him and ,oh yes, he is quite shallow. :)

― Stone Monkey (Stone Monkey), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:42 (twenty years ago)

Johnny Marr's fat?

― mark grout (mark grout), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:44 (twenty years ago)

Dadaismus OTM

― g-kit (g-kit), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:45 (twenty years ago)

Not as fat as Barney Sumner but not far off it

― Dadaismus (Dada), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:45 (twenty years ago)

Is Barney fatter than Hooky now? I lost interest round about 1992.

― Scrovula Has Risen From The Grave (noodle vague), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:46 (twenty years ago)

Oh no, Barney, oh no. I don't know what happened to him. He used to be so pretty.

― MIS Information (kate), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:46 (twenty years ago)

New Order in general are beginning to resemble the next cast of Last Of The Summer Wine.

― Marcello Carlin (nostudium), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:46 (twenty years ago)

I'm a bit skinny myself right now - wasn't for a few years - so the idea of me and a similarly skinny woman, well frankly, it sounds a bit painful. I need some padding.

― Dadaismus (Dada), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:47 (twenty years ago)

Not-Goodwin, if she's attractive and nice, why not go out with her? Judging by your post, you sound quite shallow

You have me all wrong tuomas, I’m the most un-shallow person ever. I can’t help it if I don’t like big girls, it’s just the way I was designed, The same reason I don’t like sprouts, I just don’t. I passed the shallow test a year.

― not-goodwin (not-goodwin), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:48 (twenty years ago)

http://ephemeron.net/photochops/FeedTroll.jpg

― Onimo (GerryNemo), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:48 (twenty years ago)

http://www.mcb.com.hk/online/image/upload/110/NewOrder_11acrop_rgb.jpg

― MIS Information (kate), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:48 (twenty years ago)

Me and Mrs Vague are carrying much protective adipose tissue into middle age.

― Scrovula Has Risen From The Grave (noodle vague), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:49 (twenty years ago)

See what I mean? All you need now is the bath and the steep hill!

― Marcello Carlin (nostudium), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:49 (twenty years ago)

i for one welcome the photoshopping of barney, hookey and t'other twain into a runaway bath-tub as it careers downhill!

― mark s (mark s), Friday, 15 July 2005 11:50 (twenty years ago)

I was pretty horrified by this question and its shallowness, even though I know that there are plenty of guys who *do* think that way.

Not-Goodwin, if she's attractive and nice, why not go out with her? Judging by your post, you sound quite shallow.

Why should taking account of physical attributes be considered shallow, though? We all do it, male and female. Surely none of us would go out with someone whom they considered not physically attractive. Surely the physical side of things is extremely important. Now, a lot of people aren't bothered one way or the other about how big a potential partner is, and some people are. It's just as arbitrary as finding a woman sexily curvaceous or liking the scrawny indie rocker look or whatever.

Personally, I think people are attracted to those who roughly correspond to their own weight paramaters.

― Robert Manne, Friday, 15 July 2005 11:51 (twenty years ago)

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Dude, don't buzz-harsh my clit-on!

― MIS Information (kate), Friday, 15 July 2005 12:46 (twenty years ago)

given the way barney used to sing about his cock at any opportunity, i assume he was something of a prolific oatsmonster.

an early live version of "perfect kiss" was sung with the lyric "i've got a cock like the M1/it's got service stations/and crashes too"; i also have a live boot of "lonesome tonight", my core NO moment, possibly my favourite song in the entire world ever and a song that can reduce me to a quivering flood of tears, in which the little fucker sings: "how many times before/could you tell i didn't care/when you reached out in your sleep/and felt my BIG FAT COCK."

gah, barney is a twat.

― grimly fiendish (grimlord), Friday, 15 July 2005 12:47 (twenty years ago)

omg omg 'buzz-harsh my clit-on'
world surely about to fall out of orbit. i feel dizzy.

― g-klit (g-kit), Friday, 15 July 2005 12:50 (twenty years ago)

Don't click much on the "crush of shame" threads, do you? I use it all the time there! ;-)

― MIS Information (kate), Friday, 15 July 2005 12:52 (twenty years ago)

The majority of my female friends and acquaintances who date someone have skinnier boyfriends than themselves. In my social circle "skinnier guy, chubbier girl" seems to be the norm, not the exception. Also, I think in among the leftist-liberal folks I hang around with a lot of the pressure for girls to be skinny has gone away due to feminist deprogramming (which is great), but guys on the other hand are more often expected to look fit and good.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Friday, 15 July 2005 12:53 (twenty years ago)

What's funny about the groupie story? That he would fuck a fat girl for a bet? Who are we meant to be laughing at?

― Onimo (GerryNemo), Friday, 15 July 2005 12:53 (twenty years ago)

fabric of space-time unravelling...

― g-kit (g-kit), Friday, 15 July 2005 12:54 (twenty years ago)

No, that Barney is a twat. That's what's funny.

― MIS Information (kate), Friday, 15 July 2005 12:54 (twenty years ago)

I got Barry Manilow on that fucking quiz.

― TOMBOT, Friday, 15 July 2005 12:58 (twenty years ago)

Barney is a twat
I suppose the story reinforces what we already knew.

― Onimo (GerryNemo), Friday, 15 July 2005 12:59 (twenty years ago)

I got Barney. Therefore I too am a twat :-)

(being a twat > being Gary Glitter - not much consolation, but it's something)

― Onimo (GerryNemo), Friday, 15 July 2005 13:01 (twenty years ago)

me too.

― g-kit (g-kit), Friday, 15 July 2005 13:04 (twenty years ago)

Oh, but it's also funny because I used to have such a total hero-worship massive crush on Barney Sumner when I was about 20. And taking bets on whether you could get off with someone or not is such a horrible thing to do. It's just the disparity between my hero-worship and the horribleness. Hilarity!

― MIS Information (kate), Friday, 15 July 2005 13:07 (twenty years ago)

heroes always, always turn out to be arseholes. that's why i er.. vowed never to be anyone's hero.. er.. which explains why i do everything to a mediocre standard. er... yeah. ha. that theory owns.

― g-kit (g-kit), Friday, 15 July 2005 13:10 (twenty years ago)

I bet being a pirate wasn't so great, either. :-(

― MIS Information (kate), Friday, 15 July 2005 13:11 (twenty years ago)

I think telling my son he (probably) can't be a pirate will hurt him more than the whole santa/easter bunny/tooth fairy thing.

― Onimo (GerryNemo), Friday, 15 July 2005 13:21 (twenty years ago)

why can't he be a pirate? it's a noble career!

― grimly fiendish (grimlord), Friday, 15 July 2005 13:25 (twenty years ago)

Well, apparently, you can have a noble career as a Pirate Reeactor:

http://www.blackbeard.co.uk/pirate%20weekend%202%20003%20PF.jpg

― MIS Information (kate), Friday, 15 July 2005 13:30 (twenty years ago)

anyone can be a pirate. all you need is slsk and a funny hat. honestly.

― g-kit (g-kit), Friday, 15 July 2005 13:31 (twenty years ago)

is Clit-on the sister of Dickon Edwards?

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 15 July 2005 13:37 (twenty years ago)

are you here all week, by any chance?

― g-kit (g-kit), Friday, 15 July 2005 13:39 (twenty years ago)

Funny that someone mentioned Gary Glitter - as I've just remembered reading of when New Order did a gig back in '95 or so where Barney replaced the first line of the final verse with "When I was a very small boy, Michael Jackson played with me" - the fiend.

PS of course he's a twat he's a lead singer.

― Sociah T Azzahole (blueski), Friday, 15 July 2005 13:53 (twenty years ago)

CLIT-ON!!!!

PIRATE REACTOR!!!!!

Pirate Reactor will be the name of my new band.

― giboyeux (skowly), Friday, 15 July 2005 14:10 (twenty years ago)

and Clit-On shall be mine.

― g-kit (g-kit), Friday, 15 July 2005 14:12 (twenty years ago)

Oi! You can't have clit-on! It's mine!

― MIS Information (kate), Friday, 15 July 2005 14:24 (twenty years ago)

what about vadgeon?

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 15 July 2005 14:28 (twenty years ago)

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You are Beck!! You are weird, but you're a great
dancer and you give great performances! Let's
just leave it at that.

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― Allyzay knows a little German (allyzay), Friday, 15 July 2005 15:02 (twenty years ago)

Those wacky thetans...

― Leon C. (Ex Leon), Friday, 15 July 2005 15:06 (twenty years ago)

sorry, didn't mean to steal your clit-on. you can keep it.

― g-kit (g-kit), Friday, 15 July 2005 15:08 (twenty years ago)

I would and have dated someone who weighed less than I do, and I would and have dated someone who weighed more...

― luna (luna.c), Friday, 15 July 2005 15:13 (twenty years ago)

vis-a-vis the whole "shallowness" thing. It does help in relationships if you actually fancy the other person. If you don't find them attractive you might as well just be their friend rather than fuck things up by going the whole failed relationship route.

This is the best answer. I once dated a girl I wasn't inordinately attracted to, just because it seemed like it would "make sense" for us to date -- we got along very well, shared many of the same interests, were alone in a foreign country together, etc. But it was a huge mistake, because there's no way to get past the fact that you're just not attracted to the person. And that doesn't have to be a BAD thing -- I mean, we are who we are.

So I probably wouldn't date someone who was "quite a bit" fatter than me. Which is not to say I like 'em all super-skinny -- I like tummies and hips, for sure (Lindsay Lohan, come back!) -- but there's a point past which it's hard for me to feel attracted to someone who's substantially heftier. Whatever, though. ILX has proven to me that there's plenty of guys out there who like the junk in the trunk, so we'll be fine.

― jaymc (jaymc), Friday, 15 July 2005 15:19 (twenty years ago)

http://images.quizilla.com/C/chubbywubby/1051289519_Chumpty.jpg
You are Peanut-Hakeem Humpty-Hump of Digital
Underground!! You have a fake nose, what more
can I say? You are just plain WEIRD!

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― Paunchy Stratego (kenan), Friday, 15 July 2005 15:24 (twenty years ago)

Short answer: yes.

― Jordan (Jordan), Friday, 15 July 2005 15:28 (twenty years ago)

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You are Elton John!!! You wear sparkly clothes and
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― kelsey (kelstarry), Friday, 15 July 2005 15:31 (twenty years ago)

my short answer is yes too. although, if they are unhealthy & inactive, we'd be less likely to have stuff in common. not that eating well & exercising are my life, but they're important enough to be a 'make it or break it' long term thingy.

― kelsey (kelstarry), Friday, 15 July 2005 15:35 (twenty years ago)

YES!!!!

http://images.quizilla.com/C/chubbywubby/1051287365_Cgaryglitter.jpg
You are Gary Glitter! A glamrock icon!!! You have
catchy songs, but ever since that child thing
the media has been up your ass. And you must
admit, that is a bit weird.

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― tissp! (the impossible shortest specia), Friday, 15 July 2005 15:38 (twenty years ago)

Let's just keep this between us few people here, ok?

― tissp! (the impossible shortest specia), Friday, 15 July 2005 15:41 (twenty years ago)

http://images.quizilla.com/C/chubbywubby/1051287707_Cbarry.jpg
You are Barry Manilow! You sing about weird things
like Mandy and Copacabana. Like that isn't
weird enough? You weird old man.

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― jel -- (jel), Friday, 15 July 2005 15:44 (twenty years ago)

You're making me feel better,tissp! I thought I was going to be the lone weirdo that was labeled a Gary Glitter.

― Leon C. (Ex Leon), Friday, 15 July 2005 16:32 (twenty years ago)

i dont really care about dating someone quite a bit fatter than me, but like kelsey said, if they are super unhealthy and hate moving--actually, i dont care, full stop - yup.

― Homosexual II (Homosexual II), Friday, 15 July 2005 17:11 (twenty years ago)

I am Beck.

...I'm not so much interested in weight. What matters more is fun. For me, fun includes running, walking, biking, sweating, etc. I know heaps of larger people that still like to get out and move around (playtime!). If you're not interested in physical exertion then we're just not going to click, period. I will think you are boring (as a companion, not as a person).

― giboyeux (skowly), Friday, 15 July 2005 17:34 (twenty years ago)

my thing is that i'd not really attractive to folks who are considerably overweight, but this is coz i'm neurotic/narcisstic and it would continually remind about how _I_ weigh considerably more than i want(my BFI/bodyfat % is at like a 32 or so, which puts me over the line at being clinically obese). Dating somehow who reminds of what you hate about yourself probably won't lead to the healthiest of relationships.

that being said, i HATE the stoopid/ascetic/anoxeric stick chick look. Goddammit girl, eat a fuckin' sammich! Hell, i was the one who started a flurry on another thread with the "Paris Hilton is a skeleton wot got no ass."

I WANT curvy, pervy girls. Hips n' ass n' titties are GREAT, goddammit. You got a dump like a truck? then HELLZ yeah.

― kingfish (Kingfish), Friday, 15 July 2005 17:59 (twenty years ago)

tho i should clarify that this ain't really about being attracted or not to weight per se, but to proportion.

hee hee. Andre 3000 to thread, prayin' to God for a chick: "She don't even need to have a big ol' ass; just something well-proportinate to her figure."

― kingfish (Kingfish), Friday, 15 July 2005 18:02 (twenty years ago)

I love all types of ladies. Except stinky ones.

― Jeff-PTTL (Jeff), Friday, 15 July 2005 18:03 (twenty years ago)

there's a point past which it's hard for me to feel attracted to someone who's substantially heftier.

yes. I've dated girls who were "quite a bit fatter" than me, i suppose, but i'm really skinny, and my ideal would have a lil bit more meat on her bones than i do. Some chubbiness is ok, but when all definition of form is lost I just can't be sexually attracted to the person.

― oops (Oops), Friday, 15 July 2005 18:06 (twenty years ago)

I like curves.

― giboyeux (skowly), Friday, 15 July 2005 18:24 (twenty years ago)

I WANT curvy, pervy girls.

I want pervy ANYONE

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― Forest Pines (ForestPines), Friday, 15 July 2005 18:29 (twenty years ago)

i can't believe the "would you consider going out with someone who was quite a bit phatter than you are?" parody thread hasn't been started.

― oops (Oops), Friday, 15 July 2005 18:33 (twenty years ago)

i like skinny girls, my girlfriend likes skinny boys. it works out.

― t0dd swiss (immobilisme), Friday, 15 July 2005 19:07 (twenty years ago)

I'm a very slender boy, so EVERYONE is wider than me!

― Ian Riese-Moraine: the crown prince of understatement. (Eastern Mantra), Friday, 15 July 2005 19:15 (twenty years ago)

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