is it normal for everyone's parents to not celebrate their wedding anniversary?

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my parents have been married about 30 years, but they dont do anything for their anniversary. i know my mum would like it if my dad wanted to do something, but she wont organise it first. and my dad just doesnt seem to want to do anything for it. i dont think they even gave each other a card. its pretty much been like this for years on end, they dont really do anything unless pushed to celebrate it. its a bit crap really, its not much of a reaffirmation of a union. i know its prob hard to keep that going but i dont think my dads ever ever been a romantic or good at anything like that. i hope this doesnt happen to me when i get married.

― youngromantic, Sunday, 17 July 2005 16:16 (twenty years ago)

I don't make a huge deal out of our anniversary and we've only had three of them! Surely the fact that they have stayed together for 30 years is celebration enough of their marriage, and a forced Hallmark-endorsed "wooh, we got married x years ago today" is a bit pointless when you have every day together as a reminder of being married to each other.

― ailsa (ailsa), Sunday, 17 July 2005 16:24 (twenty years ago)

(that was crappily worded, I do apologise)

― ailsa (ailsa), Sunday, 17 July 2005 16:26 (twenty years ago)

my parents are the same, it would be immensely uncharacteristic for either of them to get a card for the other. I'm sure they probably say 'happy anniversary' on the day, maybe it's an excuse to go out to dinner, which they like to do anyway. I like that, it's practical, but then again I'm very much my parents' kid! Marriage/commited relationship is a little bigger than a day or a romantic gesture, it's a lot bigger actually. I can't quite put it into words very well.

― teeny (teeny), Sunday, 17 July 2005 16:38 (twenty years ago)

my daddy buys my mommy a bunch of red roses - one for every year they've been married. it's getting quite expensive now they've been married 30+ years, but he keeps it up. it's sweet. i like tradition. i hope mr dahlin takes note. AHEM

― dahlin (dahlin), Sunday, 17 July 2005 17:14 (twenty years ago)

anniversaries kind of reek of 'wow, look how many years weve mangaged to stand each other!'. maybe they celebrate in small ways everyday. being grateful that youre with someone you love and respect and that the feeling is mutual is plenty.
of course, THAT DOESNT MEAN PLEASANT PLAINS SHOULDNT SHOWER ME WITH SPARKLY GIFTS COME JAN 29! AHEM indeed.

― sunny successor (he hates my guts, we had a fight) (katharine), Sunday, 17 July 2005 17:27 (twenty years ago)

Oh, mr ailsa buys me flowers on our anniversary, and it's nice and that, but he bought me flowers yesterday as well and it was nicer that way, I thought. Not because he had to, but because he wanted to (also, mostly, because they were reduced to 49p a bunch in Tesco, but he could have just not bothered at all...)

I don't do Christmas or birthday presents really either, so I'm probably the wrong person to be commenting on this thread. But youngromantic should maybe just be thankful his/her parents are still together and stop expecting stupid gestures that mean less than thirty years of spending their lives together.

― ailsa (ailsa), Sunday, 17 July 2005 18:16 (twenty years ago)

My parents hate each others guts. My mother specifically asks that no one do anything for their anniversary as there's nothing to celebrate.

― In the springtime of the year / Kate (papa november), Sunday, 17 July 2005 19:44 (twenty years ago)

That must've been a great environment to grow up in.

― Thermo Thinwall (Thermo Thinwall), Sunday, 17 July 2005 19:49 (twenty years ago)

I am not everyone's parents. But I am OLD compared to most of you. I have been married for 40 years (40!) and still celebrate. Everything still works. That's something to celebrate.

― pepektheassassin (pepektheassassin), Monday, 18 July 2005 12:53 (twenty years ago)

My parents hate each others guts.

:-((((((((

― nathalie's body's designed for two (stevie nixed), Monday, 18 July 2005 13:07 (twenty years ago)

Pepek, that's awesome. My wife and I are halfway to 40.

― Rock Hardy (Rock Hardy), Monday, 18 July 2005 13:33 (twenty years ago)

four years pass...

Married 25 years today, iirc.

― Grisly Addams (WmC), Tuesday, 25 May 2010 22:53 (fifteen years ago)

Congratulations on your silver anniversary!

― clay/tone nut/mother (doo dah), Wednesday, 26 May 2010 01:28 (fifteen years ago)

Happy day indeed. :-)

― Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 26 May 2010 01:30 (fifteen years ago)

The wife and I had a similar anniversary last November. Congratulations. You've earned them!

― Aimless, Wednesday, 26 May 2010 01:32 (fifteen years ago)

Way to kick ass at being married!

― frozen cookie (Abbott), Wednesday, 26 May 2010 01:37 (fifteen years ago)

Congratulatios!

― Excelsior the Facebook (kkvgz), Wednesday, 26 May 2010 10:38 (fifteen years ago)

"-tions", of course.

― Excelsior the Facebook (kkvgz), Wednesday, 26 May 2010 10:38 (fifteen years ago)

U r vikings at marriage

― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Wednesday, 26 May 2010 10:45 (fifteen years ago)

thx all

We're saving a fancy night out for when my wife is out of her current slough of despond.

― Grisly Addams (WmC), Wednesday, 26 May 2010 12:54 (fifteen years ago)

Blimey, 15 years this October!

― Mark G, Wednesday, 26 May 2010 13:30 (fifteen years ago)

Wow, congrats! Here is a present (for some reason giftmakers seem to think that anyone married for more than 20 years has automatically lost their sense of style)

http://www.a1gifts.co.uk/images/prodimages/15971L.jpg

― Ned Trifle II, Wednesday, 26 May 2010 15:17 (fifteen years ago)

crystal doves be sexin in honour of u

― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Wednesday, 26 May 2010 15:18 (fifteen years ago)

What a strange message to send to a spouse of 25 years.

― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Wednesday, 26 May 2010 15:19 (fifteen years ago)

Better than a card from Moonpig.com

― Ned Trifle II, Wednesday, 26 May 2010 15:19 (fifteen years ago)

it takes all sorts of horses to make different courses

― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Wednesday, 26 May 2010 15:27 (fifteen years ago)

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