is it normal for some girls to be quiet in bed?

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my gf is really quiet, i dont know if its just cos she shares a house or if she is naturally that way, but im wondering if im just not doing the right things. she says i am, and that she always climaxes, but im a bti worried she isnt. i dont want it to be unsatisfying in bed for her.

― shhh, Thursday, 28 July 2005 10:41 (twenty years ago)

Take her gag off.

― Forest Pines (ForestPines), Thursday, 28 July 2005 10:42 (twenty years ago)

You should ask Logged Out about this.

― Onimo (GerryNemo), Thursday, 28 July 2005 10:42 (twenty years ago)

i'm sorry shhh :(

― ken c (ken c), Thursday, 28 July 2005 10:43 (twenty years ago)

i wish it would be impossible to post while logging out

― Vichitravirya XI (Vichitravirya XI), Thursday, 28 July 2005 10:45 (twenty years ago)

while logging out it is actually impossible.

― ken c (ken c), Thursday, 28 July 2005 10:45 (twenty years ago)

are you to blame, ken? wink wink nudge nudge.

okay, that was a bad joke, shhh, i know. screaming doesn't mean anything.

of course i always yell so hard, i break the glasses... but y'know, that's just me. oh damn, *slap slap* stop making bad jokes.

― nathalie's body's designed for two (stevie nixed), Thursday, 28 July 2005 10:46 (twenty years ago)

I wish I hadn't made that joke about Doctor Who being Logged Out, because now I think of that whenever these questions come up.

― Leon C. (Ex Leon), Thursday, 28 July 2005 10:47 (twenty years ago)

Maybe she's frightened of loud noises.

― Hari A$hur$t (Toaster), Thursday, 28 July 2005 10:54 (twenty years ago)

oh you guys suck

― shhhh, Thursday, 28 July 2005 10:59 (twenty years ago)

Seriously though she is probably just shy of her roommates hearing.

― Hari A$hur$t (Toaster), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:00 (twenty years ago)

"Logged out" is actually a reserved name! He/she exists!

― mark grout (mark grout), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:02 (twenty years ago)

mate, this just means you are shit in bed, be honest with yourself, see where you are going wrong, and fix it
until you make your girl scream at least once, youre not doing what youre supposed to
its not too late though, this can be remedied
at least youre lucky you are aware of it IN a relationship and are not thinking about it afterwards

― loggedout, Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:05 (twenty years ago)

oh you guys suck
-- shhhh (shh...), July 28th, 2005 11:59 AM. (later)

actually it sounds like YOU suck!!!!!

― ken c (ken c), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:06 (twenty years ago)

some are quiet, some are loud. that's it.

― not-goodwin (not-goodwin), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:06 (twenty years ago)

Actually, it sounds like he *doesn't* suck, which may be the real problem. ;-)

― Masonic Boom (kate), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:08 (twenty years ago)

They are like Jelly Beans.

― Hari A$hur$t (Toaster), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:08 (twenty years ago)

Actually no they aren't.

― Hari A$hur$t (Toaster), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:08 (twenty years ago)

No genitals?

― Dadaismus (Dada), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:09 (twenty years ago)

Not like Bassett's Sherbet Fountain then.

― Marcello Carlin (nostudium), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:09 (twenty years ago)

Yes, remember most women mainly orgasm when they receive oral sex. They prefer a tongue over a penis (for orgasms).

Secondly if she says she's enjoying sex, trust her. If you don't, try out new things to see if she reacts differently. I don't think asking if she's happy with the sex will get her to open easily. Talk about specific things: like ask her if she wants doggie, oral sex,... Location....

― nathalie's body's designed for two (stevie nixed), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:13 (twenty years ago)

hey i make my girl cum, she says im the best at giving head shes ever had, and im pretty positive she does cum every time, shes just quiet. so you mean spirited bastards can piss right off!

― shhhh, Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:14 (twenty years ago)

so you're actually just here to brag? okay, I'm jealous. happy? ;-)

― nathalie's body's designed for two (stevie nixed), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:14 (twenty years ago)

Happier than his girlfriend by the sounds of it - or not as the case may be

― Dadaismus (Dada), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:16 (twenty years ago)

if i was hear to brag, i wouldnt have made the 1st post. i was looking to see what other peoples thoughts were. girls lie a lot dont they about faking and things like that, my gf says she doesnt lie, she tells me when she isnt going to cum or hasnt so i guess i should believe her all the times she says she has cum, im just hoping that she is telling the truth, i think she is but what am i meant to do, get a lie detector machine?!

― shhhh, Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:18 (twenty years ago)

No, I suggest trusting her. Have you tried that?

― Guilty Boksen (Bro_Danielson), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:19 (twenty years ago)

what am i meant to do, get a lie detector machine?!

I believe there are bedside models available for this very purpose

― Dadaismus (Dada), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:20 (twenty years ago)

haha@trust. its overrated. do people here not watch and learn from the wisdom of TV soaps?!

― shhhh, Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:21 (twenty years ago)

No, I suggest trusting her. Have you tried that?

Trust is overrated. I recommend truth serum.

― Onimo (GerryNemo), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:22 (twenty years ago)

xpost!

― Onimo (GerryNemo), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:22 (twenty years ago)

In contrast, I feel it's one of Elvis Costello's most underrated albums.

― Marcello Carlin (nostudium), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:23 (twenty years ago)

What about boys? Are we meant to be loud or quiet?

― JimD (JimD), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:23 (twenty years ago)

trust - also one of prince's very worst songs. the lyric isnt bad though. actually i kinda like it but feel i shouldnt. agreed with marcello on the costello album - great sleeve too.

― shhh, Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:25 (twenty years ago)

Men making moany noises while giving oral sex = very sexy

Moany as in "mmmmmmmm" and not, "when the fuck are you gonna cum?" kinda noises.

― Penelope_111 (Penelope_111), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:26 (twenty years ago)

I like to make noises even if the sex isn't so radical that it'd force me to do so. Sounds add to the spirit of it.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:27 (twenty years ago)

Throw in some gestures for good measure

― Dadaismus (Dada), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:29 (twenty years ago)

everyone involved should make noise. it's only right.

Throw in some gestures for good measure

jazz hands!

― club soda (Jody Beth Rosen), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:29 (twenty years ago)

Facial contortions too

― Dadaismus (Dada), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:31 (twenty years ago)

xxxpost - I wondered why Mrs Onimo has a far away drugged look so often. It also explains her publicly announced liking for Dido...at least I think she said Dido.

― Guilty Boksen (Bro_Danielson), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:31 (twenty years ago)

I'm a boy but I'm quiet in bed. If I were to moan or gasp it would feel very forced, so one would have to really seek to naturally solicit them out of me.

― Cheeseburger-style funbox to GO! Fries come in regular and crepuscular size (Eas, Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:33 (twenty years ago)

http://www.hps.com/~tpg/singapore/graphics/nz-haka-big.jpg

― Dadaismus (Dada), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:34 (twenty years ago)

"Moan, you motherfucker!"
xpost

― Penelope_111 (Penelope_111), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:34 (twenty years ago)

xxxpost - I wondered why Mrs Onimo has a far away drugged look so often. It also explains her publicly announced liking for Dido...at least I think she said Dido.

Did she? I'll need to lower the dose a bit.

― Onimo (GerryNemo), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:36 (twenty years ago)

http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=bellow

― JimD (JimD), Thursday, 28 July 2005 11:49 (twenty years ago)

http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=cheeseburger%20funbox

― Chewshabadoo (Chewshabadoo), Thursday, 28 July 2005 13:26 (twenty years ago)

They prefer a tongue over a penis (for orgasms).

Hmm...I dunno if I'd go that far (personally).

But shhh, maybe your girl is just self-conscious. Sometimes I'm loud, most of the time I'm not and it doesn't have anything to do with my enjoyment. I used to think that overly loud noises were just too showy/porn star. And if you're used to living with people, you learn how to be mouse quiet real quick.

― Candicissima (candicissima), Thursday, 28 July 2005 13:39 (twenty years ago)

It's easier to focus if you're not involved in a bunch of theatrics.

― Paunchy Stratego (kenan), Thursday, 28 July 2005 13:40 (twenty years ago)

Not to say that I don't like noises. Orgasm noises are teh best. Sometimes when a girl gets very quiet, especially if I'm going down on her, it means she's concentrating on what I'm doing. I appreciate that, because Lord knows I'm concentrating on it.

― Paunchy Stratego (kenan), Thursday, 28 July 2005 13:41 (twenty years ago)

They prefer a tongue over a penis (for orgasms).

I should have said the clitoris. :-)

― nathalie's body's designed for two (stevie nixed), Thursday, 28 July 2005 13:42 (twenty years ago)

They prefer a tongue over a penis (for orgasms).

I find a tongue on a penis tends to work for me

― Dadaismus (Dada), Thursday, 28 July 2005 13:42 (twenty years ago)

Any particular penis?

― Onimo (GerryNemo), Thursday, 28 July 2005 13:44 (twenty years ago)

Cherie's tongue, Tony's penis

― Dadaismus (Dada), Thursday, 28 July 2005 13:44 (twenty years ago)

They prefer a tongue over a penis (for orgasms).

Yep, some of us are contortionists...

― mark grout (mark grout), Thursday, 28 July 2005 13:45 (twenty years ago)

They prefer a vibrator over a tongue (for orgasms).

― Jordan (Jordan), Thursday, 28 July 2005 13:46 (twenty years ago)

This question is kind of dumb for a lot of reasons, dude.

A) OK all guys reading in general: how many of YOU writhe around moaning and yelling during sex? Not most of you, I'd be willing to bet. Why is this expected...perhaps even MANDATED of women? TURN OFF ONE PORNO.
B) My opinion on what the gf says about enjoying it: if she wasn't enjoying it but was pretending to, she'd have started doing the porno moans to throw you off the track as soon as you pointed it out to her. The fact that she hasn't changed HER behavior despite your questioning her enjoyment tells me she's NOT lying. FYI, as a woman.

― Allyzay knows a little German (allyzay), Thursday, 28 July 2005 13:46 (twenty years ago)

They prefer a tongue over a penis (for orgasms).

I have never come with my tongue. Am I doing something wrong?

― M. White (Miguelito), Thursday, 28 July 2005 13:46 (twenty years ago)

a vibrator over a tongue

That would make me gag, I think.

― Onimo (GerryNemo), Thursday, 28 July 2005 13:47 (twenty years ago)

Some people make noise. Some people don't. It's all good. Most women I have 'known' will end up telling you one way or another if they're not satisfied, so don't fret too much.

― M. White (Miguelito), Thursday, 28 July 2005 13:48 (twenty years ago)

i have been thinking about this, and i think that if my GF is still really wet all the way throughout sex, she must be enjoying it on some level. thanks to allyzay anyway

porn is to blame i agree

― shhhh, Thursday, 28 July 2005 13:51 (twenty years ago)

Allyzay OTM shocker.

― Je4nne ƒur¥ (Je4nne Fury), Thursday, 28 July 2005 13:54 (twenty years ago)

i have been thinking about this, and i think that if my GF is still really wet all the way throughout sex, she must be enjoying it on some level

Either that or the waterbed's sprung a leak

― Dadaismus (Dada), Thursday, 28 July 2005 13:55 (twenty years ago)

Or she's pissing herself laughing.

― Penelope_111 (Penelope_111), Thursday, 28 July 2005 13:57 (twenty years ago)

if they don't make noise during sex it means they've spent time in prison: you can look it up!

― j blount (papa la bas), Thursday, 28 July 2005 13:57 (twenty years ago)

not to get too scientific or anything but the um, inner funbox area kind of stiffens and swells when the girl's getting ready to cum. going down on her you can usually tell when this is happening. harder to tell when you're actually having sex.

lots of girls - even the the yellers - get really quiet right before they cum. this can throw off the guy, who thinks he's doing something wrong, all-of-a-sudden when it's actually the opposite. then he stops and says, concernedly, everything ok? and she's all trying to concentrate and the moment is ruined. no one's fault.

― not dr. ruth, Thursday, 28 July 2005 14:35 (twenty years ago)

I haven't read most of this thread, but I read what Ally said, and yes, bingo.

― jaymc (jaymc), Thursday, 28 July 2005 14:39 (twenty years ago)

If she gives me a rhythm, with her breathing, moaning, groin pumping, etc..., I usually go with that, though one has to be attentive to changes. I usually stay at it 'til she drags me away, but then, I'm fond of carresses buccales.

Bingo? Isn't that what you say when...?

― M. White (Miguelito), Thursday, 28 July 2005 14:44 (twenty years ago)

Do it in the butt.

― It's just Jimmy Mod. Don't trip out and get labia reduction surgery or anyt (Mod, Thursday, 28 July 2005 14:45 (twenty years ago)

yeah, Ally's right but the quiet ones can have other signals. hand-gripping?

nothing is MANDATED but it can be harder to communicate than one'd hope and if a guy's not used to the quiet type, it's hard to adjust. what does gf do when she's come, shhh? does she say "Right. That was lovely." or what?

the basic fact that guys can PROVE they've come and girls can't, maybe is the (same old) issue here.

― not dr. ruth, Thursday, 28 July 2005 15:06 (twenty years ago)

Bingo? Isn't that what you say when...?

I think I missed that meme.

― jaymc (jaymc), Thursday, 28 July 2005 15:21 (twenty years ago)

i have been thinking about this, and i think that if my GF is still really wet all the way throughout sex, she must be enjoying it on some level. thanks to allyzay anyway
-- shhhh (shhh...), July 28th, 2005 2:51 PM. (later)

allyzay can make any girl wet

― ken c (ken c), Thursday, 28 July 2005 15:31 (twenty years ago)

not dr. ruth otm about the concentration silence thing. some folks are this way... (men and women.)

also, apartment or house? some people are shy about wooping it up. if they don't have privacy, it's a turn off.

?
m.

― msp (mspa), Thursday, 28 July 2005 15:32 (twenty years ago)

re: bingo

it was a chris v story about a friend who yelled out 'bingo' at the peak of a blow job. don't feel like searching, but it's a great story.

― juliaaa, Thursday, 28 July 2005 15:35 (twenty years ago)

tell gf to whisper "bingo" whenever she comes. that'll do it.

― not dr. ruth, Thursday, 28 July 2005 15:51 (twenty years ago)

I saw a porno one time where the couple were really quiet, exactly as they would be if someone were home, it was super hottt! Although then I started wondering if the pornographer were actually filming while his roommates were next door or something, and I sort of lost track of the hottness.

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Thursday, 28 July 2005 16:17 (twenty years ago)

Maybe the bedroom is bugged.

― Carol Stream (dymaxia), Thursday, 28 July 2005 16:23 (twenty years ago)

Seriously, my sister had a nosy neighbor who was spying on her and who complained that she could "hear her", so one time when I was alone with the dog, I faked bestiality noises. Served them right.

― Land Ho! (dymaxia), Thursday, 28 July 2005 16:27 (twenty years ago)

...or if whispering is still too much, does anyone know how to say "bingo" in sign language.

― not dr. ruth, Thursday, 28 July 2005 16:32 (twenty years ago)

Why does Helen Keller only masturbate with one hand, etc....?

― M. White (Miguelito), Thursday, 28 July 2005 16:37 (twenty years ago)

When the l.e.d. switches from green to red, you're doing find.

― Austin Still (Austin, Still), Thursday, 28 July 2005 16:41 (twenty years ago)

when i've slept with someone quiet i can't help biting them or something to see what they do. mean, but necessary. just a small bite or pinch, something to check that they aren't ..."Robot Woman".

it's tough to have a really, really quiet lover.

― not dr. ruth, Thursday, 28 July 2005 16:44 (twenty years ago)

Better than one who lies really, really still.

― Paunchy Stratego (kenan), Thursday, 28 July 2005 16:46 (twenty years ago)

Dead girls are the worst. So sluggish. So slow. Like, you can watch a movie with her, but you can't talk about it afterwards. You can take her to dinner, but she'll only embarass you. Your options really are limited to screwing, and even that gets boring.

― Paunchy Stratego (kenan), Thursday, 28 July 2005 16:48 (twenty years ago)

That would be a great Final Thought on Jerry Springer.

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Thursday, 28 July 2005 17:06 (twenty years ago)

Yes, yes it would.

― Leon C. (Ex Leon), Thursday, 28 July 2005 17:07 (twenty years ago)

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