ILX: Help me with this Job/Life Dilemma

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1. Moving back to home city, Being well off, Better immediate prospects, Getting out of a company i don't like, Feeling lonely and possibly depressed, No widening of skills, but maybe consolidation of existing ones, New job a possible lifeline,

2. Staying in city i am happy in, Having a life, Job i don't like (and worsening), Possibilities of gaining a new skillset (though not
with any official help from company) that i would like to move into, Feeling trapped with current role, Uncertain future

― Lyot One, Thursday, 15 September 2005 08:47 (twenty years ago)

Is there no way to get a new job where you currently live?

― Panther Pink (Pinkpanther), Thursday, 15 September 2005 08:52 (twenty years ago)

Do you have no ties to either place beyond this? No significant others, no promises made, no other commitments?

― Markelby (Mark C), Thursday, 15 September 2005 08:52 (twenty years ago)

It is difficult to get a job where i am now, there are a lot of things they want! Which i don't have. This job is unusual in that it is pitched very closely to what i can do, but has a couple of new things involved which would be good to learn. But itst still all concentrated in the one area of IT, and i would prefer to broaden.

I don't have any commitments at either place. I have a good life where i am now, that i have worked hard to build up, but i don't have any actual commitments

― Lyot One, Thursday, 15 September 2005 09:08 (twenty years ago)

Stay in the city you're happy in. As good friends have told me on several occasions, it's only a job.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Thursday, 15 September 2005 09:15 (twenty years ago)

I mean, I genuinely fail to understand how anyone could want to up sticks and walk away from an otherwise good life because of work.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Thursday, 15 September 2005 09:18 (twenty years ago)

"it's only a job". A phrase I find increasingly depressing. You do spend most of yr life there...

― Baaderonixx and the choco-pop babies (baaderonixx), Thursday, 15 September 2005 09:20 (twenty years ago)

There's a lot to be said for getting sacked from an awful job. It makes you realise how much those "eight hours" (and it's never only eight hours, is it?) really do affect your outlook on life.

There's *always* another job. In a way that there's not always another friendship, neighbourhood, circle of mates, etc.

― The Brocade Fire (kate), Thursday, 15 September 2005 09:22 (twenty years ago)

option one only sounds ok if it's time limited-- like you say 'i'm moving home and being a hermit and getting a new job and saving money for two years, at which time i'll have the money and skills to come back to the city i actually like and get a better job'

otherwise, concentrate on broadening your skills while within your crappy job with a mind to escaping (easier said than done, i know, but you've got to try)

― colette (a2lette), Thursday, 15 September 2005 09:27 (twenty years ago)

Don't get sacked. Resign if you must, and get a glowing reference. But don't get sacked.

― Markelby (Mark C), Thursday, 15 September 2005 09:39 (twenty years ago)

Yeah, but if they think it's their decision, you can get your notice period money up front and go - gardening leave! If you resign, you have to work out your notice period.

― The Brocade Fire (kate), Thursday, 15 September 2005 09:41 (twenty years ago)

I won't be getting sacked. If i go, i will resign and work out notice period, it may be that i need this place again, plus...reference

While it is indeed 'only work', my worry is that if i miss this lifeboat thats come along, eventually i won't have this job, and then i will be really stuck. Fearful of ending up doing a warehouse type job within 2 years, if i don't navigate my way out

― Lyot One, Thursday, 15 September 2005 10:08 (twenty years ago)

My cv has now been sent

― Lyot One, Friday, 16 September 2005 10:39 (twenty years ago)

Had you wanted advice on whether or not to wash your hair, you might have received at least 100 more replies.

― Aimless (Aimless), Friday, 16 September 2005 16:28 (twenty years ago)

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