ok, so after you go speed dating, what is the etiquette for contacting them?

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i mean, as some of you might be aware, i went last week, and well now i have a few matches, im wondering what the fuck do i write to them in my email message? do i ask them to meet up for a drink in the first message, do i just start up a convo? what is the right way to do this exactly?! any tips?

― hmmmhmm, Friday, 7 October 2005 12:01 (twenty years ago)

Phone them and talk to them for exactly ONE minute.

― mark grout (mark grout), Friday, 7 October 2005 12:07 (twenty years ago)

while on speed

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 7 October 2005 12:08 (twenty years ago)

about a bus that'd explode when it slows down to below 50mph

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 7 October 2005 12:08 (twenty years ago)

Hee hee Pop quiz, hotshot.

Send them a short email that asks them out for a drink or a coffee or whatever floats yr boat. Tell them that you'd like to get to know them better. Nothing fancy, just enough that they can respond in kind if they want to. After speed dating, I imagine you're now just looking to see them with any amount of depth, and its over email so there's no real pressure...

― Rhodia (Rhodia), Friday, 7 October 2005 14:48 (twenty years ago)

http://desmoinesregister.com/graphics/meth/methuse_thumb.jpg

― andy --, Friday, 7 October 2005 15:16 (twenty years ago)

Send them a note written by quill on handmade parchment, sealed in wax and delivered by messenger. Ask them if they're free in a fortnight's time to take a leisurely stroll through Ranelagh Gardens to discuss various and sundry items of passing fancy.

― M. White (Miguelito), Friday, 7 October 2005 15:19 (twenty years ago)

thanks but im not dating in elizabethan times

― hmmmh, Friday, 7 October 2005 15:33 (twenty years ago)

yr fit d8 me?

― Markelby (Mark C), Friday, 7 October 2005 15:59 (twenty years ago)

wang.jpg

― a picture of a fat girl hugging Rick Perry, awesome (Matt Chesnut), Friday, 7 October 2005 16:01 (twenty years ago)

Hope you've emailed them by now, fill us in on how it all goes (or not goes).

― salexander / sophie (salexander), Saturday, 8 October 2005 01:03 (twenty years ago)

M WHITE WILL U MARRY ME?

― SPARTACUS TWATTERY (I AM LOGGED ON), Saturday, 8 October 2005 05:35 (twenty years ago)

does 10 years of meth use really make your hair to grow into a mullet?

― jbr is the value obtained from the leptonic branching ratio measurement and (Jod, Saturday, 8 October 2005 05:40 (twenty years ago)

- "to"

― jbr is the value obtained from the leptonic branching ratio measurement and (Jod, Saturday, 8 October 2005 05:41 (twenty years ago)

Does it for me!

― Paranoid Spice (kate), Sunday, 9 October 2005 09:57 (twenty years ago)

ok, no messages yet, im guessing if they havent come now, they wont ever come. let this be a lesson to you future speed daters, just cos they say they like you, it doesnt mean they want to go out with you. oh well.....

― hmhmmhmhm, Monday, 10 October 2005 09:46 (twenty years ago)

Pfft speed-dating deed-spating. Suggestions for the future: boycott it. I wouldn't feel too bad about it hmhmhm. Even though it's probably hard not to take it personally, it's not exactly a natural environment to meet people. You never know when you might meet someone.

― salexander / sophie (salexander), Monday, 10 October 2005 10:29 (twenty years ago)

yeah i know, youre right, but you know, you kinda hope for the best. wouldnt it be nice if after meeting someone only 3 minutes, they thoguht you were the best thing ever! i suppose meeeting someone in a diff environment/context for 3 mins is still not the same as meeting them in a forced environment like SD though isnt it?

the thing to do i think is to not think about wanting to find someone so much, which is a bit hard when youve just split up with someone (ok, 4-5 months ago but hey), but still, its best not to think about it too much. someone will come along at some point. or so id like to believe. thanks for your advice sophie ;)

i feel like that hermit brother in the series arrested devlopment when he says 'i should just face it, i will never love again!' although i my case, it might just be 'i will never be loved again!'
lol (its lame to write lol i know but i thought it necessary to drive the point home that i am making a joke, even if like many jokes, it is rooted in a sad regrettable truth)

― hhmhmhmhmhm, Monday, 10 October 2005 10:50 (twenty years ago)

Come on it's only been 5 months! That's not a big time gap; what's the rush? I may only be 20 but it seems like there's aeons and aeons of time left. Perhaps you are an oldie though & fear the death. Seriously though, it sounds like you may still be hooked up on the last relationship and that ain't a good state of mind to be looking for someone new. Is there any chance of resolving this trauma? (Yes I am Freud's mistress). Surely you will be loved again! You don't sound like a bad person at all.

― salexander / sophie (salexander), Monday, 10 October 2005 10:57 (twenty years ago)

Logging out now to go to sleep. Try not to dwell on it. Go and do something fun to cheer yourself up!

― salexander / sophie (salexander), Monday, 10 October 2005 11:04 (twenty years ago)

It's now almost two years since I last had sex, and I can hear that clock ticking :-(

― Forest Pines (ForestPines), Monday, 10 October 2005 11:13 (twenty years ago)

i cannot believe you are only 20 sophie! fuck, if i was 20 again, there is a LOT i would do differently.

― hmmmhmhmmh, Monday, 10 October 2005 11:20 (twenty years ago)

ok, still no responses....
speed dating isnt that speedy after all!

― hmhmhmh, Tuesday, 11 October 2005 11:56 (twenty years ago)

Whereas at least a drunken "wanna shag love" in a nightclub gets you a no pretty quickly :)

― Markelby (Mark C), Tuesday, 11 October 2005 11:57 (twenty years ago)

my results came through today. i'm pleased with them!

can i email more than one of my matches? is that allowed? i'm worried that if i do they'll turn out to be flatmates or something (i went to the event with mine, afterall)

― Slumpman (Slump Man), Tuesday, 11 October 2005 14:15 (twenty years ago)

yes email them all, youre allowed
dont wory, i emailed two girls that were friends (is this why they didnt respond?)
let us know how it goes slumpman
i will see if anything comes of my potential speed datees
what were your results?

― hmhmhmhm, Tuesday, 11 October 2005 14:29 (twenty years ago)

email all the girls anonymously with an email containing a funny picture like a penguin that gets tripped by another penguin and falls over, with a link that says lol click here for more that actually links to a website of yours - the link will have to somehow involve their email address and the destination website will log them together with the ip address.

avoid any two girls with similar ip address (or email just the one so that they will ask their flatmate if they got any themselves and they'll say no and then she'll think omg he really loves me yay let's shag him)

― ken c, helping stalkers since 1980 (ken c), Tuesday, 11 October 2005 14:37 (twenty years ago)

Let's? As in "Hey let's both go"?

― mark grout (mark grout), Tuesday, 11 October 2005 14:46 (twenty years ago)

Ken C,

I do all this and I used to correlate website lurkers with mail server logins at university. :D I also employ COOKIE TRACKING for those wiley wenches with wifi!

― Jonothong Williamsmang (ex machina), Tuesday, 11 October 2005 14:53 (twenty years ago)

Cookies also work for fatties.

― Self Obsessed Spice (ex machina), Tuesday, 11 October 2005 14:54 (twenty years ago)

dont wory, i emailed two girls that were friends (is this why they didnt respond?)

well, that's my fear, yes.

what were your results?

excluding the girls i went with, i had 5 matches. 3 that i'd definitely see again, 2 that i don't recall too well (they must have been towards the end of the evening, i was drunk by then)

i'll update here if anything occurs!

― Slumpman (Slump Man), Tuesday, 11 October 2005 14:56 (twenty years ago)

*high fives jon!*

― ken c (ken c), Tuesday, 11 October 2005 15:20 (twenty years ago)

Start a flirtation thread on ILE and send her there. Pick a more secluded spot for the inevitable cyber.

― Confounded (Confounded), Tuesday, 11 October 2005 15:33 (twenty years ago)

i emailed two girls that were friends (is this why they didnt respond?)

"Obviously you aren't up to much individually, but if you fancy getting it on with me together, that's another matter..."

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Tuesday, 11 October 2005 16:35 (twenty years ago)

well i am meant to be going out with one of the girls next week..... im not sure what to make of it now, as the time lag between my emailing her and vice versa is pretty bloody slow! i.e. im not sure she is that bothered about us going out although shes said she wants to meet up, so i supose we'll just see how it goes. god i hope its not awkward when we do meet up

― hmmmhmmmhmmmm, Sunday, 23 October 2005 11:19 (twenty years ago)

i didn't email any of my mathces in the end because it felt a little weird and also i met someone new

good luck anyhow

― Slumpman (Slump Man), Sunday, 23 October 2005 11:31 (twenty years ago)

it is a tad weird
its weirder still following through with emailing
ill see how it goes though
good for you that you met someone new
i must stop thinking about being single at the moment, its becoming an unnecessary, stupid bane

― hmhmhmhmhm, Sunday, 23 October 2005 11:42 (twenty years ago)

Oh good, was hoping you would revive this sometime. Good luck with the date. (BTW, some people don't check their email regularly. She also may have just been nervous or apprehensive about exactly what to say. Weren't you?!) Anyway, please tell us how it goes and don't forget to floss beforehand (did you read that thread? Unbelievable).

― saleXander / sophie (salexander), Monday, 24 October 2005 04:19 (twenty years ago)

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