Someone has got to know how I can deal with this..

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Alright.. I have a BIIIIIG dilema. My sister used to have this girl friend.. and they were getting along well. My sister was also good friends with our cousin who was around our age. Then my sister's boyfriend stepped into the picture and her relationship with our cousin and her friend just dissolved. Now I was friends with them and I still am. I'm also friends with my sister, but I dont really hang out with her. She's most of the time away in college and my friend (her former friend) and cousin will only visit or call when she's away. I understand that they might not want to open up old wounds but it's really not fair to me. And I know that my sister doesn't want the things to be the same way they were before but she just wants them to acknowledge her existence. Say "hi.. what's up?" and that's it! and now even my boyfriend won't come visit me because SHE'S here! I just don't know what to do.. I love them all... and I know my sister can be a pain in the ass but she has a point , they are ignoring her and she's not as bad as they think she is. She just wants them to understand that she's still alive and she deserves SOME respect. ::sigh:: PLEASE HELP! my birthday is coming up soon and I'm also afraid that my boyfriend won't see me because he's scared of her... which i odn't understand why... and it makes me really ANGRY!

― Pysia, Wednesday, 2 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago) link

"her boyfriend stepped into the picture": OK, but what did he DO? Crack wise abt dress-sense and music-taste, throttle and casserole a beloved pet rabbit, clumsily goose all and sundry?

*You* are entitled to spend time w.yr sistah, and yr friends/sig.oths are NOT entitled to get in the way of that. As for getting them to respect her again, why did they stop doing so? Was it all down to this troublesome b/f? Or did she start acting up too? Can you not say "My sistah wd like to be friends again, and promises she'll make an effort this time": if not, then it's really *her* prob not yrs.

― mark s, Wednesday, 2 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago) link

Hi Pysia, This is a dilema. It could be you have all of these friends, even a boyfriend, but please don't let them get in the way of your family. Every one of your friends and even your boyfriend can be replaced. A sister can never be replaced. She is part of you and always will be there for you as well. A friend can turn on you very quickly though... Think hard about it, & good luck

― Gale Deslongchamps, Wednesday, 2 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago) link

use ginger ale

― mike hanle y, Thursday, 3 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago) link

invite them all to a big orgy - people, get together, love one another...how hard can it be. Incest is good for the family.

― Geoff, Thursday, 3 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago) link

Hi Geoff, That isn't even a funny joke:(

― Gale Deslongchamps, Thursday, 3 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago) link

I laughed.

― Sean, Thursday, 3 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago) link

"The family that lays together stays together" - R. Crumb.

― Andrew L, Thursday, 3 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago) link

tell your boyfirend to grow up - how bad can one day with your sister be for him? or use the emotional blackmail route: "if you really loved me you would [your request here]"

― , Thursday, 3 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago) link

You should have a talk with your boyfriend, tell him how you feel, and your friends. Take their feelings into consideration. Why would your sister let her relationship with these people get this bad if she cared anyway?? And if they dont want to be around her, she must have some sort of attitute problem

― Joe, Friday, 4 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-two years ago) link

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