Help me with writing a letter of recommendation for a ninth-grader.

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The mother of my favourite kid from when I was a camp counsellor just called me asking me to do this, apparently it is for a *very* flash school with only 20 spots for 9th grade, where they "want outgoing, gregarious type kids who can work hard".

Okay so -
1) What do I write? I can probably sort of work this bit out but help is pretty appreciated obv. Should I milk the "blah blah Oxford" thing to make my recommendation carry more weight, or sort of mention it in passing (my instinct is for the latter)?

2) How much should I write?

and most importantly:

3) The girl (K) lives in A FUCKING CRAZY HOUSE. Seriously I visited them and between her completely bonkers mother and that 0-bedroom packrat apartment it is a bloody miracle she ever gets anything done at all - she is always up 'till 1am doing her homework because her mother is *always* trying to "help" her with it and she has nowhere to hide from this. So how much of this do I mention? Apparently her grades are lower than they'd normally take at this school so I sort of feel I should tell that even average grades prove that she is really super super bright, given her homelife.

But: would mentioning all of this make it seem like she was some wrong-side-of-the-tracks kid they might be snobbish abt taking? Also will her mother see the letter? Obviously I cannot write this stuff if she will...

Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Sunday, 11 December 2005 22:16 (nineteen years ago)

i wouldn't mention the home life -- snobbish types won't want to read about that. i'd play up her strengths.

Penis, NV (Jody Beth Rosen), Sunday, 11 December 2005 22:19 (nineteen years ago)

That's useful - thanks JBR.

Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Sunday, 11 December 2005 23:06 (nineteen years ago)

if you want to help her, be as complimentary as you can without outright lying (although a small nudge in the general direction of "white lie" won't hurt anybody). you have nothing to lose by seeming detached and noncommittal, but she stands to lose a whole lot.

Penis, NV (Jody Beth Rosen), Sunday, 11 December 2005 23:20 (nineteen years ago)

Along those same lines of little white lies - run any factual lies by her first! Seems to go without saying, but the worst and easiest way for her to get bounced from the process would be have her speak the wrong way and create an inconsistency during an interview, etc.

In terms of playing up your end...I would paint as positive and laudatory picture as you can about her first. A better way to come accross as a letter of rec that matters than just spouting degrees is to make a very insightful and well-applied comment about one of her weakenesses or areas in need of growth - like, for instance, this place may have a BRILLIANT literature department, and your recomendee has yet to be exposed to that sort of level of excellence in literature. Thus, she would be an asset AND would get a lot out of being there!

Hope it goes well. That time is SO stressful.

Big Loud Mountain Ape (Big Loud Mountain Ape), Monday, 12 December 2005 01:18 (nineteen years ago)

You could say something along the lines of knowing firsthand how committed she is to academic achievement, accepting responsibility, etc. JBR is OTM re her homelife and playing up her strengths in light of the school's hard-working out-going requirements. I'd also think your instincts to be more subtle on your own background are good - you may want to clarify why you are qualified to judge a person as hard-working and out-going, so comparisons to your own academic situation could come up in that context. The mother will undoubtedly see the letter, unless you are to send it directly to the school - but even then, she could see it, so skirt the homelife issues.

Jaq (Jaq), Monday, 12 December 2005 01:22 (nineteen years ago)

Thanks, all.

How does this sound? Even I can see loads of problems with it but I'm terrible at this stuff, held me out here. Also should it be longer?

This letter is intended to serve as school recommendation for K H. Working as a camp counsellor at Life-Tech Ventures (Charlton, MA), I got to know K over the four weeks she stayed at camp this summer. Hugely popular with kids and staff alike, I was thrilled to be chosen by her mother as the one to write this letter – countless other teachers would have been just as happy to write it, and just as enthusiastic within.

Both my own education, at Westminster and Oxford, and the counselling and educational work I have done, gives me confidence in my ability to recognise a bright kid – K is not just a bright kid, but one of the brightest I have ever had the pleasure of meeting. She is both naturally capable and a tenacious worker; she is sharp, witty, and surprisingly wise.

K’s intellectual curiosity at camp was virtually boundless. LTV has a fairly academic curriculum of daytime activities, taught by specialist teachers – the free ‘rec time’ spent with counsellors was used by many campers as a break from this. For K, however, it merely offered new ways to challenge herself, whether it was in solving the difficult cryptic riddles she would ask me to set her, or playing Mao, a card game in which the complex and arcane rules must be worked out through trial and error, and a reward of winning a hand was to introduce and enforce one’s own rule for the rest of the session. Whenever complex rule interactions arose, K dealt with them in a way that showed not only great clarity of mind, but also a real pleasure in the act of difficult intellectual manipulations for their own sake.

Hugely charming, gregarious and intelligent, I believe wholeheartedly that she would be as much a credit to Dalton as she already is to LTV and to her age in general. If you’d like to discuss her application further, please don’t hesitate to contact me.

Yours sincerely,
Greg Etc

(should there be a paragraph about outgoingness before the last one? what should I say in it?)

Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Friday, 16 December 2005 00:57 (nineteen years ago)

here is what you write:

HEY FASCIST CAPITALIST PRIVATE ELITIST SCHOOL. LET THIS INSANE GIRL FROM A MENTALLY UNSTABLE FAMILY FROM A BAD PART OF TOWN WHERE EVERYONE IS ADDICTED TO AND DEALS DRUGS INTO YOUR SNOBBISH SCHOOL FOR RICH CUNTS OR I WILL BOMB IT FOR SOCIALISM. YOU KNOW I AM A COMMUNIST BECAUSE OXFORD BLAH BLAH.

ALSO SHE IS VERY OUTGOING (WITH BOYS AND MEN OF ALL AGES)

SIGNED,
THE PEOPLE'S PROTECTOR

ESTEBAN BUTTEZ~!!, Friday, 16 December 2005 05:48 (nineteen years ago)

five years pass...

argh this is difficult

k3vin k., Monday, 10 October 2011 15:50 (fourteen years ago)

I've got to write a college recc for a student I taught last year and I keep procrastinating bc getting into the 'write a bunch of complimentary bullshit in a smile-smile tone' state is the worst kind of state to be in

Mordy, Monday, 10 October 2011 15:54 (fourteen years ago)

yeah my english professor from last semester is applying for a full professorship at other universities and asked me to write her a student rec letter for her portfolio. it's not like, hard - i know what i want to say and roughly how to compose one of these things - but i just want to make sure it's perfect because it seems important to her

k3vin k., Monday, 10 October 2011 15:58 (fourteen years ago)


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