Are Crushes Actually Creepy?

More like, is it creepy to remember someone in a crush situation, and use them as masturbation fantasy material? I mean, fantasies are your own business, right? You can fantasise about whatever you like when you have a wank.

But then suddenly I felt terribly guilty about it - and not the usual Catholic School Girl guilt about sex/masturbation/etc. but actual guilt in terms of "how would *I* feel in the unlikely event that some stranger was wanking over me?" OK, I wouldn't know about it, so it would be OK. But still. I started wondering if it was creepy.

Then again, I'm sure there are those who would say it was creepy to talk about wanking or fantasies on ILX, fullstop. Whatever.

x-post yeah, that's the sort of thing I'm talking about, Mark.

One of the things I love about her is that in all the commutes we took together (and there were many over the years) she didn't once mention the fact that I was quite obviously in some helpless, adoring, thrall to her...Which was sweet.

kate:"hur hur hur i saw this dude on the bus the other day and i totally went home a cracked one off"
dude:"holy shit"

Ah, what the hell, as you say, if you don't know it don't matter. Thats another reason I'm glad I didn't know.

"I thought of you last night"
"Oh did you?"
"Mmmm. Twice."

Like I say.

I guess I'm trying to say "is this something I should worry about/try to change". Blame CBT, I've overanalysing my thoughtpatterns even more than ever now.

ken "hey stevem i totally cracked one off the other night after thinking about you"
stevem "woot!"

getting crushes on people you see regularly has 'creepy' potential, but is ok as long as you don't make it embarrassingly obvious.

On one level, it's kind of like dreams, free association, that though one may start thinking about something or someone, the erotic imagination goes where it likes - and that's the whole point of fantasy.

I mean, as with any other sexual deviancy, it's where things stop being fantasy and start being *acted* upon that it becomes wrong.

Sorry, I am thinking wrongly today. I'm not feeling well.

I don't think it would surprise Johnny Depp to find out that some strangers fantasise about him. Occupational hazard. But I bet it weirds him out a bit too.

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kind of hurt that u posted our private convo

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if these don't sound creepy, it's because you're not reading them in the creepy voice

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jack nicholson's put on some weight for his new role

date w/ my crush tonite!!!!!! nervous and stoked!!!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H9nPf7w7pDI

creeeeeeeeepy

grady, lead off by saying "i've been thinking about you for a long time. and i always will." in a slingblade voice

^^^

and copy one of the above notes into a card. just give it to her and nod knowingly as she reads it. she'll be putty in your hands in no time.

ok hang on i'm printing out this thread

just refer to this thread during the hot date. and then, if she catches you, tell her that tbh, you're so nervous about this hot date that you're relying on the internet to feed you good lines. because the date is that important to you.

in a slingblade voice.

ooh, ooh, first chance you get, tell her that you can't decide if you want to die first, so you don't have to suffer through the agony of her death, or if you want her to die first so that she doesn't have to be alone.

it's always good to know that someone's thinking about you

shit i gotta print out another page now

good luck on your crush date for real though!