alcohol has ceased functioning as a social lubricant, for me at least. help.

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Used to, few drinks would always melt away any tension and I could then relate to others in a relaxed unselfconscious etc etc. Nowadays, I drink and "get a buzz" or whatever but if I happen to be tense or depressed when I start drinking, these symptoms only get worse as I continue drinking. What to do?

― a lurker more or less, Tuesday, 31 January 2006 21:56 (twenty years ago)

a a few drinks

― almol, Tuesday, 31 January 2006 21:57 (twenty years ago)

Um. This might be obvious, but my first piece of advice would be "stop drinking".

― Dan (Reinforcing Depression Is Bad) Perry (Dan Perry), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 21:59 (twenty years ago)

you tried cocaine?

― j blount (papa la bas), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 22:00 (twenty years ago)

blount otm

― james van der beek (dubplatestyle), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 22:02 (twenty years ago)

if nothing else, you'll find yourself endlessly interesting

― james van der beek (dubplatestyle), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 22:02 (twenty years ago)

you try being one of those dudes that owns a snake too

― j blount (papa la bas), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 22:03 (twenty years ago)

try to ostentatiously flare your nostrils when you come out of the bar potty too

― james van der beek (dubplatestyle), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 22:04 (twenty years ago)

*chicks don't dig guys that have snakes for pets

― nein Socken (nein Socken), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 22:04 (twenty years ago)

i was clearly implying a penile implant there

― j blount (papa la bas), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 22:05 (twenty years ago)

Yeah. cocaine's the drug people who don't do drugs anymore do.

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 22:06 (twenty years ago)

Same phenomenon with cocaine! It was great for a while then the expense and the crash began to outweigh any positive effects (effects which would wane over the years). Sigh.

― a.l.m.o.l., Tuesday, 31 January 2006 22:06 (twenty years ago)

Have you tried chamomile? Very calming.

― o. nate (onate), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 22:08 (twenty years ago)

you tried myspace yet?

― j blount (papa la bas), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 22:09 (twenty years ago)

cash money is the best social lubricant. giving to others cures depression. look at that old guy from that one movie about christmas.

― nein Socken (nein Socken), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 22:09 (twenty years ago)

stop drinking

― Mr. Latham Green (hanle y 3000), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 22:09 (twenty years ago)

or just don't drink when you're tense and depressed. (i've seen too many people turn into weepy drunks to risk it myself!)

― Maria (Maria), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 23:12 (twenty years ago)

reggae

― senseiDancer (sexyDancer), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 23:24 (twenty years ago)

Practice drinking at home more.

Drinking socially can have unpredictable effects.

― Bob Six (bobbysix), Tuesday, 31 January 2006 23:30 (twenty years ago)

Get comfortable with being around people sober, so you don't need the booze as a social lubricant. Relaxed and unselfconscious is do-able straight if you learn to not worry about what people are thinking about you. Lately I've found if I've got nothing to say I don't strain for small-talk and it feels good.

― The Man in the Iron-On Mask (noodle vague), Wednesday, 1 February 2006 00:15 (twenty years ago)

Yeah, alcohol's quality as a social lubricant is overrated anyway. It makes people, too loud, too confrontational, too stupid, and even aggressive and violent.

Scientists should be working on developing a new safe empathogen for socialising, like a less toxic version of E.

― Bob Six (bobbysix), Wednesday, 1 February 2006 08:27 (twenty years ago)

move to glasgow to get the real kicks. feed animals in the zoo, then later maybe a movie too, and then home.

― 11 yr old girl (ken c), Wednesday, 1 February 2006 12:26 (twenty years ago)

dancer, seconded.

― ai lien (kold_krush), Wednesday, 1 February 2006 19:42 (twenty years ago)

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