i have a great big HUGE crush!

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today i ran into a friend of mine that i have known for 3-4 years. we always had a platonic friendship, but the last couple of times i have seen him have been quite different ... the air has been thick with sexual tension and we flirt like crazy. anyway he gave me his phone number. and i know several reasons why i should call him (like cos i LIKE him and stuff) but i also can think of a few reasons why i shouldn't call him such as:
1. i am scared i will make an ass of myself cos i am shy.
s. there is the possibility that seeing him could upset a person we both know and love dearly.

so should i call him?

― di, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

i think you should. Recently I've taken the more active approach, and admitted to someone I had a crush on that I liked him. However it's not a happy ending for me, but I don't regret having told him.

And don't worry about making fools of yourself, he would probably appriciate that you had the bravery to make the first move.

― jellybean, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

you could impress him with your counting skills!!

― mark s, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

okay then smartie pants, but what would YOU do?

― di, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

3. i think you should call him
k. i myself would find a reason why the affair is doomed from the off and tell myself this reason and convince myself and not call him

― mark s, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

i myself would find a reason why the affair is doomed from the off and tell myself this reason and convince myself and not call him

hey, get your own life-story ;)

― di, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

call hi call him anytime call him

― ducklingmonster, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

*hijacks her own thread*

hey duckling the roof of the meridian caved in last night!!! rock!

― di, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

dunedin sound so biblical at moment - apocalyptic mandala

― ducklingmonster, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

when are you coming back?

― di, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

tuesday. and yes i am trying to work out your crush so stop avoiding the issue

― ducklingmonster, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

yay! duckling returns!

its no-one on "the scene" but i think you may have met him a few times.

― di, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Oh, go for it, say I. Life is short, after all, so make the most. :-)

― Ned Raggett, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

i know who it is. you should phone him

― ducklingmonster, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

oh bull you do. who do you think it is?

― di, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

ummm, gavin shaw?

― duane, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

no thats who you like, dummy.

― di, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

gavin and duane up a tree k-i-s-s-i-n-g. i will email my guess to u di

― ducklingmonster, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

isn't that why they were in the polamorous love cult together?

― di, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

duckling is a smart cookie

― di, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

tank u. Do i get a prize?

― ducklingmonster, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

i'm sure that can be arranged.

― di, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

okay. so when should i call him? tomorrow night? in a week? i will need to be drunk to do it, but i've stopped drinking, so where do i find the courage?

― di, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

di your life suddenly seems strangely parallel to my entire high school term.

― ethan, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Why not call him right now? Ask him what he's doing tomorrow night.

― Ned Raggett, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

oh no not today. maybe tomorrow i think.

― di, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

does anyone wanna call him pretending to be me so i don't have to do it? yee i'm such a wooss.

― di, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I suppose I could try, but he would suspect.

― Ned Raggett, Thursday, 17 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

mount the fellow

― mike hanle y, Friday, 18 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

hanle y now you are just being lewd.

― di, Friday, 18 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

i am going to phone him tomorrow. you can all beat me to death with my own shoes if i don't.

but what about the mutual friend? should i let this person know in advance? or should i wait and see if there is anything in this crush before i upset the apple cart?

― di, Friday, 18 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Talk to your mutual friend first and say you were thinking of calling him to hang out for a bit. Judge accordingly.

― Ned Raggett, Friday, 18 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Your own happiness worth making an ass of yourself for, and the person will get over it.

― Ronan, Friday, 18 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

did u call?

― ducklingmonster, Friday, 18 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

no. i convinced myself that *crush* would never do anything that might upset our *friend* so i decided it was a waste of time trying.

― di, Friday, 18 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Ah, that would be suggestion number "k." from Doctor mark s.

(Personally, I think you should call him. He did you give his number instead of asking for yours, did he not?)

― felicity, Friday, 18 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

i called him last night, to see what he was up to. he were going to bed! due to 5000 word article deadline monday that he hasn't started, but said if i knew anything good happening he would come with. i was myself on my way to a party but i made it sound unfavourable cos i didn't want "first date" to be in a room full of strangers.

he has my number now. the ball is in his court. i'm relieved about it cos i REALLY don't like calling people. i spent an embarassing amount of time last night running to and from phone-booth before gettin the nerve.

do ya think he likes me, a wo-wo-wo-oh?

― di, Saturday, 19 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Hey, congrats, Di! Hope you'll invite him to something soon . . . or crush will call you . . . or that you're just happy to have hit the ball back over the net. :)

― felicity, Sunday, 20 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Echoing Felicity there -- hurrah! May goodness happen.

― Ned Raggett, Sunday, 20 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

good work!

damn successful relationship bastards....

― Ronan, Sunday, 20 January 2002 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

six months pass...

that guy was such a dick. i hung with him one night and he kept going on about how great it is that rock stars have groupies. lame-o! whaddaya know, i have another great big huge crush now.

― di, Sunday, 21 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

But crushes are sooooo nice though, aren't they?

― C J, Sunday, 21 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

No, crushes are horrible.

― rosemary, Sunday, 21 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

crushes are nice, they are harmless and mental. its love you have to avoid, that shit can make you really really sad.

― di, Sunday, 21 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Being crushed on can be kinda nice, though it's not happened much with me! Ah well.

― Ned Raggett, Sunday, 21 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

The most classic kind of crushes are the secret ones, so you may be underestimating yourself, Ned.

― felicity, Sunday, 21 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Perhaps...but I tend to look at myself as through a glass darkly, if that's not too cryptic.

― Ned Raggett, Sunday, 21 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I don't think anyone has ever had a crush on me. I feel better about that now - knowing they are supposed to be secret! I can pretend!! Yay!!

― C J, Sunday, 21 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I very rarely have crushes. I would dearly love for it to happen more often.

― Sean, Monday, 22 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Well, I'm just not going to attempt an answer to the initial question because it's too close to the bone of recent events in my life, and - given that I managed those events like a bull in Llardo accessory store - my response would be invalid.

I do, however, have a related question about crushes: What is wrong with a person who attracts crushes [particularly from younger women] but also seems to be a no hoper when it comes to relationships, love, and dating? [A chocolate fish to anyone who can answer satisfactorily this perplexing question.]

― debaser, Monday, 22 July 2002 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

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but break-up first

― bnw, Friday, 3 April 2009 14:53 (sixteen years ago)

dont break up with your girlfriend

stop spending time with the coworker

― rip dom passantino 3/5/09 never forget (max), Friday, 3 April 2009 15:18 (34 minutes ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

― lo (cozwn), Friday, 3 April 2009 14:54 (sixteen years ago)

armour's post is some christopher mccandless type level bullshit

― lo (cozwn), Friday, 3 April 2009 14:55 (sixteen years ago)

'Hopefully they'll menage before I reach my garage'

― bnw, Friday, 3 April 2009 14:56 (sixteen years ago)

If you are thrilled by someone, even thought you have a partner, then do it, because you never know where attraction, passion and lust can lead you. Don't be swayed by security and comfort. Excitement and fireworks are what life is all about.

― Hard like armour, Friday, April 3, 2009 10:43 AM (13 minutes ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

its always good to get a lot of different opinions but seriously my advice is just about 100% the exact opposite of this

― rip dom passantino 3/5/09 never forget (max), Friday, 3 April 2009 14:59 (sixteen years ago)

unless you are 18 in which case you should probably break up with your girlfriend and watch this new crush relationship fizzle and die so you can learn a lesson

― rip dom passantino 3/5/09 never forget (max), Friday, 3 April 2009 15:00 (sixteen years ago)

leave the girl, and the job. build a new life for yourself in the wild.

― Hard House SugBanton (blueski), Friday, 3 April 2009 15:01 (sixteen years ago)

Must admit, had to google McCandless. My POV is from coming out of a 10 year relationship & finding out that it wasn't the first time I'd been cheated on. The old adage "If you can't beat 'em, join 'em". Never thought I'd join that camp, but all experiences are leading me to believe we are not meant to be monogomous.

― Hard like armour, Friday, 3 April 2009 15:02 (sixteen years ago)

And if you are discreet and no-one finds out about it, then where is the harm?

― Hard like armour, Friday, 3 April 2009 15:04 (sixteen years ago)

― rip dom passantino 3/5/09 never forget (max), Friday, 3 April 2009 15:06 (sixteen years ago)

that's what jeffrey dahmer said

― bnw, Friday, 3 April 2009 15:06 (sixteen years ago)

why would you want to beat someone you had a crush on?

― Local Garda, Friday, 3 April 2009 15:09 (sixteen years ago)

Jeezus!

― Hard like armour, Friday, 3 April 2009 15:09 (sixteen years ago)

crush someone you have a beat on

― Old Big 'OOS (AKA the Cupwinner) (darraghmac), Friday, 3 April 2009 15:16 (sixteen years ago)

P.S., cutty & bnw - yes & yes. I have retained some standards. They've just shifted somewhat from the morals that were instilled in me by my wonderful parents. Now I find myself turning to the darkside - the "me, me, me/take, take, take" generation. There's only so much you can give before you start to think, "Hey, you know what, I'm not such a bad person, maybe people should give back to me for a change."

― Hard like armour, Friday, 3 April 2009 15:19 (sixteen years ago)

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/5/5e/Yleisperuna_2008.jpg/180px-Yleisperuna_2008.jpg
would mash

― snoball, Friday, 3 April 2009 15:19 (sixteen years ago)

lol @ "christopher mccandless type bullshit"

― mark cl, Friday, 3 April 2009 15:21 (sixteen years ago)

HLA yuo are a sick degenerate and i wish u ill

― the most brazen explosion of clitoral lust in folk-metal history (cankles), Friday, 3 April 2009 15:50 (sixteen years ago)

St1ff like b0nar

― Dr. Phil, Friday, 3 April 2009 16:27 (sixteen years ago)

Anyone who writes the phrase "semi-reciprocated crush" is getting played.

― Matt DC, Friday, April 3, 2009 2:19 PM (2 hours ago) Bookmark

― just DO THE STANKY HOOS plain and steen (BIG HOOS aka the steendriver), Friday, 3 April 2009 16:39 (sixteen years ago)

As is the way with these things, I've gone home, had a JD+coke and a wank, and suddenly the crush is cured. That wasn't so hard - I didn't even have to sleep with anyone!

― NotEnough, Friday, 3 April 2009 16:41 (sixteen years ago)

should change username to easilysatisfied

― ken "save-a-finn" c (ken c), Friday, 3 April 2009 16:42 (sixteen years ago)

shit, that's how i stay in relationships too.

― Old Big 'OOS (AKA the Cupwinner) (darraghmac), Friday, 3 April 2009 16:47 (sixteen years ago)

lol

― cutty, Friday, 3 April 2009 16:54 (sixteen years ago)

mostly lol, but kinda true.......

― Old Big 'OOS (AKA the Cupwinner) (darraghmac), Friday, 3 April 2009 16:55 (sixteen years ago)

you should totally break up with her. if shes as lovely as you say she could be hooking up with all kinds of cute guys who are crushing on her and not someone else.

― I wish I was the royal trux (sunny successor), Friday, 3 April 2009 17:16 (sixteen years ago)

hard to crush on same person for any extended period of time after actually getting together with them. either gets better than a crush or gets old pretty quickly after that point.

― Old Big 'OOS (AKA the Cupwinner) (darraghmac), Friday, 3 April 2009 17:20 (sixteen years ago)

^^^

― Aimless, Friday, 3 April 2009 17:50 (sixteen years ago)

one year passes...

http://www.popsike.com/pix/20090118/120364331220.jpg

― not everything is a campfire (ian), Sunday, 3 October 2010 01:53 (fifteen years ago)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wkMa7gIcnCM

― markers, Sunday, 3 October 2010 01:54 (fifteen years ago)

mount the fellow

― she's one intense bitch, she rides a unicycle (arby's), Sunday, 3 October 2010 02:04 (fifteen years ago)

http://terriblywrite.files.wordpress.com/2008/11/breaks-shine-sex.jpg?w=216&h=194

― mookieproof, Sunday, 3 October 2010 02:05 (fifteen years ago)

cruel

― Astronaut Mike Dexter (Jimmy The Mod Awaits The Return Of His Beloved), Sunday, 3 October 2010 02:14 (fifteen years ago)

^^^should probably get some sleep imo

― mookieproof, Sunday, 3 October 2010 02:15 (fifteen years ago)

mad open breaks

― not everything is a campfire (ian), Sunday, 3 October 2010 02:27 (fifteen years ago)

http://www.clipartguide.com/_named_clipart_images/0511-0901-1902-3527_Drummer_Playing_Drums_clipart_image.jpg

― not everything is a campfire (ian), Sunday, 3 October 2010 02:29 (fifteen years ago)

wait a minute

― mookieproof, Sunday, 3 October 2010 02:40 (fifteen years ago)

I miss di.

― cathedral-sized jellyfish in your mind (Trayce), Sunday, 3 October 2010 02:50 (fifteen years ago)

my crush is on beer btw, dunno if i made that clear in the revive.

http://www.noodad.com/wp/wp-content/uploads/2008/04/girl-with-beer.jpg

― not everything is a campfire (ian), Sunday, 3 October 2010 05:19 (fifteen years ago)

Beer does not like me. :( Beer confuses me, I can't work beer out, and beer never calls the next day.

― cathedral-sized jellyfish in your mind (Trayce), Sunday, 3 October 2010 05:22 (fifteen years ago)

beer is so simple, you are overthinking this.

― not everything is a campfire (ian), Sunday, 3 October 2010 05:24 (fifteen years ago)

Perhaps this is my failing ;_;

Srsly I have tried and tried with beer. I dont understand!

― cathedral-sized jellyfish in your mind (Trayce), Sunday, 3 October 2010 05:31 (fifteen years ago)

beer allowed me to say to the bartender last night "hit me baby one more time; I'm just joking about the baby part"

― I'm a Grizzily Bear Now (CaptainLorax), Sunday, 3 October 2010 05:41 (fifteen years ago)

it also allows me to be in the 5% of people dancing at a concert. fuck the nerds that cant drink enough beer to dance imo

― I'm a Grizzily Bear Now (CaptainLorax), Sunday, 3 October 2010 05:43 (fifteen years ago)

I guess that's not fair to nerds that can't dance even when they drink enough beer

― I'm a Grizzily Bear Now (CaptainLorax), Sunday, 3 October 2010 05:46 (fifteen years ago)

i can't dance but i do anyway !!! thanks, beer

― ciderpress, Sunday, 3 October 2010 06:19 (fifteen years ago)

I drink cider, I just pretend it is beer.

― cathedral-sized jellyfish in your mind (Trayce), Sunday, 3 October 2010 06:40 (fifteen years ago)

Uh, I dont imply I drink u tho ciderpress ;D

― cathedral-sized jellyfish in your mind (Trayce), Sunday, 3 October 2010 06:41 (fifteen years ago)

mike's hard apple cider
I would buy it

― I'm a Grizzily Bear Now (CaptainLorax), Sunday, 3 October 2010 07:08 (fifteen years ago)

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