do more men seek commitment than women do in the 21st century?

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dunno.

and also, has the ratio changes drastically from say in the 90s?

the thought just came to me from a random musing and i don't know if it's true.

― ken c (ken c), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 00:27 (nineteen years ago)

I seek commitment even until the afterlife...and beyond.

― Adam Rice Lacucaracha (nordicskilla), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 00:29 (nineteen years ago)

not the ones who date me

― tokyo nursery school: afternoon session (rosemary), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 00:34 (nineteen years ago)

I don't mind committment as long as I can come and go as I please and see anybody I want to and do anything I want anytime. And don't count my beers.

― andy --, Wednesday, 1 March 2006 00:48 (nineteen years ago)

I seek commitment even until the afterlife...and beyond.

You a Mormon all of a sudden?

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 00:48 (nineteen years ago)

Or perhaps he's Larry David

― Abbadavid Berman (Hurting), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 03:09 (nineteen years ago)

Oh wait, I mean NOT Larry David

― Abbadavid Berman (Hurting), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 03:09 (nineteen years ago)

what do ya'll mean by COMMITMENT? like marriage? cuz that is crazy :(

― Special Agent Gene Krupa (orion), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 03:56 (nineteen years ago)

Yes, it's true. As a modern male, I seek commitment in my relationships.

I mean, if the woman is going to sleep with me...she better make my damn breakfast before I kick her out and never answer her calls again.

― ESTEBAN BUTTEZ~!!! (ESTEBAN BUTTEZ~!!!), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 05:56 (nineteen years ago)

I do plan on seeking a commitment in the 21st century. Really, I do.

― Aimless (Aimless), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 06:02 (nineteen years ago)

Only if they can beat me at Mario Kart.

― ALLAH FROG (Mingus Dew), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 06:10 (nineteen years ago)

not as many people do and there's way more men than women. I was just talking to a lady friend about this and we agreed: financial independence puts the decision square in the lady's lap because in her words women control "the nookie spigot".

― -rainbow bum- (-rainbow bum-), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 06:43 (nineteen years ago)

My friend said this to me many years ago.

I think it's one of those things that "nice" new men say when they want to give vent to their underlying misogynist feelings and set themselves up as modern day martyrs for not getting laid.

That's being a bit harsh. There's a grain of truth in it, if only because, in my peer group at least, men were more likely to be the ones making grand declarations of love, having serious long-term unrequited crushes, generally having an immature, solipistic approach to love, which we saw as "being committed".

He's happily married now and recently, wisely, said that the reason we never got lucky back then was that we scared off women who just wanted to walk before they ran.

― Alba (Alba), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 08:35 (nineteen years ago)

not as many people do and there's way more men than women

What? Since when?

― ESTEBAN BUTTEZ~!!! (ESTEBAN BUTTEZ~!!!), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 08:36 (nineteen years ago)

I dunno - I think it's usually the woman who brings up the idea of mairrage...

― Mr Jones (Mr Jones), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 08:44 (nineteen years ago)

im less interested in commitment as far as marriage as i am with commitment as far as a steady relationship (meaning I like a steady relationship). mostly because i am terrified of sexual diseases, and the drama that is attached to multiple relationships or the uncomfortable-ness of going on first dates is bad enough to make me want to remain with someone who i like for a long time. also the sex is more consistent with a steady relationship. most of the girls i've dated seem like they just want to fuck around, but most of them didnt go to college, i think there is a correlation.

― bobpeck (bobpeck), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 15:11 (nineteen years ago)

in my (almost 100% female) office, the answer is no.

― The Man Without Shadow (Enrique), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 15:13 (nineteen years ago)

You mean you've gone round refusing to commit to any of them?

― Alba (Alba), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 15:26 (nineteen years ago)

I still know far more men who constantly ANNOUNCE that they fear/aren't ready for/despise commitment. My female friends aren't exactly trying to catch husbands but they're not taking up a position AGAINST it either.

My most commitment-friendly male friends are single and have been for quite a while - and I fear it may be as your friend says Alba: women get scared by that (though they might be pro commitment in theory).

― Archel (Archel), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 15:31 (nineteen years ago)

i suppose it depends what you mean by 'commitment' -- marriage, mortgage, baby?

― The Man Without Shadow (Enrique), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 15:32 (nineteen years ago)

in my (almost 100% female) office, the answer is no.

and you work where and what do i have to do to get a job there?

― not-goodwin (not-goodwin), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 15:35 (nineteen years ago)

i suppose it depends what you mean by 'commitment' -- marriage, mortgage, baby?

Yeah, I was gonna say. Upthread, I was really talking about committing to having a relationship at all (after, say, some drunken snog or sex or just declaration of intent). But then there's all those other commitment steps down the line.

I did empathise horribly with Larry David in that CYE episode where his wife writes renewed marriage vows and he feels funny about committing to her in the afterlife too.

― Alba (Alba), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 15:54 (nineteen years ago)

I fear it may be as your friend says Alba: women get scared by that (though they might be pro commitment in theory).

"No man will commit to me!"
"I'll commit to you"
"NOT YOU!!!"

― Alba (Alba), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 16:01 (nineteen years ago)

"in my (almost 100% female) office, the answer is no."
and you work where and what do i have to do to get a job there?

-- not-goodwin (godwin...), March 1st, 2006.

you have to be gelded first.

― The Man Without Shadow (Enrique), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 16:09 (nineteen years ago)

Nyess.

― Pork Cheops (willpie), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 16:26 (nineteen years ago)

i suppose it depends what you mean by 'commitment' -- marriage, mortgage, baby?

Asylum

― M. White (Miguelito), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 16:30 (nineteen years ago)

"No man will commit to me!"
"I'll commit to you"
"NOT YOU!!!"

Hehe, more like 'I want you to commit to me but I don't want you to TELL me that you're going to commit to me'.

― Archel (Archel), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 16:41 (nineteen years ago)

80% of divorces are instigated by women.
Men are the only ones who are 'scared of commitment.'
Bastards.

― stu (stu), Wednesday, 1 March 2006 20:48 (nineteen years ago)

are those 3 some kind of cause/effect things?

― ken c (ken c), Thursday, 2 March 2006 02:08 (nineteen years ago)

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