Indie speed dating

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A friend of mine is organising this. Thank god she hasn't asked me for my opinion! While I absolutely love indie girls I still find this idea a bit lame.

― Lovelace (Lovelace), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:17 (nineteen years ago)

To clarify: There is a band called Indie Speed Dating but there will be an actual indie speed dating thingy too.

― Lovelace (Lovelace), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:20 (nineteen years ago)

http://img376.imageshack.us/img376/4564/kds9eh.jpg

― Romeo (sanskrit), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:23 (nineteen years ago)

Why should indie speed dating be any better or worse than any other kind of speed dating? Especially if you're looking for potential partners that share your interests.

Or is this going to be another thread about the self loathing of the hipsterverse?

― Failure Isn't Falling, It's Staying Down (kate), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:28 (nineteen years ago)

Why should indie speed dating be any better or worse than any other kind of speed dating?

What other kinds of speed dating are there, anyway?

― Alba (Alba), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:29 (nineteen years ago)

Is there R&B speed dating?

― Alba (Alba), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:29 (nineteen years ago)

Well, I assumed that there were speed dating events for all kinds of common interests - books, films, professions, etc.

― Life In An Expanding Multiverse (kate), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:30 (nineteen years ago)

Assuming makes a cock out of you and me.

― Alba (Alba), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:30 (nineteen years ago)

Well, it was assumption based on having seen ads for such things.

― Life In An Expanding Multiverse (kate), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:32 (nineteen years ago)

I bet they are rubbish.

― Alba (Alba), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:33 (nineteen years ago)

Well, natch. All dating is rubbish, and speed dating relativistically moreso!

― Life In An Expanding Multiverse (kate), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:34 (nineteen years ago)

"Why should indie speed dating be any better or worse than any other kind of speed dating? Especially if you're looking for potential partners that share your interests."

Because I cant understand how the music you listen to and the clothes you wear is common interest enough to put together a thing like this. If there infact are speed dating for film and book enthusiasts then my feeling is the same for them. To each their own though.

― Lovelace (Lovelace), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:36 (nineteen years ago)

Now there's an idea, Speed Of Light Dating - as you approach the speed of light, you can meet the person, date them, get married, have kids and progress through a lifetime's worth of relationship, and be back in time for a drink with the next potential partner.

x-post

― Life In An Expanding Multiverse (kate), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:36 (nineteen years ago)

Drum & Bass Speed Dating is often quite slow, because of the timestretch effects.

― aldo_cowpat (aldo_cowpat), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:38 (nineteen years ago)

I mean, why should *anything* be enough of a common interest to think about meeting people through? It depends on how you define your identity, and at different ages and stages, people define their identity through all sorts of things that may look trivial to others.

― Life In An Expanding Multiverse (kate), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:39 (nineteen years ago)

I guess that R&B speed dating happens at much more speed than any other: not so many clothes to take off, essentially

― olenska (olenska), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:40 (nineteen years ago)

Indie (or possibly this is rockist) speed dating = three minutes of moaning to each other that people with superior minds can't be expected to connect in three minutes and you need a full hour.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:42 (nineteen years ago)

how the music you listen to and the clothes you wear is common interest enough

in my experience it absolutely isn't. it seems like most people into the same things as me are total cuntheads

― electric sound of jim (and why not) (electricsound), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:42 (nineteen years ago)

Has olenska misunderstood the nature of speed dating or have I?

― Alba (Alba), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:42 (nineteen years ago)

A common interest isn't a way of finding people who you suit, it's a way of improving the odds a bit and having something to talk about while you learn whether you like each other, and maybe offering something to do together. It doesn't have to have anything to do with defining yourself.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:43 (nineteen years ago)

It's just the assumption that because you're both "indie kids" you're supposed to get along better. That's what irks me. Fine, it may be the case that some people would do just because of how they define their indentity but that won't stop me from thinking it's lame.

(this coming from someone who mostly listen to indie music and look accordingly, somewhat atleast).

― Lovelace (Lovelace), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:43 (nineteen years ago)

Well, clearly you have a lot more experience with speed dating than I do. x-post

― Life In An Expanding Multiverse (kate), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:45 (nineteen years ago)

Because I cant understand how the music you listen to and the clothes you wear is common interest enough to put together a thing like this.

Hence the death of the Indie Disco.

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:46 (nineteen years ago)

indie speed dating

indieboi "have you ever heard the mongrel wranglers? they're amazing"
indiegrrl "er.. um.. oh yeah i have yeah, they sound like the gonzo poets right?"
indieboi "mmmm... um. kind of yeah, i liked a couple of tunes but don't have the album"
indiegrrl "ooh, i'll make you a tape. what other bands do you like"
indieboi "oh you know, angel frisk, the time henchmen, sarah le gorange, early John Stevens, hillmarton pandoori, the lick branes, the hollow cause, the floors, the fones, the zones, the clones... "
indiegrrl "oh i love you"

― ken c (ken c), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:47 (nineteen years ago)

"in my experience it absolutely isn't. it seems like most people into the same things as me are total cuntheads "

How true.

Speed dating nature? Well, I must admit that indie speed dating (or any indie dating) would not entail any consequences like taking off clothes.

― olenska (olenska), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:48 (nineteen years ago)

ken, that sounds like dialogue from a 60's sitcom.

― Dave NSFW (dave225.3), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:49 (nineteen years ago)

Depends on what kind of indie kid you're talking about olenska. The London indie ROCK kids are very unlike you're typical indie kid. Very dirty and sexual.

― Lovelace (Lovelace), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:50 (nineteen years ago)

especially the 15 yr olds.

― ken c (ken c), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:51 (nineteen years ago)

perhaps I should have been much more specific to my definition and stick to it.

― olenska (olenska), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:52 (nineteen years ago)

Thing is, when I was 20, the clothes I wore and the music I listened to, and the clubs I went to *were* enough to meet people and form relationships and friendships with. Some of them lasted a few months, some of them have lasted up until the present day, because we grew up together, and discovered deeper interests and commonalities.

I mean, how on *earth* are you supposed to meet people, if not through your common interests? That could be indie discos, that could be the local horticultural society.

Speed dating is a questionable vogueish activity, yes, but all methods of meeting people for the purposes of forming romantic or sexual attachments are fraught with issues and insecurities.

The very question speaks volumes more to me about the self loathing of indie kids than about the efficiency of speed dating.

― Life In An Expanding Multiverse (kate), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:53 (nineteen years ago)

yes. indie-but-only-those-who-don't-take-their-clothes-off speed dating

― ken c (ken c), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:53 (nineteen years ago)

Depends on what kind of indie kid you're talking about olenska. The London indie ROCK kids are very unlike you're typical indie kid. Very dirty and sexual.
-- Lovelace (futilecrime...), March 16th, 2006.

Mmmm.

― Barms, Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:55 (nineteen years ago)

try camden more

― ken c (ken c), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:56 (nineteen years ago)

Pah, like we don't all maake snap judgements based on haircuts anyway.

― Anna (Anna), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:57 (nineteen years ago)

The very question speaks volumes more to me about the self loathing of indie kids than about the efficiency of speed dating.

I would suggest that the other niche speed dating schemes you mention do not add up to a very large section of the speed dating market. Why is it that most people who speed date do not restrict themselves to a specialist provider? Is it because indie kids and book buffs tend to in fact have a very high opinion of themselves; that they couldn't possibly find a mate of interest among the hoi polloi of the generalist speed dating meetings?

― Alba (Alba), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:58 (nineteen years ago)

What Kate said, basically.

― Mitya (mitya), Thursday, 16 March 2006 13:59 (nineteen years ago)

Life in an: My objection to this have nothing to do with the fact that it's indie kids who this is designed for. Trust me, the hate for indie kids that's very common on ILX annoys me greatly.

But yes, you might end up at the same place as someone else based on a common interest like the music you like and the clubs you go to but for me that's not the same as going to a speed dating service which is based on the music you like. I don't know about you but I never go to a club because on what the music people there like or what they look like, I go their for the music and the people there just happen to share my love for it. If I happen to meet someone there then that's great.

― Lovelace (Lovelace), Thursday, 16 March 2006 14:00 (nineteen years ago)

martin talks sense.

― The Man Without Shadow (Enrique), Thursday, 16 March 2006 14:01 (nineteen years ago)

there should be a WWE fans speed dating event.

― ken c (ken c), Thursday, 16 March 2006 14:01 (nineteen years ago)

Maybe it's more about the "tribe" of indieness rather than the music per se. The image at the top of the thread doesn't work for me so I can't see how it's advertised.

― Alba (Alba), Thursday, 16 March 2006 14:02 (nineteen years ago)

i love the london indie kids comment.

― The Man Without Shadow (Enrique), Thursday, 16 March 2006 14:03 (nineteen years ago)

and why's that? you don't think a large part of the indie kids there are like that? trust me.

― Lovelace (Lovelace), Thursday, 16 March 2006 14:04 (nineteen years ago)

ken you forgot the jolly green giants & the shitty beatles

― ,,,,,,,,,,,, Thursday, 16 March 2006 14:06 (nineteen years ago)

you old dawg (xpost)

yeah i thought Martin's point was sound. only thing is, 'liking indie music' as an interest seems so generic, speed dating on the basis of it doesn't seem worth it when you could just go to a few gigs/hangouts often enough and probably just meet people that way instead.

― Konal Doddz (blueski), Thursday, 16 March 2006 14:06 (nineteen years ago)

try camden more
-- ken c (pykachu10...), March 16th, 2006.

Don't make me talk about December here, ken.

― BARMS, Thursday, 16 March 2006 14:07 (nineteen years ago)

If working towards an ontology of indie groups and sub-groups ("tribes), criteria to be applied would be aesthetical, but that would include musical taste as well.

And the image at the top: well, don´t know if this service would be catering for my tastes or if I´m in any of the niches it is targeting, but "NO, THANKS"

― olenska (olenska), Thursday, 16 March 2006 14:11 (nineteen years ago)

i find most indie kids humorless and dull!

― POOP BITCH (Mandee), Thursday, 16 March 2006 14:21 (nineteen years ago)

haircuts.

― charltonlido (gareth), Thursday, 16 March 2006 14:23 (nineteen years ago)

totally crap chat up lines at indie speed dating: don't try any of these

fancy coming around to myplace to liste to my rare 12" My Bloody Valentine rekkords in the dark under the duvet?

would you like to try doggy style whilst listening to fiery furnaces - Tropical Iceland ?

have you listened to Vive Le Fete - Noir Desir ? i want try indie karaoke with you in bed with me

you have a choice of 3 albums:

cocteau twins - treasure
a.r.kane - 69
slowdive - Just for a day

which album would you select so i can seduce you ?

...this indie speed dating just won't work, there are too many indie tribes

twee
shoegazer
regular plan b / magnet magazine type US indie rock
indietronica
post punk
post rock
nme bullshit contemporary guitar bands
90s britpop
..etc

ha imagine some twee indie girls turning up when all the blokes are Mogwai tshirt wearing post-rockers or noise indie rock types that blast out Lightning Bolt

― DJ Martian (djmartian), Thursday, 16 March 2006 14:24 (nineteen years ago)

Then I wanna lurk around there. I expect a lot of leg humping!

Also combined total weight of all people at indie speed dating is still 100 pounds.

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Thursday, 16 March 2006 14:24 (nineteen years ago)

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More speed dating suitors for Kate:

http://131.111.214.230/admissions/subjects/images/AndrewThomason.jpg

― The Boring Machine (kate), Friday, 17 March 2006 12:27 (nineteen years ago)

I want a boy who looks like a physics professor and likes physics! Is there Science Speed Dating?

just go to a university physics society meet? i mean. as if any of them are getting laid

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 17 March 2006 13:31 (nineteen years ago)

xpost lol

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 17 March 2006 13:32 (nineteen years ago)

My ex-boyfriend was a physics student and went to the meetings. So there.

― Forest Pines (ForestPines), Friday, 17 March 2006 13:33 (nineteen years ago)

i mean.. pulling male science geeks is DIFFICULT??

xpost again

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 17 March 2006 13:33 (nineteen years ago)

Actually, my ex took me to a faculty BBQ for the maths department that he was being "artist in residence for" and I ended up chatting all afternoon to a bloke who kept telling me about possibly methods of time travel.

Why can't I go to these kinds of things *without* idiot artist boy?

― The Boring Machine (kate), Friday, 17 March 2006 13:36 (nineteen years ago)

you can

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 17 March 2006 13:39 (nineteen years ago)

How would I even find out where they were?

― The Boring Machine (kate), Friday, 17 March 2006 13:42 (nineteen years ago)

university clubs and societies billboards/websites

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 17 March 2006 13:43 (nineteen years ago)

But can you join a university club or society without belonging to the university?

― The Boring Machine (kate), Friday, 17 March 2006 13:45 (nineteen years ago)

It depends on how the society is set up. Not usually, but there can be loopholes occasionally.

(at my university, you had to be a member of the union to join a union society - but I think there were ways to join the union without being a student. The only way I can think of involved being an ex-student, though).

In any case, student societies often welcome outsiders to events.

― Forest Pines (ForestPines), Friday, 17 March 2006 13:47 (nineteen years ago)

Especially if that society is normally pretty down on the numbers of social-geared participants...

― steal compass, drive north, disappear (tissp), Friday, 17 March 2006 13:49 (nineteen years ago)

someone construct a 40 word personal ad for kate to put in London Time Out

― DJ Martian (djmartian), Friday, 17 March 2006 13:53 (nineteen years ago)

I can't believe Gareth forgot the hairslides. Of paramount importance.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Friday, 17 March 2006 13:53 (nineteen years ago)

God, no. I don't actually want a boyfriend/relationship/any of that muck. I just want to have hott physics and maths talk with hott boys. I suppose I'm just starved for intellectual company/stimulation at the moment. I just want someone to talk about Calabai-Yau spaces with. And it would help if they looked like Alex James. Except not, because boys are icky and relationships are icky.

I'm going to stop now.

― The Boring Machine (kate), Friday, 17 March 2006 13:56 (nineteen years ago)

don't join, just find out where the physics meet are, and turn up. like AS IF they'll turn down a girl who invites herself in.

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 17 March 2006 14:00 (nineteen years ago)

Bah, today is crap.

― Forest Pines (ForestPines), Friday, 17 March 2006 14:02 (nineteen years ago)

wrong thread?

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 17 March 2006 14:15 (nineteen years ago)

This thread has made me realize that I don't know if I'm indie anymore or not...which probably means that I'm not.

― clueless sgs, Friday, 17 March 2006 14:31 (nineteen years ago)

SELF DOUBT = INDIE

― steal compass, drive north, disappear (tissp), Friday, 17 March 2006 14:32 (nineteen years ago)

Wrong thread.

― Forest Pines (ForestPines), Friday, 17 March 2006 14:34 (nineteen years ago)

quandary resolved!

xpost

― sgs duh, Friday, 17 March 2006 14:35 (nineteen years ago)

what about NO DOUBT?

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 17 March 2006 14:39 (nineteen years ago)

Not indie.

― The Boring Machine (kate), Friday, 17 March 2006 14:42 (nineteen years ago)

bah. don't tell me

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 17 March 2006 14:44 (nineteen years ago)

cos it hurts

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 17 March 2006 14:44 (nineteen years ago)

Tell me love isn't true
It's just something that we do
Tell me everything I'm not but
please don't tell me to stop

― The Boring Machine (kate), Friday, 17 March 2006 14:46 (nineteen years ago)

i know what you're thinking

but

i don't need your reasons

― ken c (ken c), Friday, 17 March 2006 14:48 (nineteen years ago)

Alex James with a Physics PhD. That would have been so nice.
Or Stephen Malkmus : I think he could do a great Nanoelectronics lecturer

Why don´t you register for a PhD? I had to attend quite a few of the BBQs you are describing during mine

― olenska (olenska), Friday, 17 March 2006 15:14 (nineteen years ago)

an indie chick who liked justus, MaW, bassline, happy hardcore and Strike? OMG

actually a hard dance indie girl would be weird and pretty good cos she would did tech-ier stuff but i would spend all my time at nucleuz nights. the tidy boys are from rotherham so i would never get out!

― ambrose (ambrose), Friday, 17 March 2006 15:19 (nineteen years ago)

I don't even have a bachelors degree - how on earth would I get a PhD? Sounds far too much like hard work to me!

― The Boring Machine (kate), Friday, 17 March 2006 15:20 (nineteen years ago)

I didn´t say "get", I said "register"...however, they are desperate trying to lure grad students to Physics departments: you just can "collaborate" on an informal basis: in order to be invited to BBQs perhaps you can pretend for a couple of months reading a pile of papers

― olenska (olenska), Friday, 17 March 2006 16:17 (nineteen years ago)

is this the end result of indie speed dating ?

http://www.ezarchive.com/moteldemoka/AlbumSpace/49OWW0QUE2/ajiro-honte.jpg

― DJ Martian (djmartian), Friday, 17 March 2006 16:17 (nineteen years ago)

I somehow doubt that they will let me register for a PhD without a Bachelors. I barely scraped a two-year associates degree out of art school!

― The Boring Machine (kate), Friday, 17 March 2006 16:19 (nineteen years ago)

DJ Martian, that illustration reminds me of this:

http://www.cartoonbank.com/assets/2/51407_m.jpg

― jaymc (jaymc), Friday, 17 March 2006 16:22 (nineteen years ago)

Istvan Banyai!
He did this great series of children's books called "Zoom" etc.

― senseiDancer (sexyDancer), Friday, 17 March 2006 16:29 (nineteen years ago)

Yeah, I couldn't remember his name, but fortunately The New Yorker keeps a good online archive.

― jaymc (jaymc), Friday, 17 March 2006 16:30 (nineteen years ago)

Ambrose I know LOADS of dance-liking indie girls - this is mentalism.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Friday, 17 March 2006 16:33 (nineteen years ago)

(I have already attempted to pimp my sister out to Barima though, and won't be doing that again)

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Friday, 17 March 2006 16:33 (nineteen years ago)

life is different in london evidently....

teach me to live in a city in thrall to trashy messy indie rock

― ambrose (ambrose), Friday, 17 March 2006 16:41 (nineteen years ago)

Matt DC is a special case.

― Konal Doddz (blueski), Friday, 17 March 2006 16:48 (nineteen years ago)

this is place for ambrose to find those elusive ladies:

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― DJ Martian (djmartian), Friday, 17 March 2006 16:51 (nineteen years ago)

shit i wish i had known about this sooner!

― Konal Doddz (blueski), Friday, 17 March 2006 16:53 (nineteen years ago)

Those pictures are pretty.

Well, the second one is.

I wonder what it signified?

― the bellefox, Friday, 17 March 2006 16:56 (nineteen years ago)

hmm this looks better than the end... i might try and twist some arms. is it guaranteed no indie music? DFA makes me twitchy

(this is only a joke im not some sort of bell end about rock et al)

― ambrose (ambrose), Friday, 17 March 2006 17:02 (nineteen years ago)

Finally! A use for DJ Martian! I'm off to post this on the Rolling Dancing Thread.

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― Ed (dali), Friday, 17 March 2006 17:05 (nineteen years ago)

Ed, are you posting from your crackberry again? Quit that!

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not on crackberry, just on auto pilot. Are you doing anything this evening?

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Nah. Might go round Plan B Towers and drop off a CD to be scanned, but the band I was going to go and see isn't on until MIDNIGHT so I'm just going to eat pizza and go home. Or maybe the other way around.

― The Boring Machine (kate), Friday, 17 March 2006 17:15 (nineteen years ago)

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