is it just plain jealousy and bitterness that makes single people tire of suffering lovey dovey couples?

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i live with my cousin whose boyfriend is always over at our flat and well, while im happy shes happy, it does drive me a little insane to always have to see them embracing, or much much worse, constantly talking in lovey dovey cutesy speak to each other and being that much more ingratiating. yes maybe its just plain old jealousy and bitterness thats driving my annoyance behind this but its also the fact that to my eyes at least, hs a lazy fuck. he barely ever does any cleaning. doesnt buy any shopping (or very little) and has cooked less than five times at our flat, despite staying over quite a bit. now originally i was a bit peeved that i never saw my cousin as were quite close, but seeing her al the time now, with BF in tow, is starting to irk me. it prob doesnt help that i swear when theyre together her IQ gets automatically lowered, but never mind. feel free to tell me i have issues etc etc

― titchyschneider (titchyschneider), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 16:04 (nineteen years ago)

Remove the couplehood from the equation and think about how you would feel about any other guest coming round your house that much and behaving in that fashion.

― Vernon Jackson (kate), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 16:07 (nineteen years ago)

Awwwww, dat's sho shweet.

― Doktor Faustus (noodle vague), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 16:08 (nineteen years ago)

...but then again, I have a low tolerance for houseguests, as is well documented.

(Also, I am bitter and jealous, but that's another story, la la la)

― Vernon Jackson (kate), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 16:09 (nineteen years ago)

What's worse is couples who talk about their dog as if it's a baby.

― Tracey Hand (tracerhand), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 16:10 (nineteen years ago)

Better that than the reverse.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 16:10 (nineteen years ago)

i wouldnt mind if they were both a bit tidier, and if he especially, did some fucking cleaning, but then its not my place to say anything to him about that is it, i have to leave that to my cousin

part of my anger i suppose is the infantile way my cousin behaves when theyre together, but hey, shes 31, trying to settle down, so i suppose its all part and parcel of thirty something women shuddering at the thought of being alone

― titchyschneider (titchyschneider), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 16:11 (nineteen years ago)

i've been arguing with my ex for the past two days because she's dating this douchebag guy (who is a co-worker of mine, and who i've disliked for a long time) and is trying to get me to "be pals again."

FUCK YOU, YOU DUMB BITCH.

― electro-acoustic lycanthrope (orion), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 16:12 (nineteen years ago)

thats the spirit!

― titchyschneider (titchyschneider), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 16:15 (nineteen years ago)

...but then its not my place to say anything to him about that is it, i have to leave that to my cousin

This seems to be relatively common, in my experience. However, I think it's entirely legitimate to bring it up to your cousin.

Girls who play dumb around their boyfriends scare me.

― M. White (Miguelito), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 16:15 (nineteen years ago)

it's definitely legitimate to bring it up to your cousin as a roommate issue. telling her that her frequent guest needs to be a bit more considerate is totally within your rights, though saying "stop acting like an idiot around him!" is obviously a different manner.

― lauren (laurenp), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 16:16 (nineteen years ago)

i get very bitter about this shit, mostly because i'm the one who holds people's hands through their bad boyfriends or lonely depressed single lives, and then the second they get a guy, they think the world is wine and roses and forget about everything i've done for them. it pisses me off because a) i feel unappreciated, but more importantly, b) i hate seeing people deny that there are issues in their lives they need to deal with. when you ignore your issues because you're presently "happy", those issues are going to come bite you in the ass later. and, from the way you're treating me now, i'm not gonna want to hold your hand through it when it they do, you self-centered bitches!

― tehresa (tehresa), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 16:16 (nineteen years ago)

is it just plain jealousy and bitterness that makes single people tire of suffering lovey dovey couples?

Yes. Hope that helped.

― The Jealous, Bitter And Single Forest Pines (ForestPines), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 16:20 (nineteen years ago)

it's well known that love releases all sorts of drugz into the brain and makes you so high. being around stoned people when you're sober is a drag. especially if it's cocaine, but also if it's love.

― jhoshea (scoopsnoodle), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 16:40 (nineteen years ago)

Lovey dovey couples are immoderately each-other-absorbed, making them a social irritant, in the same way as a largish, dense lump in a bowl of mush is irritating.

― Aimless (Aimless), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 16:45 (nineteen years ago)

yeah and i dont like how they're all limp and languid too.

― jhoshea (scoopsnoodle), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 16:50 (nineteen years ago)

So, you prefer them rigid and purposeful, then?

― M. White (Miguelito), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 16:53 (nineteen years ago)

one's social life is a bowl of mush?

― rrrobyn (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 17:02 (nineteen years ago)

xpost

ha!

― jhoshea (scoopsnoodle), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 17:03 (nineteen years ago)

At my age, my dear rrrobyn, the universe is a bowl of mush.

― Aimless (Aimless), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 17:12 (nineteen years ago)

attn: ken:

whatever happened to AG?

But is it dense, Aimless?

― M. White (Miguelito), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 19:02 (nineteen years ago)

The slurpy sounds, the stroking,the playing with the other's hair, the limp/languid gooey looks, the smugness and complete lack of respect for others and the baby talk, that's what gets me. Yeucch...can't imagine how bad it is for single folk.

― dr lulu (dr lulu), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 20:05 (nineteen years ago)

slurpy sounds?

― Cathy (Cathy), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 20:08 (nineteen years ago)

Dense or not, I intend to complain about it and keep on complaining until I become seriously apoplected and die... or maybe I'll take in a bit of shuffleboard instead.

― Aimless (Aimless), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 20:10 (nineteen years ago)

this is a good way to find a table in a crowded bar, by the way.
works like a charm.

― scnnr drkly (scnnr drkly), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 20:12 (nineteen years ago)

Yes, slurpy sounds, a young guy chewing on his girlfriend's neck two seats in front of me on the 343 to Kingsford. Yeucch again.

― dr lulu (dr lulu), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 20:14 (nineteen years ago)

I'm just getting worked up for a good run of bitterness when all this discussion of "slurpy sounds" makes me heave a wistful sigh.

― Laurel (Laurel), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 20:55 (nineteen years ago)

Don't let that stop you, go on.....

― dr lulu (dr lulu), Wednesday, 10 May 2006 20:59 (nineteen years ago)

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