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Hey,

I've only gotten bjs twice in my life(I'm young) and both times the girl was down there for a while and I was nowhere close to cumming when she eventually gave up.

Am I the only one who has this problem?

It's got me feeling kind of insecure.

*Cue the jokes and silly pictures*

Thanks

― Ronald McBagelsworth (Colin Cassidy), Monday, 21 August 2006 08:30 (nineteen years ago)

Concentrate man! Concentrate!

― mark grout (mark grout), Monday, 21 August 2006 08:34 (nineteen years ago)

either that or give up on Mast in hope...

― mark grout (mark grout), Monday, 21 August 2006 08:35 (nineteen years ago)

Let's just say it's better to give than to receive.

― Casuistry (Chris P), Monday, 21 August 2006 08:51 (nineteen years ago)

Were the girls as inexperienced as you? Bog standard oral sex isn't going to be mind-blowing. Or cock-blowing, should I say (no).

― David Orton (scarlet), Monday, 21 August 2006 09:24 (nineteen years ago)

And what did you do for her?

Never underestimate the aphrodisiac that is reciprocation.

― Hot Hot Heat (Hot Hot Heat), Monday, 21 August 2006 09:31 (nineteen years ago)

Why are you in such a hurry to ejaculate?

If it doesnt feel good, you have to tell them. They are learnign too you know. No one in born a blowjob queen, it takes dedication.

― Mr Jones (Mr Jones), Monday, 21 August 2006 09:36 (nineteen years ago)

No need to worry about it. Also, it's likely that these girls don't have a huge amount of experience either. But most of all, you're pobably nervous when it happens (and you're clearly worried about it or this thread wouldn't exist) which is a sure-fire spooge-retardant.

― Earwig oh! (Mark C), Monday, 21 August 2006 09:40 (nineteen years ago)

http://www.ladyofthecake.com/mel/space/images/megamaid.jpg

― ZOT! (davidcorp), Monday, 21 August 2006 10:05 (nineteen years ago)

Didn't he have to install microwave ovens?

― mark grout (mark grout), Monday, 21 August 2006 10:09 (nineteen years ago)

karinne "superhead" steffans to thread

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Monday, 21 August 2006 10:55 (nineteen years ago)

always blame the person giving head, never yourself. your self esteem is restored!

― don weiner (don weiner), Monday, 21 August 2006 11:47 (nineteen years ago)

I've often had the same problem as the OP, but being older I've also had some successes. One of the most memorable times, I was with this guy and I kept pulling him off me after a couple minutes of head. Finally he got frustrated and asked me why. I said I'm usually not into oral because it takes me too long. He said he was up for the challenge and would go at it for however long it took. Once I knew that he knew, I was able to relax and not feel like I was on the clock.

Also, giving good head is a thing that's difficult to teach, because sometimes you'll want the giver to keep doing the same thing and sometimes you'll want him or her to mix things up. All she has to go on are intuition and experience, and if she doesn't have much of either, the best thing you can do is give her cues. If she's doing something you like, moan like you're on the set of a cheap porn flick. If she's doing something you're not into, just keep silent. If she's paying attention, hopefully she'll be taking mental notes ("he really likes that ball tugging thing, but I guess I can take the whole finger in the ass thing out of my arsenal").

― cheshycat (cheshycat), Monday, 21 August 2006 13:49 (nineteen years ago)

What's the signal for "No don't take the whole finger in the ass thing out of your arsenal"

― mark grout (mark grout), Monday, 21 August 2006 13:53 (nineteen years ago)

Call me. I'll show you.

― cheshycat (cheshycat), Monday, 21 August 2006 13:57 (nineteen years ago)

Hold onto her ears and thrust.

― milo z (mlp), Tuesday, 22 August 2006 22:28 (nineteen years ago)

http://images.amazon.com/images/P/B000008U0X.01.LZZZZZZZ.jpg

― captain reverend gandalf jesus (nickalicious), Tuesday, 22 August 2006 23:00 (nineteen years ago)

Good lord.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Tuesday, 22 August 2006 23:41 (nineteen years ago)

so many hancock album titles work, really

http://www.discogs.com/image/R-150-260678-1118963048.jpg

― PARTYMAN (dubplatestyle), Tuesday, 22 August 2006 23:44 (nineteen years ago)

Headhunters!

― Beth Parker (Beth Parker), Tuesday, 22 August 2006 23:51 (nineteen years ago)

http://image.allmusic.com/00/amg/cov200/dre500/e576/e57630eh0af.jpg

― Curt1s St3ph3ns, Wednesday, 23 August 2006 02:21 (nineteen years ago)

http://image.allmusic.com/00/amg/cov200/dre300/e387/e387406ef61.jpg

― Curt1s St3ph3ns, Wednesday, 23 August 2006 02:22 (nineteen years ago)

It's supposed to be just the beginning, not the end already. How lazy have people become?!

― nicky lo-fi (nicky lo-fi), Wednesday, 23 August 2006 03:42 (nineteen years ago)

I never "finish" with a BJ. I know a number of guys who don't either. It has nothing to do with the skill of the person performing in the cases I know of, and certainly not in my case. I can count the number of times a BJ has resulted in ejaculation for me.

― The Pig on the Stairs (hanging in a groovy purple shirt) (unclejessjess), Wednesday, 23 August 2006 17:32 (nineteen years ago)

I can too - ONE BILLION.

― captain reverend gandalf jesus (nickalicious), Wednesday, 23 August 2006 18:17 (nineteen years ago)

http://members.aol.com/vtactor007/images/bjbear17.jpg

― captain reverend gandalf jesus (nickalicious), Wednesday, 23 August 2006 18:17 (nineteen years ago)

http://www.classicrockpage.com/rrheaven/images/jones.gif

― captain reverend gandalf jesus (nickalicious), Wednesday, 23 August 2006 18:20 (nineteen years ago)

If their technique isn't any good, you have to make up for it somehow. In other words, if you're not ejaculating from a BJ, then you're not fucking their face hard enough. Or something like that, anyway.

― don weiner (don weiner), Wednesday, 23 August 2006 18:25 (nineteen years ago)

At the risk of sounding like Cauisisititry, why are you guys so focused on the orgasm. If it feels good while it's happening, then finishing it isn't that big a deal. And even a bad BJ feels pretty good. (Notable exceptions from my past spring to mind, but those rare exceptions accounted for, I stand by my point.)

― The Pig on the Stairs (hanging in a groovy purple shirt) (unclejessjess), Wednesday, 23 August 2006 18:28 (nineteen years ago)

go gay or get used to the idea of finishing yourself off; lots of girls are absolutely clueless about cocksucking.

― elmo argonaut (allocryptic), Wednesday, 23 August 2006 18:31 (nineteen years ago)

-- don weiner (dandydonweine...) (webmail), Today 3:25 PM. (don weiner) (later) (link)

re: facefucking, i definitely trust advice from a dude named don weiner

― mentalismé (sanskrit), Wednesday, 23 August 2006 18:36 (nineteen years ago)

I don't mind having my face fucked. It can be quite a bit of fun.

― The Pig on the Stairs (hanging in a groovy purple shirt) (unclejessjess), Wednesday, 23 August 2006 21:04 (nineteen years ago)

Ehh, this can be tricky. In the interest of skirting TMI territory, let's just say I haven't always found finishing with a BJ to be out of the question--just rare--and I still second-guess the decision to break up with her 10 years later.
There's what the French call a certain I-don't-know-what about it. In short, it mostly comes down to enthusiasm on the part of the giver. Once you've seen it, you'll know who really wants your dick in their mouth vs. who's doing it to be nice/to reciprocate/because they think they're supposed to. It helps, man. It really helps.

― I was young too, I didn't know she was gifted (willpie), Thursday, 24 August 2006 01:56 (nineteen years ago)

*shoots self*

― Euai Kapaui (tracerhand), Thursday, 24 August 2006 02:01 (nineteen years ago)

*with milky waves of spurting, sticky cum*

― Scourage (Haberdager), Thursday, 24 August 2006 02:05 (nineteen years ago)

if she tries to do it all with her mouth and head it won't work. gotta use the hand too.

― Valerian Kava (Valerian Kava), Thursday, 24 August 2006 03:13 (nineteen years ago)

Hands? Are you kidding?

VISE GRIPS!

― 100% CHAMPS with a Yes! Attitude. (Austin, Still), Thursday, 24 August 2006 03:15 (nineteen years ago)

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― elmo argonaut (allocryptic), Thursday, 24 August 2006 03:19 (nineteen years ago)

unbelieveable

― a little knowledge can go a long way (lfam2), Thursday, 24 August 2006 03:19 (nineteen years ago)

http://www.sqentertainment.com/pics/tongue.gif

― trees (treesessplode), Thursday, 24 August 2006 03:26 (nineteen years ago)

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