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Would you classify yourself as avoidant of people in general or a social butterfly?
Part two of the question is - is it wrong to avoid?

― Latham Green (mike), Thursday, 11 January 2007 21:06 (eighteen years ago)

sober: avoidant
buzzing: social butterfly
drunk: avoidant

― milo z (mlp), Thursday, 11 January 2007 21:07 (eighteen years ago)

i have been turning from being the latter to being the former in the last few years and i dont know why.

― jambalaya backgammon (grady), Thursday, 11 January 2007 21:14 (eighteen years ago)

sober: avoidant
buzzing: social butterfly
drunk: avoidant

haha yes

― cheesesteak and shake (dubplatestyle), Thursday, 11 January 2007 21:17 (eighteen years ago)

actually:

sober: avoidant
buzzing: social butterfly
drunk: nodding off on my barstool

― cheesesteak and shake (dubplatestyle), Thursday, 11 January 2007 21:18 (eighteen years ago)

avoidant. and no, I don't think so.

― Ms Misery (MissMiseryTX), Thursday, 11 January 2007 21:19 (eighteen years ago)

Why would it be wrong to avoid people? Unless you determine/decide that your reasons for doing so are unhelpful and/or are ultimately making you unhappy? I think you can either accept the avoidance or try to find a crack in the wall, whatever suits you at the time.

― Laurel (Laurel), Thursday, 11 January 2007 21:19 (eighteen years ago)

But, like, don't feel bad or guilty about the avoidant if that's what you need! Except that you do have to be straight with people, ie girlfriends or yr bros, about why you're suddenly unavailable.

― Laurel (Laurel), Thursday, 11 January 2007 21:20 (eighteen years ago)

SOmetimes when someone starts telling me of some exploit of theirs I just think "Why are you telling me this? I dont care."

― Latham Green (mike), Thursday, 11 January 2007 21:25 (eighteen years ago)

Jaypee Lizk on eating lunch by himself somewhere and being discovered by a coworker

>>"I know that awkward feeling...you've been hiding and both parties involved
>>know it, but the other person really can't say anything. It's kind of like
>>being discivered with your shirt off or something, but then you both know
>>it's more about just not being happy, and the awkwardness follows. You've
>>done nothing wrong, but stil it's weird.
>>
>>I think it should really be pushed that eating alone is the best way.
>>There
>>should be signs of a smiling happy worker eating alone in all
>>offices...the
>>caption would say, "eating alone...is there anything better on Earth?"
>>"NO!!!!"
>>
>>I think that would help people get the message."

― Latham Green (mike), Thursday, 11 January 2007 21:42 (eighteen years ago)

SOmetimes when someone starts telling me of some exploit of theirs I just think "Why are you telling me this? I dont care."

The story of my life! Although I do wonder if I have become too avoidant for my own good lately.

― N.i.c.o.l.e (Ex Leon), Thursday, 11 January 2007 21:45 (eighteen years ago)

I mean its not that I dont caer about people, its just that people I barely know sometimes start to babble on for too long. I wonder what they would think if I just walked away smiling.

― Latham Green (mike), Thursday, 11 January 2007 21:49 (eighteen years ago)

Yeah, it's when people I've just met start telling me their life story for no discernable reason is when I start to lose interest.

― N.i.c.o.l.e (Ex Leon), Thursday, 11 January 2007 21:51 (eighteen years ago)

I was born in a truck. IT was autumn. I was already cranky. The year was 1975

― Latham Green (mike), Thursday, 11 January 2007 21:56 (eighteen years ago)

I feel like I know you already! OMG I was born in a truck -- okay, a car -- but anyway, but then my parents were in this TRAFFIC JAM, like shit! y'know? So my mom said.............

― Laurel (Laurel), Thursday, 11 January 2007 22:04 (eighteen years ago)

Actually one person I talked to the other day was explaining how litium he takes makes his bowels "explode" into the toilet. Now, that is really unneccesary.

― Latham Green (mike), Thursday, 11 January 2007 22:07 (eighteen years ago)

sober: avoidant
buzzing: social butterfly
drunk: avoidant or loud, emotional, and aggressive

― Fleischhutliebe! like a warm, furry meatloaf (Fluffy Bear Hearts Rainbows), Thursday, 11 January 2007 22:10 (eighteen years ago)

milo otm

― M. V. (M.V.), Thursday, 11 January 2007 22:13 (eighteen years ago)

i'm a social butterfly 90% of the time. i love interacting with people.

― s1ocki (slutsky), Thursday, 11 January 2007 22:15 (eighteen years ago)

i am half-hermit, half-butterfly. balanced, or bi-polar? hmm.

― boyant (Boyant), Thursday, 11 January 2007 22:22 (eighteen years ago)

sober: could go either way, really, depending on the day and who is around
buzzing: social butterfly
drunk: don't know

― Sara R-C (Sara R-C), Thursday, 11 January 2007 22:58 (eighteen years ago)

Sober: Butterfly
Buzzing: Butterfly
Drunk: Less talking, more dancing

― Laurel (Laurel), Thursday, 11 January 2007 22:59 (eighteen years ago)

#3 is why God made vodka.

― Laurel (Laurel), Thursday, 11 January 2007 23:00 (eighteen years ago)

When properly caffeinated, I'm usually quite friendly. However, today, I am not properly caffeinated and am extremely tired, therefore Molly = GRUMPY. I just went across campus with a bunch of co-workers for a lecture and AVOIDED THEM LIKE THE PLAGUE. I just can't be bothered. When someone asked me if I was going to knit during the lecture (she scoped out my knitting needles in my bag), all I said was, "no" and proceeded to walk away.

― molly mummenschanz (mollyd), Thursday, 11 January 2007 23:23 (eighteen years ago)

The story of my life! Although I do wonder if I have become too avoidant for my own good lately.

I worry that too. I never ask anyone any questions about themselves when they're hanging around with me. It's not even that I'm not interested, I'm just not curious. I suppose I just think that if someone has something interesting to tell me, they'll tell me.

― accentmonkey (accentmonkey), Thursday, 11 January 2007 23:34 (eighteen years ago)

When I'm forced together with random people (work/school) I tend to be very avoidant. With the group of music-type people who make up most of my life, I try to be a social butterfly, but usually fail miserably. Therefore I think it's less of a choice and more of a general ineptitude.

― emil.y (emil.y), Friday, 12 January 2007 00:02 (eighteen years ago)

I'm with you Laurel.

― KeefW (kmw), Friday, 12 January 2007 00:13 (eighteen years ago)

No.

I'm just crazy enough that it's almost a non-issue.
Well, to asians it seems I'm just funny in an almost heartwarming way.
Born in the wrong country, I guess.

― Gilded in Peat Reek, in a Perfect Whiskey Climate (The GZeus), Friday, 12 January 2007 00:20 (eighteen years ago)

I am going to make a sign about EATING ALONE Lathammmm. I think that is appealing and true and I could make it look propagandatastic.

― Abbott (Abbott), Friday, 12 January 2007 00:54 (eighteen years ago)

Around new folks I throw out my usual jokes & spiel, which most people don't get since I have a non-frat sense of humor. So if that fails I am either aggressive or just go to drink in the corner and try to find a back issue of Harper's or something.

― Abbott (Abbott), Friday, 12 January 2007 00:55 (eighteen years ago)

I punched an old man like 3 times at karaoke bcz he kept hitting on me. I am weak so it did no bar brawl damage, but fuck it, if I don't want people to talk to me if they're being dicks. Or sometimes just at all. I hit a jackass with a pool cue once. It actually got him to respect me. WTF.

― Abbott (Abbott), Friday, 12 January 2007 00:58 (eighteen years ago)

i don't like eating around people i dislike.
i haven't left the house today.
i have one regular scheduled night of socializing per week; other than that i am fairly avoidant. i think it's okay.

― be home by 11 (orion), Friday, 12 January 2007 00:59 (eighteen years ago)

i am social in that i like to spend time with friends and loved ones and i try to be friendly and outgoing to the people around me. i don't always FEEL social though; there are lots of times when i can only take so much of people and i have to go off by myself for a little while. it's nothing personal and it doesn't necessarily mean i'm being "moody."

i just got done with class for the week and right now i'd like nothing more than to just grab an early dinner and take a nap.

― shanghaied by the dragon lady (get bent), Friday, 12 January 2007 01:04 (eighteen years ago)

Introverts are the best.

― Abbott (Abbott), Friday, 12 January 2007 01:47 (eighteen years ago)

Hell is other people at breakfast.

Though I don't know. Lately, I've been learning that there are situations and times when you need other people. So it's best not to avoid *everybody* - there are some people you can trust and should keep contact with.

― The Long Grey And Overcast Tea Time Of The Soul (kate), Friday, 12 January 2007 12:13 (eighteen years ago)

xpost: Yes, they are!

I don't know if I'd qualify as a social butterfly or even a hermit. I run a shop, so I'm not really a hermit but after I close the shop, I don't feel the need to meet a lot of people. I have a couple of friends but I don't need more than that. Sometimes I prefer sitting alone with my dog and knitting needles. :-)

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Friday, 12 January 2007 12:59 (eighteen years ago)

Hey, Keef, let's go dancing. Is there anything good this weekend where you are?

― Laurel (Laurel), Friday, 12 January 2007 15:26 (eighteen years ago)

I guess I'm avoidant of big crowds. I often regret being so though. Hanging out with one or two people is fine, I never avoid that.

Occasionally, I can buzz, but then after a while I feel the need to escape or feel that I've made 1x fool of self. I'm never drunk.

― jel -- (jel), Friday, 12 January 2007 18:06 (eighteen years ago)

Sober I am moderatly avoidant but wish I was a butterfly; drunk I am a butterfly, then I hit a point where I become avoidant and really, really want to be at home, in my bed.

― === temporary username === (Mark C), Friday, 12 January 2007 18:26 (eighteen years ago)

Fuck you for asking.

― shake (shake), Sunday, 14 January 2007 17:02 (eighteen years ago)

I am not a social butterfly. I am happiest when I am about ten miles from the nearest road and five miles from the nearest other human. I have literally spent days on end without seeing a single other person and I was well contented in my aloneness.

OTOH, I enjoy intimate relations with people I love and trust. I have no particular fear or anxiety in the presence of strangers. With effort, I can socialize for several hours at a time. I get along with my co-workers. I recognize that without other people my life would be empty and abhorrent. So.

― Aimless (Aimless), Sunday, 14 January 2007 18:37 (eighteen years ago)

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