If it were a male teacher, he'd be all evil and perverted and exploitative. As she's a woman, she's all unbalanced and sex-mad. But aside from that, what do you think about pupil-teacher relationships (over the age of consent)? A complete no-no? Or can they teach you stuff? Maybe better than crappo sex with some spotty contemporary? Much better for 'how did you lose your virginity' tales, anyway. Although I suppose if everyone did it it would lose its sheen.
― N., Monday, 11 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
― chris, Monday, 11 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
― DG, Monday, 11 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
― Mark Morris, Monday, 11 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
Well, not exactly. It's about truth that a court of law accepts has been proved (proven?). Which is hardly the same thing.
I'm waiting for MM here to post on the Student Papers threaed about the lazy, drunk wastes of time he was forced to edit in his spell as a sub. Then I can sue him! Hooray!
― Tim, Monday, 11 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
― richard john gillanders, Monday, 11 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
What disturbs me is how quickly wanting to shag your teachers comes after accidentally calling them 'mum' every so often.
― P**** M*****, Monday, 11 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
― Ramosi, Monday, 11 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
i thought my 7th form calculus teacher was rather dreamy. his name was mr. mulholland and he was nerdy-cute. i knew how to make him blush furiously. heh! when i worked at a high school last year, i can't deny that i didn't fantasize on giving some of the pupils a lesson or two...
― di, Monday, 11 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
I'll admit lusting for my teachers, male and female, from kindergarten up through university. So I can't deny that there's a whole lotta erotic energy cathected in teacher-student relations (huh huh, you said 'relations').
But having been a teacher myself, I am terribly glad I never acted on my lust. It's better as a fantasy. And although it was flattering when cute students had crushes on me, I felt more nervous and uncomfortable about it than anything. Younger people aren't very attractive or sexually interesting to me, and all I can think about is the shitstorm of trouble that's not worth it. Furthermore, it really puts me off my stride in the classroom to have at the forefront of my consciousness the knowledge that some students are staring at me and regarding me only as a sexual object. I don't mind if they're human and entertaining fantasies because I had them myself, but it really disturbed me to receive sexually harassing letters describing these thoughts in graphic detail.
Mostly I disapprove of student-faculty romances. I have a bias against the instructor, whom I view as a lame-ass lech taking advantage of some dumb, young, and full-of-cum student. Those are the stereotypes.
But oddly enough, I know of a wonderful couple who began their romance when she was an undergrad student and he was the graduate student instructor of her section. She thought he was cute and hit on him aggressively. He was so shy - typical science geek - he couldn't even look up at her (she's very physically attractive as well as stunningly intelligent); for most of the course he could only talk to her while staring down at his shoes. He eventually dated her after the course was over, and several years later they are now happily married. They're also very politically progressive and active. I love 'em and think the world of 'em.
― Melinda Mess-Injure, Monday, 11 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
I think on reflection I basically I agree with Di re: power imbalances etc. But I can't make myself feel the same way about older male - girl relationships as older woman - boy relationships. I'm trying to work out exactly why. There's a lot of standard rhetoric in the way.
― N., Tuesday, 12 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
― Sterling Clover, Wednesday, 13 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
― Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 13 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
― Dan Perry, Wednesday, 13 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
fair enough too, since when the roles are reversed it makes for a different power dynamic.
for the record, i don't know of any female teachers that have untoward relations with male pupils. but i know of quite a few male teachers around here who have serial affairs with female pupils, and the sad thing is that nobody seems to blink an eyelid.
― di, Wednesday, 13 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
i can't answer any of these questions myself because i have four applications for teaching jobs pending using this email address.
― hamish, Wednesday, 13 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
power imbalances are everywhere. how do you propose to have a pupil-teacher relationship without a power imbalance of some description? one person has the knowledge, the other person is trying to get the knowledge. of course there is a power imbalance.
yes that was a little thoughtless of me. i guess i was thinking more of disciplinary or giving-good-grades power. Surely the type of "power imbalance" you describe happens all the time in relationships - people are always teaching each other things the other doesn't know about and its usually a two-way street (unless you're porking a vegetable). Now if a student starting teaching their teacher about sex then it would be correcting the power imbalance right? so whats the problem with teacher/student sex then?
okay you've got a point in that the power imbalances should be judged contextually. but this doesn't disturb the fact that from where i'm sitting theres a bunch of horny old lecturers cracking on to their fresh-faced 17/18 year old female pupils. and they've always done it before. they've been doing it since they GOT into the position of power.
― Kim, Wednesday, 13 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
― Bumpee, Monday, 15 December 2003 16:25 (twenty-one years ago)
― donut bitch (donut), Tuesday, 16 December 2003 01:01 (twenty-one years ago)
"Coaches Who Prey"
― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Tuesday, 16 December 2003 01:06 (twenty-one years ago)
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Tuesday, 16 December 2003 01:08 (twenty-one years ago)
"Pray! PRAY! NOT 'prey'!!!!!! Did you not read the memo correctly?"
― donut bitch (donut), Tuesday, 16 December 2003 01:12 (twenty-one years ago)
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Tuesday, 16 December 2003 01:12 (twenty-one years ago)
― Casuistry (Chris P), Tuesday, 16 December 2003 01:13 (twenty-one years ago)
― teeny (teeny), Tuesday, 16 December 2003 01:36 (twenty-one years ago)
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Tuesday, 16 December 2003 01:37 (twenty-one years ago)
― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Tuesday, 16 December 2003 01:37 (twenty-one years ago)
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Tuesday, 16 December 2003 01:40 (twenty-one years ago)
― HAMBURGER NEURON GROUP (ex machina), Friday, 11 June 2004 14:33 (twenty years ago)
― AaronK (AaronK), Friday, 11 June 2004 16:34 (twenty years ago)
^ this guy
― HAMBURGER NEURON GROUP (ex machina), Friday, 11 June 2004 16:37 (twenty years ago)
― Markelby (Mark C), Friday, 11 June 2004 16:37 (twenty years ago)
― MODERATOR (Dan Perry), Friday, 11 June 2004 16:38 (twenty years ago)
― NA (Nick A.), Friday, 11 June 2004 16:42 (twenty years ago)
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Friday, 11 June 2004 16:42 (twenty years ago)
― NA (Nick A.), Friday, 11 June 2004 16:43 (twenty years ago)
― MODERATOR (Dan Perry), Friday, 11 June 2004 16:43 (twenty years ago)
― dave225 (Dave225), Friday, 11 June 2004 16:44 (twenty years ago)
― FASCIST MODERATOR (Dan Perry), Friday, 11 June 2004 16:45 (twenty years ago)
― stevem (blueski), Friday, 11 June 2004 16:47 (twenty years ago)
(Clearly today's goal is to use that joke as many times as humanly possible.)
― FASCIST MODERATOR (Dan Perry), Friday, 11 June 2004 16:47 (twenty years ago)
― COVER YOUR ASS (ex machina), Friday, 11 June 2004 16:48 (twenty years ago)
― FASCIST MODERATOR (Dan Perry), Friday, 11 June 2004 16:51 (twenty years ago)
― HAMBURGER NEURON GROUP (ex machina), Friday, 11 June 2004 16:52 (twenty years ago)
― dave225 (Dave225), Friday, 11 June 2004 16:54 (twenty years ago)