I have never had sex.

this is good because it's usually lack of confidence that holds people back (far more than 'ugliness').

If on the other hand you want to follow the boy advice then just come back here when the thread reaches 2500 posts and just do 'CTRL-F DJ Martian'.

If you think you can get sex when you want sex, then wait until you want sex before you have sex! And that's that, really.

But bear in mind that the people you think you can get sex from when you want sex probably aren't the sort of people you want to be having sex with.

I'm not the best person to ask, though. I went for *years* without sex - most of my 20s.

1) Always make sure you're clean beforehand.

2) Read the instructions on the packet

5) You have to ask permission before you have an orgasm

6) Don't flush used condoms down the loo

i'm not really sure why i don't want to, either. lord knows i used to want to, but now... maybe i have very high standards. i've only ever really felt attract to a few people, during the last few years, anyway. maybe i feel like we're all disgusting beings. and, i never want to have children, i never want to get married, i never want a more-than-just-friends relationship. so, i don't know, what's the point even?

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i just sort of spat that all out. i'll probably think of this more later and be able to express myself more clearly.

yeah...

You don't need sex to be human. High standards are a GOOD thing!

HI DERE DARRAMOUSS!

ILE of threads? doesn't make sense

also if you're so annoyed by ILX g-kit, why stick around?

Yeah, coz no one should ever, EVER dare to talk about their emotions or emotional experiences, ESPECIALLY not in public.

And because you have a problem with it, no one else should be allowed to do it, either.

In other words, I would not start worrying about a lack of desire to have sex with another person for another few years yet. There is nothing strange about being a virgin at 20. If, on the other hand, you have no sexual urges of any kind, and you don't feel the urge to masturbate, then you might have a medical problem and should perhaps chat to a doctor.

This sounds like balls really. You're just making excuses. It'll happen when it happens, relax about it and try not to let it screw you up.

Exactly!

I was always concerned myself that I'd not had much sexual experience, until I learned to accept that, no, that's not true. I might not conform to the "stud" different-girl-every-week stereotype, but a) hardly anyone does b) that stereotype isn't a good thing.

Sarcastic, unhelpful, and rather spiteful excelsior/zing-fishing is not the sum of ILX's parts, dude.

Oh, is this the beginning of the end for teh_kit?
First of all it's "IF U DON'T LIEK IT WAI R U HERE????!?", then come a boatload zings at my expense, then the BAN TEH_KIT thread, and eventually I'm forced out. Because I disagreed with the behaviour of Old, Established Posters (tm).

k, go for it.

homie, i'm looking at my vagina right now. i mean, there's a penis going in and out of it. what do you want from me?

what is yr opinion on uppers b_s

― sweetántangó (clouds), Thursday, December 6, 2012 7:10 PM (14 minutes ago)

"You've Got the Love" by Ribbe Smith is a good song. Shut up.

What about poppers?

fuck everyone and let god sort it out

― bob chipeska (strongo hulkington's ghost dad), Thursday, December 6, 2012 8:17 PM

This has always been my advice.

it gets better

i've always been of the 'fuck god & let everyone sort it out' stripe tbph

I'm 24 and have never had sex. It's ok, I guess.

Serious question, though: given that I have recently (and for the first time ever) have started to actually try to date women, how feasible is it that I can get by without having to disclose this. Which is to say, what's more offputting, unexplainedly bad novice sex or sudden admission of adult virginity?

just don't worry about it. it's a natural thing. you don't need someone to be gentle with you or anything. just don't bring it up. but also don't lie about it if it comes up. you'll be fine.

'bad novice sex' won't happen if you aren't too cerebral about it. the fact that you're worrying about it at all is bringing way too much tension to the moment. you're probably worrying about the post you just made. you're thinking about what the other internet people will think. it's not healthy. be yourself. give what you have and don't hold back. just keep an open mind and make sure it's safe.

I reckon tell her, if you think she'll be chill about it. Or excited!

ed.b, i've never had a partner ask me about previous experience (or lack thereof) since i was 18 - you seem way too worried that women will somehow detect your lack of experience and be critical of you. Disclose it only if you want to, and IMO only afterwards.

Serious question, though: given that I have recently (and for the first time ever) have started to actually try to date women, how feasible is it that I can get by without having to disclose this. Which is to say, what's more offputting, unexplainedly bad novice sex or sudden admission of adult virginity?

― formerly EDB (ed.b), Friday, December 7, 2012 5:22 AM (2 hours ago) Bookmark

don't tell them. it's not important. trust me, as a virgin until 22, sex is not that hard. enthusiasm is like 85 percent of it. if you come too fast you can probably just give head for awhile and become renewed.

srsly, sex is something yr body is made to do, it's not like juggling or pole vaulting, try the glove on and youll be amazed at how well it fits.

Eat me.

By sex are we all meaning penetration? If the latter I think I was 24 when I lost my virginity, and to be honest it wasn't as much of a deal to me as being in a proper long-term relationship.

It's like dancing, you are gonna bump your head a bit with a new partner, however good at dancing you are..

i have never danced

But you have watched other people, right?

strictly cum dancing

there it is

To be fair, I'm not actually that worried about it, not least because I've realized - apropos all your OTM advice - that one way or another it's not worth caring about that much. Thanks, though!

For those keeping track

Ok I'd like to know who these people are?

jaymc.xls?

i have also never had sex.

but life goes on. sexlessly.

I have never not had sex.

never found my virginity

did you check your jacket pocket?

for most of us it's the pants pocket, show off

strictly cum dancing

God bless you, Ward. God bless every last goddamn one of us

there's a tiny tim joke if i could just get my typing hand out of this pocket

srsly, sex is something yr body is made to do, it's not like juggling or pole vaulting, try the glove on and youll be amazed at how well it fits.
― slam dunk, Friday, December 7, 2012 1:50 AM (3 days ago) Bookmark

The penis is meant to go in the vagina. Bananas are perfectly shaped for the human hand. Stop violating nature, asexuals and fagosexuals.

and nanasexuals

nanosexuals

sex with intimacy and affection but without romance is prob one of the best things ever; you should just aim for that

does boy_slayer know that we have an entire secret sex board? seems like prudent info going forward

seems like prurient info tbh

everyone there wears domino masques iirc

*reversed sounds of priests chanting*

This was me. I'm 29 now, have only had sex with a person who doesn't really count.

I don't fucking know.

I was psychologically abused by this person, who played a sick joke on me, and we didn't have sex.

I went to University of Michigan, this monster went to Eastern Michigan University.

This shell of a person played a sick joke on me.

i'm drunk, lol.

i had two mental hospital stays after this sick joke was played on me.

it sounds like not having sex may be the least of your issues

Try not having a drink instead. Seriously.

gonna/about to pass out.

a really sick joke was played on me in ann arbor. it was a really sick joke - pulled by some kids.

i'll either go to michigan state or dartmouth after this, for a transfer. (i don't like talking about it because of the stigma, but i'm native american and can probably go to dartmouth).

a very sick joke was played on me. i feel violent, sometimes.

i hate myself for feeling this way.

i've talked to four therapists about it.... it hurts to talk about it, and makes things worse.

i have ptsd now, and also, stupid psychiatist said i had schizophrenia.

i can5 see straight or read my las5 pow5

i figured it was you

i don't know what you expect from this forum given the way people who are obviously hurting get treated. you seem in a worse place than four years ago.

with love.

sexy

hurting has socks? that's a LOT of posting