Intellectual Flirting

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How would you define this? Have you done this? Do you think it contains playful guardedness?

― Orchard Beach (coo), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 16:46 (eighteen years ago)

Being clever is hott. Being clever, and finding someone who thinks cleverness is hott, and being clever in a flirty way, is intellectual flirting.

Now to define clever . . .

― Johnney B English (stigoftdump), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 16:49 (eighteen years ago)

= not this thread.

― God Bows to Meth (noodle vague), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 16:49 (eighteen years ago)

Oh, they'll be tears before bedtime, I'm sure.

― Johnney B English (stigoftdump), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 16:51 (eighteen years ago)

The very concept makes me cock my head to the side and whine, like a confused hound.

― Ruairi Wirewool (Ruairi Wirewool), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 16:53 (eighteen years ago)

"intellectual flirting" = yr funny but i don't want to fuck you LOCK THRED

― say it with blood diamonds (a_p), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 16:58 (eighteen years ago)

Ooh, I wouldn't say that's true at all.

― Laurel (Laurel), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 16:59 (eighteen years ago)

Does exchanging poetry count as intellectual flirting?

― to scour or to pop? (Haberdager), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 17:01 (eighteen years ago)

Only if it's written on your cock.

― God Bows to Meth (noodle vague), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 17:02 (eighteen years ago)

All boys think intellectual flirting is self-deprecation and effeminacy. Oh how the ladies love a bit of that, amirite?

― Ruairi Wirewool (Ruairi Wirewool), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 17:04 (eighteen years ago)

No. I was thinking of intellectual flirting as competitive and almost jousty, rather than more usual softer flirting

― Orchard Beach (coo), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 17:05 (eighteen years ago)

Beatrice and Benedick to thread!

― to scour or to pop? (Haberdager), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 17:06 (eighteen years ago)

Sound like a pair of pooftahs to me.

― God Bows to Meth (noodle vague), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 17:06 (eighteen years ago)

i just wanted it locked before we started "exchanging poetry"

― say it with blood diamonds (a_p), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 17:07 (eighteen years ago)

xposts: yeah, this is generally the sort i indulge in. see what they're made of, challenge their intellect etc. it's great, although i'm yet to find out whether it works in the long run...

― to scour or to pop? (Haberdager), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 17:08 (eighteen years ago)

What's the opposite? Really stupid flirting?
Please provide examples of both. All of you flirts.

― aimurchie (aimurchie), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 17:08 (eighteen years ago)

I keep clicking on this one and it keeps getting wider and wider of the mark. I don't know if it's the lack of self-control or just eternal hope that someone will have straightened it out in the meantime.

― Laurel (Laurel), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 17:10 (eighteen years ago)

louis when you 'exchange' poetry with a girl does in involve the girl giving you a poem in return? serious q.

― geoff (gcannon), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 17:12 (eighteen years ago)

I can't flirt, intellectually or otherwise. All my previous girlfriends clubbed me over the head and dragged me back to their caves.

― Ruairi Wirewool (Ruairi Wirewool), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 17:13 (eighteen years ago)

xpost: Well, with the girl I'm currently interested in, yes! Hers is pretty good, too, which is doing wonders for my opinion of her. ;-)

We're participating in a rather more elemental kind of flirting tonight in the form of a pint-downing contest. Her record is three seconds (she's about 5'2" and 7/8 stone too!). Mine's about four. It'll take a pretty massive performance to win that one...

― to scour or to pop? (Haberdager), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 17:18 (eighteen years ago)

ok just curious. enjoy yourself!

― geoff (gcannon), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 17:18 (eighteen years ago)

Maybe she's trying to get you drunk, Louis. It'll certainly make the poetry more interesting.

― Ruairi Wirewool (Ruairi Wirewool), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 17:20 (eighteen years ago)

If you can have a giggle by being clever and funny and a little bit risque with one another, then that's cool. If you're doing it to cement the impression in your own opinions that the pair of you are the intellectual superiors of the plebs around you, then you're a pair of cockfarmers who richly deserve each other.

― Stone Monkey (Stone Monkey), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 18:00 (eighteen years ago)

there is no such thing as this.

― horseshoe (horseshoe), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 18:05 (eighteen years ago)

Is this a bit like a James Bond/Zorro kind of character swordfighting a girl whilst they exchange witty quips?

― The Ultimate Conclusion (lokar), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 18:07 (eighteen years ago)

"pretending to be Aaron Sorkin characters"

― nabisco (nabisco), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 20:32 (eighteen years ago)

intellectual flirting = my friendships with gay men!

― draining the pool for you (get bent), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 20:35 (eighteen years ago)

The very concept makes my cock head to the side and whine, like a confused hound.

― Edward III (edward iii), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 20:39 (eighteen years ago)

Honestly, though, I've only seen anything matching this description written, like as snappy dialogue for a Cary Grant movie -- and then when people actually try to talk like this in real life, there's something really strained and transparent about it, really imitative, and then within a couple seconds someone's made a weird mental connection or coy statement that the other person can't follow, and it all falls apart a bit. Coy/indirect stuff can work on film, cause no one will ever misunderstand; in real life someone's bound to lose the thread and stumble.

― nabisco (nabisco), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 20:46 (eighteen years ago)

Often a movie character loses the thread too, but it works for humor value as the audience is kept in the loop. I think it requires some kind of 3rd person perspective, even if you're one of the participants.

― Laurel (Laurel), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 20:52 (eighteen years ago)

Coy/indirect stuff can work on film, cause no one will ever misunderstand; in real life someone's bound to lose the thread and stumble.

That's part of the dance, though.

― M. White (Miguelito), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 20:55 (eighteen years ago)

specimen 1a:

hallo (boyant), how are you?

etc etc etc

PS: can I invite you for drinks once? So we can talk...

it would be sooooooo great if this person just wanted to talk and listen and laugh and appreciate the sharing of stories and ideas. my fingers are crossed, as are my legs.

― boyant (Boyant), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 23:28 (eighteen years ago)

I am real fuzzy on what this thread is about.

― event horizon planner (kenan), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 23:36 (eighteen years ago)

so am i but that email i received today was bugging me and then i saw the thread title and it seemed somehow related.

― boyant (Boyant), Tuesday, 30 January 2007 23:45 (eighteen years ago)

OMG guys and gals it's all up in the gods now I THINK I'VE FOUND SOMEONE I LOVE i'm drunk but I'VE SENT AN EMAIL we were getting on amazingly she told me about her life her childhood the fact she was single and in need of love I LOVE HER I THINK we just needed a place to sit ALL THE SEATS WERE TAKEN then she got a call from her sister it took ages FIFTEEN MINUTES we were both drunk the mood was killed she felt bad she had to go home i insisted on walking her home but she said no she'd be ok SHE IS AN AMAZING PERSON she's lived on her own since the age of 15 and she writes great poetry and she loves my poetry and she went home without me it's ok i know i love her i sent an email saying she's an amazing person and that i care deeply about her and that we must meet soon please go right please realise that i care this isn't just about me, it's about the fact that i've found someone real, someone i can care about, someone who sees things on the same plane as i do it's about us, IF WE'D MANAGED to sit down i'd have told her this already, oh god i've never felt like this before maybe it was the poppers (haha, no rly) i took for the first time, nah, they only lasted five minutes, i'm just drunk, smitten, bewildered, scared, hopeful, and distressed, so please understand me, it wasn't just intellectual flirting, it was something like love, she probably feels kinda the same i hope, we shall wait and see, we shall wait and see...

― to scour or to pop? (Haberdager), Wednesday, 31 January 2007 03:37 (eighteen years ago)

we shall wait and see, we shall wait and see
...see if she has the complete works of Schopenhauer tatooed on her spinnaker-sized labia.

― Beth Parker (Beth Parker), Wednesday, 31 January 2007 03:40 (eighteen years ago)

NOO! I did not say that. I am drunk. I'm going to bed.

― Beth Parker (Beth Parker), Wednesday, 31 January 2007 03:41 (eighteen years ago)

YOU TOTALLY DID.

― Laurel (Laurel), Wednesday, 31 January 2007 03:42 (eighteen years ago)

"spinnaker-sized labia" is entering my lexicon, ladies.

― M. White (Miguelito), Wednesday, 31 January 2007 03:44 (eighteen years ago)

the scary thing is that she's a) a philosophy student (AGAIN, why do i always fall for them) and b) she came to the club the other night with a philosophy textbook tied around her neck on a piece of string, so i perhaps wouldn't put that past her...nah, she's a girl i find it just so great to love, she's so amazing and self-determined and funny and lovely...argh i maybe need to sleep

― to scour or to pop? (Haberdager), Wednesday, 31 January 2007 03:47 (eighteen years ago)

Have fun, Louis.

― M. White (Miguelito), Wednesday, 31 January 2007 03:52 (eighteen years ago)

you should have saved the amyl for the sex, dude

― friday on the porch (lfam), Wednesday, 31 January 2007 03:56 (eighteen years ago)

but yes, good luck

― friday on the porch (lfam), Wednesday, 31 January 2007 03:56 (eighteen years ago)

fun or heartbreak remains, either that or i'll have forgotten all about it in the morning, then i'll remember when i see her reply to my besotted missal, then i'll either skip for joy or crumple into an embarrassed wretched heap and then go on ILX and tell everyone about it...

the dude who gave me the amyl nitrate expressly told me that if anything happened with this girl he'd give me some to enhance my first experiences of lovemaking, apparently it does wonders. here's hoping!

― to scour or to pop? (Haberdager), Wednesday, 31 January 2007 03:57 (eighteen years ago)

Ha ha.

Si jeunesse savait...

― M. White (Miguelito), Wednesday, 31 January 2007 03:59 (eighteen years ago)

Aha, your expert grasp of the Gallic tongue has just reminded me...this same friend who plied me with amyl, well, his favourite word of all time is jouissance. I'm sure you, Michael, are already aware of its meaning. Suffice it to say that he absolutely worships it. He's probably the most sexually devout individual I know, and an absolute gentleman to go with it.

― to scour or to pop? (Haberdager), Wednesday, 31 January 2007 04:03 (eighteen years ago)

a trap for sops like me - sometimes arrogance - sometimes playfulness - I guess mostly the confidence I lack

― youn (youn), Wednesday, 31 January 2007 04:27 (eighteen years ago)

we just needed a place to sit ALL THE SEATS WERE TAKEN then she got a call from her sister it took ages FIFTEEN MINUTES we were both drunk the mood was killed she felt bad she had to go home i insisted on walking her home but she said no she'd be ok

I dunno. That sounds like a brushoff to me. But what I know.

― Trayce (trayce), Wednesday, 31 January 2007 04:49 (eighteen years ago)

Oh, believe me, it wasn't a brush-off. She was pouring her stories into my ears for a good long while, was dancing enthusiastically, but the call took fifteen minutes. She came back and tried to dance, but plainly wasn't up for it any more, probably as the result of her sister's call (they're obviously really close, and if her sister's down or something I don't blame her for feeling sympathy and heading home). I reckon my subsequent course of action was probably for the best! :-)

― to scour or to pop? (Haberdager), Wednesday, 31 January 2007 04:56 (eighteen years ago)

arguing with people you're attracted to

― youn (youn), Wednesday, 31 January 2007 04:57 (eighteen years ago)

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Louis Jagger isn't his real name, is it?!

― toby (tsg20), Saturday, 3 February 2007 00:49 (eighteen years ago)

it is.

― deej.. (deej..), Saturday, 3 February 2007 00:50 (eighteen years ago)

It is! He's too hepped up on goofballs to come up with a pseudonym.

― Dom Passantino (Dom Passantino), Saturday, 3 February 2007 00:51 (eighteen years ago)

Dom and I, we brave the internets like real men.

― to scour or to pop? (Haberdager), Saturday, 3 February 2007 01:07 (eighteen years ago)

dear god you are crazy.

― toby (tsg20), Saturday, 3 February 2007 09:26 (eighteen years ago)

one year passes...

^ lol at last 20 posts

― corrie ham (roxymuzak), Saturday, 1 November 2008 16:36 (sixteen years ago)

l0u1s jagg3r isn't his real name, is it?!
― toby (tsg20)

― velko, Saturday, 1 November 2008 17:27 (sixteen years ago)

Back in ye olden days, ilxors used their full, real names without fear of persecution. Even mere first names were common and considered "authentic" in the community. Ah, 'twas a simpler, better time when posts were tagged, Νitsuh, Ethan, and Mickey the RIAA dude.

― № 1 (libcrypt), Saturday, 1 November 2008 20:24 (sixteen years ago)

what happen next

― I am using your worlds, Saturday, 1 November 2008 20:37 (sixteen years ago)

ritsuh

― rubisco (Abbott), Saturday, 1 November 2008 21:19 (sixteen years ago)

Does exchanging poetry count as intellectual flirting?

Love poetry is ace for this, but it is highly tricky to pull off. The best strategy is to be a world-class poet and write your own deathless love poems that you send to the object of your desire, full of urbanity, yearning and clever playfulness.

This approach is 1000 times better than cutting off your ear with a razor and sending her that. Trust me on this point.

― Aimless, Sunday, 2 November 2008 00:48 (sixteen years ago)

So, this is just flirting like a Gilmore Girls character right?

― I know, right?, Sunday, 2 November 2008 01:12 (sixteen years ago)

jesus mary mother of god and all things i'm about to suggest ban my old account if it's the last thing i do

― restraint and blindness (Just got offed), Sunday, 2 November 2008 02:06 (sixteen years ago)

Mr Logic is in charge of the till at the local off-licence.
Armed Robber: No nonsense. Just give me all your money.
Mr Logic: I shall commence by pointing out to you that my demeanour is not one which could be described as nonsensical. Consequently I can attest you have no cause to reprimand me on your first point. On to your second point: Bearing in mind the potentially lethal situation in which I find myself, to wit: your presence in conjunction with the presumably loaded firearm which is presently levelled at my cranium, I will comply with your request comprehensively, albeit reluctantly. Here, twenty-seven pence.
Armed Robber: Twenty-seven pence? Fuck off. There's more than that in the till.
Mr Logic: Indeed, undoubtedly so. However your request was for *my* money. The currency in the till belongs to a third party and is therefore not "my money". However, if you are still desirous of said money I would suggest that you re-phrase your original statement to recognise and incorporate this important distinction.

― estela, Sunday, 2 November 2008 02:32 (sixteen years ago)

^your earlier posts' voice reminded me of him.

― estela, Sunday, 2 November 2008 02:35 (sixteen years ago)

I may have tried to slay my former self, but estela's actually gone and put that stake thru its heart.

― restraint and blindness (Just got offed), Sunday, 2 November 2008 02:45 (sixteen years ago)

i <3 mr logic.

― estela, Sunday, 2 November 2008 03:13 (sixteen years ago)

look look the heart is now in two pieces

― restraint and blindness (Just got offed), Sunday, 2 November 2008 03:40 (sixteen years ago)

mr logic - earliest pop culture aspie?

― you made my mum eat Pick Only One (sic), Monday, 3 November 2008 09:30 (sixteen years ago)

http://www.intellectconnect.com/ - look there's a pretentious website for setting up this shit now!

― Maria, Monday, 3 November 2008 16:21 (sixteen years ago)

male looking for female age 25-34 within 30 miles of (my zip)

No profiles have been found for your query. Please try again.

lolol

― flyover statesman (will), Monday, 3 November 2008 17:55 (sixteen years ago)

maybe i should try this site. nothing else is yielding any results... what could it hurt?!

― highly theoretical, of course. (tehresa), Monday, 3 November 2008 18:09 (sixteen years ago)

won't it just be full of tedious bores who thing they're really smart?

― I know, right?, Monday, 3 November 2008 18:34 (sixteen years ago)

I read this thread title as "Ineffectual Flirting".

― Millsner, Monday, 3 November 2008 18:36 (sixteen years ago)

and probably have unfair expectations of how much you must entertain and stimulate them to meet their standards? that's what i figure. (xpost)

― Maria, Monday, 3 November 2008 18:36 (sixteen years ago)

most likely
xpost

better than skeezy dudes who think they're really hot?

― highly theoretical, of course. (tehresa), Monday, 3 November 2008 18:37 (sixteen years ago)

but by all means, if y'all would like to set me up with unpretentious cuet boys who have their shit together and are not crepey, go for it!

― highly theoretical, of course. (tehresa), Monday, 3 November 2008 18:38 (sixteen years ago)

the world is full of those

― I know, right?, Monday, 3 November 2008 18:44 (sixteen years ago)

i'll join the queue!

― Maria, Monday, 3 November 2008 18:47 (sixteen years ago)

like i said, if you'd like to set me up with one, please feel free!

― highly theoretical, of course. (tehresa), Monday, 3 November 2008 18:49 (sixteen years ago)

a/s/l?

― I know, right?, Monday, 3 November 2008 18:49 (sixteen years ago)

i don't really have my shit together

― my other son is a zamboni (gbx), Monday, 3 November 2008 18:50 (sixteen years ago)

every time i meet a smart girl she's too busy with grad school or moving away to go to grad school :(

― Jordan, Monday, 3 November 2008 18:51 (sixteen years ago)

i am in grad school. i will move if i get a good job that pays me a lot of $, but not til at least next summer. but part of wanting to move is also about not digging the gross dating scene here. (26(almost 27)/f/nyc, btw)

― highly theoretical, of course. (tehresa), Monday, 3 November 2008 18:53 (sixteen years ago)

uhuh. okay.

― I know, right?, Monday, 3 November 2008 18:58 (sixteen years ago)

*mulls*

― I know, right?, Monday, 3 November 2008 18:58 (sixteen years ago)

haha i am applying to grad school and will probably move for it next summer (unless i get into, and funded for, the one local program i'm applying to). silly women and their career plans!

― Maria, Monday, 3 November 2008 18:59 (sixteen years ago)

i guess the problem is that the only reason most young people live here (madison wi) is for school.

― Jordan, Monday, 3 November 2008 19:03 (sixteen years ago)

i almost moved there. but not for school!

― highly theoretical, of course. (tehresa), Monday, 3 November 2008 19:06 (sixteen years ago)

ok, not "almost". i thought about it deeply.

― highly theoretical, of course. (tehresa), Monday, 3 November 2008 19:07 (sixteen years ago)

deep thinker

― I know, right?, Monday, 3 November 2008 19:07 (sixteen years ago)

you might even say, an intellectual.

― highly theoretical, of course. (tehresa), Monday, 3 November 2008 19:08 (sixteen years ago)

weird commas.

― highly theoretical, of course. (tehresa), Monday, 3 November 2008 19:08 (sixteen years ago)

how does it work with a colon?

you might even say: an intellectual.

― I know, right?, Monday, 3 November 2008 19:14 (sixteen years ago)

every time i meet a smart girl she's too busy with grad school or moving away to go to grad school :(

This is basically my life right now.

― Millsner, Monday, 3 November 2008 19:59 (sixteen years ago)

i guess this is my problem, too, since all my grad school stuff is dominated by ladies.

― highly theoretical, of course. (tehresa), Monday, 3 November 2008 20:07 (sixteen years ago)

"too busy with grad school" is a clever ruse

― horrible (harbl), Monday, 3 November 2008 20:22 (sixteen years ago)

It's less ruse than reality when she'll be moving hundreds of kilometres in short order to a new school...

― Millsner, Monday, 3 November 2008 22:25 (sixteen years ago)

nine years pass...

how even

― j., Thursday, 14 June 2018 02:58 (seven years ago)

*shrugs* The last time I tried flirting via "elevated discourse," the guy backed away like I'd suddenly revealed myself to be a rattlesnake. I profess to hate screwball comedy, but I have a serious weakness for the slap-slap-kiss dynamic.

Did I say too much? Or haven't I said enough?

― Polly of the Pre-Codes (j.lu), Thursday, 14 June 2018 03:05 (seven years ago)

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