― Pete, Wednesday, 13 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
Ahem.
It's not rude but it is cruel, or it can be. Like if someone is speaking to a group and they pronounce something arseways, it's kind of cruel to point it out and thus make them the subject of ridicule. However it would be polite to tell them afterwards and thus ensure they don't repeat their mistake. Teachers putting Xs on kids work is not a bad thing. If you're wrong you get corrected, it's a pretty important lesson to learn.
― Ronan, Wednesday, 13 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
What if the mistake was a rude one in the first place though, i.e. somebody spelt country 'cuntry'?
― Tom, Wednesday, 13 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
Having said that I still have mild guilt pangs about the time I told Cat from Leeds off at a college dinner for cutting her roll in half and buttering it all in one go.
― Emma, Wednesday, 13 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
― N., Wednesday, 13 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
NB: Emma, my table manners are perfect.
― Anna, Wednesday, 13 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
― dave q, Wednesday, 13 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
I'm kind of ambivalent on this, I rarely correct people because I am often make mistakes diue to haste generally. I thought the loosing one was funny because of the potential dialect side to it. I think Tom is probably right though, only correct if one is being instructive.
That said when people start banging on about ettiquette I get annoyed because these are an arbitrary set of rules which often do not make an awful lot of sense (or offend) - vis a vis the buttering of an entire roll.
i heart both these mistakes so much, and have to suppress my Ageing Pedant instincts. As my job = correcting the idiotic blunders of a variety of posturing academics and so-called intellectuals, i sometimes am unable to turn off the jerking knee w.nicer people.
― mark s, Wednesday, 13 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
― Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 13 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
Every time I did, he called me a "pedrantic wanker" Boy, did that make me laugh!
― Simeon, Wednesday, 13 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
― Sarah, Wednesday, 13 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
― katie, Wednesday, 13 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
― alix, Thursday, 14 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
― Sarah, Thursday, 14 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
― N., Thursday, 14 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
No come on there must have been worse ones.
― Marcello Carlin, Thursday, 14 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
― Emma, Thursday, 14 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
― Pete, Thursday, 14 February 2002 01:00 (twenty-three years ago)
is it rude to correct someone giving an NYC bus tour
― fuck the NRA (Neanderthal), Saturday, 17 February 2018 18:22 (seven years ago)
What city u in
― rum dmc (darraghmac), Saturday, 17 February 2018 18:32 (seven years ago)
that's beautiful
― Badgers (dog latin), Saturday, 17 February 2018 20:05 (seven years ago)
Boringly thinking about the thread title and OP:
Generalizing blithely, politeness is measured by the degree to which social friction is reduced or concealed, and rudeness by the amount that social friction is increased or expressed openly.
Children get corrected all the time by adults, because they are not considered social equals to adults. Adults correcting other adults is considered rude when it contradicts the polite assumption of social equality. When social positions are inherently unequal, the tone of the correction ideally will correspond nicely to the degree of inequality and doesn't overstep proper social boundaries, for example, a supervisor treating an employee as if they were a child.
So, there you go.
― A is for (Aimless), Saturday, 17 February 2018 20:21 (seven years ago)