What is it that makes your partner/boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife/whatever so ABSOLUTELY FANTASTIC?

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Today we gotta be redressin' the balance, know what I'm sayin' people?

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 09:17 (nineteen years ago)

Great dad, brilliant cook, deep thinker, will do crosswords with me, brings me pastries, finds the same things funny, shares the same ethics, endlessly tolerant of my bad habits...

― Archel, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 09:26 (nineteen years ago)

She found the other thread then Dr. C?

― kv_nol, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 09:27 (nineteen years ago)

hehe

― G00blar, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 09:31 (nineteen years ago)

Funnily enough, I was thinking only last night that Dr C really ought to start a thread like this.

Laurel had posted "I really love that mutual low-level irritation seems to be what holds everyone's home lives together!" and I thought it so unfair - the petty irritations I had grumbled about are nothing when compared with all the great things. I think it shows though that nobody is absolutely perfect - we all have our idiosyncracies - but despite them (or even because of them, two people can be perfect for each other.

There's a plethora of things which are fantastic about Mr Unruly. I'd list them all, but would be in danger of descending into Barbara Cartland romantic slush, so I will just say that he's kind, considerate, loving, honest, totally dependable, a wonderful husband and father, and my absolute soul mate. I can't believe my luck at having found him.

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 09:37 (nineteen years ago)

x-post No she didn't.

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 09:46 (nineteen years ago)

― kv_nol, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 09:50 (nineteen years ago)

I'd better have a go :

She's kind, thoughtful, understanding and beautiful, and I'm very lucky to be with her. But there are two qualities that are particularly special.

1. She's very, very funny. At least once a day I am reduced to utter helplessness by a remark, an anecdote or just something ordinary said in a strange voice. Or even just a look.

2. Courageousness to do what she believes is right, not what's easiest or most convenient.

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 10:00 (nineteen years ago)

One of the things that Mister Monkey does is make my breakfast every morning. It is like a sacred duty to him. He even researched methods for making perfect boiled eggs, and if my coffee is not exactly right, he will throw it out and do it again. He even takes the carton of smoothie out of the fridge and pours me out a glass. He doesn't even eat breakfast at home himself.

― accentmonkey, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 10:01 (nineteen years ago)

Even, even, even. Good writing, Trish.

TANKS I R PERFESSIONALL

― accentmonkey, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 10:01 (nineteen years ago)

Laurel had posted "I really love that mutual low-level irritation seems to be what holds everyone's home lives together!" and I thought it so unfair - the petty irritations I had grumbled about are nothing when compared with all the great things. I think it shows though that nobody is absolutely perfect - we all have our idiosyncracies - but despite them (or even because of them, two people can be perfect for each other.

There's a plethora of things which are fantastic about Mr Unruly. I'd list them all, but would be in danger of descending into Barbara Cartland romantic slush, so I will just say that he's kind, considerate, loving, honest, totally dependable, a wonderful husband and father, and my absolute soul mate. I can't believe my luck at having found him.

C J OTM. Remove the word father from that, and I think I've got my Mr CJ too.

(Though the correct answer is evidently that he puts up with me voluntarily despite the millions of irritating habits and flaws I have, as mentioned on the other threads)

― ailsa, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 10:04 (nineteen years ago)

Right. Like Beth does with her bloke, I sometimes look at him in amazement because I am so lucky that he loves me.

Now I am making myself sad, because he is not here, and I have to drink horrible coffee that I made myself.

― accentmonkey, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 10:06 (nineteen years ago)

Much smarter than me, funny, free to be silly, ABSOLUTELY honest all of the time, incredibly open with herself and with me, a very strong sense of the importance of family, loves music, sings to herself, apologizes RIGHT AWAY if she even suspects she's been wrong, stands up for herself to assholes, GREBT mashed potatoes.

― G00blar, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 10:15 (nineteen years ago)

she is just wonderful....she has a lovely laugh, she has a very nice smile, she likes my jokes, she likes my cooking, she has a very cute nose, she has a nice speaking voice, she thinks that my efforts to speak her native tongue are great even though I know they're lousy, she is a scientist doing work of the greatest benefit to human kind and she is incredibly good natured, optimistic and well-disposed towards everyone she meets.

― Grandpont Genie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 10:17 (nineteen years ago)

All good stuff!

I've changed my mind now - she's an old cow.

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 10:18 (nineteen years ago)

Also: makes me a better person.

― G00blar, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 10:21 (nineteen years ago)

He stopped me sulking, thus making me a better person too. I used to be dreadful about sulking when Iwas younger - if I didn't get my own way, I could be moody for days. Must be a scorpio thing.

He wouldn't let me do it, and now I am cured hurrah hurrah.

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 10:26 (nineteen years ago)

Oh - you're a Scorpio, CJ! Me too. I don't sulk ever though. I just conceal, scheme, fly off the handle and bear grudges for decades. I was talking to a Scorpio friend about this on Monday and he assures me that it's completely normal.

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 10:30 (nineteen years ago)

Don't talk to me about grudges. I once fell out with a friend at college, and refused to speak to him again despite the fact I saw him every day for almost three years.

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 10:32 (nineteen years ago)

Saying he's tolerant of my negative behavior seems such an odd thing to say, so I'd probably say that he's so intelligent, insightful and just a lovely bloke. :-) I knew the moment I saw him, he was the one. And I still do. The things which sometimes irritate me are actually the things that draw me to him. Isn't that weird?

― nathalie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 10:33 (nineteen years ago)

No, I don't think it is. Those things never exist in isolation, they're always a part of his essential he-ness that you love! (I'm projecting here, but you know what I mean)

― G00blar, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 10:35 (nineteen years ago)

x-post yes someone once said to me ' you either really, really like someone, or you can't stand them. There's no middle ground with you is there?' It's true.

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 10:36 (nineteen years ago)

Hurrah, I am odd!

(I never even thought about the being-cured-of-sulking thing, but I've had that done to me too and I didn't even notice!)

― ailsa, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 10:37 (nineteen years ago)

Still off work Ailsa?

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 10:40 (nineteen years ago)

Oh, many things, but the fact that when told I had all but been forced to finally re-establish contact with my ex-gf by said ex-gf (long story), somewhat against my will, her response was "Ha! Pwned!"

― tissp, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 10:52 (nineteen years ago)

Awesome!

Oh, and yeah, when I asked her to marry me, strangely, she said yes.

― G00blar, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 10:54 (nineteen years ago)

From important to trivial:

He makes me feel safe and cherished and like the sexiest woman on Earth. He can spot a downward spiral at 20 paces and stop it happening right there and then.

We've both got pretty short tempers, which sounds like disaster area, but is actually great. We get briefly pissed off, calm down literally five minutes later and either talk things through properly or laugh about being idiots and then forget about it. There is no grudge holding, passive aggression or sulking and this is wonderful.

I have found a man who cares as much about shoes as I do. I think he may even have more pairs than me. He also actively enjoys mooching around vintage clothing stalls on Sunday mornings and would do it if I weren't there. Heaven.

― Anna, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 11:30 (nineteen years ago)

I also like the fact that he has things he knows loads about (computers, Roman history) and I have things I know loads about (the names of everyone in the telly and what they've been in, dogs) and we don't step into each other's areas of expertise.

Plus other people have expressed very good things upthread which might find their way onto next year's V-Day card (if we can ever be bothered to exchange cards ever again).

Also I gave up smoking for him. And we moved in together after we'd only been going out for... well, technically it was three months, but he was away in Australia for most of that time.

― accentmonkey, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 12:08 (nineteen years ago)

I can beat you there, Trish. Mr Unruly and I moved in together (and married just a matter of weeks after that) after a courtship conducted almost entirely by handwritten letters (he has kept every single one) and telephone calls over a three year period. We've never actually been out on a date.

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 12:12 (nineteen years ago)

Goodness! That's magnificent!

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 12:14 (nineteen years ago)

she's a great mom, encouraging and supportive of my ambitions, has sense of humor and most important tolerates my inconsistency and idosyncracies. plus she looks better now than 20 years ago!

― m coleman, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 12:15 (nineteen years ago)

Dammit, CJ's story has made some dust get in my eye...

― accentmonkey, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 12:30 (nineteen years ago)

Wow, CJ, that's brilliant and lovely.

― ailsa, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 12:30 (nineteen years ago)

We make each other complete.

She wasn't put off by the Asperger's at all, but when I'm with her I don't have Asperger's - it just disappears.

She's prepared to move eight thousand miles, to a new country and a new life, just to be with me.

She is the most magnificent, intelligent, gorgeous, funny and loving woman on this planet. Also she has the best taste in music of any woman on this planet!

― Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 12:30 (nineteen years ago)

Marcello, that's fabulous :)

About five years ago, I did remark to Mr Unruly that we'd never been out on a date and he said he would rectify that immediately. He phoned me on my mobile to ask me out (I was only in the kitchen at the time, he could have asked me in person, but still), arranged a babysitter for the kids etc etc. He had intended to take me for dinner at a restaurant which is a particular favourite of ours, except he hadn't thought to book a table and when we got there they were full. IN an increasingly farcical evening we spent over an hour driving around trying to get in at several other places (which were all full too) until he was reduced to suggesting - somewhat sheepishly - that the golf club was still open for all day breakfasts. I may have glowered at him at this point. We gave up in the end, got some fish and chips, and went home.

He said it was bloody lucky he'd never had to date me for real, or else he'd never have got to marry me.

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 12:52 (nineteen years ago)

my cat is really friendly

― 688, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 14:02 (nineteen years ago)

She's the funniest person I've ever met.

― Michael Jones, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 14:35 (nineteen years ago)

688's cat?

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 14:40 (nineteen years ago)

but my cats male!

― 688, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 14:40 (nineteen years ago)

We have some disturbing news for you

― tissp, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 14:49 (nineteen years ago)

Unfailingly affectionate. "Gets" me like nobody else in the world. Extraordinary mama to our kid. Perfectionist tendencies actually result in things she labors over at length coming out perfect. Nonpareil color sense. Makes excellent mix CDs. Kickass rhythm guitarist. Incredible photographer. Can be spotted easily in a crowd thanks to her unique hair.

― Douglas, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 14:50 (nineteen years ago)

Just the one hair?

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 14:52 (nineteen years ago)

I misread that as 'Kiss rhythm guitarist'. She still sounds great!

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 14:53 (nineteen years ago)

Spends a fortune on mascara, though.

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 14:54 (nineteen years ago)

from the other thread

Good trait about partner: putting aside dumb fights to cook you dinner and console you when life goes starshaped.

otherwise many of the things said on here already. my life reads like the kind most people want to avoid like the plague, just to make theirs easier. But he dove right and manages to keep his head above water.

― Ms Misery, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 14:54 (nineteen years ago)

he transcribed the lyrics to the ewok song from rotj!

― the schef (adam schefter ha ha), Wednesday, 28 February 2007 14:58 (nineteen years ago)

all of this sounds suspiciously like me.

hey, maybe i can do better for myself......

― darraghmac, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 15:09 (nineteen years ago)

The future Mrs. Babycakes-Bison has a big tattoo of the Queen logo on her hip. Sometimes we headbutt each other. She has a cuet voice when she's talking to her dog. She will talk shit about her mental older sister with authority. She will have more college degrees than I. Might be stronger than me and doesn't hold that against me (unless she is tickling me). Also a stank veganses like me. :)

― m bison, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 15:59 (nineteen years ago)

He is genuinely, the most amazing person I've ever met. He's kind, gentle, loving, and incredibly caring.
Also, thoughtful. We were married last July and so our sixth month wedding anniversary was in January. I didn't even realize that until about 4:00pm that day and was only going to mention it that night like, "Hey - look at that. We've been married 6 months!" He, however, had other plans. As I was walking to my bus stop that afternoon, I spotted something yellow in the corner of my eye. I turned to find L standing there with a bouquet of flowers and dinner reservations. He was out of breath after just running nearly a mile to get the flowers when he found the nearby store had recently closed! The whole thing was just so incredibly sweet. I kept looking at him over dinner and thinking about how lucky I really am.

― ENBB, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 16:03 (nineteen years ago)

My girlfriend is incredibly kind and caring...especially in a time where I have been in a bad patch with sickness and stuff, not once has she ever seemed bored of me or done anything but be one of the only people if not the only person to understand how I am feeling.

She is also funny, stylish, and introduces me to new things. We are very different really, I talk too much and she is quiet and smart, I am messy and she is neat and likes things to look beautiful and perfect, but she always teaches me new things. I basically only know about records and a few books and films, she introduces me to new foods and clothes shops and like...even pens and stuff I now buy in certain places because my girlfriend showed me them.

Then after all that, when she catches me using a moleskine notebook or worse, some cosmetic she told me to get, she calls me a gay.

― Ronan, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 16:58 (nineteen years ago)

ronan, your girl looked neat and put-together while camping at glastonbury which qualifies her for some kind of award.

We've both got pretty short tempers, which sounds like disaster area, but is actually great. We get briefly pissed off, calm down literally five minutes later and either talk things through properly or laugh about being idiots and then forget about it. There is no grudge holding, passive aggression or sulking and this is wonderful.

otm. such a relief.

― lauren, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 17:07 (nineteen years ago)

she had lots of cosmetics in little scientific tubes from Muji!

― Ronan, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 17:09 (nineteen years ago)

has a big tattoo of the Queen logo on her hip

Awesome.

― accentmonkey, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 17:16 (nineteen years ago)

You guys already know that Skot and I really like each other lots.

― Maria :D, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 17:58 (nineteen years ago)

two years pass...

she's just considerate of other people to an alarming degree. like last night she moves off of the couch cuz she has gas and was farting. now i couldn't give a fuck less about that, i mean...ive farted whilst IN BED with her before , its a natural thing. but she felt bad.

small cute things like that ya know? like they say in good will hunting its those things that make it

― Elvin Wayburn Phillips, Sunday, 2 August 2009 14:49 (sixteen years ago)

sock

― mark cl, Sunday, 2 August 2009 17:25 (sixteen years ago)

What is nice abt my husband:

• Makes me laugh ass off
• Likes animals & pets
• Shockingly, freaky good at buying/making gifts
• Answers the door when I don't want to
• Will go do errands w/me (by foot) in the ridic summer heat
• Gives me hella awesome compliments all the time
• Is nice abt my shortcomings
• Does the dishes a lot of the time (does not get enough credit for this)
• Will play games/do activities w/me that he's not v good at
• Makes me feel like a good & attractive person
• Is generally an all-around saint

― a muttering inbred (called) (not named) (Abbott), Sunday, 2 August 2009 17:55 (sixteen years ago)

we just had a big fight last night, and I need to figure stuff out ...:(

― free jazz and mumia (sarahel), Sunday, 2 August 2009 17:59 (sixteen years ago)

oh man, those moments just flat out suck

― Elvin Wayburn Phillips, Sunday, 2 August 2009 18:00 (sixteen years ago)

flat out sock

― velko, Sunday, 2 August 2009 18:01 (sixteen years ago)

yeah, he's good at calling me on my shit, but he will wait until there's enough accumulated so that the results are devastating.

― free jazz and mumia (sarahel), Sunday, 2 August 2009 18:02 (sixteen years ago)

well that's not exactly fair. how can anybody work on something if they don't know they're doing it?

― Elvin Wayburn Phillips, Sunday, 2 August 2009 18:03 (sixteen years ago)

it's less an issue of whether what I was doing was "wrong" and more an issue of not knowing how much it was bothering him.

― free jazz and mumia (sarahel), Sunday, 2 August 2009 18:06 (sixteen years ago)

we also run a business together ...that's what it's related to.

― free jazz and mumia (sarahel), Sunday, 2 August 2009 18:07 (sixteen years ago)

~~she's just~~ considerate ~~of other people to an alarming degree. like last night she moves off of the couch cuz she has gas and was farting. now i couldn't give a fuck less about that, i mean...ive farted whilst~~ IN BED ~~with her before , its a natural thing. but she felt bad~~.

We know what you're trying to say...

― Ned Trifle II, Sunday, 2 August 2009 18:28 (sixteen years ago)

Your capitals, my friend, your capitals...

― Ned Trifle II, Sunday, 2 August 2009 18:28 (sixteen years ago)

lol well that is another high point

― Cyberdune Butt (Elvin Wayburn Phillips), Sunday, 2 August 2009 18:29 (sixteen years ago)

she makes it abundantly clear that she loves me exactly because of who i am, and not as some project that, once completed, will be worthy of her. i could go on about this subject for 1000 posts, no sweat.

― a terrible camera... with fangs and shit... (ytth), Sunday, 2 August 2009 19:33 (sixteen years ago)

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